@thescarletmom good luck!! I hope all goes well and the conversation can be dropped quickly so as not to upset Jasper! I hope it's an enjoyable dinner!
@thescarletmom omg your haul is so cute 😍😍 I have one of those woven blankets from target too and I absolutely love it! I need to buy some more! Ugh I really hope your dinner goes well and that Jasper doesn't overhear or freak out. Would it work to set the boundary and not explain what's going on? Just say you're protecting your peace right now and would like to avoid discussing it? That way you're not having to announce that something may be wrong in front of your son? I suppose some family members might not love the vagueness of that though.. I'm sorry, what a tough situation, I really hope it goes well, I'll be thinking about you. I feel like being an ageist only exists if you're a boomer or a gen X who hates everyone and everything just because it's new? I think discussing very real widespread issues with older generations is just facts, not ageism but that's just my opinion. People in the rest of the country have suuuper weird opinions on what the Midwest actually is 😂 people want to tell me I'm in the Midwest like, ma'am, no. I'm not the Midwest, I'm the west, my state has always been the west, it's not west coast and it's not Pacific Northwest, or Midwest, it's the west thank you very much 😂 I spent most of my growing up years in Ohio and I always thought it was the Midwest but a lot of people thought it was new England, like um, what?!?
Colorado is way too West to be MIDwest! In my mind, midwest is like Iowa, Missouri, Kansas, Nebraska, Illinois, Oklahoma. Tennessee, Arkansas and Kentucky are just the south 😂 Indiana and Ohio are just Amish Country, I don't know who's supposed to claim them.
@pttomato right? Like that's just rude to actual new englanders 😂
@thescarletmom they're like that about all of the western states, Utah, Idaho, Montana, Nevada, Colorado 😂 it's wild! It's not mid and it's not coastal so it's just the west period. Nobody knows who should claim Ohio lmao 🤣 someone called it the northeast one time and I was like okay that's not bad, it's more accurate than NE. Ohio was cool though and maple syrup season was the best, but I hated Missouri and Illinois.
Also on another note I had an epic diaper mail day today and look at this stack of goodness 😍 I want clothing in these prints lol.
Well, the answer is that nobody asked about the pregnancy so I just didn't bring it up. Pros and cons lol
@kalesix3 so precious!! I hope my la petite ourse order shows up soon 👀
Lol if I lived in rural Missouri I would certainly hate it, but I love living in the large metropolitan part in the NW of the state. Nobody does BBQ like us, and I'm not open to comments on that 😂
Also that target blanket is definitely incredible and I have no idea how a large knit manages to be so warm still?? Not at all like it has massive holes haha.
@thescarletmom omg yay, I'm so glad it didn't come up and cause you any stress. I was shocked at how fast my LPO showed up, I hope yours is there ASAP! I call my favorite target blanket "the popcorn blanket" because it's a fluffy open knit and it's SO cozy 😍 I lived between Columbia and Kansas City but I don't like barbecue so I'm sorry to say I had absolutely none while I was there 😆 I thought Columbia had a cool hippie college town type vibe but the religion, the people, the weather and the politics just weren't for me. I do occasionally look at real estate there and wish things were more sensible. I won't personally live in a state where my uterus is policed and I'm heavily pro abortion so I'm a bad fit for most of the Midwest sadly. I hope things turn around again though!
Well whatever Ohio is considered... be praying for them. The train derailment, that has been really hush hush in the news, is being burned off. I have family there and the sky is full of toxic waste. They chernobyled the place. All their chickens dead. They have a pond and all the fish.. dead. The levels in the air are so toxic we will surely have some insane cancers coming from the area. Their livestock are whimpy and will be dead soon too. It is now in PA too. Will continue east. The soil is ruined. The water is contaminated. Reporters are being arrested who report on this. Anyone else in Ohio? I saw some stats on personal updates but mostly just what my family from there are saying.
