What is your dream "push present"?

firefly2013

drpayne:

Denae'sTTC:

cellomusic11:

OMG I just want a cup of coffee.

Why can't you have coffee? 

This... I'm reading this thread thinking I must be the only one still eating sushi and having an occasional glass of wine

Everyone has their own boundaries I guess.

singingsea

This has already been said but sushi and a good bottle of red wine

Justinlove

While the term "push present" is eh, the idea of a gift at the time of a child's birth is not uncommon.  My grandfather gave my grandmother a locket when my mother was born and my FIL gave my MIL a clock when they had DH.  Both items were passed down to the "baby" at an appropriate age.

When DD was born, DH gave me an amethyst necklace and earring set.  It is her birthstone and, when she is old enough, I will pass them on to her.  Since this baby will share the same birthstone, I think he is looking at a ring.  It doesn't hurt that purple is my favorite color

 

TMWarren85

When I had it checked out last time the doctor made it seem like it wasn't a big deal, they would make an incision at all the big rope-looking veins and use a laser to heat so they eventually collapse and get absorbed into the body, and then injections at all the surface spider-looking veins. But that was when there were a lot less of them so who knows. He said compression socks and no strenuous activity (running) for 6ish weeks, but after 9 months of no running and compression hose, I think I can handle that I think I can endure a good deal to avoid pants during Texas summers for he rest of my life. 

RissKay

I just.... I can't help it.

A gift isn't something you should expect or request, especially at a time like this. If someone is going to give you a gift, they should be the ones to chose what it is and not have to deal with you dropping hints or even outright saying what you want. I have read the 5 Love Languages, and it still isn't right to expect a gift from anyone, particularly a specific one. If your SO hasn't figured out what your love language is by now, then you probably should have a talk with them soon. 

TMWarren85

drpayne:

Denae'sTTC:

cellomusic11:

OMG I just want a cup of coffee.

Why can't you have coffee? 

This... I'm reading this thread thinking I must be the only one still eating sushi and having an occasional glass of wine

My OB told me to stay away from soy (who knows), so even if I went with the cooked stuff, I can't have sushi without soy, or edemame (sp?).   

mistresscox

Justinlove:

While the term "push present" is eh, the idea of a gift at the time of a child's birth is not uncommon.  My grandfather gave my grandmother a locket when my mother was born and my FIL gave my MIL a clock when they had DH.  Both items were passed down to the "baby" at an appropriate age.

When DD was born, DH gave me an amethyst necklace and earring set.  It is her birthstone and, when she is old enough, I will pass them on to her.  Since this baby will share the same birthstone, I think he is looking at a ring.  It doesn't hurt that purple is my favorite color

 Thank you for explaining this.  I've also never heard of push presents before TB, but it amazes me at how snotty women on here get about them.  It's not necessarily about getting "bling" but about the tradition and the memory.  It's a sweet thought to commemorate a huge life event.    

Honestly I'm not all that sentimental, but friends of mine brought me food after delivering DD (and after puking my whole pregnancy) and it was the best "push present" EVER!  They didn't call it that, but essentially that's what it was.  It was like a little reward for everything I had survived lol!    

I really thought I would want booze right away, but with the pressure of starting to breastfeed I didn't want to mess anything up and didn't want alcohol at all (girlfriends offered).  Now once I was done bf'ing a bottle of wine was all I wanted!   

heddy79

Gknauff79:

lovelyday39:

I really hate this expression and cringe when I read it.

You're not the only one.  Seriously - holding my LO in my arms is the only present I want or need.

Ditto.  My present is a healthy baby in the arms. 

Chocodoxies

Though the sentimental side of me thinks it would be great to have something that signifies the birth of my daughter (such as a charm with her birthstone on it for a necklace) the really practical side of me is dying to get the Merry Maids into my house for one day. I would love to come home to a freshly scrubbed home! 

hansonam446

Did I miss when this became a thing? I had never heard of this until a few days ago and could never imagine myself asking for a present for having a baby.

singingsea

drpayne:

Denae'sTTC:

cellomusic11:

OMG I just want a cup of coffee.

