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CactusGirl

I hate how HDBD, UO, FFFC, WFL, WFD etc. are posted so early that by the time I get to them there are already 5 pages worth!! Or, the WFL post is posted at like 9am here...

Yes, my time zone is way behind most of you (it is 8:30am here), so I am sure many of the west coast ladies can agree that it stinks we are always the ones to show up last...

HelloAnnie!

I feel totally overwhelmed with my life and instead of doing something about it, I cry a lot.  I'm normally a very "together" person but honestly DH has been carrying me for a few months now. 

I'm terrified that I am going to be prone to PPD. 

aesf

soontobemrsdavis:

So what I do agree with is the call your doc statements. All I ever want to post is "don't listen to anyone here, call your doctor, better yet tell your doctor you WANT an ultrasound of your cervix, even if they say that it's normal". 

This is why whatever I think I always state if you have to ask here you shoudl call your doctor..

Abbney

Mrs.Leah.Maria:

duhdaisy86:

Mrs.Leah.Maria:

I forgot to put deodorant on today.

that is why I leave some in my desk...Just in case.

I needed it yesterday

I used to! I need to buy another one. After awhile I just started putting it on at work lol.

Hand sanitizer works in a pinch too...

Meg&Pete

And a bunch of pregnant ladies across the nation all due in July just smelled their arm pits...

meg211

I left work yesterday mid-morning, drove to the grocery store, bought a large slice of chocolate cake with chocolate fudge icing, a small carton of milk (skim, in a lame attempt to offset the cake fat), and sat outside on a park bench and enjoyed every morsel. 

I have been craving a slice of gooey chocolate cake since the day I got my bfp, yesterday just put me over the edge!  And I haven't told anyone about my guilty, sneak-out-of-work-and-eat-a-bad-snack-instead-of-salad-lunch trip

HelloAnnie!

Kerri816:

I spent around $85 on a bunch of stuff for my cousin for her baby shower, I'll be mad if all I get from her is an outfit.

I did the same for my cousin -- for her first shower three years ago and for her second (!) shower two years ago.  She never even wrote a thank you note, so I'm expecting that getting gifts from her might be a stretch. 

soontobemrsdavis

aesf:

soontobemrsdavis:

So what I do agree with is the call your doc statements. All I ever want to post is "don't listen to anyone here, call your doctor, better yet tell your doctor you WANT an ultrasound of your cervix, even if they say that it's normal". 

This is why whatever I think I always state if you have to ask here you shoudl call your doctor..

I always feel like if I post it it will be viewed as the debbie downer, because my response is based purely on my experience.  I feel that there are usually so many "oh your fine" posts, that my post telling them to get extra medical attention would be considered over the top. I usually don't care what others think of my posts, but I don't want to be the source of anxiety or stress for someone else just b/c of what I went through, you know.

Marsee

taralp25:

I'm getting beyond irritated at everyone who isn't creative enough to think beyond the greens and yellows because we aren't finding out what we're having. . .

Just because I don't know if I'm carrying a ball player or a little princess doesn't mean I have to have a yellow carseat and stroller. . .

I want to scream at my family to learn how to think outside the box!!

Amen. Seriously, there are all kinds of great colors. People keep saying, "Wow, you must really like yellow and green." Um, how about all of the other "neutral" colors? Orange, gray, brown, etc. So frustrating.

se52904

We are redoing our basement family room (new paint, new carpet, new couch) and I'm pretty sure I won't go down there for weeks (or more) afterwards because I'm super paranoid about all the new fumes.

chelle_ann

meg211:

I left work yesterday mid-morning, drove to the grocery store, bought a large slice of chocolate cake with chocolate fudge icing, a small carton of milk (skim, in a lame attempt to offset the cake fat), and sat outside on a park bench and enjoyed every morsel. 

I have been craving a slice of gooey chocolate cake since the day I got my bfp, yesterday just put me over the edge!  And I haven't told anyone about my guilty, sneak-out-of-work-and-eat-a-bad-snack-instead-of-salad-lunch trip

Love it!

Noreen and Chris

I'm thankful to be getting a baby shower but I feel the same as another post - I usually spend $100 on all of my friends for bridal and baby showers and I have a feeling that they won't treat me nearly as well and there are no "poor" excuses, we all have decent jobs and the same amount of bills.

tjmtjm

hcdekarske:

smalerie:

The people on this board who post under multiple s/ns entertain me. 

