You may not get pregnant right away, meaning you could be pregnant at your wedding. Which is fine, but maybe not what you envision? Totally your choice, not ours.
I just wanted some advice on what you guys would do.
Um, I think it's been made pretty clear what we would do, but maybe that's not the answer you want?
In that case, OMG! Like, you should totally get KTFU right now! Think of all the cute preggo wedding dresses you could wear!
OMG lyke serious! Wouldn't I be lyke the cutest. Ha-ha ::tosses hair to side::
lyke?
::scratches head::
You know what, I've changed my mind. I think you should wait. A really, really, long time. Lyke maybe forever.
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I also want to point out that my SO and I are NOT married and don't have any plans to get married. Maybe once we get pregnant but not sure. However we are older and have both been married before.
It's a very personal decision for each individual. You will find that almost everyone on this board is married and believes marriage should come before babies.
Must be why everyone is responding the way they do.
or... maybe, just MAYBE we don't know you and we dont give a shiit what you decide to do.
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You may not get pregnant right away, meaning you could be pregnant at your wedding. Which is fine, but maybe not what you envision? Totally your choice, not ours.
I just wanted some advice on what you guys would do.
I think you're missing the point that it doesn't matter what anyone else would do. You're asking about a very personal decision that should be made between two people, and only those two people. Plus we may have totally different morals and values than you, and not agree on what's "right" and "wrong" in life. For me it was very important that kids come after marriage, but you may not feel that way. So it really wouldn't matter what I would do if we don't have the same beliefs. Even if we did share similar beliefs it still wouldn't really matter what I would choose to do, because we are different people, in different lives. Am I making any sense?
Yes I know morals are in play when it comes to each individual. But to me I like getting a bunch of different peoples perspective on how they will go about this. Because maybe you guys will have a point of view that I never would have thought of. You guys have the experience of being pregnant I don't. So I figured who best to ask. It seemed like the best thing for me to do. I was stuck and I seeked (not sure if that's spelled right) help but now I've learned that I guess I'm on my own, like everything else.
Yes I know morals are in play when it comes to each individual. But to me I like getting a bunch of different peoples perspective on how they will go about this. Because maybe you guys will have a point of view that I never would have thought of. You guys have the experience of being pregnant I don't. So I figured who best to ask. It seemed like the best thing for me to do. I was stuck and I seeked (not sure if that's spelled right) help but now I've learned that I guess I'm on my own, like everything else.
Clearly my response, though solicited, was not welcome.
Also, I have found that the best thing to do generally does not include strangers opinions.
You may not get pregnant right away, meaning you could be pregnant at your wedding. Which is fine, but maybe not what you envision? Totally your choice, not ours.
I just wanted some advice on what you guys would do.
Um, I think it's been made pretty clear what we would do, but maybe that's not the answer you want?
In that case, OMG! Like, you should totally get KTFU right now! Think of all the cute preggo wedding dresses you could wear!
OMG lyke serious! Wouldn't I be lyke the cutest. Ha-ha ::tosses hair to side::
lyke?
::scratches head::
You know what, I've changed my mind. I think you should wait. A really, really, long time. Lyke maybe forever.
I don't say "lyke" I was mocking their slang. I don't use abbreviated words no lol, no omg, no brb. No: um's, like's, or you know's here. I write the way I speak.
Yes I know morals are in play when it comes to each individual. But to me I like getting a bunch of different peoples perspective on how they will go about this. Because maybe you guys will have a point of view that I never would have thought of. You guys have the experience of being pregnant I don't. So I figured who best to ask. It seemed like the best thing for me to do. I was stuck and I seeked (not sure if that's spelled right) help but now I've learned that I guess I'm on my own, like everything else.
Clearly my response, though solicited, was not welcome.
Also, I have found that the best thing to do generally does not include strangers opinions.
The only person you should be going to for the advice you are seeking is your FIANCE. We can not decide this life altering decision for you. Only the two of you can decide if you should have a baby now, or after you are married.
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"For every season there is a turn." No, you do not have to be married to have a baby and to each his own. However, if you are planning a wedding, my opinion is that you devote your energy and life to that endeavor. You take that step and put your heart into it. Into loving and experiencing the wonder of sharing this step with your loved ones. Of committing yourself to your partner and enjoying each and every moment. When that season is done, you can put all of your joy and plans into the next season, making a baby. To each endeavor comes its own plans, joys, experiences. To savor each and every one and get the most from them all, take them individually. You will be a much more rounded person for the experiences.
