IF Testing & Treatment w/o 4.19

bows22

@kiki047 which vaccine would it be? Edit - to clarify just looking to see if it’s J&J because that would change my answer because it’s only 1 dose 

bumblebee0210

@kiki047. i am not sure if Canada will have the same rules, but I know a *ton* of people who have gotten vaccinated by just showing up at the vaccine sites at the end of the day (like 5 PM). The usual protocol in the US is to give any unused doses to anyone you can. If I were you, I would call and see if this is the protocol near you, and if yes (or even if you can't get a clear answer), I would just show up at a big testing site at the end of the day and ask if there are any unused doses. It sounds weird but I know easily 10-15 people who have done this in the US and it has worked for all of them (and they are scheduled for a second dose on time just like anyone else). 

kiki047

@bows22 it'll be either Pfizer or Moderna. 
@bumblebee0210 unfortunately they won't let us do that, they specifically have a wait list when you sign up that asks if you want to be added to get a notification if they have cancellations and/or leftover vaccines to possibly be able to qualify sooner. So they're not accepting any walk-ins whatsoever in my area. I know some of the downtown locations were doing that but it was chaos once people caught word of it so I think they're also using a wait list system. I tried calling but the automated message says they're so overwhelmed with requests they've disabled the phone line. So helpful eh? 

*editing to clarify - I'd like to believe they're not wasting any doses but I have so little faith in our healthcare system right now, I've heard rumours of thousands of wasted doses but also that everyone I know who has just shown up without an appt has been turned away. 

bows22

@kiki047 If it were me, this is how I think I’d approach it. I assume your RE is fine with whatever? 

 1. (I had this typed and then saw your comment about the phone lines above, but maybe things will calm down and you’ll be able to get through) I’d try to call and see if I can explain the situation to someone. If they have the vaccines already they may be able to work something out if you get lucky? At least here, getting the appointment was a struggle but once you are “in” places are willing to work with you. 

2. If I couldn’t find a way to get it earlier I personally would wait until I was (🤞) solidly in the first tri. This is assuming the article I saw today that there is a peer-review study that the Pfizer/Moderna vaccines are safe for pregnant women is valid because I haven’t looked any further than skimming the article. 

3. If you think you could get exposed to covid before you’d feel comfortable getting it, I would just go ahead and do it since it’s just dose 1. I don’t think that does much other than teach your body how to respond to the virus? Not a scientist obviously. 

inthewoods23

I'm popping in because why the hell not

@photographerwife just yesterday I finally posted the "details" for NIAW which essentially was that we've done all the things, still failed, and even went in to taking a break last summer with Covid and getting a surprise pregnancy. It's something I had been wanting to do since last year. I made sure to state that I wanted people to know, but didn't want to talk about it. I said the same thing last year without the details and no one has brought it up so people have been really respectful that we're going through something shitty and just want to get through it ourselves. And sure, maybe once there's a baby in my arms I will talk all about the details, but for now I just want to reach that goal first. I still haven't read any of the comments people have left because it makes me really uncomfortable when others are so focused on my emotions/problems. I guess I can't break my own stigma? Anyways, hope your appointment next week goes well!

@keikilove I haven't actually read it, but I definitely appreciate that the google drive has a document for "fertile myrtle toxic avoidance". OMG where has that guide been all my life.

@bumblebee0210 congrats on 10 eggs! I remember being a little worried about when we triggered for ER. The follicle sizes were smaller than what they triggered at with my IUIs. You have to figure though that follicles continue to grow in the day or 2 following the trigger. I forget how many eggs you got last time? 5? FX you get another couple embryos!

@laura-kay you know, I would totally wonder if you were my sister's SIL except *tw*

She's already KU and my sister just had her baby girl yesterday too!

My MIL started beekeeping last year. Unfortunately we had too many cold days in a row this winter so the hive didn't make it. She has a new colony coming at some point. And I think they're going to try doing some new things to help keep the hive warmer. I can't remember, where are you located? Does it get really cold for you?