Why can't you have coffee? 

This... I'm reading this thread thinking I must be the only one still eating sushi and having an occasional glass of wine

I've been drinking coffee, eating deli meat, and drinking the occasional glass of wine   

firefly2013

Justinlove:

While the term "push present" is eh, the idea of a gift at the time of a child's birth is not uncommon.  My grandfather gave my grandmother a locket when my mother was born and my FIL gave my MIL a clock when they had DH.  Both items were passed down to the "baby" at an appropriate age.

When DD was born, DH gave me an amethyst necklace and earring set.  It is her birthstone and, when she is old enough, I will pass them on to her.  Since this baby will share the same birthstone, I think he is looking at a ring.  It doesn't hurt that purple is my favorite color

 

Great stories!

On a side note, I tried reading your blog and I got this alert that said it has been reported as an attack site. Just FYI.

MonicaClaire13

In dream land?A New DSLR camera
I love photography and I've never had my own DSLR and only get to use one on certain occasions when I can swipe my dad's lol

But in reality we can't afford that right now, so, I'd love just to get to eat whatever I wanted for dinner all week when baby comes. Mommy is NOT cooking that week, and I really have been dying for an in&out burger

firefly2013

TMWarren85:

When I had it checked out last time the doctor made it seem like it wasn't a big deal, they would make an incision at all the big rope-looking veins and use a laser to heat so they eventually collapse and get absorbed into the body, and then injections at all the surface spider-looking veins. But that was when there were a lot less of them so who knows. He said compression socks and no strenuous activity (running) for 6ish weeks, but after 9 months of no running and compression hose, I think I can handle that I think I can endure a good deal to avoid pants during Texas summers for he rest of my life. 

Yes, it is definitely worth it. Texas is H O T!

kittaywhiskers

I'm not getting anything nor do I expect to. If he feels the need to surprise me with a sentimental gift, that's a different story. He knows that it's not necessary, though.

Heartstrings13

osirismama:

For my SO to quit the smoking this time, before would be better, but hey.

Yup.  He even stopped taking Chantix and is smoking about a pack a day again... I don't let him near me after he comes back inside.  The smell is more atrocious now than it ever was and I don't want it anywhere near the baby.

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jyoung630

Realistically, just having DH there to hold my hand and see our first child being born.  Seeing him hold our child for the first time would be truly priceless.  Not being afraid this time that the hospital would take the baby away.

If I could dream of having a 'birth-day' present I would request a family necklace with our childs birthstone on it, as well as his and mine, and one long stemmed red rose.

MonicaClaire13

firefly2013:

MrsT1108:

firefly2013:

Gknauff79:

lovelyday39:

I really hate this expression and cringe when I read it.

You're not the only one.  Seriously - holding my LO in my arms is the only present I want or need.

That is very sweet. And of course we all just want a healthy baby but I like the tradition of having gifts on special days. They tell a story and sometimes can be passed down.

Sounds like a brat to me!

Not at all. I enjoy giving gifts as well. Have you read the book The 5 Love Languages?

....

Why? I mean, really. WHAT is the point of your comment? That's just rude.

kudos to her for handling it gracefully.

Yes there are some women who are brats and go crazy with "push presents", but there is nothing wrong with giving a woman a gift for carrying a human being for nine months and pushing them out of her lady parts.
If the roles were reversed I would definitely try to get my FI anything he wanted, it's a very special time. Even as it is, (although he doesn't know it) he IS getting a present from me for putting up with all my weird pregnancy moods, and being there, and because he has offered to do diaper changes whenever LO needs one and he's around for the first month. Regardless of what he's doing.

You don't have to agree, but you don't have to be rude about it..

MonicaClaire13

Bliss+Berry:

While the term "push present" is really kind of gross, I think the idea behind it is pretty sweet.  My H likes to give jewelry as a gift for special occasions and I know him well enough to know that he views the birth of our child as such.  While I would never ask for it, I know him well enough to sort of expect it.  

