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shroombomber · October 2009

My fiancee and I would really like to have a baby, only thing is like I said my "fiancee", married or not married. We've discussed it already but the only thing holding me back is we plan to get married this time next year. Any advice on if we should just wait or go through with the plans of starting a family pre-wedding. How would you guys go about this?

weelass24 · October 2009

All I'm saying is that honeymoon sex is probably way better when you are not 37 weeks pregnant.

caffinated_tulip · October 2009

It's not Tuesday! Silly....

mrsmacias2008 · October 2009

weelass24:
All I'm saying is that honeymoon sex is probably way better when you are not 37 weeks pregnant.

Agreed!

Lambie. · October 2009

weelass24:
All I'm saying is that honeymoon sex is probably way better when you are not 37 weeks pregnant.

For real. You aren't as limited by your dress choices either.

leslie13510 · October 2009

Well I personally would get married first, because that's important to me. Not everyone feels that way.

I really don't get why people come on here asking things that are SO personal, and shouldn't be decided by anyone except that person and their partner.

Only YOU and your FI can decide if being married before having kids is important to you or not. It doesn't matter one tiny bit what anyone else would do in that situation.

jCamsquared · October 2009

fredalina:
You may not get pregnant right away, meaning you could be pregnant at your wedding. Which is fine, but maybe not what you envision? Totally your choice, not ours.

This.

Krisito · October 2009

Personally, I wouldn't want to be KU at my wedding or on my honeymoon.

Jessis62781 · October 2009

shroombomber:
My fiancee and I would really like to have a baby, only thing is like I said my "fiancee", married or not married.

I don't know why but this sentence made my eyes bleed.

mrsmacias2008 · October 2009

But then again not being pregnant and the possibility of being on your period that day sucks too. Totally kills the mood.

mandalin114 · October 2009

Why do you have a due date in your bio?

kittybits21 · October 2009

Lambie.:
weelass24:
All I'm saying is that honeymoon sex is probably way better when you are not 37 weeks pregnant.

For real. You aren't as limited by your dress choices either.

ditto that. that would be my 'advice.'

whenever anybody asks for advice, I always want to break out

"my advice to you is to start drinking heavily."

weelass24 · October 2009

mandalin114:
Why do you have a due date in your bio?

I think that's probably her wedding date.

shroombomber · October 2009

probably didn't explain that as good as I could have but its to early for my brain to function correctly...haha

luv2cdolfinz · October 2009

Jessis62781:

shroombomber:
My fiancee and I would really like to have a baby, only thing is like I said my "fiancee", married or not married.

I don't know why but this sentence made my eyes bleed.

I can name two reasons why it made your eyes bleed. Her SO is her fiance instead of her fiancee.<-- This goes well with multiple fragments separated by commas.

hopeful:) · October 2009

I never understand why people have phantom baby future due dates in their profile.

To (not) answer your question, go to babygaga.

bancbev · October 2009

I assume you are planning a "wedding" with a dress, cake, friends, family and all that jazz? If that is the case I would wait. If your just going to the courthouse why wait? Just do it now and start trying.

ashdonne · October 2009

I was confused if this was the guy (fiance) or the girl (fiancee) who was writing this at first....wow. And like Leslie it would my personal preference to be married first before starting a family but that is not for everyone. But obviously no one here can tell you what to do---that is a decision that you guys will have to make for yourselves.

armandos_girl · October 2009

weelass24:
All I'm saying is that honeymoon sex is probably way better when you are not 37 weeks pregnant.

:dies:

hopeful:) · October 2009

OP: Also, is your SN a drug reference?

::waits for it::

Jessis62781 · October 2009

hopeful:):

OP: Also, is your SN a drug reference?

::waits for it::

::glad not the only one::

shroombomber · October 2009

fredalina:
You may not get pregnant right away, meaning you could be pregnant at your wedding. Which is fine, but maybe not what you envision? Totally your choice, not ours.

I just wanted some advice on what you guys would do.

ValentineBB · October 2009

I wanted a whole litter of 'em at my wedding. No such luck though. My husband is so provencial.

krate24 · October 2009

Jessis62781:
hopeful:):

OP: Also, is your SN a drug reference?

::waits for it::

::glad not the only one::

This is what I thought, too.

preppynewlywed · October 2009

krate24:
Jessis62781:
hopeful:):

OP: Also, is your SN a drug reference?

::waits for it::

::glad not the only one::
This is what I thought, too.

My first thought as well.

hopeful:) · October 2009

shroombomber:
fredalina:
You may not get pregnant right away, meaning you could be pregnant at your wedding. Which is fine, but maybe not what you envision? Totally your choice, not ours.

I just wanted some advice on what you guys would do.

Since you haven't answered my question yet, I'll assume your SN is a mushroom reference. So, if I were still into doing drugs, no, I wouldn't be considering TTC (irregardless of my relationship status).

shroombomber · October 2009

I can't remember why but it wouldn't let me do something for some reason. Unless it was just my "blond-ness" kicking in.

shroombomber · October 2009

weelass24:
mandalin114:
Why do you have a due date in your bio?

I think that's probably her wedding date.

It is..

Jessis62781 · October 2009

shroombomber:

fredalina:
You may not get pregnant right away, meaning you could be pregnant at your wedding. Which is fine, but maybe not what you envision? Totally your choice, not ours.

