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Monkeybuttwhat

lpennie16:

I lost the baby weight quickly with both babies. I have a high metabolism. People are always telling me how its unfair that I lost the weight fast etc. etc. They will say things like "Ughh, you just had a baby! You're so thin, biitch."  Umm, excuse me? Why do I have to be insulted b/c I happened to get back to my pre-preg size more quickly than that person probably did. It hurts my feelings. I don't rub it in anyone's face and I don't want rude comments. Everyone is different as are everyone's bodies.

PS- This is not an AW on my weight. I do have stretch marks!!

 

This makes me look at you so much different. You of all people should have a little compassion with people with body issues. 

lpennie16

Monkeybuttwhat:

lpennie16:

I lost the baby weight quickly with both babies. I have a high metabolism. People are always telling me how its unfair that I lost the weight fast etc. etc. They will say things like "Ughh, you just had a baby! You're so thin, biitch."  Umm, excuse me? Why do I have to be insulted b/c I happened to get back to my pre-preg size more quickly than that person probably did. It hurts my feelings. I don't rub it in anyone's face and I don't want rude comments. Everyone is different as are everyone's bodies.

PS- This is not an AW on my weight. I do have stretch marks!!

 

This makes me look at you so much different. You of all people should hae a little compassion with people with body issues. 

So because someone has issues with their own body I have to be subjected to their ugly comments? If someone were to say: "you just had a baby and you look great." I would just say "thank you" but that it not what is said. People (family and friends) make me feel like I have to apologize or feel bad for the fact that I lost preg weight. To me, its kind of like bullying. I do not comment on post-partum bodies unless in a positive way!

punkfiction_v.3

Monkeybuttwhat:

lpennie16:

I lost the baby weight quickly with both babies. I have a high metabolism. People are always telling me how its unfair that I lost the weight fast etc. etc. They will say things like "Ughh, you just had a baby! You're so thin, biitch."  Umm, excuse me? Why do I have to be insulted b/c I happened to get back to my pre-preg size more quickly than that person probably did. It hurts my feelings. I don't rub it in anyone's face and I don't want rude comments. Everyone is different as are everyone's bodies.

PS- This is not an AW on my weight. I do have stretch marks!!

 

This makes me look at you so much different. You of all people should have a little compassion with people with body issues. 

why? why should she walk around on eggshells for people or feel uncomfortable when they make comments bc THEY have issues with their body. jealousy is a crappy thing. she should hardly have to say "uhhh welll... i have stretch marks!!" to make someone else feel better. 

NewlywednOhio

Monkeybuttwhat:

NewlywednOhio:

I scheduled a toddler playdate during the exact same time/day my niece's cheer competition is because I can't stand snotty cheerleaders and snobby cheerleader moms.

Not all cheerleaders were snobby

Nope. Not all...but this particular group of them are.?

punkfiction_v.3

NewlywednOhio:

Monkeybuttwhat:

NewlywednOhio:

I scheduled a toddler playdate during the exact same time/day my niece's cheer competition is because I can't stand snotty cheerleaders and snobby cheerleader moms.

Not all cheerleaders were snobby

Nope. Not all...but this particular group of them are. 

my FFFC - i can't wait to be that mom. 

lpennie16

I hate scrapbooking too!  But, I think its b/c I'm very uncrafty and would probably end up hot-glueing my hand or something.

KittyCatBio

lpennie16:

I hate scrapbooking too!  But, I think its b/c I'm very uncrafty and would probably end up hot-glueing my hand or something.

When I was a RA I was making door decs for my residents out of thick thick poster board and stabbed myself smack in the middle of my hand with an exacto knife.  I quite un-pcishly called it my stigmata.

momma don't craft no more. 

spiderbride531

I lurk everyday.  I had an old sn but I forgot the password. I was more active on the tri boards.  I've wanted to start posting more but always just feel weird jumping in, since I'm not one of the usual players around here!!

rjbear21

I don't have much desire for this board anymore since I've had my m/c last week.  Mainly because right now there are so many people that are pregnant that post pregnancy related things and it hurts.  I spend more of my time on the m/c/PL board. 

I'm also kind of put off that a few people I know have not even bothered to acknowledge my m/c and haven't said a word about it.  I realize that some people don't know what to say,  but you can't even acknowledge it?  That really hurts my feelings. 

end pity party/vent.  

