January symptoms

hitcj4687

@thescarletmom I agree with you! I have to want him to do it in order for me to enjoy it 😂

mamadino_

@thescarletmom I didn’t have it with my first pregnancy.. so it was a surprise. Lol 

kalesix3

@thescarletmom if I had a nickel for everytime my partner walks by and tries to be cheeky but my nipples are over his shenanigans lol. Ouch 🤕

sunny_native14

OMG with the nipple sensitivity! I've always had it early on, but I don't remember it being this bad in the second tri. And if my man even looks in the general direction of my nipple I'm ready to lose it- he knows by now I'm not messing around 😂

zenmama06

I’m also in it with the nipple sensitivity. Holy moly. I’ve also been having a fair amount of round ligament pain as this baby gets bigger. I’m 34yo and 19+1 and this is my first pregnancy so I’m just holding on for the ride it feels like. Oh and this might be tmi too but the vaginal discharge lately has been on another level. I had to start wearing liners. 

betsbirdy

I've found the more sensitive the nips during pregnancy the more sensitive during breastfeeding in the beginning. Maybe TMI but you can toughen those puppies up before birth and it will do wonder.🫢 enlist the hubby for help. He will love it. Haha 

Also ladies I swear by the Jade Eggs for Post birth. I mean like a few months post birth. They help your pelvic floor recover and the hubs won't mind the outcome either. 😉Something I'm soo thankful my friend told me about after my first born. 

kalesix3

actually it's not recommended to "toughen" up anything before birth, especially not nipples and it's actually an extremely harmful practice. I dont know if some out of touch OB is still recommending that so I thought I'd leave this here for any first time mom wondering if it's something they need to do and suffering through needless pain. You don't. Please don't hurt your own nipples, it's not necessary, breastfeeding isn't supposed to hurt, if it does get some support from a knowledgeable IBCLC to troubleshoot discomfort. 
I also find the idea of "tightening up to please your husband" to be absolutely repulsive. Repair and strengthen your pelvic floor for your own health and benefit, if anyone's husband wants a rubber band they can go buy a toy. 

thescarletmom

@kalesix3 that mentally is how the "husband stitch" became a thing 🤢

kalesix3

@thescarletmom exactly. It's 2023 time to kick misogyny to the curb and especially when it pertains to pregnant/laboring/postpartum women. 

thescarletmom

I feel kind of silly that as a third time mom I only just realized last night that I've been having decently consistent BH for probably weeks and just thought they were something else. When I get them, it feels tight and I suddenly have the strong urge that I need to go pee, and as soon as I stand up to go to the bathroom the tightness goes away so I was just thinking it was my bladder pressing on my stomach, and not the other way around, my belly tightening and squeezing my bladder. The bump's 21 week rundown mentioned a full bladder can contribute to BH and I'm just glad I figured it out slightly before reading that, because I would have felt even sillier lol. Shut out to FTMs, it's not just y'all who feel this way! I remember being in my third tri with DS1. He got the hiccups a TON, but at first I didn't realize that's what they were or what it would feel like. Spent weeks thinking his heartbeat was strong enough for me to feel 😂 until someone was describing feeling *their* baby hiccup and it clicked for me lol.

kalesix3

@thescarletmom I wonder if I'll have an epiphany like that! I swear I've never once felt a BH even though I know I must get them. I guess they're just too mild for me to pick up on? 

thescarletmom

@jangojo no one put any words in your mouth, you specifically brought up husbands TWICE, who are completely irrelevant to this type of discussion, which prompted the comparison. Stretching and strengthening your muscles is not the same as "toughening things up", kegels and perineal massage are about flexibility and not toughness. Moreover nipple stimulation can lead to preterm labor which is dangerous, as @kalesix3 said. I'm not easily offended, you're just unwilling to accept you didn't word something very carefully and it changed the tone and meaning of what you said. Seems you're the one that's offended that you can't just say whatever you want with no consequences.

betsbirdy

I never said HURT your nipples. And I worked in labor and delivery perineal massage is known as toughening up in that dept. Atleast in my ward. Never the less, I've seen many people bring up their husbands on here. Haha they actually play a pretty big part in pregnancy as it turns out. But to compare nipple toughening which IS still recommended and still done by many to a "daddy stitch" is just wrong. Maybe you should word that differently @thescarletmom. And @kalesix3 definitely tool it out of context. I even had an emoji by it. Obviously a humor thing. So maybe don't misread one's tone. Just a thought. 

thescarletmom

@jangojo literally who "came at you"? No one called you names, no one said anything about you as a person. The comments exclusively addressed your words. Someone not liking or agreeing with something you said is not bullying you. Putting the onus on someone else to "not misread your tone"? 

kalesix3

@thoseboysmama I don't respect horrible advice or misogyny and I have just as much right as you to voice my opinion like you just did. It's really tactless to show up and lecture group members when you've contributed next to nothing to our board. If you don't like internet dynamics don't participate, simple. 