ETA, that said, I would really like some stackable rings with diamonds and the baby's birthstone. 

That would be so cute!

markhamgurl

singingsea:

I've been drinking coffee, eating deli meat, and drinking the occasional glass of wine   

Ditto.  No alcohol for me though (I still feel guilty that I was drinking when I didn't know I was preggo!) but I still have my Pepsi/Coke, and am starting to eat deli sandwiches again because other sandwich fillings aren't nearly as appealing

If I were to receive anything from DH (and I wouldn't even consider asking because to me, it's not the same as being given something as a surprise) it would be something relating to my physical well-being.  If I went through a tough physical effort to birth the baby, something to recover from that would be great..  some services at the spa, a vacation (have a nice lie in the sun), gift cert for a fancy hair salon so I can feel revamped, etc.

As for the term "push present" (*cringe*), I agree there needs to be a name change.  "Birthing bonus", maybe?  Kinda catchy, right?...  

MonicaClaire13

lovelyday39:

firefly2013:

StarBe:

I love the idea of "push presents" but I HATE the term. It should just be a small token of your SO's appreciation for you going through child birth...

That said I think spa gifts are good, a beautiful new photo frame for baby's photo, a hoagie (sub/deli sandwich for those not eating deli meat), dinner out shorty after baby, get the house/bathrooms professionally cleaned, or a new necklace with baby's birth stone.

I personally want a healthy baby and maybe a nice dinner with DH

 

I first heard the term on FB when my friend posted about her push present - earrings. I thought it was a gross term. But I don't know what else to call it!  

Maybe we should come up with a poll to brainstorm a better term? I have no problem w/sentimental gifts for special occasions (truth be told, I've suggested an engraved silver locket that I could put the kids pic in wouldn't be a bad idea ) The term PP is just so incredibly gauche.

yes! that's a great idea

firefly2013

RissKay:

I just.... I can't help it.

A gift isn't something you should expect or request, especially at a time like this. If someone is going to give you a gift, they should be the ones to chose what it is and not have to deal with you dropping hints or even outright saying what you want. I have read the 5 Love Languages, and it still isn't right to expect a gift from anyone, particularly a specific one. If your SO hasn't figured out what your love language is by now, then you probably should have a talk with them soon. 

That's true.

firefly2013

Chocodoxies:

Though the sentimental side of me thinks it would be great to have something that signifies the birth of my daughter (such as a charm with her birthstone on it for a necklace) the really practical side of me is dying to get the Merry Maids into my house for one day. I would love to come home to a freshly scrubbed home! 

A deep cleaned house would be amazing.

firefly2013

markhamgurl:

singingsea:

I've been drinking coffee, eating deli meat, and drinking the occasional glass of wine   

Ditto.  No alcohol for me though (I still feel guilty that I was drinking when I didn't know I was preggo!) but I still have my Pepsi/Coke, and am starting to eat deli sandwiches again because other sandwich fillings aren't nearly as appealing

If I were to receive anything from DH (and I wouldn't even consider asking because to me, it's not the same as being given something as a surprise) it would be something relating to my physical well-being.  If I went through a tough physical effort to birth the baby, something to recover from that would be great..  some services at the spa, a vacation (have a nice lie in the sun), gift cert for a fancy hair salon so I can feel revamped, etc.

As for the term "push present" (*cringe*), I agree there needs to be a name change.  "Birthing bonus", maybe?  Kinda catchy, right?...  

I like alliteration! 

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firefly2013

Well that was fun but I have to go - thanks for sharing everyone. 

KatieKim0815

A healthy baby.

JenniatONU

Bliss+Berry:

MrsT1108:

firefly2013:

Gknauff79:

lovelyday39:

I really hate this expression and cringe when I read it.

You're not the only one.  Seriously - holding my LO in my arms is the only present I want or need.

That is very sweet. And of course we all just want a healthy baby but I like the tradition of having gifts on special days. They tell a story and sometimes can be passed down.

Sounds like a brat to me!

Sounds like jealousy to me! 

So, your baby isn't a special gift?