Jessibell

rjbear21:

I don't have much desire for this board anymore since I've had my m/c last week.  Mainly because right now there are so many people that are pregnant that post pregnancy related things and it hurts.  I spend more of my time on the m/c/PL board. 

I'm also kind of put off that a few people I know have not even bothered to acknowledge my m/c and haven't said a word about it.  I realize that some people don't know what to say,  but you can't even acknowledge it?  That really hurts my feelings. 

end pity party/vent.  

I am so sorry for your loss. I never saw the OP, but I would be just devastated.

((hugs))

skoorbnibor

rjbear21:

I don't have much desire for this board anymore since I've had my m/c last week.  Mainly because right now there are so many people that are pregnant that post pregnancy related things and it hurts.  I spend more of my time on the m/c/PL board. 

 

 

I think those of who are having tttc #2 or are IF completely understand how you feel. Some days it is like a knife to the gut. It is not a lack of genuine happiness for others, but it is a sadness for ourselves. 

 

minankelleher

while i am VERY happy that all seems to be well with this pregnancy / baby - i wish i was having another girl.

 

rjbear21

skoorbnibor:

rjbear21:

I don't have much desire for this board anymore since I've had my m/c last week.  Mainly because right now there are so many people that are pregnant that post pregnancy related things and it hurts.  I spend more of my time on the m/c/PL board. 

 

 

I think those of who are having tttc #2 or are IF completely understand how you feel. Some days it is like a knife to the gut. It is not a lack of genuine happiness for others, but it is a sadness for ourselves. 

 

I understand.  I think I'm just having a bad day emotionally.  Don't get me wrong,  I'm happy for those that ARE having healthy pregnancies and they should not feel guilty at all or feel bad for me. I'm not the first person to go through this.  Nor will I be the last.  

skoorbnibor

fIowerchild:

I was dismayed by the UO posted yesterday regarding alcohol consumption. Specifically,  a number of you can't fathom that some people are able to have a healthy relationship with alcohol. And that's it's perfectly OK to have that healthy relationship (i.e. enjoy a nice glass of wine, like to meet friends out for food and drinks, offer beer and wine at a toddler birthday party).

I am truly sorry for the tragedies that may have spurred the opinion, but to call normal alcohol consumption 'disgusting' seems a little....extremist.  I am disgusted by people who hurt children and small furry creatures, not someone having a glass of wine at a family gathering.

 

I missed this original post, but I see nothing at all wrong with having a glass of wine with dinner... or in the bathtub! 

I think if you have had a personal experience with a problem drinker, of course it is hard to understand that someone might be able to have a glass of wine and be fine, but it is more common than not. 

I grew up with a healthy respect for alcohol, and an understanding that all things are good in moderation, I guess... so saying having a drink or 2 is disgusting just sounds odd to me. 

 

BetchySprout

I have a bad one, related to the above posts.

 

My cousin had a m/c in July of 2007 at 10 weeks. We were TTC at the time, and I don't think I "got" the gravity or sadness of what happened. I didn't say a word to her about it. I had the (WRONG!) "she has a kid, things happen, it is no big deal" crap in my head. A good friend had one in Jan. 2008, she has 4 kids, it was a BO, and I said nothing to her either (hers was a bit different, I didn't KNOW what to say...she had 5 kids, then an abortion in May of 2007, then got pg again and decided to keep it). I got pregnant that very month. Now, I hate that I did that to either of them. I had no idea what I was doing then and I feel like a horrible person.

To be fair though, the cousin said nothing to me when my dad died.

AmyDrinkie

I am considering putting out just so I can fantasize that I'm doing it w/ Dane Cook.  I watched "My Best Friend's Girl" a few weeks ago and the scene where he's walking up the aisle at the church, dressed in all black to Johnny Cash's "The Man Comes Around" makes me want to take my clothes off.

punkfiction_v.3

AmyDrinkie:

I am considering putting out just so I can fantasize that I'm doing it w/ Dane Cook.  I watched "My Best Friend's Girl" a few weeks ago and the scene where he's walking up the aisle at the church, dressed in all black to Johnny Cash's "The Man Comes Around" makes me want to take my clothes off.