Awful. We won't know for 5+ years what really happened. Seems intentional. This is a chemical used is WW1. Now contaminating the air. The video my cousin took was haunting of the sky. Oddly enough the chemical was heading for my neck of the woods to be disposed of.
Whenever you buy property or land really research the area. The amount of chemical oopsies happening and contaminating the water and soil are insane. We found a property we loved in-between a split river and it was soo cheap. We investigated and the military had dumped toxic waste into it for years. So if my kids played in the creek they'd probably have some form of cancer.
Stay safe out there folks. If you are east of Ohio... please be careful.
@thescarletmom originally I'm from KS. Lots of family in KCK and KCMO. We have lots in the boonies of MO too. We are in CO now. But hoping to land in MO. We have land all over the US though. My husband and I traveled for the first 5 years of our relationship. We'd find a place we loved buy some land. Which is a little crazy. We lived out of our car with our 2 dogs. Bought a mountain. Lived there. Would do short term rentals in big cities. Lived in the bay and on the Keys. It was so magical. We have a camper and can stop at our different locations throughout the country and be "home". Each babe was made in a different area. We lived like broke people but have a lot to show for it. When you go years without paying rent or utilities, you get pretty far. I think I put makeup on maybe 50 times the entire time we dated. Haha truckstop showers, the whole thing. I loved every minute of it. Our car has 600,000 miles on it and we refuse to get rid of him. He's a family momento at this point. Hopefully teach our sons to drive on him.
I'm always looking for ways to support my child's development, and these pre-writing workheets from Wunderkiddy( https://wunderkiddy.com/category/pre-writing) seem like the perfect solution. The activities are fun and educational, a win-win for both of us!
The train derailment in Ohio is terrible. I get why they burned it, but I still wouldn’t want to be anywhere nearby. And I’ve worked with some of those chemicals in a lab.
I know we have a few homebirthers in here so hopefully it's not too weird or "out there" but what's everyone planning to do with your placenta after the birth? I just dropped my son's placenta off with a native birth worker to be dehydrated with herbs and flowers for a burial ceremony someday. Only two years after he was born 🤦🏻♀️ I don't consume them but I'll get this baby's placenta dehydrated too, hopefully much sooner after the birth, and have a burial on our future property and plant a tree.
@kalesix3 if my hospital would let me, I'd take the placenta home and I'd dehydrate it and I'd put it into capsules and take them honestly. I think that's probably not everyone's cup of tea, but it's what I would personally do if I could.
@kalesix3 I have them made into capsules. Many hospitals will even allow you to have the maker come pick them up from them. The lady that does it near me is super affordable.
@hitcj4687 they should let you take them home!! The only reason I don't encapsulate it and take the capsules is just that I've never felt like I needed to, I would if my body gave me different signals though so it's not too far off from my cup of tea! The lady who's dehydrating mine says that you just have to push the hospital to release it and sign a form and they'll let you unless it went to pathology and then there's more hoops to jump.
@hitcj4687 I am not a very hormonal person. So the emotional benefits I didn't see a difference in so much. I had the baby blues with one son and it was just honestly exhaustion for me. I did notice increase in milk supply, faster recovery, and more energy when I did take them compared to when I didn't. The boost in iron is a really helpful in postpartum. All those were such a bonus. Especially with the more kids you already have at home to take care of while recovering yourself. If you are more susceptible to the baby blues or PPD I would definitely give it a try. I think the boost of energy really helps to ward that off. Thankfully we are having summer babies so we have MONTHS of fresh air and sunshine to soak up too! I think the season you have your baby also helps with it too. My baby blues were with my winter baby. The lady that does mine charges 150 to make them.
@hitcj4687 yes absolutely bring it up, I think every state is required to release your placenta to you, I don't know of a single one who won't do that but you have to push some hospitals because they're backwards 😂
@kalesix3 this will be my first time encapsulating mine! I’m usually fine mental health wise, but my milk supply is terrible. So I’m hoping that will help this time around.