 

Damn, maybe it's  just my infertile mind thinking here, but that sounds selfish to me. There is no greater gift in the world for me than a baby. And, I doubt anyone here is jealous that you and the OP want your husbands to go out of their way to buy you a gift for doing something you chose to do.

And yeah, the idea that she must 'get gifts on big days!' sounds extremely selfish and spoiled to me.  Because, we always need gifts to show our love or appreciation. Did you give your husband a present for producing the sperm? I mean, conception is the second biggest day in pregnancy....

caladpi02

JenniatONU:

Bliss+Berry:

MrsT1108:

firefly2013:

Gknauff79:

lovelyday39:

I really hate this expression and cringe when I read it.

You're not the only one.  Seriously - holding my LO in my arms is the only present I want or need.

That is very sweet. And of course we all just want a healthy baby but I like the tradition of having gifts on special days. They tell a story and sometimes can be passed down.

Sounds like a brat to me!

Sounds like jealousy to me! 

So, your baby isn't a special gift?

 

Damn, maybe it's  just my infertile mind thinking here, but that sounds selfish to me. There is no greater gift in the world for me than a baby. And, I doubt anyone here is jealous that you and the OP want your husbands to go out of their way to buy you a gift for doing something you chose to do.

And yeah, the idea that she must 'get gifts on big days!' sounds extremely selfish and spoiled to me.  Because, we always need gifts to show our love or appreciation. Did you give your husband a present for producing the sperm? I mean, conception is the second biggest day in pregnancy....

First off, per your siggy you are almost 30 weeks, so no, you are not "infertile", and I find it reprehensible that you are somehow suggesting moral superiority over someone else because you call yourself "infertile".

The statement was that the poster liked the concept of gifts to mark big days, whether as a recipient or a giver. I agree. Easter, graduations, milestones, etc are nice to commemorate with a gift. There is nothing wrong with that at all. Finally, the concept of the gift is about a thank you for changing diet, suffering phyiscal discomfort, possibly permanent changes to the body, etc. It is a chance to honor the power that women have to create and carry life.

I think it is very sweet of a man to honor his wife and acknowledge the amazing abilities that we share as women-whether it is jewelry to adorn, spa treatments or food.

While the term "push present" may be icky, I welcome gifts to honor and celebrate new life and the power of the female.

Mis+Shapes

caladpi02:

JenniatONU:

Bliss+Berry:

MrsT1108:

firefly2013:

Gknauff79:

lovelyday39:

I really hate this expression and cringe when I read it.

You're not the only one.  Seriously - holding my LO in my arms is the only present I want or need.

That is very sweet. And of course we all just want a healthy baby but I like the tradition of having gifts on special days. They tell a story and sometimes can be passed down.

Sounds like a brat to me!

Sounds like jealousy to me! 

So, your baby isn't a special gift?

 

Damn, maybe it's  just my infertile mind thinking here, but that sounds selfish to me. There is no greater gift in the world for me than a baby. And, I doubt anyone here is jealous that you and the OP want your husbands to go out of their way to buy you a gift for doing something you chose to do.

And yeah, the idea that she must 'get gifts on big days!' sounds extremely selfish and spoiled to me.  Because, we always need gifts to show our love or appreciation. Did you give your husband a present for producing the sperm? I mean, conception is the second biggest day in pregnancy....

First off, per your siggy you are almost 30 weeks, so no, you are not "infertile", and I find it reprehensible that you are somehow suggesting moral superiority over someone else because you call yourself "infertile".

The statement was that the poster liked the concept of gifts to mark big days, whether as a recipient or a giver. I agree. Easter, graduations, milestones, etc are nice to commemorate with a gift. There is nothing wrong with that at all. Finally, the concept of the gift is about a thank you for changing diet, suffering phyiscal discomfort, possibly permanent changes to the body, etc. It is a chance to honor the power that women have to create and carry life.

I think it is very sweet of a man to honor his wife and acknowledge the amazing abilities that we share as women-whether it is jewelry to adorn, spa treatments or food.