 

::nods:: yes. drool.

rynhales

rjbear21:

I don't have much desire for this board anymore since I've had my m/c last week.  Mainly because right now there are so many people that are pregnant that post pregnancy related things and it hurts.  I spend more of my time on the m/c/PL board. 

I'm also kind of put off that a few people I know have not even bothered to acknowledge my m/c and haven't said a word about it.  I realize that some people don't know what to say,  but you can't even acknowledge it?  That really hurts my feelings. 

end pity party/vent.  

I am so sorry for your loss. I missed the OP.

missamy713

Part of me hopes that I'm sick on Christmas Eve so that I don't have to subjected to the way my MIL treats me.  Just thinking about her grabbing the baby from my arms and being ignored for three hours again, makes me feel sick.  I just don't think I can handle it with everything else in my life.  I'm liable to start crying if I'm ignored for the fourth time in a year. I just don't know what I did to deserve such crappy treatment.  The last time I felt like this, I was in junior high and the girls were saying horrible things to me.  I don't know how to I wound up in a family that did a 180 on me.  First talking about how all red heads are ugly, while I'm sitting right there and now, I'm not even worth a hello from my mother-in-law. 

On a positive note, at least the last time I saw my MIL was in July and she ignored my husband that time too. At least I'm not alone in that.

lpennie16

Pattypoundcake:

I have a bad one, related to the above posts.

 

My cousin had a m/c in July of 2007 at 10 weeks. We were TTC at the time, and I don't think I "got" the gravity or sadness of what happened. I didn't say a word to her about it. I had the (WRONG!) "she has a kid, things happen, it is no big deal" crap in my head. A good friend had one in Jan. 2008, she has 4 kids, it was a BO, and I said nothing to her either (hers was a bit different, I didn't KNOW what to say...she had 5 kids, then an abortion in May of 2007, then got pg again and decided to keep it). I got pregnant that very month. Now, I hate that I did that to either of them. I had no idea what I was doing then and I feel like a horrible person.

To be fair though, the cousin said nothing to me when my dad died.

two wrongs don't make a right

As far as your not saying anything after her m/c, try not to beat yourself up about it. It is devastating, but people just don't know what to say a lot of times.

punkfiction_v.3

and kinda what PPC said -

i never understood the "loss" until i had a m/c of my own. i always thought it wouldn't really bother me. i mean, id be barely pregnant, right? and i had kids! but that wasn't the case. and in retrospect, i felt like shiit for what i did or didnt say before i had one of my own.

mustangsallie

I feel really bad over mine.

I had this coworker, very abrasive and anoying and dramatic. She kept complaining about a pain in her side, walking around holding her hand on her side, etc. I pretty much just rolled my eyes and thought "We get it, your tummy hurts, go home" I really thought she just wanted attention.

Turns out she has colon cancer.

lpennie16

missamy713:

Part of me hopes that I'm sick on Christmas Eve so that I don't have to subjected to the way my MIL treats me.  Just thinking about her grabbing the baby from my arms and being ignored for three hours again, makes me feel sick.  I just don't think I can handle it with everything else in my life.  I'm liable to start crying if I'm ignored for the fourth time in a year. I just don't know what I did to deserve such crappy treatment.  The last time I felt like this, I was in junior high and the girls were saying horrible things to me.  I don't know how to I wound up in a family that did a 180 on me.  First talking about how all red heads are ugly, while I'm sitting right there and now, I'm not even worth a hello from my mother-in-law. 

On a positive note, at least the last time I saw my MIL was in July and she ignored my husband that time too. At least I'm not alone in that.

Oh HELL NO. No one grabs my baby from me, let alone ignores me. I am really sorry. You should stand up for yourself!

skoorbnibor

rjbear21:

skoorbnibor:

rjbear21:

I don't have much desire for this board anymore since I've had my m/c last week.  Mainly because right now there are so many people that are pregnant that post pregnancy related things and it hurts.  I spend more of my time on the m/c/PL board. 

 

 

I think those of who are having tttc #2 or are IF completely understand how you feel. Some days it is like a knife to the gut. It is not a lack of genuine happiness for others, but it is a sadness for ourselves. 

