Baby Names!

krash_

krash_

selfishly started because I need help. Obviously it's early so we're not committed to anything, but we love the name Jane for a girl. It has significance for us but I cannot think of a middle name that would go with it. What are your thoughts? 

vampirina

@krash_ Jane is on my list as well! We love classic names. I can think of so many good middle names, but I always lean towards family names. Personally, if we choose Jane it will likely be Jane Elizabeth.  

But I'm glad you started this because I need help too. I like classic names and I'll need both boy and girl names (we won't find out until they are born). I don't want anything that starts or ends with an A or H, or ends with an N (and especially no "son" ending names because our last name is a "son" name e.g Harrison. 

Both of my kids had names picked out well before they were conceived so I'm at a loss here. 

krash_

@poodledoodleooo that's funny because my one and only middle name thought was Elizabeth because that's my middle name. How funny would it be if we ended up with two little girls with the exact same name? 

For boys, our son's name is David. Our style is pretty classic/timeless names as well. 

justyouraveragemama

I have to agree on Elizabeth being a good middle name for Jane! Alice could maybe be a good one I’m not totally sold on it more than Elizabeth though.

i have two girl names picked out, Nora Grace and Lydia June...boys are much harder lol

IdleFancy

Another vote for Jane Elizabeth! It’s such a beautiful combination. I like the flow of a  longer middle name with a short, classic first name. Jane Katherine comes to mind, as well. 

@justyouraveragemama Those are so lovely! Lydia is both uncommon and classic, which is such a hard needle to thread. 

I agree, though, girl names are WAY easier. We decided on a girl name pretty quickly (Margot Marian), but there are literally just three boy names we both like. It will be some combination of Henry, David, or Max, but I can’t decide which. 

mouseymotherpucker

Jane Elizabeth 100% (we have a niece who is Elizabeth Jane)

Boy names are a mess for us, husband is a "long first name / average middle name / long Italian last name / the third", and his grandfather keeps saying he'll "pay for the third". We're against is, but we're also convinced we'll break his grandfathers heart if we don't.  We would have loved to use it as a middle name, but his brother used it as a middle name for his third boy so it doesn't feel as special for us now.  There aren't really any boy names we've liked so far that seem to ring nicely with this last name.

For girl names I want to incorporate Linda (his mother's name) but he's against it, says it's an odd sounding name and would even make a weird middle name.  I'm just over here like "I grew up in SoCal where 'Something Linda' was the name of a ton of towns/streets, and it means beautiful! Why cant we use it!" I think I'll wear him down, but if I don't I'm also leaning towards Amelia.

I heard about the app "kinder" when I was listening to a podcast a few months ago. It's like Tinder, but for baby names. You link to your partner's account, and you swipe left or right on various names.  Then they let you know which names you've matched to.  We've been having fun with it, but haven't found a match yet.

justyouraveragemama

@IdleFancy thanks!! I’ve had Nora Grace picked out since pregnant with DS but had to go and be a boy😜 but Lydia popped into my head the other day and I was like ooooh that’s a good one. Made me not so decisive on Nora haha

emeraldcity1214

DH won’t even discuss names until closer to the third trimester. So it’s usually just me coming up with lists. Then I share my list and see where he stands. 

optimisticoctopus

DH and I had thrown some potential names around in the past year while we’d been TTC, but the conversation hasn’t come up since getting pregnant. I have a big list in my phone. I work with kids in a school, so there are quite a few names that are banned that DH gets annoyed about haha. I have a feeling the “for real” names conversation is going to be a long one! And we don’t plan on finding out what we’re having, so we will need a boy and a girl name! I agree with others that boy names seem to be way way harder. 

sleepydaze

@emeraldcity1214, my hubby won't look up any names, just occasionally agrees to one I might read off a list, ugh! We have totally different tastes and it ends up with me spending time trying to find names and then him often dismissing them all in a matter of seconds. Sometimes I fantasize about picking our kids names without his input, haha.

nasalot188

I love thinking about names, I've had a list for years that I often add or delete haha! I have 2 boys Lincoln & River. We were team green with both so always had girl names as well prepared. This time we aren't sure if we'll stay team green or find out. I feel like agreeing on a 3rd boy name is gonna be tough, DS2 was already quite hard to agree on.