While the term "push present" may be icky, I welcome gifts to honor and celebrate new life and the power of the female.

JenniatONU

caladpi02:

JenniatONU:

Bliss+Berry:

MrsT1108:

firefly2013:

Gknauff79:

lovelyday39:

I really hate this expression and cringe when I read it.

You're not the only one.  Seriously - holding my LO in my arms is the only present I want or need.

That is very sweet. And of course we all just want a healthy baby but I like the tradition of having gifts on special days. They tell a story and sometimes can be passed down.

Sounds like a brat to me!

Sounds like jealousy to me! 

So, your baby isn't a special gift?

 

Damn, maybe it's  just my infertile mind thinking here, but that sounds selfish to me. There is no greater gift in the world for me than a baby. And, I doubt anyone here is jealous that you and the OP want your husbands to go out of their way to buy you a gift for doing something you chose to do.

And yeah, the idea that she must 'get gifts on big days!' sounds extremely selfish and spoiled to me.  Because, we always need gifts to show our love or appreciation. Did you give your husband a present for producing the sperm? I mean, conception is the second biggest day in pregnancy....

First off, per your siggy you are almost 30 weeks, so no, you are not "infertile", and I find it reprehensible that you are somehow suggesting moral superiority over someone else because you call yourself "infertile".

The statement was that the poster liked the concept of gifts to mark big days, whether as a recipient or a giver. I agree. Easter, graduations, milestones, etc are nice to commemorate with a gift. There is nothing wrong with that at all. Finally, the concept of the gift is about a thank you for changing diet, suffering phyiscal discomfort, possibly permanent changes to the body, etc. It is a chance to honor the power that women have to create and carry life.

I think it is very sweet of a man to honor his wife and acknowledge the amazing abilities that we share as women-whether it is jewelry to adorn, spa treatments or food.

While the term "push present" may be icky, I welcome gifts to honor and celebrate new life and the power of the female.

Oh, my bad. My body can not get pregnant on it's own.  I thought that was the definition of infertile. I guess I'm wrong though. Thanks for schooling me...... I'm SO glad to have had you to teach me the ways. I hope to god you never have to deal with infertility, let alone people like you. Seriously, F*CK YOU!

caladpi02

JenniatONU:

caladpi02:

JenniatONU:

Bliss+Berry:

MrsT1108:

firefly2013:

Gknauff79:

lovelyday39:

I really hate this expression and cringe when I read it.

You're not the only one.  Seriously - holding my LO in my arms is the only present I want or need.

That is very sweet. And of course we all just want a healthy baby but I like the tradition of having gifts on special days. They tell a story and sometimes can be passed down.

Sounds like a brat to me!

Sounds like jealousy to me! 

So, your baby isn't a special gift?

 

Damn, maybe it's  just my infertile mind thinking here, but that sounds selfish to me. There is no greater gift in the world for me than a baby. And, I doubt anyone here is jealous that you and the OP want your husbands to go out of their way to buy you a gift for doing something you chose to do.

And yeah, the idea that she must 'get gifts on big days!' sounds extremely selfish and spoiled to me.  Because, we always need gifts to show our love or appreciation. Did you give your husband a present for producing the sperm? I mean, conception is the second biggest day in pregnancy....

First off, per your siggy you are almost 30 weeks, so no, you are not "infertile", and I find it reprehensible that you are somehow suggesting moral superiority over someone else because you call yourself "infertile".

The statement was that the poster liked the concept of gifts to mark big days, whether as a recipient or a giver. I agree. Easter, graduations, milestones, etc are nice to commemorate with a gift. There is nothing wrong with that at all. Finally, the concept of the gift is about a thank you for changing diet, suffering phyiscal discomfort, possibly permanent changes to the body, etc. It is a chance to honor the power that women have to create and carry life.

I think it is very sweet of a man to honor his wife and acknowledge the amazing abilities that we share as women-whether it is jewelry to adorn, spa treatments or food.

While the term "push present" may be icky, I welcome gifts to honor and celebrate new life and the power of the female.