Not a football (or sports) person at all really but GO CHIEFS! I may know nothing about sports but I'm always a loyal hometown girl. Didnt watch the game but knew we won when literally 2 hours of fireworks started going off around the city at 9pm. Thank God between the booms and my neighbors screaming outside (why y'all?), the kids didn't wake up lol. Also I heard Rihanna announced a pregnancy during the half time show?? Insane, I cannot imagine how much energy that took from her.
@thescarletmom I used to be a die hard football fan. I also was a devout Chiefs fan. It was the team we grew up watching. I won many a fantasy football league. Man those days were fun, but we stopped watching the year before the Chiefs won their first Superbowl in decades. Since then, I have refused to watch as I must be bad luck. Obviously I am as they keep winning. I almost watched last night but I bet the Eagles would have won then. Haha
@thoseboysmama it's so funny because I have been pregnant each time the Royals or Chiefs have won the World Series or Super Bowl since I've been born 😂 I didn't know I was pregnant with DS1 yet when the Royals won the WS in Oct/Nov 15, was about 8 months pregnant when the Chiefs won the SB in 20, and obviously am pregnant now. I think the real key is that I have to be knocked up for our hometown team to win lol
@thescarletmom well maybe I can start watching again and you just stay pregnant lol or I can only watch when you are pregnant. I do miss Football Sundays. We used to do huge football parties a group of 30 of us. We'd alternate houses. The dudes would BBQ and the the ladies would make all the yummy side dishes and treats. All the drinks one can imagine. We all started having kids and get together way less! Fair trade, but those Sundays were ones for the books!
@thescarletmom I guess she did? I heard that she was postpartum and struggling with body image from people on social media but after your comment I googled it and I guess she announced a brand new pregnancy and people were confused lol. I had no idea who won! In other news my activities today started giving me contractions 😵💫 so that was fun. My toddler did great at the restaurant with lunch for the 30 minutes he tolerated it and then he wanted to go outside to the park so we got some park time after all, I felt bad for my partners boss but he seemed to understand.
@bridgettetheboxer I hear that taking placenta capsules are amazing for milk supply, I hope it's a game changer for you, let me know how it goes when the time comes, I'll be rooting for no more supply issues this time!! I think continuing to drink red raspberry leaf tea postpartum also helps with supply, I did that last time and it made me feel amazing to continue it postpartum, I get so much energy from norad tea.
@kalesix3 side note on red raspberry leaf tea. I ordered a package of it, assuming it would be a standard size bag of tea and when this giant ass bag of tea showed up I couldn't stop laughing. It's like a 20 inch tall bag of tea 😂😂😂 it's hysterical.
@hitcj4687 oh my gosh haha I did that when I ordered from the bulk herb store years ago haha, I had no idea, I just bought a random bag and it was several pounds of herbs 🤣🤣 I get mine from euphoric herbals and they do small manageable size bags but I was bracing myself the first time I ordered from them 😅🤣
Also I'm a glutton for punishment but I made vegan Korean meatball rice bowls for dinner, my SO didn't want Mediterranean and I didn't want to only order takeout for the guest and be awkward so I did the thing 😬 he ate two full bowls so hopefully he didn't hate it lol.
Happy Valentines day everyone! I hope you all feel appreciated by those around you!
Had a baby check appointment this morning, baby is good, still measuring small, fhr is still 150 because they're always sleeping during my appointments lol. All seems well, it's so bittersweet that this is my last prenatal until I move, I'm looking forward to my ultrasound on Thursday.
@kalesix3 yay you!! I would have likely done the same and just made the dinner. Sounds like it was a success though! Happy valentines day to you and everyone else! We don't celebrate but we did order burgers!