1.  Didn't know people do that.  (guess I just don't pay that much attention)

2.  WTF?  Why would someone do that?  (guess I am just stupid that I don't know why) 

I don't have that kind of time to devote to bumping! 

JennV514

CactusGirl:

I think Jell-O is disgusting.... oh wait, I guess this should be posted on UO day .

Me too. Unless it's in little dixie cups containing vodka.

Abbney

meg211:

I left work yesterday mid-morning, drove to the grocery store, bought a large slice of chocolate cake with chocolate fudge icing, a small carton of milk (skim, in a lame attempt to offset the cake fat), and sat outside on a park bench and enjoyed every morsel. 

I have been craving a slice of gooey chocolate cake since the day I got my bfp, yesterday just put me over the edge!  And I haven't told anyone about my guilty, sneak-out-of-work-and-eat-a-bad-snack-instead-of-salad-lunch trip

drool..I am 10000% jealous of your snack.  I need it now, and a nice park bench.  Would it be asking for too much to have birds singing to me and forest creatures playing ever so cutely nearby?? 

iheartcutepuppies

I miss drinking.

Pinot Noir.

Sauvignon Blanc.

Frozen Margaritas (BIG time which is funny, I normally don't love them..)

 

Mrs.Leah.Maria

Abbney:

Hand sanitizer works in a pinch too...

Now that's one I haven't tried!

Mrs.Leah.Maria

Meg&Pete:

And a bunch of pregnant ladies across the nation all due in July just smelled their arm pits...

Haha! Love it!

HelloAnnie!

soontobemrsdavis:

aesf:

soontobemrsdavis:

So what I do agree with is the call your doc statements. All I ever want to post is "don't listen to anyone here, call your doctor, better yet tell your doctor you WANT an ultrasound of your cervix, even if they say that it's normal". 

This is why whatever I think I always state if you have to ask here you shoudl call your doctor..

I always feel like if I post it it will be viewed as the debbie downer, because my response is based purely on my experience.  I feel that there are usually so many "oh your fine" posts, that my post telling them to get extra medical attention would be considered over the top. I usually don't care what others think of my posts, but I don't want to be the source of anxiety or stress for someone else just b/c of what I went through, you know.

I don't think it's ever a bad thing to advise someone to talk to their doctor.  If their doc says it's fine, then they can relax, but I'm of the better-safe-than-sorry school.  Don't worry about being a debbie downer -- you are a good example of why it's always better to ask if you are concerned. 

Mrs.Leah.Maria

I am scared to have another boy due to the autism numbers, since boys are 4 times more likely to be affected than girls.

 

wfdfire607

JennV514:

CactusGirl:

I think Jell-O is disgusting.... oh wait, I guess this should be posted on UO day .

Me too. Unless it's in little dixie cups containing vodka.

Saltina11

I'm terrified of being paralyzed by an epi. For that reason, I'm going to try to go natural.

Epiphany27

amygoable:

I have a real flammable one: I get SO tired of "OMG so worried" posts. As someone who has had actual complications (PPROM, preterm labor), I see people freak out about tiny things and just roll my eyes. You have generalized abdominal pain? No contractions, water leaking, bleeding, localized pain, fever, diarrhea, vomiting? Then who cares? If you're really worried, call your doc. I have no sympathy.

And then the "Am I having preterm labor?" posts drive me nuts. Call your doctor or just look on the March of Dimes website (or a million others) about the specific signs that mean you need to call your doc, and what you should do in the meantime. Even if you're worried you're in the early stages, no doctor will worry until you hit one or more of the signs you can find on any health or pregnancy site, like 6+ contractions per hour, and usually they want them to happen for more than one hour, or WATER leaking. Not slightly thinner discharge. If you are actually having preterm labor, you'd have to be a moron to miss it, and if you think it's happening, just call your dang doc because it's very serious!

For freaking real.?