GL
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If you have to ask other people if you should have a baby now, then you are not ready for a baby now. Pure and simple, end of story. You are not ready.
You may not get pregnant right away, meaning you could be pregnant at your wedding. Which is fine, but maybe not what you envision? Totally your choice, not ours.
I just wanted some advice on what you guys would do.
Um, I think it's been made pretty clear what we would do, but maybe that's not the answer you want?
In that case, OMG! Like, you should totally get KTFU right now! Think of all the cute preggo wedding dresses you could wear!
OMG lyke serious! Wouldn't I be lyke the cutest. Ha-ha ::tosses hair to side::
lyke?
::scratches head::
You know what, I've changed my mind. I think you should wait. A really, really, long time. Lyke maybe forever.
I don't say "lyke" I was mocking their slang. I don't use abbreviated words no lol, no omg, no brb. No: um's, like's, or you know's here. I write the way I speak.
Well that's a shame, because "seeked" is not a word.
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You may not get pregnant right away, meaning you could be pregnant at your wedding. Which is fine, but maybe not what you envision? Totally your choice, not ours.
I just wanted some advice on what you guys would do.
Yes I know morals are in play when it comes to each individual. But to me I like getting a bunch of different peoples perspective on how they will go about this. Because maybe you guys will have a point of view that I never would have thought of. You guys have the experience of being pregnant I don't. So I figured who best to ask. It seemed like the best thing for me to do. I was stuck and I seeked (not sure if that's spelled right) help but now I've learned that I guess I'm on my own, like everything else.
No sweets, we all do not.
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If you have to ask other people if you should have a baby now, then you are not ready for a baby now. Pure and simple, end of story. You are not ready.
I wasn't asking if I should have a baby now. I was asking what you guys would do. As it wait for marriage or go for it. Simple as that. I didn't need the whole:
"Your worthless, and stupid. Maybe you should go crawl in a hole and die."
You may not get pregnant right away, meaning you could be pregnant at your wedding. Which is fine, but maybe not what you envision? Totally your choice, not ours.
I just wanted some advice on what you guys would do.
But there are those who do.
Yes I know morals are in play when it comes to each individual. But to me I like getting a bunch of different peoples perspective on how they will go about this. Because maybe you guys will have a point of view that I never would have thought of. You guys have the experience of being pregnant I don't. So I figured who best to ask. It seemed like the best thing for me to do. I was stuck and I seeked (not sure if that's spelled right) help but now I've learned that I guess I'm on my own, like everything else.
If you have to ask other people if you should have a baby now, then you are not ready for a baby now. Pure and simple, end of story. You are not ready.
I wasn't asking if I should have a baby now. I was asking what you guys would do. As it wait for marriage or go for it. Simple as that. I didn't need the whole:
"Your worthless, and stupid. Maybe you should go crawl in a hole and die."
WhoTF said this? The fact that you think anyone meant this tells me that you have other issues you need to work out before having a kid.
And you were asking what we would do because you're unsure of what to do, and need outside advice to make a decision. Am I wrong about that? If you are relying on outside advice to decide whether or not to have a baby, then now is not the time. I stand by my advice to wait.
You may not get pregnant right away, meaning you could be pregnant at your wedding. Which is fine, but maybe not what you envision? Totally your choice, not ours.
I just wanted some advice on what you guys would do.
Um, I think it's been made pretty clear what we would do, but maybe that's not the answer you want?
In that case, OMG! Like, you should totally get KTFU right now! Think of all the cute preggo wedding dresses you could wear!
OMG lyke serious! Wouldn't I be lyke the cutest. Ha-ha ::tosses hair to side::
lyke?
::scratches head::
You know what, I've changed my mind. I think you should wait. A really, really, long time. Lyke maybe forever.
I don't say "lyke" I was mocking their slang. I don't use abbreviated words no lol, no omg, no brb. No: um's, like's, or you know's here. I write the way I speak.
Well that's a shame, because "seeked" is not a word.
seek
?verb (used with object)
1.
to go in search or quest of: to seek the truth.
2.
to try to find or discover by searching or questioning: to seek the solution to a problem.
