Stab me in the back??? really?

Temp146997687502158 · March 2009

ok, I just saw this on 1st Tri so this badge is new to me.

But really? on 1st tri you aren't exploring all your options? Sorry, it just bugs me when some folks just scream epi before even looking at going naturally.

I went natural but ended up with an epi to fix my tear(although looking back, totally unneccessary). I would go natural again after having the epi.

I know there are circumstances that call for an epi, and it is a personal choice yada yada.. but this badge just really bugs me!

citygirl_ · March 2009

Why? Who cares?

Fordlor · March 2009

Honestly, what do you care? Women can do whatever they want. I knew I wanted an epidural in my 1st trimester. What's it to you? Does that make me a bad person? women? Mom?

Please.

mamamoos · March 2009

citygirl_:
Why? Who cares?

ditto. she knows she wants an epi. and this matters to you how? i always knew i was going to get an epi. am i a bad mother for not considering natural childbirth?

MrsTotty · March 2009

Why do you care?

I knew before I even CONCEIVED that I would want an epidural. And now that I've actually been through labor and I that I absolutely made the right choice and will have one with any other babies I give birth too.

Please step off your high horse.

tre777 · March 2009

caytibeth:
ok, I just saw this on 1st Tri so this badge is new to me.
But really? on 1st tri you aren't exploring all your options. Sorry, it just bugs me when some folks just scream epi before even looking at going naturally.
I went natural but ened up with an epi to fix my tear(although looking back, totally unneccessary). I would go natural again after having the epi.
I know there are circumstances that call for an epi, and it is a personal choice yada yada.. but this badge just really bugs me!

Honestly, your badge bugs me.?

Amrice78 · March 2009

On the flip side they can think (and probably do) that going natural in this day and age with modern medicine is unnecessary. This is really a "to each their own" type thing.

mustangsallie · March 2009

Ditto - I was never interested in going natural. I never entertained the thought for one millisecond. The badge is tacky but most of them are. Find something else to worry about!

JaysGrl32903 · March 2009

I have a high pain tolerance and went to 6cm before getting an epi. Looking back I wish I had done it sooner.

To each her own.....

MrsTotty · March 2009

tre777:
Honestly, your badge bugs me.

THANK YOU.

mamamoos · March 2009

MrsTotty:

tre777:
Honestly, your badge bugs me.

THANK YOU.

lol and yup.

Pacheco825 · March 2009

At my first one month checkup my ob asked me a ton of questions and the only one I really knew the anwser to was that I wanted an epi. To each their own.

Ash123 · March 2009

Why should she try going natural if she doesn't want to? Obviously she knows what she wants, and that's just fine. I knew I wanted an epidural from the get go too. I never even thought about trying natural. I know myself well enough to know I'm not going to ever want a natural birth. I'm pretty sure I still gave birth though, and my birth was no more or less important than yours because I had an epidural.

I agree with pp, your badge bugs me too.

jerseygirl81 · March 2009

I'm "crunchy" in other ways, CDing, baby-wearing, EBF, but natural childbirth was never something I had an interest it. I was 100% sure of that before I ever opened TCOYF.

clarice928 · March 2009

Amrice78:
On the flip side they can think (and probably do) that going natural in this day and age with modern medicine is unnecessary. This is really a "to each their own" type thing.

Bingo. I went to 5cm before getting mine b/c I just wanted to see if I could do it naturally, due to the epidural side effects that some women have. But once it became clear that I was too stressed/in pain to progress without one, I didn't hesitate. Yes, I could have learned hypnobirthing, yes I could have had other weapons in my "natural" labor arsenal...but I was ready to trust modern medicine.

MommyMeSoon2B · March 2009

Stop hatin' on people who aren't you. There is a great idea.

lizzyjames · March 2009

I'm a

crib sleeping

formula feeding

scheduled C section birth

working

mom.

I bet you hate me.

And if I ever get pregnant again- I won't even consider a VBAC.

mante · March 2009

It's not the badge that bugs me so much as the "lovin the boob" ticker. Apparently her DS didn't love the boob for the first two days? ?Or maybe he decided to see other boobs for a few days in the middle? ?If you've got an age ticker, do you need a BFing ticker too? (unless there's some sort of cool relactation/success after much effort story to justify it) Otherwise, we should care why?

