***READ THIS FIRST*** Board Organization FAQs

acleverusername

Welcome to the April  2023 BMB! (I used this template from the March 2023 BMB.) If you're new to TB, we're excited to have you! Below you will find information on how the flow of BMBs work, guidelines and helpful links. 

Some links that you may find helpful:

• What do all of those abbreviations mean?
• How do I add a siggy? Tickers? Spoilers?
• How do I gif?

How-To Guides:

• How to quote: Hit the "quote" at the bottom of the post you want to quote. You will be taken to the reply box with the quote set up already.
• How to tag: Add a "@" in front of the username of the person you are talking to.
• How to change your username: log in to TheKnot, hover over My Knot, and click Account Settings. If you are having issues doing it that way, you can email community@thebump.com and ask them to change your username. Give them a few suggestions just in case your top choice is taken. It may take up to 24 hours for the name to update.
• How to insert a spoiler box: click the drop down list arrow next to the paragraph symbol (third from the left, next to bold and italicize) and choose spoiler. It will insert a grey box, and everything that you type in there will go into the spoiler.

For the sake of board organization, here are some simple guidelines for posting threads:

DO: 

• Introduce yourself in the "Introductions!" thread.
• Feel free to start one of the weekly posts listed below.
• Post your own thread if you have a confirmed loss (please use a TW).
• Post a thread that would apply to the entire community and doesn't fall into one of the categories for daily threads listed below (Ex: what to pack in your hospital bag, baby gear, etc.)
• Comment, share advice and show support for your fellow bumpies; this is a two-way street, to get support, you must show it as well.
• Be respectful: some of us have gotten pregnant on the first try; for others, it’s taken years and treatments; many on here have also experienced losses. Please keep that in mind when posting something. 

DO NOT:

• Start a thread asking about symptoms; please post this in the current weekly "symptoms thread" - this is helpful because it keeps the board from getting cluttered and makes it so we can all see the whole discussion in one thread, rather than having one thread about MS, one about food cravings, another about vivid dreams, etc.
• Ask the community if you are pregnant, it is against TOU.
• Start a thread asking for relationship advice; a professional is better suited for this task.
• Post pictures of your pregnancy test, this is also against TOU.
• Post a thread that asks a question only applying to yourself unless you suspect you may be going through a MC.
• Get bent out of shape if someone calls you out for not following these guidelines; if you expect to be part of a supportive board (which we are), you need to be able to take the time to learn the ins and outs of the board.

Weekly threads suggestions! Feel free to add any others you think would be helpful/fun. 

MONDAY
Monday Bitch Fest 
Weekly (or monthly) symptoms thread 

TUESDAY
GTKY ("Get to know you" posted with a thought-provoking question) 
High Risk Check-in

WEDNESDAY
Hump day/bump day 
PAIF check in 
Weekly randoms 
WTF Wednesday

THURSDAY

PGAL check in
Unpopular opinion (UO)
Thankful Thursdays 

FRIDAY
Flame Free Confessions 
TTGP Grad check in 

MONTHLY
What my pregnant self is eating/crying?               
AMA mama check in 
Ask a STM+

Once we all get farther along, we will also have pinned threads for things like ultrasounds, sex announcements, and birth announcements.

I've copy/pasted this from previous boards, and it seems to be the way that they are all organized, but of course we should feel free to tweak for our needs! For example, some boards do weekly ticker changes while others do weekly due date check-ins (ex, DD 1st week of April.). 

If anyone has a suggestion for other threads, please feel free to comment a suggestion.

Let's have a great BMB ladies! 

acleverusername

@BumpAdmin Please sticky!

iiirene

My last BMB did a product spotlight each week highlighting a different product for FTMs to ask STM+ about. I really appreciated all the info from those as a first timer

acleverusername

I looooove that idea! 

acleverusername

@iiirene can you lead this one? 

iiirene

Absolutely! I’ll creep back on March 2020 and get it started!

ladyofarlington

Love the early organization!! Nice work @acleverusername! 😊

etnyah

Bumping this thread. Lots of random threads being started recently. 

I haven’t started a thread in a while so I don’t know, is it possible to edit the title to draw more attention to this? “Read this before posting” in all caps maybe?

acleverusername

@etnyah unfortunately you can only edit a thread within 24hrs. Let me see if I can ask and admin to do that. 

@BumpAdmin can you change the title of this thread to read: ***READ THIS FIRST*** Board Organization FAQs. 

acleverusername

Yay! Hooray for Bump Admin's! I didn't appreciate them as much during my 2 years on TTGP. 

etnyah

Yay! And thank you @acleverusername for initiating!

nsk489

Thanks ladies (and bump admin) for taking care of this! I hate to keep nagging people to read the rules 😬

iiirene

Hello everyone! I think we can probably do at least one more week of all group check ins before switching to weekly groups. Sound good to everyone? Due date groups are as follows:

Group 1: April 1-8
Group 2: April 9-15
Group 3: April 16-22
Group 4: April 23-30

nsk489

@iiirene sounds good to me, I was just wondering when we might move to weekly check-ins! My last group wasn't super large and we eventually ended up combining weeks 1+2 and 3+4

etnyah

@iiirene sounds good to me!

acleverusername

I love that idea! Also loving that we have more ppl joining. 

abbsters-2

Since it seems like there's some interest, can we add a fitness thread? I'm not sure if weekly or monthly would be better, so maybe we can start with a monthly one and change it if necessary.

nsk489

@abbsters-2 feel free to get it started!

acleverusername

@abbsters-2 here are 2 suggestions of format to use. One and Two. 

abbsters-2

Thanks @acleverusername! I looked around for some ideas and didn't find any, so these are really helpful.

acleverusername

Is anyone interested in starting a "Sh*t not to say to your pregnant wife/partner?" thread to vent about the ridiculous things Hs or partners say? I had a doozy come out of my H's mouth this weekend and I nearly murdered him. 

etnyah

@acleverusername absolutely. So far my H has been good but I’m sure I’ll contribute. Also curious about what your H said now!

nsk489

Did we want to switch to weekly group check ins this week, or do another all group check in?

acleverusername

@nsk489 I think we can do 1 more week as folks finding out at the beginning of this week will be due towards the end of the month. And then we can switch to group check-in. 

acleverusername

Should we have a monthly mental health check-in? We did that (somewhat regularly) on the TTGP board, and I think mental health can go especially haywire during pregnancy and afterwards. 

nsk489

Bumping this up again bc random threads keep appearing 

etnyah

Thanks, @nsk489. I think we need more threads about hcg numbers though.

nonlinear_function

@etnyah I'd start replying with random numbers and letters, mine was 67bF5q last week, but I don't want to encourage anyone.

acleverusername

I was thinking about having a "pregnancy sins/confessions" thread so we can clear our conscience. Like... I had sushi last night, and it was SO GOOD, and I REGRET NOTHING!!! 

etnyah

@acleverusername sushi is the main way I’m eating fish lol. Sounds like a FFFC is needed.