3.
to try to obtain: to seek fame.
4.
to try or attempt (usually fol. by an infinitive): to seek to convince a person.
5.
to go to: to seek a place to rest.
6.
to ask for; request: to seek advice.
[dictionary.com]
It is a word, only thing I couldn't think of how to put it in past tense at the moment. But excuse me what I should have said was, "I just wanted to seek advice" or "I came here seeking advice." I apologize, I was in the middle of sorting an invoice when I was in mid thought.
If you have to ask other people if you should have a baby now, then you are not ready for a baby now. Pure and simple, end of story. You are not ready.
I wasn't asking if I should have a baby now. I was asking what you guys would do. As it wait for marriage or go for it. Simple as that. I didn't need the whole:
"Your worthless, and stupid. Maybe you should go crawl in a hole and die."
WhoTF said this? The fact that you think anyone meant this tells me that you have other issues you need to work out before having a kid.
And you were asking what we would do because you're unsure of what to do, and need outside advice to make a decision. Am I wrong about that? If you are relying on outside advice to decide whether or not to have a baby, then now is not the time. I stand by my advice to wait.
Shall we go to the poll? And I accept your advice. Thank you.
You may not get pregnant right away, meaning you could be pregnant at your wedding. Which is fine, but maybe not what you envision? Totally your choice, not ours.
I just wanted some advice on what you guys would do.
Um, I think it's been made pretty clear what we would do, but maybe that's not the answer you want?
In that case, OMG! Like, you should totally get KTFU right now! Think of all the cute preggo wedding dresses you could wear!
OMG lyke serious! Wouldn't I be lyke the cutest. Ha-ha ::tosses hair to side::
lyke?
::scratches head::
You know what, I've changed my mind. I think you should wait. A really, really, long time. Lyke maybe forever.
I don't say "lyke" I was mocking their slang. I don't use abbreviated words no lol, no omg, no brb. No: um's, like's, or you know's here. I write the way I speak.
Well that's a shame, because "seeked" is not a word.
seek
?verb (used with object)
1.
to go in search or quest of: to seek the truth.
2.
to try to find or discover by searching or questioning: to seek the solution to a problem.
3.
to try to obtain: to seek fame.
4.
to try or attempt (usually fol. by an infinitive): to seek to convince a person.
5.
to go to: to seek a place to rest.
6.
to ask for; request: to seek advice.
[dictionary.com]
It is a word, only thing I couldn't think of how to put it in past tense at the moment. But excuse me what I should have said was, "I just wanted to seek advice" or "I came here seeking advice." I apologize, I was in the middle of sorting an invoice when I was in mid thought.
Seek is the word. Sought is the past tense. You're welcome. You're. As in you are.
Oh, and Jess? You're a biitch. YWIA. XOXO.
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You may not get pregnant right away, meaning you could be pregnant at your wedding. Which is fine, but maybe not what you envision? Totally your choice, not ours.
I just wanted some advice on what you guys would do.
Um, I think it's been made pretty clear what we would do, but maybe that's not the answer you want?
In that case, OMG! Like, you should totally get KTFU right now! Think of all the cute preggo wedding dresses you could wear!
OMG lyke serious! Wouldn't I be lyke the cutest. Ha-ha ::tosses hair to side::
lyke?
::scratches head::
You know what, I've changed my mind. I think you should wait. A really, really, long time. Lyke maybe forever.
I don't say "lyke" I was mocking their slang. I don't use abbreviated words no lol, no omg, no brb. No: um's, like's, or you know's here. I write the way I speak.
Well that's a shame, because "seeked" is not a word.
seek
?verb (used with object)
1.
to go in search or quest of: to seek the truth.
2.
to try to find or discover by searching or questioning: to seek the solution to a problem.
3.
to try to obtain: to seek fame.
4.
to try or attempt (usually fol. by an infinitive): to seek to convince a person.
5.
to go to: to seek a place to rest.
6.
to ask for; request: to seek advice.
[dictionary.com]
It is a word, only thing I couldn't think of how to put it in past tense at the moment. But excuse me what I should have said was, "I just wanted to seek advice" or "I came here seeking advice." I apologize, I was in the middle of sorting an invoice when I was in mid thought.
Seek is the word. Sought is the past tense. You're welcome. You're. As in you are.