Oh, and yeah, had an epi - looooved my epi. ?

tre777 · March 2009

lizzyjames:
I'm a
crib sleeping
formula feeding
scheduled C section birth
working
mom.
I bet you hate me.?
And if I ever get pregnant again- I won't even consider a VBAC.?
?

The SHAME!!! (:?

NewlywednOhio · March 2009

Same as pp. YOUR badge almost sounds like you are bragging and want to look like a 'super mom' to others.?

As far as a "stab in the back" badge, I think it's funny and I kind of like it.?

I knew right after getting pg I would probably get an epi because of my low pain tolerance, and often talked about it. Back then, they had no badges, and now I wish I had this one!

vanillacourage · March 2009

I have more issues with your 2nd unnecessary ticker and calling your son a "boob man" than with any badge about an epidural. Pot, it's kettle.

Temp146997687502158 · March 2009

Amrice78:
On the flip side they can think (and probably do) that going natural in this day and age with modern medicine is unnecessary. This is really a "to each their own" type thing.

Modern medicine? Yes, very helpful for many circumstances, but it doesn't need to be an automatic thing. Women can do this naturally, we have done it for centuries, childbirth doesn't need to be a medical, scary thing. Yes, there are options, that is great but I just say look into some other options.

Temp174496125006552 · March 2009

Well, I knew that there was no way that I wanted an epi. I gave birth to my daughter without one, so I knew I could do it again. And I did.

That being said, what other people do is their decision and really none of my business.

tre777 · March 2009

caytibeth:
Modern medicine? Yes, very helpful for many circumstances, but it doesn't need to be an automatic thing. Women can do this naturally, we have done it for centuries, childbirth doesn't need to be a medical, scary thing. Yes, there are options, that is great?but I just say look into some other options.
?

OPTIONS.....exactly. This is her OPTION to chose an EPI. ?

mustangsallie · March 2009

Oh and my apologies... I forgot your cookie in my first post.

Here you go! *hands you a cookie I picked up off the ground*

MrsTotty · March 2009

caytibeth:

Women can do this naturally, we have done it for centuries, childbirth doesn't need to be a medical, scary thing. Yes, there are options, that is great but I just say look into some other options.

Labor and childbirth WERN'T a scary thing BECAUSE of my epidural.

Amrice78 · March 2009

caytibeth:
Amrice78:
On the flip side they can think (and probably do) that going natural in this day and age with modern medicine is unnecessary. This is really a "to each their own" type thing.

Modern medicine? Yes, very helpful for many circumstances, but it doesn't need to be an automatic thing. Women can do this naturally, we have done it for centuries, childbirth doesn't need to be a medical, scary thing. Yes, there are options, that is great but I just say look into some other options.

My point is not everyone has the same viewpoint as you on this subject. You wanted to go natural, great - more power to you, BUT that doesn't mean everyone else wants to or should want to. It's a personal decision.

tre777 · March 2009

MrsTotty:
caytibeth:

?Women can do this naturally, we have done it for centuries, childbirth doesn't need to be a medical, scary thing. Yes, there are options, that is great?but I just say look into some other options.
Labor and childbirth WERN'T a scary thing BECAUSE of my epidural.

LOL?

akiernan · March 2009

So? I'm a

FF

crib-sleeping

disposable diapering

lovey-in-the-crib-at-night

working mom.

And he watches TV. The HORROR.

EDIT: And I had an epi. Thank maude.

blondie75 · March 2009

Eh, the epi thing doesn't bother me so much. Although having a badge for it is kind of stupid. I have more of an issue with women opting for an c-section for convenience.

mamamoos · March 2009

caytibeth:

Amrice78:
On the flip side they can think (and probably do) that going natural in this day and age with modern medicine is unnecessary. This is really a "to each their own" type thing.