Mine: I will never get past the thought that registries are tacky. Yes, tell me your family/friends want you to have one so they know what to get you. Tell me you want the completion coupon (this one is only legit to me if you don't tell anybody about it, otherwise you're just making an unnecessary excuse) It doesn't matter. Most of you end up posting about your incessant registry stalking to see what has been bought and I don't know if my eyes can handle rolling back into my head that much before I get a headache. If you're going to be a registry slave, at the veryfreakingleast embrace it. Props to those who admit that how much they really want gifts and don't make excuses for it.

aesf

its noon and ive already eaten a bowl of cereal, a pbj and j, an apple, a polly o cheese twister, a fruit by the foot and none of it was lunch. I AM SO HUNGRY TODAY.  Out of control.

MuseumMaven

CactusGirl:

I hate how HDBD, UO, FFFC, WFL, WFD etc. are posted so early that by the time I get to them there are already 5 pages worth!! Or, the WFL post is posted at like 9am here...

Yes, my time zone is way behind most of you (it is 8:30am here), so I am sure many of the west coast ladies can agree that it stinks we are always the ones to show up last...

Mountain Time here - and I feel the same way!  I'm always a few hours behind what's happening!

ohashlet

I refuse to read the home birth story for several reasons, the number one being that it is written IN A BLOG ABOUT HOW TERRIBLE HOME BIRTH IS.

The statement on the top of the mothereffing blog is as follows:

Hurt by Homebirth has been created as a safe place where women can tell the stories of the babies who died or who were left injured by homebirth.

 Do you not consider your news sources? I honestly cannot believe that the (mostly) intelligent women on this site don't look at that. I mean really. If this was a story in the NY times, or hell, even Babble or The Bump, I'd be willing to perhaps read. 

It just makes me so mad. I refuse to read a story about a tragic hospital birth is if it's in a blog or site that is anti-hospital either. 

 

Fact: This midwife was incompetent. 

Fact: The mother failed her child.

Fact: She was NOT a candidate for home birth yet chose it anyways.

 

 

 

ohdrama09

iheartcutepuppies:

I miss drinking.

Pinot Noir.

Sauvignon Blanc.

Frozen Margaritas (BIG time which is funny, I normally don't love them..)

 

Yes. Yes. And YES.  

WorkingMomofTwo

I am annoyed with my DH! He's gotten really lazy this last week and this happens to be the most exhausting week for me.

MFAinNYC

Mrs.Leah.Maria:

I miss being able to feel my hip bones. I hope we are one day reunited.

This made me try to feel mine.  Now I am disappointed.  Maybe I will try later but standing up.... 

DMBfan41

I plan on CD but haven't told MH yet.

oscarandlucy

I have been the world's biggest slacker at work. I am having a hard time forcing myself to work and that is not normally like me. I am coming down with a cold and am just tired. Normally, I can work through it but for some reason this week has been killer. Things are so slow right now, that it is hard to get energized. If it was just one day this week, I would just shrug my shoulders. But I feel so lazy - I been a slug this entire week. I am watching the clock - and I work from home. How sad is that??

DMBfan41

meg211:

I left work yesterday mid-morning, drove to the grocery store, bought a large slice of chocolate cake with chocolate fudge icing, a small carton of milk (skim, in a lame attempt to offset the cake fat), and sat outside on a park bench and enjoyed every morsel. 

I have been craving a slice of gooey chocolate cake since the day I got my bfp, yesterday just put me over the edge!  And I haven't told anyone about my guilty, sneak-out-of-work-and-eat-a-bad-snack-instead-of-salad-lunch trip

Yum!  I just came back from lunch with a friend where I ate a very healthy meal..

On the way home I stopped at Chick-fil-a for a Banana Pudding milkshake.  Oops. 

Mrs.Leah.Maria

MFAinNYC:

Mrs.Leah.Maria:

I miss being able to feel my hip bones. I hope we are one day reunited.

This made me try to feel mine.  Now I am disappointed.  Maybe I will try later but standing up.... 

Some people base how they are weight wise on how their clothes fit, for me it's being able to take my rings off and being able to feel my hip bones. Note not see my hip bones, but feel them . . . I think this was out the door with first tri. Still clinging to my rings!

DMBfan41

lrachelle80:

DMBfan41:

I plan on CD but haven't told MH yet.

Ha! I just brought one home (an all in one with aplix) and was like, "Look how cute this is! It's so easy, just like a disposable! We're going to use these!" I figure I'll introduce him to fitteds and prefolds later...at first the AIOs with velcro will be "his" diapers.

