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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
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I used to be super jealous of anyone that was having a girl. I wanted a girl so bad all my life. The mother/daughter bond, the pink, the clothes, the future cheer leading practices - I dreamed of all of it.
Now that we are TTC #2 I want another boy. I want my son to have a little brother more than anything. I want him to have a partner in crime growing up, someone who will be his best friend for life. Yes, I realize he can have this with a sister and that not all brothers grow up to love each other, but this is my dream for him. I miscalculated my O date and going off the Shettles method, if I am pg this month, it will be a girl.
Dear alcohol pearl clutchers,
This past Monday I had the day off. Instead of spending it with DD and running errands like I was supposed to do, I dropped her off at daycare and me and the Mr. went to a movie and chugged a 24 ounce beer in the parking lot. It was 2:00 pm. Heeeheee. I felt like a highschooler skipping school. It was AWESOME.
The end.
Um, it's called a play on word, special agent, special education. Do you see how similar they sound?
lol i love that.
long story short, dh had my car and dropped me off for a shoot on saturday which was by a restaurant. he was late on picking me up and i just kept thinking "omg i wish i could go into that restaurant and drink". but instead i just sat there... gah!!!
Well, for me, it's how I feel bonded to my baby. Some women feel it when they hear the heartbeat, some when they feel kicks. I need to know who is in there to get that real connection. I don't know why. I found out last week that this baby is most likely a girl, and I am already enjoying my pregnancy more and feeling so much more connected. I am certainly not losing out on anything by not waiting!
Frankly, the inabiltiy to have fun without alcohol ISN'T healthy. That was my point.
where did anyone say "inability"? i would RATHER have fun with alcohol. drinking wine with friends, going out with dh and having drinks... that is fun. it will continue to be fun. no one said getting wasted and puking. and no one said "omg without it, we'd die".
and as for a bday party - i like to not make my friends/family's choices for them on what they decide to drink. hence the reason that if they want a beer - they can have one.
That is funny!
How do you know it doesn't feel the same exact way to find out at 20 weeks? No matter what you're finding out. I hate when people say you ruin the surprise or that you killed the one last chance in your life to be surprised. Finding out at the U/S is a surprise too lol. I have never.ever.got. why people think there is this giant difference in it being a surprise. It is still a surprise lol, you just find out sooner then later.
i think i get it lori. like my brother, he wont go to a party or family dinner if he cant have booze. however, while i enjoy a drink or two, if i cant have it no biggie. i will still show up.
the thing that people arent getting is preference vs. need. i prefer to have a drink with dinner but i dont NEED it to enjoy my meal and friends.
my thoughts exactly
Ok, I've got a good one.
I'm not offended by people using the word "retarded".
In fact, I use it myself on occaision.
aokiedokie
i will say, there are times/people i know that i need a drink to have fun with them. im okay with that.
i also need to drink when MIL comes to town.
My aunt just got a face lift. She looks like someone knocked the snot out of her with a baseball bat. I can't imagine being so vain that I'd do something like that to myself just to look younger.
Oh and the really funny part is, she only told my grandma and wasn't planning on telling anyone else. Even if my g'ma wasn't a huge gossip, does she really think no one's gonna notice? And if no one notices, what was the f*cking point!?
this whole thing made me LOL but especially "She looks like someone knocked the snot out of her with a baseball bat."
I agree on both. I need a drink when MIL comes around!! She lives 15 minutes away!!
I think people need to grow thicker skin. I hate having to be politically correct all the time. I can handle doing it in the workplace but don't feel it should be an issue on a message board. There is a difference between being darn right rude and hurtful to somebody and making a statement like "special education Oso."
When someone uses the term gender referring to an u/s it makes me think is the baby gonna be masculine or feminine vs. male or female. Because you can have a male that is feminine, or a masculine female.
Exactly. My comment yesterday was spun off the "What makes you happy?" poll the day before. And what made almost everybody happy? Alcohol.
I don't care if you drink. I don't care if you have wine for dinner. I apparently make a heII of a frozen fuzzy navel, not that I'd know. And we collect wine and have a fully-stocked bar. We used to own a freaking bar, for God's sake. I understand responsible use of alcohol.
I just think there is way too much association between fun and alcohol. And if people don't realize that their kids will see their parents having to make alcohol part of a good time, they are missing something big, and frankly don't have a lot of high ground when a kid gets drunk in high school with his friends because "hey, it's a party!"