Modern medicine? Yes, very helpful for many circumstances, but it doesn't need to be an automatic thing. Women can do this naturally, we have done it for centuries, childbirth doesn't need to be a medical, scary thing. Yes, there are options, that is great but I just say look into some other options.

so, uh.....how do you know she hasn't researched? did you ask her? bc i would be glad to direct her to this post so she can defend herself (and from what i've seen of blair, you better believe she will).

lizzie53084 · March 2009

I am gonna go right out on a limb and argee with you. I agree that it's a personal choice and to each their own but 1st tri does seem a little soon to make that decision. BUT!!! Maybe she was doing her research way before she got pregs and knows what she wants. The risks are way tooscary for me to have considered one but my sis and my bff both had them and it was right for them. Soyeah I guess to each their own.

Fordlor · March 2009

caytibeth:

Amrice78:
On the flip side they can think (and probably do) that going natural in this day and age with modern medicine is unnecessary. This is really a "to each their own" type thing.

Modern medicine? Yes, very helpful for many circumstances, but it doesn't need to be an automatic thing. Women can do this naturally, we have done it for centuries, childbirth doesn't need to be a medical, scary thing. Yes, there are options, that is great but I just say look into some other options.

I'm not normally a snarky poster but here goes...Give me your phone number so I can call "the wise one" about all my birthing options the next time I get pregnant. I wouldn't want to make my own decision. I realize now I have to run things by you and do what you think is the right way.

Seriously, get over it. Your way isn't the right and only way.

Amrice78 · March 2009

akiernan:
So? I'm a

FF

crib-sleeping

disposable diapering

lovey-in-the-crib-at-night

working mom.

And he watches TV. The HORROR.

EDIT: And I had an epi. Thank maude.

For Shame! Don't you know you have OPTIONS!!!!

mlf625 · March 2009

Why do you care? ?I knew I'd want the drugs before I even got pregnant. ??

akiernan · March 2009

Amrice78:
akiernan:

So? I'm a

FF

crib-sleeping

disposable diapering

lovey-in-the-crib-at-night

working mom.

And he watches TV. The HORROR.

EDIT: And I had an epi. Thank maude.

For Shame! Don't you know you have OPTIONS!!!!

*LOL*

mlc92404 · March 2009

Fordlor:
Honestly, what do you care? Women can do whatever they want. I knew I wanted an epidural in my 1st trimester. What's it to you? Does that make me a bad person? women? Mom?

Please.

Ditto! I knew I wanted an epi before even getting pg

citygirl_ · March 2009

lizzie53084:
I am gonna go right out on a limb and argee with you. I agree that it's a personal choice and to each their own but 1st tri does seem a little soon to make that decision. BUT!!! Maybe she was doing her research way before she got pregs and knows what she wants. The risks are way tooscary for me to have considered one but my sis and my bff both had them and it was right for them. Soyeah I guess to each their own.

Why is 1st tri "a little soon?" Most women think about pregnancy before getting pregnant, you know. And seriously, who gives a sh!t? I think I kind of cared when I was pregnant but now that I've gone through childbirth, I couldn't care less how a woman choses to do it.

clarice928 · March 2009

akiernan:
So? I'm a

FF

crib-sleeping

disposable diapering

lovey-in-the-crib-at-night

working mom.

And he watches TV. The HORROR.

EDIT: And I had an epi. Thank maude.

LMAO -- Spider Pig looks pretty horrified to me!

Love,

c-section after failed induction

formula feeding

disposable diapering

stroller pushing

American Ped. recommended vaccine schedule following

working mom.

breezey2323 · March 2009

mamamoos:
MrsTotty:

tre777:
Honestly, your badge bugs me.

THANK YOU.

lol and yup.

And a 'yup' from me too! How are you a 'med free birth' mom if you got an epi to 'fix your tear'? And you are gonna talk about somebody else's badge?

I had an emergency c-section but I was completely open to the idea of an epi. I admire people that go med free, but I also admire modern medicine.

Quit judging people.

I would also like to add that 'Stab me in the back' IS a dumb badge, IMO. But I dislike all badges.

lizzie53084 · March 2009

blondie75:
Eh, the epi thing doesn't bother me so much. Although having a badge for it is kind of stupid. I have more of an issue with women opting for an c-section for convenience.

Big fat ditto! Couldn't agree more!

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