@optimistgardener lmao yeah the IVF calendars are crazy! My clinic is kinda stupid in that they provide the calendar as a list and they fill in the dates for you. I ended up just transferring it all into a google spreadsheet calendar. Made it way easier when remembering when to stop/start BCP since I never needed to fully finish a pack. It's even more helpful when you get to transfers because (at least for me) I was doing estradiol injections twice a week and it helped having something to cross off to remind me that the next day was that injection that I last did 2-3 days prior.

@kiki047 oh no poor kitty! Glad she's doing a little better. On the vaccine, I'd also be factoring in how much contact you have with others. Do you go into your office often or is most of your contact with people from shopping at the grocery store? If your contact is minimal, in fairly open spaces, or low risk, I personally wouldn't have a problem with delaying the shot until sometime after the TWW and a pregnancy is confirmed (or not confirmed, but we're not going to think about that!). I'm still debating myself when to get it because I still just don't know if the MMR vaccine had something to do with my loss or not so I'm hesitant to do anything that could potentially sabotage me again. Obviously entirely different vaccines, but that makes the decision so much harder.

Lisa3379

@bumblebee0210 Haha what do you mean, you stalked me? That doesn't sound creepy at all   

TW: LC, MC 

Primary IF has to be worse. Sometimes I feel like an imposter being here, because it was unbelievably easy for me to get pregnant four times (the last one ending in a TFMR). I don't even think I would characterize what I'm going through as secondary IF (is there a certain definition?) as I don't really have a diagnosis, I'm just old and have gone through two losses,have been working at this, so to speak, for over a year. I joined this board primarily because I wanted some first hand experience stories with fertility treatments, and have come to really care for, learn from, and cheer on all of you here   

@kiki047 Unless you are at risk for getting Covid (you are an essential worker, are in close contact with others regularly, etc) I would wait until after transfer, only because if you get side effects from the vaccine, they may not do the transfer. I had very mild effects after the first shot (I was just really tired that evening, and by the next day I was totally fine), but the second shot has kinda kicked my ass. I tried to get a doctor appointment for something unrelated yesterday, and I failed the Covid questionnaire because I technically have symptoms that, even though I know they're from the vaccine, they are the same as if I had Covid, so I have to wait 2 weeks for that appointment. I am not worried at all about the actual vaccine affecting the IVF process, it's being denied procedures because of side effects. That's why I was so relieved that my transfer was the day before my shot, not the other way around. 

misshelen86

*Lurking*

@kiki047
I ran into this issue with my transfer. My second dose of vaccine was supposed to be almost 2 weeks prior to transfer. My RE wanted me to wait a month to transfer, especially since we were doing intralipids and prednisone for potential immune issues. You can discuss with your RE, but IMO better to delay either the vaccine or the transfer. Not an easy decision to make, good luck! 

optimistgardener

@kiki047 it's not your situ but I'm going to get my second dose of moderna on my first day of stims this cycle. I was worried about it but the clinic said (and this may be relevant for you) because it wasn't close to a potential transfer date they weren't worried about it. I'm probably going to freeze any embryos and transfer later, but even if i transfer this same cycle they aren't worried.

For what it is worth, i have a friend who spiked a 24-hour long fever at 104 degrees after her 2nd dose of moderna, and I know a number of other people who had both pfizer and moderna that had 101-ish fevers for a day or so after the 2nd dose. You're unlikely to get much more than a sore arm and a bit of fatigue after your first dose (it's the 2nd one that's the doozy) but I'd be worried about risk of a fever like that close to my transfer date because it's my hazy understanding that those kinds of temperatures can be a bad idea around implantation. But I also don't really understand what's going on inside my body, so... 🤷‍♀️

Edit for clarity.

acleverusername

@bumblebee0210

Thank you so much for so eloquently expressing primary vs. secondary infertility. 🙏🏻

@kiki047 not sure if you saw Dr. Aimee's vid I posted to the Covid discussion thread. She says not to get a vaccine so close to a transfer. Glad to hear that your kitty is doing well, that your lining is thinning out, that that you're getting ready to start stims hopefully next week!!! 

Also wanted to share this video that...