I just wanted some advice on what you guys would do.

And you got it. We wouldn't ask internet strangers.

jlee1106 · October 2009

Jessis62781:

shroombomber:
My fiancee and I would really like to have a baby, only thing is like I said my "fiancee", married or not married.

I don't know why but this sentence made my eyes bleed.

Um. Me too. In fact, my eyes are so pissed that they have packed their shiit, and bailed. I'm have no eyeballs. Thanks, OP. Thanks s lot.

Mrs.C042807 · October 2009

weelass24:
All I'm saying is that honeymoon sex is probably way better when you are not 37 weeks pregnant.

Any kind of sex is better when you are not 37 weeks pregnant.

armandos_girl · October 2009

shroombomber:
fredalina:
You may not get pregnant right away, meaning you could be pregnant at your wedding. Which is fine, but maybe not what you envision? Totally your choice, not ours.

I just wanted some advice on what you guys would do.

Um, I think it's been made pretty clear what we would do, but maybe that's not the answer you want?

In that case, OMG! Like, you should totally get KTFU right now! Think of all the cute preggo wedding dresses you could wear!

weelass24 · October 2009

shroombomber:

fredalina:
You may not get pregnant right away, meaning you could be pregnant at your wedding. Which is fine, but maybe not what you envision? Totally your choice, not ours.

I just wanted some advice on what you guys would do.

Fine, this is what I would do. If you want the big wedding then wait. I wasn't kidding when I said honeymoon sex at 37 weeks sucks. You also can't go too far because if you go into labor or something happens, you want to be able to get to your doctor.

If you get KU right way, you'll be what 2 months PP at your wedding? Are you planning to BF? How are you going to stick that kind of cleavage in a wedding gown? Will you be willing to leave your child with someone for a night? how about a week? Can you afford to have a baby and a wedding? What if you don't get KU right away and your wedding date and your due date are the same? What then?

leslie13510 · October 2009

shroombomber:

fredalina:
You may not get pregnant right away, meaning you could be pregnant at your wedding. Which is fine, but maybe not what you envision? Totally your choice, not ours.

I just wanted some advice on what you guys would do.

I think you're missing the point that it doesn't matter what anyone else would do. You're asking about a very personal decision that should be made between two people, and only those two people. Plus we may have totally different morals and values than you, and not agree on what's "right" and "wrong" in life. For me it was very important that kids come after marriage, but you may not feel that way. So it really wouldn't matter what I would do if we don't have the same beliefs. Even if we did share similar beliefs it still wouldn't really matter what I would choose to do, because we are different people, in different lives. Am I making any sense?

preppynewlywed · October 2009

I call GBCN in 4...3...2...

shroombomber · October 2009

luv2cdolfinz:
Jessis62781:

shroombomber:
My fiancee and I would really like to have a baby, only thing is like I said my "fiancee", married or not married.

I don't know why but this sentence made my eyes bleed.

I can name two reasons why it made your eyes bleed. Her SO is her fiance instead of her fiancee.<-- This goes well with multiple fragments separated by commas.

I wasn't aware that grammar was so important when it came to a message board? Next time I'll keep that in mind. If not I'll just start messaging weiwoiotlanokwim.

bancbev · October 2009

I also want to point out that my SO and I are NOT married and don't have any plans to get married. Maybe once we get pregnant but not sure. However we are older and have both been married before.

It's a very personal decision for each individual. You will find that almost everyone on this board is married and believes marriage should come before babies.

shroombomber · October 2009

jlee1106:
Jessis62781:

shroombomber:
My fiancee and I would really like to have a baby, only thing is like I said my "fiancee", married or not married.

I don't know why but this sentence made my eyes bleed.

Um. Me too. In fact, my eyes are so pissed that they have packed their shiit, and bailed. I'm have no eyeballs. Thanks, OP. Thanks s lot.

Your welcome.

shroombomber · October 2009

Jessis62781:
shroombomber:

fredalina:
You may not get pregnant right away, meaning you could be pregnant at your wedding. Which is fine, but maybe not what you envision? Totally your choice, not ours.

I just wanted some advice on what you guys would do.

And you got it. We wouldn't ask internet strangers.

Actually the only thing I got out of this was there are some people out there more bitchy then me. I'm honestly shocked. Bravo to you all you out did me. Congratulations.

shroombomber · October 2009

bancbev:
I also want to point out that my SO and I are NOT married and don't have any plans to get married. Maybe once we get pregnant but not sure. However we are older and have both been married before.

It's a very personal decision for each individual. You will find that almost everyone on this board is married and believes marriage should come before babies.

Must be why everyone is responding the way they do.

shroombomber · October 2009

armandos_girl:
shroombomber:
fredalina:
You may not get pregnant right away, meaning you could be pregnant at your wedding. Which is fine, but maybe not what you envision? Totally your choice, not ours.

I just wanted some advice on what you guys would do.
Um, I think it's been made pretty clear what we would do, but maybe that's not the answer you want?
In that case, OMG! Like, you should totally get KTFU right now! Think of all the cute preggo wedding dresses you could wear!

OMG lyke serious! Wouldn't I be lyke the cutest. Ha-ha ::tosses hair to side::

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