Oh, my bad. My body can not get pregnant on it's own.  I thought that was the definition of infertile. I guess I'm wrong though. Thanks for schooling me...... I'm SO glad to have had you to teach me the ways. I hope to god you never have to deal with infertility, let alone people like you. Seriously, F*CK YOU!

OMG. WTH?!?! I have reported you for your totally inappropriate and uncalled for statement.

drpayne

caladpi02:

JenniatONU:

Bliss+Berry:

MrsT1108:

firefly2013:

Gknauff79:

lovelyday39:

I really hate this expression and cringe when I read it.

You're not the only one.  Seriously - holding my LO in my arms is the only present I want or need.

That is very sweet. And of course we all just want a healthy baby but I like the tradition of having gifts on special days. They tell a story and sometimes can be passed down.

Sounds like a brat to me!

Sounds like jealousy to me! 

So, your baby isn't a special gift?

 

Damn, maybe it's  just my infertile mind thinking here, but that sounds selfish to me. There is no greater gift in the world for me than a baby. And, I doubt anyone here is jealous that you and the OP want your husbands to go out of their way to buy you a gift for doing something you chose to do.

And yeah, the idea that she must 'get gifts on big days!' sounds extremely selfish and spoiled to me.  Because, we always need gifts to show our love or appreciation. Did you give your husband a present for producing the sperm? I mean, conception is the second biggest day in pregnancy....

First off, per your siggy you are almost 30 weeks, so no, you are not "infertile", and I find it reprehensible that you are somehow suggesting moral superiority over someone else because you call yourself "infertile".

The statement was that the poster liked the concept of gifts to mark big days, whether as a recipient or a giver. I agree. Easter, graduations, milestones, etc are nice to commemorate with a gift. There is nothing wrong with that at all. Finally, the concept of the gift is about a thank you for changing diet, suffering phyiscal discomfort, possibly permanent changes to the body, etc. It is a chance to honor the power that women have to create and carry life.

I think it is very sweet of a man to honor his wife and acknowledge the amazing abilities that we share as women-whether it is jewelry to adorn, spa treatments or food.

While the term "push present" may be icky, I welcome gifts to honor and celebrate new life and the power of the female.

You need some sensitivity training, as well as some education on the true medical definition of infertility (which is the failure of a couple to conceive after trying to do so for two years).

caladpi02

drpayne:

caladpi02:

JenniatONU:

Bliss+Berry:

MrsT1108:

firefly2013:

Gknauff79:

lovelyday39:

I really hate this expression and cringe when I read it.

You're not the only one.  Seriously - holding my LO in my arms is the only present I want or need.

That is very sweet. And of course we all just want a healthy baby but I like the tradition of having gifts on special days. They tell a story and sometimes can be passed down.

Sounds like a brat to me!

Sounds like jealousy to me! 

So, your baby isn't a special gift?

 

Damn, maybe it's  just my infertile mind thinking here, but that sounds selfish to me. There is no greater gift in the world for me than a baby. And, I doubt anyone here is jealous that you and the OP want your husbands to go out of their way to buy you a gift for doing something you chose to do.

And yeah, the idea that she must 'get gifts on big days!' sounds extremely selfish and spoiled to me.  Because, we always need gifts to show our love or appreciation. Did you give your husband a present for producing the sperm? I mean, conception is the second biggest day in pregnancy....

First off, per your siggy you are almost 30 weeks, so no, you are not "infertile", and I find it reprehensible that you are somehow suggesting moral superiority over someone else because you call yourself "infertile".

The statement was that the poster liked the concept of gifts to mark big days, whether as a recipient or a giver. I agree. Easter, graduations, milestones, etc are nice to commemorate with a gift. There is nothing wrong with that at all. Finally, the concept of the gift is about a thank you for changing diet, suffering phyiscal discomfort, possibly permanent changes to the body, etc. It is a chance to honor the power that women have to create and carry life.

I think it is very sweet of a man to honor his wife and acknowledge the amazing abilities that we share as women-whether it is jewelry to adorn, spa treatments or food.