I watched yesterday on hilariously_infertile. It's an interview with actress Camille Guaty and her IF journey (that ended with having a son through egg donation.) It's... very raw, so TW TW TW. Having been on this journey now for 16 months, and just starting down the IVF path, I've already started thinking/discussing with MH "What if this doesn't work? Would you consider donor route?" (MH isn't really there yet; and I have to say that I'm only there because I've been doing 90% of the research work in our IF journey... which is unfortunately typically the case). Anyways, it's a worthwhile watch but could be triggering because she discusses DOR, failed IVF, many failed transfer, failed first donor experience - while having to play a 38 pregnant woman giving birth at Christmas - and being given a 14 day old baby on set, and then finally success with a donor whose ER yielded only 1 normal embryo.) 

kiki047

@bows22 my RE was fine with me getting it in the next 2 weeks but we didn't talk about getting it like the day before/after my ER. I am expecting to hear from my scheduler tomorrow regarding my med schedule so I will ask him to pass the message along at the same time. 
@inthewoods23 I'm very low risk, so there's really no huge rush to get it other than trying to time it around IVF. 
@Lisa3379 interesting you should say that about symptoms because that's what happened to me back in Sept with my 2nd FET. *TW* I have a theory that when I got pregnant, my immune system tanked then my nephew gave me viral conjunctivitis. I had every symptom under the moon associated with that, which includes pink eye 3x, and allll the cold symptoms. So I was denied care when I needed it most by my GP and NP, and only my RE would see me at the time but my US was delayed too. I ended up losing that baby to an SCH but all the while I was bleeding and on bed rest with all my stupid pink eye symptoms, I was stewing about how I had negative covid tests but still nobody would treat me. I do NOT want to go through that again.
@misshelen86 thank you friend! I remember you being worried about this too. I think in the end I will end up delaying the vaccine and will weigh my options if this fresh transfer works. 
@optimistgardener see, that's exactly my concern. If we were doing a freeze-all cycle I'd have no problem with it but it's the fresh transfer that I'm iffy about. Just a low grade fever is enough to put me off. Especially knowing I had such a rough recovery after my last ER, and with RPL issues, it feels like too much risk and I do NOT want to delay my transfer. 
@acleverusername I haven't seen that, but I will go check it out. Thank you!! 

Thanks for all your input ladies! I really appreciate it. I am going to hold onto the appointment spot for a while longer just to see how my cycle plays out but in the meantime I'll attempt to keep trying to get in touch with them to reschedule it. I feel like a bit of a fraud because I'm so very low risk, there are so many people here who have more exposure than me who deserve to get it first, but selfishly I wanted to try to get my shot ASAP just because of stupid IVF timing so... here we are. If it doesn't work out and I have to cancel then so be it, I'm no more at risk now than I have been this past year being able to WFH and have very little exposure to people outside of my own household. *TW* Even our germy nephew has been pulled out of daycare, which was what was keeping me from wanting to be around them too. 

bumblebee0210

Update:  7 of the 10 eggs were mature, 3 have definitely fertilized, and one more looks like it is probably fertilizing. So, not amazing, but basically the same as last time (I had 3 eggs fertilize last time, 2 made it to blast and one was normal). Always hoping for better news, but we got one normal last time, and I'll certainly be happy to get another one this time!

@Lisa3379. LOL-- I just mean I checked the board often for your updates (I think maybe I wasn't even posting in IF yet, but since you had RPL and were doing IVF I was very interested in your progress!)

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@kiki047 I don't have any advice, other than I know my clinic would absolutely NOT advise you to take it during that timing.  Amongst the possibility of side effects, and not knowing what was the cause (procedural side effects or vaccine side effects), they also point out that if you have a fever, you might not be able to be admitted for your next procedure.  I sincerely believe it's not a good idea, in case you had symptoms of OHSS or anything else after your retrieval, plus the chance you might not be able to transfer, either.  Hope you find a solution that works for you and your schedule!!! 😬 I know it's tough.

photographerwife

@laura-kay
TW: lc, loss, family 

 I think your feelings about secondary IF are totally valid. Even though this shitty road trip had been a long, painful, and unsuccessful so far, secondary IF for me has definitely had its reassurances. With loss, the pain was so hard because of the living child in front of me, and the grief for our families future. Secondary IF sucks, but I’m with you on primary IF being worse. Solidarity, friend. 💕

@inthewoods23 that’s exactly how I feel about it! Sometimes it would just be nice for it to be known, without anyone asking questions and giving sympathy and advice all of the time. Anyone I’ve told in person recently is like maybe you’re just stressed, relax! 🙄 glad that you felt the urge to share your struggle though! I’m sure there is someone out there happy to know they’re not alone. I hope it goes well and everyone continues to give you space. 💕

keikilove

Finally posting an update for the week, back for more tags if I miss anyone. 

