B*tchfest Monday 4.26

keikilove

What do you need to vent about today? 

stormageddon-darklordofall

I'm on a MAJOR work project that originally had a "report put out May 3" date and was tentatively changed to "final report put out April 26" but the dates were still 'pending approval' on Friday (so who knows WHAT date anything is coming out).  Coworker was out ALL last week. First thing this morning is all "What did I miss?"  
Me:   Read yo damn 800 emails, figure it the F out, and then ask more specific questions.  I ain't got TIME to rehash an entire week of crazy changes to yo lazy butt!?!?  

I think she was hoping the answer was "Not much. X and Y.  You're good."  But like... NOooo...  AND the 800 emails shoulda been a CLUE yo!?

kiki047

A family member's weird, controlling wife (that I don't like, but that's beside the point) has decided they're TTC but is counting from like the first minute she had the thought that maybe her biological clock is ticking 2 years ago, so now that they've been medically cleared to actually start trying next month, she's already whining about her "2 year journey TTC" in her TTC IG. And here I am 3+ years on, 8 medicated cycles, 2 IUIs, IVF, 1 failed FET, 2 miscarriages, and partway through a second IVF cycle and I'm like NOPE go fuck yourself, that's not 2 years honey. That's TTA for 2 years. Talk to me at the end of your first month, THEN you can say you've been TTC for a SINGLE month. 

boymama2018

I truly struggle between staying hydrated whilst needing to hold my pee for OPKs and not wanting to over dilute. That is all. 

bows22

@kiki047

Oh that pisses me off. I’m sure it sucks waiting to TTC but in all likelihood she’s probably gonna be KU in the next 6 months so GTFO

stormageddon-darklordofall

@kiki047 Urgh!  That is SO frustrating!  So rude.  Those are the people where I'm like "May your journey be as fraught as mine."  But inevitably they end up being the ones who get KU like right away.  Grrrr....

inthewoods23

@kiki047 I'd be like "cry my a f*cking river b*tch". My friend has a similar story with someone in her husband's family. Whining about struggling to get pregnant after a couple years but apparently she's been changing her mind every couple months so they only ever actually TTC for 3-4 months at a time with long breaks in-between. That's not how it works!! UGH.

jlbaker08

@kiki047 wow, that really sucks.  I'm sorry you have to deal with that!  I know people who fall into that "my struggle is harder than yours" category and they're hard to empathize with.
@boymama2018 yes!  I've increased my water intake quite a bit recently and it's crazy dilution up in here

daisy0322

@kiki047 ugh I’m sorry I swear everyone thinks infertility is TTC like more then 4 months and it really kills me to hear that Ku d of stuff. I would never wish infertility on anyone but I do wish there was more awareness 

b_1029

@kiki047 that’s absolutely absurd. 2 year journey my a*s 🙄
I also had no idea people made TTC instagrams before they even removed the goalie. 

kiki047

@b_1029 what's even funnier(?) is that used to be her Animal Crossing IG so she has a whole bunch of existing followers but they're like, anonymous gamers? I'm sure they're super excited to hear about her upcoming sex life. Like good for you for being open to talking about the process but do NOT come at me with your "TTC for 2 years" bullshit. That's downright insulting to the people who have actually been actively trying that whole time. 
@jlbaker08 definitely hard to emphasize with. Like she tried to relate to my IF by saying that she's been "wanting to try" for so long too. Nuh uh, nope, no thanks, not the same thing. 
@daisy0322 I also wouldn't wish IF on anyone but I do think it's a humbling experience to have to work at something for a while before you're successful. TTC is no exception. 
@inthewoods23 loll I just can't with some people. 
@bows22 @stormageddon-darklordofall I'm going to be real salty if they get KU right away. Like mega salty. And maybe I'll get flamed for this but like, she's morbidly obese with a slew of related health issues and he's a beer drinking, pot-smoking, McDonald's eating sloth so it's not like they're in prime shape for TTC. We're not picture perfect healthy but we've made some massive lifestyle changes to try to improve our fertility and all we get are losses from perfect, genetically normal embryos. So yeah, I'm a Bitter Betty and it'll only get worse if they beat us to it. 

knottie7bc8467b6ac68efe

Email alert for a job that I'm (over)qualified for in most aspects but slightly underqualified in other aspects, and I would say "hard to say which bits are more important" but the recruiter emailed back immediately pointing out the one area where I am, admittedly, slightly underqualified. Eh. The position's listed salary is double what I make now, so you gotta shoot that shot. 

Edit to add: recruiter followed up to ask me to revise some wording in my resume to hit the keywords, and then asked me to resubmit. Huh.

daisy0322

@beakay8 hey get it girl- I’m always one to just take a stab at things too haha

stormageddon-darklordofall

I also like to stab things!!!

I mean.... er.... stab AT things....

  Yeah, yeah.. I too like to take A stab AT *things* 

rachelredhead

@beakkay a mentor of mine once told me every man who reads a job description immediately sees his qualifications and every woman immediately sees her disqualifications. It’s a generalization but I think it’s often true, too. And the fact that the recruiter asked you to reframe some experience is a good sign. You clearly have skills they’re interested in, but they want those skills categorized or expressed in a certain way. 

Good luck! 

knottie7bc8467b6ac68efe

I have been smacked over the head with the PMS blues and anxiety. Argh.

But thanks everyone for the well-wishes for the job application. I need to look at it closer and really see if it feels like a fit now that the recruiter has circled back with me.