And Punk? If it's your party, the menu is up to you. If you don't serve it, would someone really be tacky enough to say "Happy 2nd birthday Aidan! Now where's the schnapps?"
I'd need more than a drink to have fun with my FIL. It's thinking about what I'd like to put in his drink that gets me through.
LOL i totally skipped that whole thread because i was in a bad mood. I saw the post and i said to myself "who the fvck cares what makes YOU happy?". i'm feeling much better today
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The last time, I was 8m. Joseph finally opened up, and my mom was with us that time. It was an incredible surprise and a great moment. I wouldn't trade it.
And really,, with a u/s, you then have a few months of "Do you think they're right? What if they're wrong? You know La-a's mom's sister's hairdresser's niece had a u/s and they said it was a girl and it wasn't! What do you think?"
ITA. I needed that boost when I was at 20 weeks to get me through the rest of the pregnancy. I loved being pregnant, but I really wanted something REALLY exciting.
The day DS was born I got to see his facial features, and his eyes and his hair, and how big he was. I didn't know any of that while he was in there... that's a pretty nice surprise to me.
The birth of a child is inherently exciting. I don't have to keep the sex a mystery to create a wonderful, surprising experience. It's a whole new person coming into the world. That is enough for me.
For the whole u/s debate:
I've done it both ways and honestly for me, finding out at the u/s this time was not as exciting as finding out when ds was born. That being said - this is how I feel for myself - I like when I know what other people are having
. Also, it's a good thing we found out this time around because we are having such trouble naming another boy.
Yes, yes I understand your point, but I think you missed mine. I understand why you feel the way you do. I am really sorry about your Dad.
I was mostly reacting to the person who said they were 'disgusted'. Disgusted? Really?
I was the one who said disgusted.
And my disgust isn't because people drink. It's because they feel they have to drink because they are doing something fun. Fun can be fun without drinking, but WAY too many people don't give it a chance.
I swear people on this board just hunt for things that may not be completely PC in order to point them out and thus feel holier than thou.
My confession is that I have no idea what the deal with the pink shoes is...a little help please. Thanks!
That, and I enjoy an alcoholic beverage from time to time but never at home. For me it would be like getting a massage at home...relaxing at first until I get up and realize that I am in my house, with my mountain of laundry waiting to be washed, and my dishwasher full of clean dishes that need to be put away. Massages are for spas and alcohol is for bars, restaurants, and parties!
I'm sorry you're disgusted. It must be hard to be out and about at parties, etc.
Sometimes I drink because it is fun, not to have fun (but you may see that as one in the same). Like some people eat too much food because it's enjoyable to do so.
Wow. No one listens.
I am not disgusted that people drink. I am disgusted that people feel that drinking is so necessary that they can't have fun without it. I am always the designated driver, and I used to live/work at Disney. Trust me, I've been to my share of parties. Drunks are cheap entertainment, too.
But why does EVERY form of recreation require a beer, a margarita, a glass of wine, etc.? Why can't anything be fun without some sort of anesthesia?
The original post (three days ago, I think) kind of brought me back to prior discussions, as I said, about children's birthday parties. There was some debate in the past over how much/what kind of alcohol to serve. I just see that as so completely unnecessary to the occasion. It's cake and ice cream. Does there really need to be a keg, too?
And yes, I'll say it right now, I am completely gagging-in-the-back-of-my-throat disgusted by the idea of people drinking at a child's birthday party.
and bolded is why "we" will never agree.
birthdays are about having fun. for everyone. and like i said before, if you want to have a beer to go with your BBQ, then go right ahead. you aren't likely puking on the present table... you are relaxing and having fun.
it is fun to drink. and thats fine you disagree, but you have to see it as something other than "anesthesia" bc that is ridiculous.
Yes because if I wanted to feel holier than thou I would do so on a message board.
I worked in Special Education. Everyday I saw kids getting picked on and being called slow. If standing up for that makes me holier than thou so be it.
This is so true. When we found out we were having a girl at the 20wk u/s, I was legitimately surprised, shocked, happy and sobbed along with DH for the better part of 30 minutes. It was a very special moment and I will never regret the decision to find out.
I think that karma's a relentless biitch, and I'd never invite the fates to later put me in a position where I'd have a kid with a learning disability identified in, oh, fifth grade who then ends up getting called a sped by mean boys on the playground.
But if you like to play dice with the gods, that's entirely your choice.
Thank you!