@kiki047 It sounds like you’ve got lots of great feedback & have a sound plan for going forward. I mentioned earlier somewhere that my RI said she’s seen increased inflammation in her patients for just 2 weeks after the vaccine, and Dr.Aimee (aka The Egg Whisperer) recommends no vaccine within a week of any procedure for the caution others have mentioned about potential fever. Good luck with it, hope your timing is absolutely perfect with all of these things lining up! 

@bumblebee0210 Congrats on your second retrieval results! It’s definitely something to celebrate. Hoping you get another great update about blasts soon! 

@laura-kay Ditto what others have said about your feelings re: primary versus secondary IF. Each is its own special kind of hell but  *TW: loss, secondary IF, LC*

I agree with you about how tough primary IF must be. I have been dealing with secondary IF the past couple+ years, and it is brutal not knowing why. There are so many millions of people who have a child with no problem, and then the body rejects future pregnancies for mysterious and unknown reasons. In my case, I had another normal pregnancy until my body rejected it  halfway through to the finish line, and since then it hasn’t allowed any others to make it very far. It is so sad and mind-boggling. 

Still, the ache I had for a child before having my own was definitely different and painful in another kind of unexplainable way. That biological clock was loudly banging in a way that only women can understand, I think. It felt very primal and science-driven—my hormones were driving that need way harder than any logic could. With secondary IF, the longing is absolutely there, but there is also a sense of “if this doesn’t ever work I will learn to be satisfied with my blessings” (a saying that I actually hate, but hey, what other choice do we have?) and “we can make this work another way in the future, even if the child isn’t ours biologically”. It still hurts a lot, but in more of a logical “every child deserves a sibling” and “why does this have to be so hard for those of us who go through it?” kind of way.  My child cries all the time that “it isn’t fair” that she doesn’t have any grandparents, which absolutely breaks my heart. Then she cries more for how lonely she is without siblings. I’ve heard this same story over & over from others going through secondary IF. It’s crushing. StilI, I recognize that we are absolutely lucky beyond measure. I truly empathize but can never truly understand what people with primary IF go through, since it isn’t my experience. I feel for you so much. None of this is easy by any means, but I definitely hear you and feel your emotions loud and clear.💗 Sending you (((hugs)))! 

@inthewoods23 I am SO DANG PROUD of you for posting for NIAW!!! That took some major guts, sheer bravery. I’m sure you’ve helped others with your post. I want to be, but I’m definitely not there yet. I think that after we have success I hope to be able to share one day. But even that is scary, because I wouldn’t know how to share the success without sharing all the losses, and I just don’t know if I want to be that open. Anyway, good for you and I hope you’ve gotten some comfort & relief by sharing.💗💗💗💗 And HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!🎊🎂🎈

OK, I’ve made it through tags for Page 2 of this thread. Will come back for Page 1 tags after my procedure.
 

Diagnosis (if you've been): RPL, DQ Alpha Match, blood-clotting disorders, AMA, DOR 

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): WTO/Triggering O today 

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?):  Doing yet another IUI today. It’s more of a “Let’s see if MH was able to generate new & better sperm during the previous ‘wash-out cycle’ where he’d accidentally damaged his sperm count/quality by taking testosterone”. It’s only been one month so I’m not that hopeful, but any improvement over last month’s numbers will be great. Also, I only did Letrozole this month, no Follistim, so I’m interested to see how my body’s responded. (Insurance quoted me $300 for Follistim, but when I went to pay it they said it would be $2,000 since I haven’t really used my insurance or met my deductible this year. Uh, no thanks, a-holes.) 

How are things going?: Pretty good overall! MH got scared straight last month after his horrific sperm results and a good talking-to from our RE.😄 He’s FINALLY taking all the supplements I’ve suggested, eating much healthier (simply meaning he actually eats a bit of fruit and maybe a vegetable each day, no longer goes to McD’s couple times a week), cutting down on sugar, and doesn’t drink any caffeine anymore. This has basically been a month of miracles in our house! 