@kalesix3 yay for a good scan! Baby measured ~4 days behind at my anatomy scan and I always do a little internal cheer because DHs family is MASSIVE, my husband himself is 6'5". They have poked fun at me since I was pregnant with DS2 that his genes guarantee I'll give birth to some monster sized baby (FIL told me DH was like 26" long at birth?? Which I think is a lie/exaggeration because that sounds way too close to record setting to me) since I'm 5'2" and only 120 lbs when I got pregnant with him. I always responded that I was meditating on small baby thoughts my whole pregnancy and that there was no way I'd be giving birth to anything other than a very average sized baby 😂 lo and behold, DS2 was almost exactly the same perfectly average size as DS1, who's dad is 5'10". So when my midwife was like, "she's perfect, measuring just a little behind so she's not huge" I was like damn I didn't even have to meditate this time 😂
@hitcj4687 I hope this helps you feel better as you work with Reese on processing his feeling about the new baby 🩶 but also this is just me being a sap about the boys. Jasper and Elliott have really just exploded in their bond as brothers recently. J's school district closed today for the super bowl parade lol so DH took them both to an indoor playground and just sent me a picture of E waiting for J at the bottom of a slide and then them hugging 🥺 last night, after reading his valentine's card from me and DH, he came over to hug me and say "I love you mommy" then leaned down and told the baby he loves them too 🥺 this from a kid who really struggled with not wanting to share our time, space, energy, and love when E was born, and even just last year would ask why we had to have another baby. It can take time, and a lot of patience, and it will hurt your heart for your littlest. But your kids will love each other so much at the end of all that work, it will be so special
@thescarletmom that is so sweet and sooo reassuring! I love that! Actually, I had a small break through that I didn't even push for! So, for school they are practicing writing and mailing letters and when I asked reese who he picked so that I can tell him which address to mail to, he told me he picked Kai and honestly my heart just melted. I couldn't believe he chose to write a letter to his baby brother after everything he's said about not wanting him.
@hitcj4687 aw 🥺 it can be hard to remember our kids can hold two opposite feelings at once too. They can be really nervous and upset that their worlds are changing, and still really love and be excited for their sibling. I'm so happy you got a glimpse of that with Reese, its so reassuring!
@thescarletmom it's so hard to navigate these feelings! We have been taking walks just the two of us when the weather permits and just talking and having mommy and reese times seems to really help him. He sure loves his mama and I know he's nervous to share me.
@thescarletmom (tw) I was always in the bigger babies are perfectly healthy and normal and you won't grow a baby you can't birth camp back when I was extremely crunchy and extremely against interventions in pregnancy and birth, but in my first due date group two other babies died, one from sepsis and the other from complications from undiagnosed/uncontrolled GD and the baby was 13 pounds at birth, my daughter was nearly 9 pounds and although I didn't have GD or any known complications the trauma from the baby who died plus my own loss has just messed my brain up really bad and I stressed so badly with my son who always measured ahead, I stressed that my glucose test was wrong, I stressed that he was going to be 10 pounds and die, I stressed because my MIL is obsessed with weight on babies and is rabidly fatphobic towards newborns, society pressures you because of bigger babies too and it's just so much trauma and noise. I don't think big babies are wrong or bad and neither is measuring ahead but this baby being so small just takes so much of that stress off my shoulders and it's one less complication I have to worry about. Coincidentally I seem to grow smaller babies each time, my son was 8 pounds at birth and this baby is supposed to be around 7 pounds of their growth stays at the same percentile that it has been. I hate a lot of how I've changed on the subject, it's really hard for me because I really did used to be all about team big babies and now I'm just way too stressed over it. I still love seeing other people's birth pictures and stories of chunky babies, I'm just too traumatized to want it for myself, and I can't control a baby's size so it's just a lot. I can definitely definitely sympathize with the way you're feeling a sigh of relief!