@jangojo emojis don't erase horrible advice or make jokes any less disgusting, maybe you should learn that for your kids sake, you know because you're obviously so invested in the example you must be setting. For your information I have zero problem with my kids calling out bullshit, sassy or not. Your whole "Yet spew theirs and their take as if it's the one and only way. Haha" spiel is so close to self awareness. 

thoseboysmama

@kalesix3 "our" board? I wonder what the bump would think of women claiming ownership to their boards. Do you pay in to this? Have you won a position to run things? Are you employed? We are all equally here. Whether we take the time to post daily or don't care to. The territorial spirit you and a few other moms on here are showing is just toxic.
You give advice. You all do on posts often. And not always good advice. I saw on lady say we can't mention husbands (partners)... and she has mentioned her husband multiple times. This is a very toxic vibe you are all creating. I find it pathetic.

My advice is to not be so controlling. You seem to have an issue with that. This board is no more yours than it is mine or marrysue from TN. 

thoseboysmama

Your pissing contests are comical especially from someone who hates misogyny. From their own admission. Yet nothing above was misogyny you are just highly sensitive. Pregnancy hormones are real. Thank God you have "your" boards that you have e invested so much time into, to run to.

thoseboysmama

> @kalesix3 said:
> @thescarletmom if I had a nickel for everytime my partner walks by and tries to be cheeky but my nipples are over his shenanigans lol. Ouch 🤕

You mean this misogyny. Pretty sure emojis, what was it, don't erase horrible jokes. 🤔 @kalesix3 She mentioned her husband in this very thread. @thescarletmom rules for thee but not for me or my Frans? Disgusting. Truly.

I believe in the Bump guidelines this would be under "hazing new members". But these boards aren't mine, allegedly.
Do better.

thescarletmom

@thoseboysmama I never said you can't mention your spouse? Your spouse's sexual pleasure shouldn't be a factor in how you heal your body after birth, period. You can twist whatever you want to fit your narrative, the version of events you came up with two seconds after arriving here to avoid boredom when many of the women here have actively supported each other for 2-4 months... you know, the people who actually have put in the work to form relationships here, and they didn't even have to post daily to do it! You can't hurt my feelings by purposefully misunderstanding me.

thoseboysmama

@thescarletmom kinda like you all seem to have misunderstood the other mom.
Your exact words were "husbands are irrelevant to this type of discussion" yet @kalesix3 brought hers up in the same discussion. And his "cheekiness" which we all know in the context was sexual. So please miss me with your bogus rational. You can't have your cake and eat it hun. Even if you are pregnant.

Yes I was bored and got the app should not change anything. The fact that you and a few others thinks it does says a lot. Really getting the mean girl energy from you all. So newcomers can't be supported? Got it. Again against guidelines.

thescarletmom

@thoseboysmama girl I am not the one for your holier than thou attitude and victim complex over something you fabricated entirely. The same thread is NOT the same discussion, they weren't even on the same day. You must be old enough to understand distinct topics. Talking about her relationship with her husband in a different context is in fact different. Just because nipples are involved in both doesn't make sex and breastfeeding the same.

Newcomers do get support, but "advice" that could actively hurt people won't. What changes is that you have no ability to show up here and say there's no relationships, no community, no support, when you haven't even contributed to the board before. It's a premature and inaccurate assessment. Nothing here is against community guidelines, I work in the legal field in consumer protections. There's no protections for being called out when you're wrong. 

thoseboysmama

@thescarletmom nothing legality wise was mentioned. So maybe stay on topic. Even if it were mentioned, I'm sure you working in a legal office and all, know that this is much different than consumer protections. But again not on topic at all. Trying to flex? Honey, I'm not the one. Again how classy.
Yes it was in the same conversation, different days as I'm sure not everyone has the time to neglect their children and everyday responsibilities on the daily to post on a pregnancy board as some of you seem to be able to.
IMO she mentioned how her husband touches her nipples when it is unwanted.... that is misogynistic activity. All husbands know breasts are sore and not to mess with them uninvited. You can't change how I read something either no matter how hard you try.
Bottom line I wouldn't have even commented but I felt a need to as you women were absolutely rude to another. As I've read more of the past ones you have been rude to multiple women on here.

I also don't find @jangojo advice bad. I again have had 4 babies and am pregnant with my 5th. I did nipple prep with all and it worked great for me. Maybe 3 days of soreness and we're off to the races.
The pelvic floor advice is a huge thing many providers leave out in recovery. I even have gone to a specialist to do so and they suggest things like the eggs. So again solid advice. Maybe because you don't agree does not mean it was bad advice. See the problem?

But as the guidelines say always check with your OB or provider before acting on any advice. Making it again even more unnecessary to tell someone how you view their advice. Also making you just as unadvisable as the one who gave the original advice. Mirror mirror on the wall. The hypocrisy is just purely entertainment. 🍿🍿🍿 I am pregnant and am just as welcome here. So I will stay for the entertainment and chime in. Thanks though. 😊 don't worry I own my own businesses and have children and community so when I'm not on business trips I don't have time. I devote all my time into reality and my family. So I will just come on when convenient to see how you ladies are bumpin' along. Because it's a public place for pregnant women. No more yours than it is mine.

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