Any questions?: For those of you whose husbands have taken Clomid (@kiki047?) did it make them feel any different? MH says he always feels like his testicles are about to burst.😬Sorry if that’s TMI. 

GTKY: Who is your hero/idol/crush that you’d love to meet in real life? I’d love to meet Oprah, Barack Obama, my grandparents and parents when they were young & carefree (before kids). 

*Edited for spacing 

kiki047

@keikilove I’m actually curious how MH would do on clomid. It was @mvt2003 whose H was on clomid, hoping she’ll weigh in on this because 😂 frankly I’m just curious lol. Also interested to know how YH’s “wash out” cycle turns out. Glad to hear he’s been set straight though!! I really hope that means amazing things for you overal!! 

I have one last chance to try to get a vaccine at a pop up clinic early next week but basically anything past Wednesday is out of the question so this becomes a later problem. 

mvt2003

@keikilove @kiki047 hiiiii friends!!!! 

Yes, MH was on Clomid for a year (he’s currently taking a pandemic induced break aka he was too paranoid to to get blood work done, so his RX needs to be rewritten.) Can absolutely confirm he felt nothing to complain about, and in fact felt better on Clomid than not. He had more energy and it was a positive impact on his testosterone and his (ahem) “output”. 

keikilove

@mvt2003  Hiiiii!!! Thanks so much for coming at our beck and call.😄 I really appreciate you sharing YH’s experience on Clomid. I will pass it on to MH. 

@kiki047 So glad to hear you have a chance at the vaccine on Wednesday. FX that works out!💕 Thanks for paging @mvt2003—I couldn’t quite remember who it was whose husband took Clomid, I guess. I don’t have an elephant’s memory like @acleverusername.😉 Also, thanks for asking about MH’s wash-out cycle. I think it was 2 weeks ago when y’all were theorizing about whether he had to try to “clear out his system” every couple of days or so.😂 I was too busy to do more than lurk, but I did laugh & pass on the well wishes to him, hahaha. Oddly, he didn’t think it was a good idea to relieve himself too often, 🤷‍♀️  even though I encouraged him to.  

Here’s my recap & update:

Unbeknownst to me, DH took testosterone and a bunch of protein shakes & energy drinks to the point that his sperm count dropped from averaging 15million to just ONE million last month. So, he finally started taking all his supplements plus Clomid to create new sperm fast. His sperm count at the IUI 2 days ago was only TWO million—so, improvement yes, but not great. Dr said she’d give it one more month to improve and then encourage us to do IVF again if it isn’t drastically better. So next month I plan to send him to do another sperm analysis on his own, and depending on those results we might do one more IUI a few days later. I’m not going to even consider IVF until he has  definitely generated all new sperm after 90 days. I don’t want to risk the embryologist selecting sperm that had been exposed to all the junk he was taking that clearly damaged his sperm so badly. Anyway, that timeline takes us to June and maybe one more round of IVF (DuoStim). The other part of my update is that at the IUI my RE said my lining was at 10mm and she saw four eggs: 20mm, 21mm, 23mm, and a 28mm. (Last month I had 3 eggs when we’d added Follistim, so I’m happy with this result!) All my bloodwork showed that I was just about to ovulate, and I got a “High” OPK just before I did the procedure, then got a “Peak” later that evening. I did the trigger shot after that to make sure all 4 eggs released. By 2 a.m. my OPK had returned to “High”, so I was super glad I caught that surge. Yesterday I had such bad ovulation cramping that I had to crawl into bed & sleep until it passed. Hoping that one of those 2million sperm has found at least one of those eggs! 

Continuing tags from Page 1 of this thread:

@photographerwife It’s always good to hear from you! Hope you’ve been able to stay productive during the TWW. Your RE appointment is so close—excited for you! 

@kiwi2628 Hope all is well with you. The waiting during IF is so tough. Do you have things to keep you preoccupied? 

@lisa3379 Hope you’re feeling better after the second shot, and that all is going well in your TWW!