Yup, I added a bunch of AIOs to our registry without him knowing.  He's grossed out about it but he'll get over.   

princessjulia28

zsharky:

I'm not sure which is worse, that I'm eating skittles right now or that I just fed one to the dog.

haha LOVE this!

My FFFC is I wish I found out the sex of the baby. IDK if im just saying that now that I cant or not.

And I eat funny bones, and lucky charms daily.. Is that bad? lol I have seriously stopped looking at labels, portion control, and ingredients since my BFP.  I do try and eat at least one fruit and one veggie a day so I dont feel completely gross.

Somedays I dont remember Im pregnant, and also sometimes the baby feels like a worm in my tummy.

ohashlet

lrachelle80:

This really bothered me. 

I used a midwife for my first pregnancy that ended in a loss. She worked out of a hospital, along with several other MWs, and a group of regular OBs and MFMs. I'm still furious that after multiple heavy bleeding episodes she did nothing other than check the heartbeat with the doppler. Any other doctor would have ordered an ultrasound to check on everything, and at that point would have very likely seen that I was dilating and I would have been able to get an emergency cerclage and at least had a chance of carrying to term. I didn't know any better. I thought that everything was okay (like she kept telling me, though how could she have known?? Things can go wrong with a living baby) and trusted her to be making the best decision for me and my baby.  She didn't. He died. She should have, at the point when I started bleeding, told me I was no longer a low-risk patient and transferred me to a regular OB or MFM. I didn't see one until my water had already broken. I am still furious and bitter that I didn't know any better to insist on better, more proactive care. 

Do I believe in midwives? Sure, for low risk women. I thought I was one. I was told I was one, even as I called for the fifth time with bleeding.  

So are you blaming me for losing my child? 

Yes, the source is biased. But that doesn't make the story less true. The MW in the story is the MW the OP of that post was considering using. Should she ignore that story and the multiple things the MW did wrong just because it's a biased source? 

No, no lrachelle, I'm sorry if you got that from my post. I absolutely do not blame your loss on you. I'm not sure how that point could have come across.

I too, under the care of a midwife lost my first pregnancy at a pretty late stage (though under different circumstances). 

What angers me terribly about this whole debate, firstoff is the insane x-posting of this story. It was done so on my home board (that has suffered MANY still births and PTL&D due to IC etc) in a way  that I found incredibly insensitive. The second thing is the fact that people take this story as complete and utter fact despite it being from a blog that posts nothing but terrible home birth stories that end with children being permanently hurt or killed.

I just hate when people don't consider their sources.

I can see how my last few statements might be taken the wrong way, and I'm so sorry that I upset you. I've followed your story since losing Caleb and cheered when you got your BFP.

caraleeb

Im an artist and i dont plan on buying any art, there are a few pieces i've seen that i will just copy instead, terrible as a fellow artist i know! But i also get an artists paycheck =/

 

 

Marsee

caraleeb:

Im an artist and i dont plan on buying any art, there are a few pieces i've seen that i will just copy instead, terrible as a fellow artist i know! But i also get an artists paycheck =/

 

Same here. I plan on ripping off as much stuff as I can because: 1. I'm trying to save money and 2. My creative juices have pretty much dried up since BFP .

I don't feel guilty about it though. I'm not selling the artwork or profiting from it; it's for my personal use. And I always tell people that it's ripped off/not original if asked about it.  

MFAinNYC

I had oatmeal cookies for breakfast and I feel my reasoning is pretty sound.  Oatmeal = breakfast food.  Therefore, oatmeal cookies = breakfast cookies.

MFAinNYC

Mrs.Leah.Maria:

MFAinNYC:

Mrs.Leah.Maria:

I miss being able to feel my hip bones. I hope we are one day reunited.

This made me try to feel mine.  Now I am disappointed.  Maybe I will try later but standing up.... 

Some people base how they are weight wise on how their clothes fit, for me it's being able to take my rings off and being able to feel my hip bones. Note not see my hip bones, but feel them . . . I think this was out the door with first tri. Still clinging to my rings!

My chiropractor made a comment yesterday about how he couldn't believe my rings were still on.  I was very annoyed.

Does it count that if I poke really deeply, I can find my hip bones?