What is your dream "push present"?

lovelyday39

izzyjenni:

lovelyday39:

firefly2013:

StarBe:

I love the idea of "push presents" but I HATE the term. It should just be a small token of your SO's appreciation for you going through child birth...

That said I think spa gifts are good, a beautiful new photo frame for baby's photo, a hoagie (sub/deli sandwich for those not eating deli meat), dinner out shorty after baby, get the house/bathrooms professionally cleaned, or a new necklace with baby's birth stone.

I personally want a healthy baby and maybe a nice dinner with DH

 

I first heard the term on FB when my friend posted about her push present - earrings. I thought it was a gross term. But I don't know what else to call it!  

Maybe we should come up with a poll to brainstorm a better term? I have no problem w/sentimental gifts for special occasions (truth be told, I've suggested an engraved silver locket that I could put the kids pic in wouldn't be a bad idea ) The term PP is just so incredibly gauche.

I think some people need to take their own advice and not click on a link if it is insulting or ridiculous to you! Seriously ladies...I am a teacher and some of my students are not as "touchy or quick to insult" as you people. Get over it! I don't do the push present either but have long heard of the term as far back as 10 years so deal with it. Some husbands like the idea of getting something to acknowledge their significant other for their enduring labor and bringing their baby into the world. For me, some flowers or a nice card or just verbal affirmation would really be sweet. But I don't care either way. I think the OP was just asking a question for those that wanted to answer it. If you don't, then don't. But holy moly, chill out. i think some of you come on here just looking for a fight.

Holy moly, overreact much? I was just stating my opinion- maybe the voice in your head gave it more vitriol than is actually there, ever considered that? I wasn't "insulted" I just don't like the term. And I don't have to! I think YOU are being the touchy one here as well as miss bossypantsknowitall.

shellmom22

firefly2013:

shellmom22:

I would really like a ring.  Before I met DH all my rings were yellow gold.  I am wired and won't mix and match white gold and yellow gold.  I have the white gold ring he gave me our first Christmas and then the engagement & wedding ring set also white gold.  I would like another white gold ring.  I feel naked with just two rings

I think rings make great gifts from men. I don't like mixing and matching golds either.

There are very few people I've meet who won't mix.  Good to know I'm not alone

emalue

Lucky2K13:

This. Thread. Is. Wow.

 

 haha I know! totally entertaining.

izzyjenni

Thanks!  I like being a pushy, know-it-all.  I am used to it being a second grade teacher!

lovelyday39

izzyjenni:

Thanks!  I like being a pushy, know-it-all.  I am used to it being a second grade teacher!

Clearly. But, I'd like to point out, I'm not a second grader. Maybe save it for the classroom?

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jennyandjasonsbaby

I would take a marriage proposal, LOL.  My SO was married for 10 years and it ended very badly so it left a bad taste in his mouth and now he's kind of against marriage.

AshleyR2452

Gknauff79:

lovelyday39:

I really hate this expression and cringe when I read it.

You're not the only one.  Seriously - holding my LO in my arms is the only present I want or need.

 

This!  The moment they placed DD on my chest, all my cares melted away.  The fact that DH was there and supported me through 12 hours of painful labor, and I got a beautiful baby girl at the end of it was definitely all I could ever want or need. 

Raeily

Wow... 

I've never heard of a "Push Present" before. I think the name is kinda funny in a ridiculous, vulgar kind of way and I'd probably laugh if I heard it in real life, like when someone says "That's totes awk" or something. 

I would never ask for a gift, and I think most women here wouldn't. OBVIOUSLY the greatest gift any of us could ever ask for is to have our LOs born healthy and safe. That being said, I read this thread as being a light-hearted thread about a "dream" gift, no reason to get up in arms and say that women are being selfish or brats.

I wouldn't expect a gift from Hubby, he's not really the gift-giving type. His "love language" is more acts of service and physical touch. (I'm a BIG gift-giver. Nothing makes me happier than giving gifts to others.) But if he were the type to give a gift, I think a thoughtful gift would be one of those name rings with our daughter's name on it. I would love that and honestly probably will get one for myself anyway.  

Courtneybelle

Bliss+Berry:

lovelyday39:

izzyjenni:

Thanks!  I like being a pushy, know-it-all.  I am used to it being a second grade teacher!