@acleverusername Yes, the woman who made that Google file of resources is in the Bay Area! She posted a couple of times that she started some Infertility groups in your area and invited others to join. I thought that was nice; I wish I had a group in my area to talk to in person. 

@optimistgardener So glad to hear that your mom got some good news! I wouldn’t spend any extra energy worrying about the few drinks you had leading up to this IVF cycle. I’ve read those studies too. I think the results were more of people who were drinking more/heavier alcohol content than what you’ve mentioned. And hope you’re doing ok on the BCP! That stuff was the devil for me.

@bows22 Woohoo, that is great news about insurance covering IUIs!!! For your Clomid question: I think there’s much less concern when doing these cycles with someone who is AMA. This is because they assume our eggs are so much weaker/poor quality that there might’ve just one good one I the bunch that grows on Clomid, so no worries about multiples or developing OHSS. Hope this helps!

@bumblebee0210 Hope things have turned out well with this second cycle. Do you have any updates you want to share on the numbers that became blasts? If not, I understand. This is pretty personal stuff.//Also, I absolutely promise that I’m going to let this topic die after this comment, I promise!😄 I get what you’re saying about the author of ISWTE. The files I posted were from someone else: she was a reader who had success after trying things from ISWTE and many other studies/other doctors. She posted her files in the online ISWTE FB group. I love her info because she’s compiled everything I’ve come across in my 2+ years of research 🧐 into one incredibly organized (albeit overwhelming) Google file: all the best/research-backed info, links to studies, the best books to read, the protocols and supplement/meds recommendations from the most successful IVF clinics in the U.S. Just wanted to clear that up in case it seemed like I was quoting the author of ISWTE or sharing the author’s files.

A little more from my perch on my own personal soap box re: trusting the experts😆 

I also relate to what you’re saying about being a perfectionist and having to reign in some of those tendencies. I’m super Type A in many areas of my life, TTC being no exception.😄 But I have a medical history of knowing something was wrong w me practically my whole life, and scores of doctors telling me it was all in my head, that I was hypochondriac. There have been numerous appointments over the years where I’ve told doctors “I think X is happening” and they say rude condescending things to me, only to have it turn out that I was right. I finally got diagnosed with an illness that caused autoimmune disease after decades of going to rude doctors who dismissed me. Because of this long history, I have a well-founded lack of trust in egomaniacal doctors—especially male doctors, because most of them just don’t listen. (Except my gentle, kind, grandpa-like male Dr/ infectious disease specialist who helped cure me of my illness.) What I learned from that decades-long ordeal is how important it is to be my own advocate when it comes to my health care. That battle prepared me well to advocate for myself during this f-ed up road trip down the infertility highway full-size  of potholes and detours. I count myself incredibly luck to now have a brilliant doctor/RE who is familiar with all the latest research and out-of-the-box infertility/immunology treatments, so I fully trust her when she says “We can try X-Y-Z and see how you respond. So much of this is a mystery we don’t understand yet scientifically, and every body responds differently. As long as it won’t hurt you, we can try it.” She’s definitely held me back from doing certain things she doesn’t think will yield any result, which I appreciate. So, yes, all things in balance and with trust in the vetted experts. 

*Edited for typos. 

optimistgardener

@keikilove thanks for that epic (and awesome) check in. Honestly I love the posts that are also novels.

I am I think a good part of the way to forgiving myself for my casual drinks earlier this month. It's funny how easily I would say to anyone else not to worry about it (and I would believe it!), but I don't give myself the same leeway.

I am haaaating on the BCPs. I've become convinced that they're to blame for the sudden arrival of some nausea, gerd, and heartburn in the past few days (these are totally not normal for me). I'm taking about a gazillion things right now so arguably I could blame it on any or all of them, but realistically I figure it is probably either the baby aspirin or the bcps. And I hate the bcps more than the aspirin, so I've selected my villain. But I've only got a few more days before I'm supposed to come off them for my withdrawal bleed and then my first check-in on the 1st... It's all coming right up (eep)!