 

I understand.  I think I'm just having a bad day emotionally.  Don't get me wrong,  I'm happy for those that ARE having healthy pregnancies and they should not feel guilty at all or feel bad for me. I'm not the first person to go through this.  Nor will I be the last.  

lots of love to you, honey... it is hard and it hurts and it sucks.... one has nothing to do with the other. I am so sorry you are hurting/

mustangsallie

rynhales:

rjbear21:

I don't have much desire for this board anymore since I've had my m/c last week.  Mainly because right now there are so many people that are pregnant that post pregnancy related things and it hurts.  I spend more of my time on the m/c/PL board. 

I'm also kind of put off that a few people I know have not even bothered to acknowledge my m/c and haven't said a word about it.  I realize that some people don't know what to say,  but you can't even acknowledge it?  That really hurts my feelings. 

end pity party/vent.  

I am so sorry for your loss. I missed the OP.

I am so sorry for your loss, and you are right that people really do not know what to say. Most people ignored mine as well (IRL). I think alot of people don't think of it as a baby and will never understand until they live it.

LondonBridges

skoorbnibor:

IHO Nbjenni's confession...

we haven't bought a movie, music or software d/l in years.... yet we have tons of them. Hmmm. Plausible deniability is my plan!

And although E's doctor recommended just 2 baths a week for his excema, it has now been about 7 full days... he is just so red and cracked all over his feet, back, butt and fingers, I dread the process... So I just wipe him down. His hair is gross, though. 

Don't laugh, but have you seen these?   They gave me one of these in the hospital, and it surprisingly worked pretty well.

TheNerdyKatie

I have 2. The local news ran a story about home alarms being a scam. I was happy to see this because they really are. And I also know that the place I used to work was going crazy with phone calls because of the story and that made me happy. Also, I hate watching movies/tv shows that are either set or have a character from Texas. They always have these thick thick accents that I have never heard and people in Texas don't sound like hicks. The only thing that we do is say yall and call any form of soda Coke. Oh and call "access roads" feeder, and I think that is just in Houston. And I also stand by what I said about home alarms, I would put money on the fact that half of yalls don't work even though it makes noise. And the sad part the alarm company will blame you for it. And I doubt this post makes any sense because I am posting from my phone. And I am sad I won't be able to respond because I don't have the patience for the page to load. So if you have something to say email me! Thenerdykatie @gmail.com . And I am really bored. And rambling. And PD is asleep.

missamy713

lpennie16:

missamy713:

Part of me hopes that I'm sick on Christmas Eve so that I don't have to subjected to the way my MIL treats me.  Just thinking about her grabbing the baby from my arms and being ignored for three hours again, makes me feel sick.  I just don't think I can handle it with everything else in my life.  I'm liable to start crying if I'm ignored for the fourth time in a year. I just don't know what I did to deserve such crappy treatment.  The last time I felt like this, I was in junior high and the girls were saying horrible things to me.  I don't know how to I wound up in a family that did a 180 on me.  First talking about how all red heads are ugly, while I'm sitting right there and now, I'm not even worth a hello from my mother-in-law. 

On a positive note, at least the last time I saw my MIL was in July and she ignored my husband that time too. At least I'm not alone in that.

Oh HELL NO. No one grabs my baby from me, let alone ignores me. I am really sorry. You should stand up for yourself!

To be fair, I do force the hello.  I don't just let her take the baby, without me saying "Hi MIL, how have you been?" and I smile politely.  Of course, she looks at me as if I don't really exist, and reaches for the baby.  I don't let her take him, until he wants to go, or at least isn't holding on as tight. 

rjbear21

mustangsallie:

rynhales:

rjbear21:

I don't have much desire for this board anymore since I've had my m/c last week.  Mainly because right now there are so many people that are pregnant that post pregnancy related things and it hurts.  I spend more of my time on the m/c/PL board. 

I'm also kind of put off that a few people I know have not even bothered to acknowledge my m/c and haven't said a word about it.  I realize that some people don't know what to say,  but you can't even acknowledge it?  That really hurts my feelings. 

end pity party/vent.  

I am so sorry for your loss. I missed the OP.

I am so sorry for your loss, and you are right that people really do not know what to say. Most people ignored mine as well (IRL). I think alot of people don't think of it as a baby and will never understand until they live it.