While the term "push present" may be icky, I welcome gifts to honor and celebrate new life and the power of the female.

You need some sensitivity training, as well as some education on the true medical definition of infertility (which is the failure of a couple to conceive after trying to do so for two years).

And how would I know she had spent two years concieving? It is not in her siggy. And she told me to F off and went off on the other poster, so I am not sure where you get off telling me I need sensitivity training?

mlangs

chgibeau:

MrsT1108:

firefly2013:

Gknauff79:

lovelyday39:

I really hate this expression and cringe when I read it.

You're not the only one.  Seriously - holding my LO in my arms is the only present I want or need.

That is very sweet. And of course we all just want a healthy baby but I like the tradition of having gifts on special days. They tell a story and sometimes can be passed down.

Sounds like a brat to me!

Maybe it's her love language.  Go out and read The Five Love Languages.  People feel loved in different ways.

 

OK if the only way you can feel loved is by presents then there is something wrong, and you need to work on that... seriously.

 

drpayne

caladpi02:

drpayne:

caladpi02:

JenniatONU:

Bliss+Berry:

MrsT1108:

firefly2013:

Gknauff79:

lovelyday39:

I really hate this expression and cringe when I read it.

You're not the only one.  Seriously - holding my LO in my arms is the only present I want or need.

That is very sweet. And of course we all just want a healthy baby but I like the tradition of having gifts on special days. They tell a story and sometimes can be passed down.

Sounds like a brat to me!

Sounds like jealousy to me! 

So, your baby isn't a special gift?

 

Damn, maybe it's  just my infertile mind thinking here, but that sounds selfish to me. There is no greater gift in the world for me than a baby. And, I doubt anyone here is jealous that you and the OP want your husbands to go out of their way to buy you a gift for doing something you chose to do.

And yeah, the idea that she must 'get gifts on big days!' sounds extremely selfish and spoiled to me.  Because, we always need gifts to show our love or appreciation. Did you give your husband a present for producing the sperm? I mean, conception is the second biggest day in pregnancy....

First off, per your siggy you are almost 30 weeks, so no, you are not "infertile", and I find it reprehensible that you are somehow suggesting moral superiority over someone else because you call yourself "infertile".

The statement was that the poster liked the concept of gifts to mark big days, whether as a recipient or a giver. I agree. Easter, graduations, milestones, etc are nice to commemorate with a gift. There is nothing wrong with that at all. Finally, the concept of the gift is about a thank you for changing diet, suffering phyiscal discomfort, possibly permanent changes to the body, etc. It is a chance to honor the power that women have to create and carry life.

I think it is very sweet of a man to honor his wife and acknowledge the amazing abilities that we share as women-whether it is jewelry to adorn, spa treatments or food.

While the term "push present" may be icky, I welcome gifts to honor and celebrate new life and the power of the female.

You need some sensitivity training, as well as some education on the true medical definition of infertility (which is the failure of a couple to conceive after trying to do so for two years).

And how would I know she had spent two years concieving? It is not in her siggy. And she told me to F off and went off on the other poster, so I am not sure where you get off telling me I need sensitivity training?

 

She told you she was infertile and you argued with her about it!  She doesn't owe you a detailed explanation.  

LaurelBee

drpayne:

Denae'sTTC:

cellomusic11:

OMG I just want a cup of coffee.

Why can't you have coffee? 

This... I'm reading this thread thinking I must be the only one still eating sushi and having an occasional glass of wine

Dh and I have sushi date night in every Friday. He gets takeout while I put Ds to bed and then we watch our DVRd shows while eating on our TV trays I skip having wine only bc I have zero interest in it.

I would like a mother's ring. Ds is emerald and this LO will most likely be garnet.  

Mis+Shapes

I don't think women receiving PPs are "selfish" or "brats".  The OP didn't say "I WANT A PUSH PRESENT BECAUSE I AM ENTITLED AND IF I DON'T GET IT I AM DIVORCING DH."  Get over it. 

mlangs

drpayne:

 

She told you she was infertile and you argued with her about it!  She doesn't owe you a detailed explanation.