Oh! And I forgot to wish you luck with that amazing lineup of follicles and nice cushy lining. Hopefully YH's sperm can figure it out in spite of their rough start in life. I'm sure that was so so frustrating (!) to discover, but hopefully the washout is gaining steam.

bows22

@keikilove that is a great point about being AMA, thank you! Sounds like your IUI went as perfectly as it could have, and I’m glad that there was some improvement with YH’s sperm. I don’t blame you for wanting to wait the full 90 days though. Also regarding your comments about doctors - I totally agree with you. It’s SO hard to find ones that will listen. I feel like so many of them read the chart (or don’t) and come in the room knowing exactly what they want to say and then don’t fully listen to what I have to say. I’m sorry that you have been dealing with that your whole life. It’s something I have only realized in the past 3 years when I had to deal with a medical issue (not my own) involving lots of specialists. It’s exhausting! It’s amazing though how well you are able to advocate for yourself now. As always I am in awe of you!

bumblebee0210

@keikilove. Happy to share updates— I think of it as a public good, since I benefitted a lot from seeing a range of other people’s experiences. I think it helped to keep my expectation in check, esp with DOR.  ATM, there is nothing to report, really. The clinic called back on Saturday morning (day 2) to say that the three eggs that had fertilized were “dividing beautifully” and all looked great with 4 cells (2-4 is normal on day 2, apparently), but the other ones didn’t miraculously fertilize overnight or anything, so we are down to three. For a “PGT-A or bust” cycle (which is the official name, they even used it in the OR, which I found hilarious), they don’t check back on them til day 5. I told them to just call me when they know the final number to send for testing, which should be Tuesday (day 5) or Wednesday (day 6). 

Also— thanks for sharing your experience with bad docs. I think one of the hardest things about being a patient is knowing when they say “its nothing you’re fine” whether to believe them or not. Finding good doctors is *huge* and I think more people should invest the time to do it. 

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SITB. I will beat that a drum all day and all night.  THANK YOU!!!  I had a similar medical experience at age 12 (LSS -they thought I was a hypochondriac, somehow my mom and I were making it up etc.  Spoiler alert: I was actually very, very sick, and could have died if my mom hadn't finally found a doctor who knew wth we were up against, and taken my case seriously.  I've been written about in medical journals (not something to be proud of lol but I kinda still wish I had copies) because it was so severe and certain aspects were not the typical presentation.)  Anywho.

My mom fought like hell for me, and thank God she did!  No one else is going to advocate for you and your health car like YOU will (or maybe your mommy) ❤️ 🤣</div></div></div></blockquote>

keikilove

@bumblebee0210 PGT-A or bust—love it!😄 Thanks for sharing, I love your rationale about helping everyone else develop realistic expectations by hearing about your experiences. I guess all the days have just been blurring together and I didn’t realize that your retrieval was so so recent. FX that you get a great report next week! And, Agree with you 💯 on the value of taking the time to find the right doc. 

@bows22 Ah, you’ve been through the medical stuff so you definitely know how exhausting it is. It’s a shame, but glad that both you & I have the personalities and wherewithal to persevere to solutions.// I am unreasonably excited for you to move to IUI with Clomid! Thinking the best thoughts for you.💕

@optimistgardener Ha! Thanks for not minding my novels. There was a time where most of the responses in TTGP were very short & sweet; I’d always wonder, How do people keep their check-ins so short? What’s wrong with me? I’m so glad that we’ve moved to lengthier/more personal sharing. It feels nice to really get to know people on such a personal level.// I’m so glad to hear you’ve moved to NEU g able to forgive yourself & move past the casual drinks. Positive thinking is half the battle with this IF stuff! Hang in there with those last few BCPills. The symptoms you describe could definitely be attributed to them—those were my symptoms as well.🤢 But you’ll be fine soon & have your first check-up in no time. So excited for you! 🤞🏽

ETA: @BusinessWife I just saw your comment. WOWWW! That is wild! It’s crazy to think that your situation was severe enough/rare enough/interesting enough to be written about in medical journals, and yet so many doctors poo-poohed your issues away and chalked them up to you being a hypochondriac. It’s such a shame how many  doctors believe females come up with this stuff for attention or believe we over-exaggerate minor symptoms. Anyway, I am so glad that your mom was that warrior woman who got you the diagnosis and treatment you needed to survive! What a miracle.🌟 💗
P.S. I don’t know what SITB stands for. Am I lame?😆

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Lol @keikilove stuck in the box 🤦