@kalesix3 I definitely believe that doctors are way too quick to jump to c-section for "big babies" with minimal proof of baby's actual size, but there are also real complications that can come up for baby and mom. I don't think having a big baby is inherently problematic at all! And my babies get CHONKY quickly after they're born (which I love, little babies with big rolls are my fav). But I have been patronized my whole life for being petite and it's been hugely triggering while pregnant to hear all the time, because I'm still the butt of the joke while simultaneously being told my body is incapable of carrying/birthing my baby for its size. But since I married someone who is tall it's fine to criticize my body 🙄 so when I consistently make babies the perfect size for MY body to grow, it gives me some power back. J was 7lbs7oz, 20.5 in at 39w3, E was 7lbs14oz, 21.25 in at 39w6. I think if they were born at the same gestation they would have been the exact same size 😂
Ugh, I felt pressure, with my first especially, to keep the baby from getting “too big,” between all the negative comments I grew up hearing from my mom about big babies, my sister being pregnant at the same time and obsessed with weight and having a smaller baby, having GD, and the comments about how big baby’s belly was at every ultrasound (can be a sign of uncontrolled GD, and is more of a concern for delivery than a baby that’s big all over-I was worried they would use that to push for a c-section or and earlier induction).
Super random not baby related but I groomed my doodle on my own the other day for the first time and wow.. my legs and back are killing me. Definitely do not recommend doing this while pregnant haha Here’s a picture of my pup Murphy. Be nice! I’m learning how to cut his hair lol
@thescarletmom I agree! It definitely gives you back some power to grow babies the perfect size for your body! The body comments and societal pressures are so horrible, I'm not petite anymore so I get comments about that instead of the whole "you're too small to birth a baby" but both are absolutely awful and I wish people would just stop. I always measured behind with my daughter and my son measured way bigger and somehow he was still smaller so I don't have perfect faith in measurements and percentiles but it's still scary.
@pttomato gosh I feel you there, it's so miserable because even perfectly balancing your macros to keep your blood sugar as stable as possible you can't really control growth, but the pressure is still there so it's an impossible situation, my heart really goes out to you. I don't know if I have GD this time or not but everytime I'm pregnant it's something I have nightmares about for the exact reasons you're talking about, the c section and early induction fears are so valid. How are you doing this time around? Is there less stress on your shoulders about baby's growth?
@francesgs I love seeing your sweet pup! His coat looks amazing to me but I've never groomed a dog before admittedly. I have sheared sheep though and it was no joke so kudos to you making him look so beautiful!
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Ugh I really hope your dinner goes well and that Jasper doesn't overhear or freak out. Would it work to set the boundary and not explain what's going on? Just say you're protecting your peace right now and would like to avoid discussing it? That way you're not having to announce that something may be wrong in front of your son? I suppose some family members might not love the vagueness of that though.. I'm sorry, what a tough situation, I really hope it goes well, I'll be thinking about you.
I feel like being an ageist only exists if you're a boomer or a gen X who hates everyone and everything just because it's new? I think discussing very real widespread issues with older generations is just facts, not ageism but that's just my opinion.
People in the rest of the country have suuuper weird opinions on what the Midwest actually is 😂 people want to tell me I'm in the Midwest like, ma'am, no. I'm not the Midwest, I'm the west, my state has always been the west, it's not west coast and it's not Pacific Northwest, or Midwest, it's the west thank you very much 😂 I spent most of my growing up years in Ohio and I always thought it was the Midwest but a lot of people thought it was new England, like um, what?!?
@thescarletmom they're like that about all of the western states, Utah, Idaho, Montana, Nevada, Colorado 😂 it's wild! It's not mid and it's not coastal so it's just the west period.
Nobody knows who should claim Ohio lmao 🤣 someone called it the northeast one time and I was like okay that's not bad, it's more accurate than NE.
Ohio was cool though and maple syrup season was the best, but I hated Missouri and Illinois.
Also on another note I had an epic diaper mail day today and look at this stack of goodness 😍 I want clothing in these prints lol.
@kalesix3 so precious!! I hope my la petite ourse order shows up soon 👀
I was shocked at how fast my LPO showed up, I hope yours is there ASAP!
I call my favorite target blanket "the popcorn blanket" because it's a fluffy open knit and it's SO cozy 😍
I lived between Columbia and Kansas City but I don't like barbecue so I'm sorry to say I had absolutely none while I was there 😆 I thought Columbia had a cool hippie college town type vibe but the religion, the people, the weather and the politics just weren't for me. I do occasionally look at real estate there and wish things were more sensible. I won't personally live in a state where my uterus is policed and I'm heavily pro abortion so I'm a bad fit for most of the Midwest sadly. I hope things turn around again though!