Clearly. But, I'd like to point out, I'm not a second grader. Maybe save it for the classroom?

Oh, but this is izzyjenni's MO.  She likes to come in at the end of heated threads and tell everyone how to behave.  She's like the Hall Monitor of 2nd tri.   

This made me lol. After reading this whole thread, I think we might need more than a hall monitor.

I don't really care about presents either, but I understand people that do. It is nice to know that you are appreciated, and sometimes a token is the way to communicate that appreciation. To me, it could be a card with some well-meant words. I LOVE the Merry Maids idea, and I am packing my own bottle of wine (so I know I'll have what I like). 

stdldb29

I will be honest, I'm totally expecting SOMETHING at the birth. I don't care if it is jewelry, wine, or whatever. I'm carrying this baby for a friend, someone better show up with at least a candy bar for me! But, I do think the best thing will be seeing the baby placed in her arms. Cannot wait to see that moment! 

jglenn4

mistresscox:

A boob job.  Seriously.  Obviously not right away, but when I'm done breastfeeding I want a reduction and a lift.  In&Out will also be on my short list-burger and shake sounds really good right now!

I'm with you on that one.  Before I even got pregnant told DH that after I'm done breastfeeding instead of Baby Bling (that's what we call in it my circle b/c nobody likes "Push Present") I wanted new boobs.  But DH is a major jewelry buyer.  Every Christmas, Anniversary and Birthday I get something.  I suspect I will get the jewelry immediately and the boobs within the year.  :-)

IMO there is nothing wrong with my husband getting me something as a token of appreciation for my 40 weeks of hard work.   

Bride-hilda

TMWarren85:

I got sushi and flowers last time.

AH! That sounds SOOOOOOO nice! I wouldn't mind diamonds, but I would LOVE my favorite sushi and some flowers!

Pearls+Oysters

We have a tradition in our family, where the father gives a small piece of jewelry to the mother to hold for their daugther in prevision of her 16th birthday, or a decorative item to be given to their son on their 16th birthday.

I'm not asking my SO to follow through tradition, but I wouldn't mind if he did. I don't see it as a gift for me, but rather as a nice little touch, a gift with history for our child. I love the chain I got on my 16th birthday, and I wear it everyday... Knowing my mother wore it for 16 years before me is amazing in itself. She feels so much closer.

 

However, there is nothing I want more than my favorite bottle of wine! 

TMWarren85

synchrosally:

MollusksWrangler:

I got a cheeseburger and a milkshake last time, it was heaven. I pick that. But I'm not a jewelry girl.

Mmmm. I got McDonalds. Way better than the dog food covered in glue the hospital tried to serve me.

 

Awesome! Totally avoiding hospital food this time around, I think I had to eat one meal last time (not able to get food) and it was terrible. Hoping the hospital upgraded the food/menu when they renovated the rooms a few years back... 

jglenn4

jessicadube:

We have a tradition in our family, where the father gives a small piece of jewelry to the mother to hold for their daugther in prevision of her 16th birthday, or a decorative item to be given to their son on their 16th birthday.

That is such a beautiful tradition.  I can't see why your husband would not want to continue it! 

MySallyGirl

I hate the name of push presents too - yuck.  I didn't ask for one last time and don't expect one this time, but I wouldn't turn one down!

With my DS I came home from the hospital and my mom, sister, and DH had cleaned the entire house from top to bottom!  It was the best thing ever.  I secretly hope DS makes this happen again! 

 A few weeks later he did give me a ring with DS' birthstone and he referred to it as a push present.  I appreciated it but I wasn't asking or hinting for it or anything.  I thought it was sweet that he was excited and wanted to give me something special to remind me of DS and that awesome day. 

MrsArrants

firefly2013:

I know some think push presents are ridiculous BUT for those of you that wouldn't mind a gift from your DH to commemorate a very special day - what would you like? Even if you're dreaming....

I would like these. Mostly because I know I could use them for a long time and they would have a special meaning. And they are gorgeous. 

Your turn! 

My ideal gift for giving birth (due March 2013) would be to have my husband (currently deployed to Afghanistan until June 2013) to surprise me by walking into the delivery room to see our 1st child being born.