I agree.  What is there to say, ya know?  My BFF had a tubal pregnancy once and I just kind of bumbled out an "i'm sorry, you can't dwell on it" kind of response because I had no idea what she was feeling.  But at least I tried.  That was before I was even married.  

Thanks ladies. I really appreciate the kind words.

 

skoorbnibor

missamy713:

Part of me hopes that I'm sick on Christmas Eve so that I don't have to subjected to the way my MIL treats me.  Just thinking about her grabbing the baby from my arms and being ignored for three hours again,

 

If she does it again, dont cry, get mad. Tell her NO ONE will take your baby from your arms. Tell her she is being disrespectful to you and that you will not tolerate it! 

My MIL did this, once. I was so angry  I saw red... I completely lost it and although I know she was hurt, I didnt care.... it is NOT ok.  I am sorry she treats you this way, but honestly, passively accepting it is not going to help you. Be strong, get mad, and change things! Good luck!

BetchySprout

lpennie16:

Pattypoundcake:

I have a bad one, related to the above posts.

 

My cousin had a m/c in July of 2007 at 10 weeks. We were TTC at the time, and I don't think I "got" the gravity or sadness of what happened. I didn't say a word to her about it. I had the (WRONG!) "she has a kid, things happen, it is no big deal" crap in my head. A good friend had one in Jan. 2008, she has 4 kids, it was a BO, and I said nothing to her either (hers was a bit different, I didn't KNOW what to say...she had 5 kids, then an abortion in May of 2007, then got pg again and decided to keep it). I got pregnant that very month. Now, I hate that I did that to either of them. I had no idea what I was doing then and I feel like a horrible person.

To be fair though, the cousin said nothing to me when my dad died.

two wrongs don't make a right

As far as your not saying anything after her m/c, try not to beat yourself up about it. It is devastating, but people just don't know what to say a lot of times.

I know two wrongs don't make a right...but that definitely wasn't WHY I didn't say anything, just putting it out there. It didn't even cross my mind (or trapper keeper of notes) to not say anything because of it. Thankfully she had another baby 1 month after Jack was born, but I still feel bad about it. I think she might have felt  the way about my dad's death...a few of you here know how my dad died and pretty much nobody knows what to say after that either.

BetchySprout

Pardon the duplicate.

jen_k2

rjbear- I am sorry for your loss.

I really think some people just don't know what to say if they've never experienced a m/c or IF issues.

I don't understand how some people can be downright rude about it though. Case- my mother.

My first m/c after DS: less than 24 hours after I found out that there was no hb, my mom wanted to come by to have me sign some unimportant papers that didn't need to been done that day or even that week. I told her I wanted some alone time with DH and wasn't up to visitors. I had already seen her once. She told me that I'm not the only woman this has ever happened to and that I needed to suck it up already

BrideInSunnyFL

rjbear21:

I don't have much desire for this board anymore since I've had my m/c last week.  Mainly because right now there are so many people that are pregnant that post pregnancy related things and it hurts.  I spend more of my time on the m/c/PL board. 

I'm also kind of put off that a few people I know have not even bothered to acknowledge my m/c and haven't said a word about it.  I realize that some people don't know what to say,  but you can't even acknowledge it?  That really hurts my feelings. 

end pity party/vent.  

I'm so sorry for your loss.  The m/c PL board is awesome.  They all understand what you're going through.  I also felt the same way about some very close friends and family after my m/c.  I was really hurt, I really needed them to be there for me, and I don't know I guess they just didn't know how to deal w/it.  I guess it's one of those things, you don't really understand the magnitude of it intil going through it yourself.  Since my m/c, 2 of those close friends have experienced one and I was the first they reached out to.  That's when I realized they didn't get it intil going through it themself.  The up side to things (if thats possible) is I was glad I could be there for my 2 close friends and truly understand what they where going through.

