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My baby was a girl.

We got the reaults from our DC testing and my baby was a girl. I know I would have been equally devastated if it would have been a boy, but my heart is broken all over again knowing it was a little girl that I lost. I have always wanted a little girl and I feel like my chance has been taken from me. I feel like I have lost the baby all over again. I want to tell everyone I see that I was going to be a mommy and to a little girl. It hurts so bad knowing what should have been. I thought it would be closure, but I am starting to worry it would have been better unknown.

The results showed no problem with chromosomes which is a blessing because the dr was worried it could have been an abnormal chromosome that either my husband or myself were passing on to our pregnancies. This was our 3rd loss. The down side is we are back to not knowing what is wrong or if this will happen again. I am just do tired of feeling sad and confused.
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BFP #2- 12/23/2011, EDD- 09/04/2012, m/c- 01/02/[email protected]
BFP #3- 8/29/2012, EDD-05/12/2012
BETA #1-16 (8/30/12) BETA #2-486 (9/6/12)
9/27- First u/s, baby measuring 2 weeks behind with a heart rate half of what it should be. u/s # 2- 10/8/12- No heartbeat, baby stopped growing at 6 weeks. Heartbroken.
BFP #4- 12/30/2012, EDD- 09/11/2013
BETA #1-21 (12/31/12) BETA #2- 105 (1/03/13) BETA #3- 1,389 (1/08/13)
1st ultrasound-baby measuring 5w4d, heartbeat 107!
2nd ultrasound- baby measuring right on track, heartbeat 180!

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  • I'm so sorry. This breaks my heart for you. I actually asked the doc who did my d&c if he could find out through the testing what my baby was and he said he would. I'm kind of terrified to find out because we wanted a girl so bad. I want another boy too, but I want to have a little girl some day. I feel like if I find out it was a girl that I miscarried I will be even more devastated like how you said. What if that was my only little girl. I wish none of us had to go through what we are. It's so heartbreaking and depressing. 

    I'm glad you found out it's not chromosomal, but I know it's got to be terribly frustrating to not know why you are having trouble. I pray you have success when or if you try again.  

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  • ((HUGS))

    I am so incredibly sorry. There are no words...

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  • I am so sorry you lost your little girl. And I am so sorry that you are left without answers. Thinking about you! {{{hugs}}}
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  • So sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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  • I am so very sorry.  :(
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  • I am so sorry for your loss of your baby girl ((hugs)).  I really hope that you can find some answers soon!

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  • I am so sorry for the loss of your little girl. *hugs*

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  • I am so sorry. HUGS.

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  • I am so incredibly sorry and wish there was more I could say! :'(

    Big huge hugs to you!!!!!

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  • I am so very, very sorry.  We decided not to learn the sex of the baby but I am fearful that we'll be told by accident (we don't have our results yet) and we'll relive this all over like you.  Big hugs, I am sad with you.

    Have you had any genetic testing?  I haven't done it (yet?) but my girlfriend did and they found she has a genetic disorder that prevents her body from holding any folic acid.  She would have miscarried over and over but thank goodness she did the testing pre-pregnancy and is on meds to counteract.  I didn't realize this type of thing was possible.  My RE is going to test my folic acid levels, thyroid, etc. and we'll see what happens.  If the m/c cause is not chromosomal but my levels are all normal, I may look at the genetic testing. 


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  • I am so, so sorry.  We are awaiting our test results as well and I didn't even realize that they could tell us the sex.  I think I might ask them not to tell me, I am pretty sure it will be news I just can not handle.  I am sending you and YH big hugs right now.

     

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  • I'm so sorry :(  Ours was a girl too and like yours, had no problems with her chromosomes :( 

    I sent you a PM last week about RPL and testing...I think we were "talking" briefly in another post about recurrent loss.

    (((Big hugs!)))

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    I'm so sorry :nbsp; Ours was a girl too and like yours, had no problems with her chromosomes :nbsp;
    I sent you a PM last week about RPL and testing...I think we were "talking" briefly in another post about recurrent loss.
    Big hugs!


    So sorry for not responding! I just saw the message. Not sure how I missed it. I mostly bump from my phone, but will PM you back as soon as I get to a computer. The only testing we have had done was on the tissues. I think we are going to try one more time before RPL because financially we just need to get some money built back up after paying the D and C and testing. I am going to start taking folic acid and baby aspirin per my drs instructions. Hopefully it will make a difference. Thanks for sharing your story with me.
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    BFP #1- 10/21/2011, EDD- 07/02/2012, m/c- 10/27/2011 @ 4w3d
    BFP #2- 12/23/2011, EDD- 09/04/2012, m/c- 01/02/[email protected]
    BFP #3- 8/29/2012, EDD-05/12/2012
    BETA #1-16 (8/30/12) BETA #2-486 (9/6/12)
    9/27- First u/s, baby measuring 2 weeks behind with a heart rate half of what it should be. u/s # 2- 10/8/12- No heartbeat, baby stopped growing at 6 weeks. Heartbroken.
    BFP #4- 12/30/2012, EDD- 09/11/2013
    BETA #1-21 (12/31/12) BETA #2- 105 (1/03/13) BETA #3- 1,389 (1/08/13)
    1st ultrasound-baby measuring 5w4d, heartbeat 107!
    2nd ultrasound- baby measuring right on track, heartbeat 180!

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