Oh, and Jess? You're a biitch. YWIA. XOXO.
I'm aware of the you're sometimes my fingers fly faster then what I'm saying.
If you have to ask other people if you should have a baby now, then you are not ready for a baby now. Pure and simple, end of story. You are not ready.
I wasn't asking if I should have a baby now. I was asking what you guys would do. As it wait for marriage or go for it. Simple as that. I didn't need the whole:
"Your worthless, and stupid. Maybe you should go crawl in a hole and die."
WhoTF said this? The fact that you think anyone meant this tells me that you have other issues you need to work out before having a kid.
And you were asking what we would do because you're unsure of what to do, and need outside advice to make a decision. Am I wrong about that? If you are relying on outside advice to decide whether or not to have a baby, then now is not the time. I stand by my advice to wait.
Shall we go to the poll? And I accept your advice. Thank you.
Re: Unsure
I have a whole room full of shroombobmers.
Are any of them on their phones?
Maybe she's one of them!
lyke?
::scratches head::
You know what, I've changed my mind. I think you should wait. A really, really, long time. Lyke maybe forever.
or... maybe, just MAYBE we don't know you and we dont give a shiit what you decide to do.
Yes I know morals are in play when it comes to each individual. But to me I like getting a bunch of different peoples perspective on how they will go about this. Because maybe you guys will have a point of view that I never would have thought of. You guys have the experience of being pregnant I don't. So I figured who best to ask. It seemed like the best thing for me to do. I was stuck and I seeked (not sure if that's spelled right) help but now I've learned that I guess I'm on my own, like everything else.
sought
*sigh*
I love you.
Clearly my response, though solicited, was not welcome.
Also, I have found that the best thing to do generally does not include strangers opinions.
I don't say "lyke" I was mocking their slang. I don't use abbreviated words no lol, no omg, no brb. No: um's, like's, or you know's here. I write the way I speak.
Yes but there isn't many I can go to for advice.
"For every season there is a turn." No, you do not have to be married to have a baby and to each his own. However, if you are planning a wedding, my opinion is that you devote your energy and life to that endeavor. You take that step and put your heart into it. Into loving and experiencing the wonder of sharing this step with your loved ones. Of committing yourself to your partner and enjoying each and every moment. When that season is done, you can put all of your joy and plans into the next season, making a baby. To each endeavor comes its own plans, joys, experiences. To savor each and every one and get the most from them all, take them individually. You will be a much more rounded person for the experiences.
GL
Ok fine, you want my honest advice? Wait.
If you have to ask other people if you should have a baby now, then you are not ready for a baby now. Pure and simple, end of story. You are not ready.
Well that's a shame, because "seeked" is not a word.
No sweets, we all do not.
WhoTF said this? The fact that you think anyone meant this tells me that you have other issues you need to work out before having a kid.
And you were asking what we would do because you're unsure of what to do, and need outside advice to make a decision. Am I wrong about that? If you are relying on outside advice to decide whether or not to have a baby, then now is not the time. I stand by my advice to wait.
seek
?verb (used with object)
[dictionary.com]
It is a word, only thing I couldn't think of how to put it in past tense at the moment. But excuse me what I should have said was, "I just wanted to seek advice" or "I came here seeking advice." I apologize, I was in the middle of sorting an invoice when I was in mid thought.
My BFP Chart~
Seek is the word. Sought is the past tense. You're welcome. You're. As in you are.
Oh, and Jess? You're a biitch. YWIA. XOXO.
My BFP Chart~
Don't you just hate those moments?
Hate is such a strong word. I prefer consciously indifferent. Like I am to you.
My BFP Chart~
WTF does that mean?
I was just wondering the same thing. I think we should do a poll.
EDD: 03/01/13; DD: 10/26/13
Mourning the loss of Amarine Stella, born at 21 weeks, 6 days.
We will always love you, our little angel.
I'm over this post. Let's make it something else.
Hmmmm.....
Jelly. Grape? Or Strawberry?
Ice Cream. Vanilla? or chocolate?
Coke or pepsi?
Strawberry
Choclate
Coke
Love you
Strawberry
Vanilla
Coke
(and I think that would make a lovely new flavor of coke!)
Yeah, There is much too AW to GBCN.
What does AW and GBCN mean?