I just dropped my son's placenta off with a native birth worker to be dehydrated with herbs and flowers for a burial ceremony someday. Only two years after he was born 🤦🏻♀️
I don't consume them but I'll get this baby's placenta dehydrated too, hopefully much sooner after the birth, and have a burial on our future property and plant a tree.
The only reason I don't encapsulate it and take the capsules is just that I've never felt like I needed to, I would if my body gave me different signals though so it's not too far off from my cup of tea! The lady who's dehydrating mine says that you just have to push the hospital to release it and sign a form and they'll let you unless it went to pathology and then there's more hoops to jump.
@thoseboysmama how did you like doing that? Did you feel it made a difference?
In other news my activities today started giving me contractions 😵💫 so that was fun. My toddler did great at the restaurant with lunch for the 30 minutes he tolerated it and then he wanted to go outside to the park so we got some park time after all, I felt bad for my partners boss but he seemed to understand.
I think continuing to drink red raspberry leaf tea postpartum also helps with supply, I did that last time and it made me feel amazing to continue it postpartum, I get so much energy from norad tea.
I get mine from euphoric herbals and they do small manageable size bags but I was bracing myself the first time I ordered from them 😅🤣
Also I'm a glutton for punishment but I made vegan Korean meatball rice bowls for dinner, my SO didn't want Mediterranean and I didn't want to only order takeout for the guest and be awkward so I did the thing 😬 he ate two full bowls so hopefully he didn't hate it lol.
Had a baby check appointment this morning, baby is good, still measuring small, fhr is still 150 because they're always sleeping during my appointments lol. All seems well, it's so bittersweet that this is my last prenatal until I move, I'm looking forward to my ultrasound on Thursday.
I was always in the bigger babies are perfectly healthy and normal and you won't grow a baby you can't birth camp back when I was extremely crunchy and extremely against interventions in pregnancy and birth, but in my first due date group two other babies died, one from sepsis and the other from complications from undiagnosed/uncontrolled GD and the baby was 13 pounds at birth, my daughter was nearly 9 pounds and although I didn't have GD or any known complications the trauma from the baby who died plus my own loss has just messed my brain up really bad and I stressed so badly with my son who always measured ahead, I stressed that my glucose test was wrong, I stressed that he was going to be 10 pounds and die, I stressed because my MIL is obsessed with weight on babies and is rabidly fatphobic towards newborns, society pressures you because of bigger babies too and it's just so much trauma and noise. I don't think big babies are wrong or bad and neither is measuring ahead but this baby being so small just takes so much of that stress off my shoulders and it's one less complication I have to worry about. Coincidentally I seem to grow smaller babies each time, my son was 8 pounds at birth and this baby is supposed to be around 7 pounds of their growth stays at the same percentile that it has been.
I hate a lot of how I've changed on the subject, it's really hard for me because I really did used to be all about team big babies and now I'm just way too stressed over it. I still love seeing other people's birth pictures and stories of chunky babies, I'm just too traumatized to want it for myself, and I can't control a baby's size so it's just a lot.
I can definitely definitely sympathize with the way you're feeling a sigh of relief!
@pttomato gosh I feel you there, it's so miserable because even perfectly balancing your macros to keep your blood sugar as stable as possible you can't really control growth, but the pressure is still there so it's an impossible situation, my heart really goes out to you. I don't know if I have GD this time or not but everytime I'm pregnant it's something I have nightmares about for the exact reasons you're talking about, the c section and early induction fears are so valid. How are you doing this time around? Is there less stress on your shoulders about baby's growth?
@francesgs I love seeing your sweet pup! His coat looks amazing to me but I've never groomed a dog before admittedly. I have sheared sheep though and it was no joke so kudos to you making him look so beautiful!