Toosdai

TheNerdyKatie:

I have 2. The local news ran a story about home alarms being a scam. I was happy to see this because they really are. And I also know that the place I used to work was going crazy with phone calls because of the story and that made me happy. Also, I hate watching movies/tv shows that are either set or have a character from Texas. They always have these thick thick accents that I have never heard and people in Texas don't sound like hicks. The only thing that we do is say yall and call any form of soda Coke. Oh and call "access roads" feeder, and I think that is just in Houston. And I also stand by what I said about home alarms, I would put money on the fact that half of yalls don't work even though it makes noise. And the sad part the alarm company will blame you for it. And I doubt this post makes any sense because I am posting from my phone. And I am sad I won't be able to respond because I don't have the patience for the page to load. So if you have something to say email me! Thenerdykatie @gmail.com . And I am really bored. And rambling. And PD is asleep.

A) You are so random, I love it.

While reading this, I was thinking WTF is up with the lack o' paragraphs.

C) Bahahaha.

 

punkfiction_v.3

TheNerdyKatie:

I have 2. The local news ran a story about home alarms being a scam. I was happy to see this because they really are. And I also know that the place I used to work was going crazy with phone calls because of the story and that made me happy. Also, I hate watching movies/tv shows that are either set or have a character from Texas. They always have these thick thick accents that I have never heard and people in Texas don't sound like hicks. The only thing that we do is say yall and call any form of soda Coke. Oh and call "access roads" feeder, and I think that is just in Houston. And I also stand by what I said about home alarms, I would put money on the fact that half of yalls don't work even though it makes noise. And the sad part the alarm company will blame you for it. And I doubt this post makes any sense because I am posting from my phone. And I am sad I won't be able to respond because I don't have the patience for the page to load. So if you have something to say email me! Thenerdykatie @gmail.com . And I am really bored. And rambling. And PD is asleep.

i say access road. or frontage. 

and my alarm works. if you don't think yours (general you) does - then let it go off and see what happens. someone should call you back immediately. ALSO, some dont alert the police to come out bc you may have to have a permit from the city. 

redstars93

I'm on the waitlist at the library for Palin's book.

::sets fire to myself::

 

lite-bright

I made breakfast for dinner earlier this week while DH was at the gym, and left his plate on the table while I took a break to nest. My dogs almost never try to steal food off the table, but apparently hash browns, eggs and sausage were too much to resist, and I caught our taller guy snitching hash browns DH's plate while the smaller guy caught the crumbs.

Those were the last of what I'd cooked and I reeeeeallly didn't want to make more. So I scraped all the parts that had dog-contact into the trash, and then debated with myself for a good five minutes on whether to trash the rest and make a new batch, serve them to DH and not tell him, or be completely open about what had happened and let him decide whether he wanted to eat them or not.

In the end, I made fresh ones for DH, told him why, and ate the other ones myself. But man, I was SO tempted to just not say anything and save myself some work. 

 

 

LilMissLadybug

TheNerdyKatie:

I have 2. The local news ran a story about home alarms being a scam. I was happy to see this because they really are. And I also know that the place I used to work was going crazy with phone calls because of the story and that made me happy. Also, I hate watching movies/tv shows that are either set or have a character from Texas. They always have these thick thick accents that I have never heard and people in Texas don't sound like hicks. The only thing that we do is say yall and call any form of soda Coke. Oh and call "access roads" feeder, and I think that is just in Houston. And I also stand by what I said about home alarms, I would put money on the fact that half of yalls don't work even though it makes noise. And the sad part the alarm company will blame you for it. And I doubt this post makes any sense because I am posting from my phone. And I am sad I won't be able to respond because I don't have the patience for the page to load. So if you have something to say email me! Thenerdykatie @gmail.com . And I am really bored. And rambling. And PD is asleep.

interesting. I'd like to know how it's a scam. Ours works. DD set ours off the day she came home, within 30 seconds we had a call.

redstars93

rjbear21:

I don't have much desire for this board anymore since I've had my m/c last week.  Mainly because right now there are so many people that are pregnant that post pregnancy related things and it hurts.  I spend more of my time on the m/c/PL board. 

I'm also kind of put off that a few people I know have not even bothered to acknowledge my m/c and haven't said a word about it.  I realize that some people don't know what to say,  but you can't even acknowledge it?  That really hurts my feelings. 

end pity party/vent.  

I know this is cliche but.... {{{{hugs}}}}

I hear you on this too. There is a poster on this board who is due right around when I was and every time I see her ticker or pregnant posts, it's like a knife in my heart.

And she's so nice so then I feel bad for being so jealous about her healthy pregnancy.