I feel like I'm very open to lots of different types of names...classic, unique, trendy....my husband never offers up options just vetoes mine 

williams-jen

the star day we found out I was pregnant my husband said he liked the name Cora for a girl. I’m not a big fan. I have a name I’d like to use that is a family name and he’s not a big fan either. That’s as far as we’ve gotten!

renatalan

It's so real that it's already hard for me to laugh. When I was choosing a name for my eldest son, I thought a lot, I was afraid, everyone around me was giving advice. Even thought of a double name, but it didn't sound pretty. The oldest is named Dean, the youngest Sam, a lot of people joke about the show, but the kids love it. 

emjeve

@renatalan one of my favorite shows! Both are great names!

agea

I have no idea how we’re going to decide on a third name that goes with the style of our other two. 

We’re not quite there yet in terms of really talking about it. But I’m always thinking about it. I’ve got some lists but not sure they have *the* name on them yet.

Whitmore1027

@renatalan That is SO COOL! I love that!! Fun nerdy fact here: we gave our son the middle name "Peregrin" after Pippin from LoTR. His nickname is Pippin. It's adorable. Haha! We even gave it the way Tolkien spells it in the books.

I feel nervous to even think about names yet. But I am excited to. So, right now we have a boy and a girl. Henry Peregrin and Kylee Ann. We knew the sexes with both of them so we only had to decide on a boy or girl name. Before we got pregnant again, we had said we would have the sex be a surprise with the 3rd since we already have a boy and girl. Of course now my husband is re-thinking that. Haha. But I think it would be fun to have this one be a surprise until birth! But that means we would need to come up with both a boy and girl name. 

lmcw

I still have my list of names from trying to name our son so I have a starting point, but my husband and I had a tough time agreeing on his name!

If we have a girl we'll use Margaret probably as a middle name; it's my middle name, and I'm the 7th one through my mom's family to have it (either as a first or middle name), so I'd like to keep that going! 

Boys names I have no real contenders right now. But until we know the sex it doesn't really matter.

Centralmnmom

I still have my list from when we had our first.  For a boy I love Wyatt.  For a girl DH wanted Lillian for our first, but I won with Eleanor.  I know it's still on the top of his list, but I'm just not in love with it.

kmw611

I don’t have any ideas for a boy since I have two sons already, David and Maverick. For a girl I’ve had Ellen Michelle picked out since I was pregnant with David. Ellen was my Aunt’s name and Michelle is both mine and my SILs middle name. My husband and I never really had a hard time with naming Mav. He’d always wanted to use the name Mav and I liked it and we agreed with Ellen immediately as well. I’m interested to see if we have heated name convos for a boy name. @grizzlymama86 I’m definitely asking him to download kinder! Sounds fun! 

indigoheightsblog

Our daugher is Indie Lee which is a unique name, so we'll stick to something equally unique this time around especially if it's another girl. For a boy we have been set on Emmett Grey since before we knew Indie's sex. Funny enough, my cousin in canada is about to have his first baby at the end of the month - Team Green - and they are going with Emmett for a boy which absolutely kills me...... They don't know that it's our name and we didn't know that it was theirs until recently. It was just a fluke coincidence. So i'll be over here praying they have a girl at her induction on 1/22!!!! What do you guys think? We only see them twice a year as it is. Would it be weird if we both named our boys the same? I'm torn about this. 

krash_

@indigoheightsblog I would like to say it doesn't matter but personally I probably wouldn't do it. A close friend's SIL so some I almost never see IRL but we are FB friends, just named their baby girl with our other girl name, Ada, and now I don't want to use it   

But now that you know it was their boy choice even if they have a girl if there's a chance they would have more children they might get upset if you use it. Did they themselves tell you that was their boy name or did you hear it through the grapevine? If you heard it through the grapevine you could say you didn't know it was their boy name but if they told you directly that might be tough. 

whatabout2ndbreakfast

@Whitmore1027 love that you call him Pippin! That’s so cute.

Same as @fuscok88, we have two boys already so are out of boy names. We could never agree on a girl name either so I think we might be in trouble! We also changed our mind on both our kiddos names in the delivery room.

vampirina

@indigoheightsblog we're in a somewhat similar naming situation. MH has only ever liked one boy name - Jack - but his cousin used it for her kid (he's 8 or 9 now). We've been debating if it matters. I'm in the "it doesn't" camp because I have a very popular name for my age. I have several best friends with my name, MH has a cousin with my name. We see his cousin about 2-3x per year, but I imagine it will be with increasingly less frequency as everyone ages, and I doubt our kids will maintain connection as they get older anyway, and for us they have completely different last names. 

emeraldcity1214

@sleepydaze I am basically the only one who actually makes a list. I hate and end up vetoing all of his random names he comes up with. I don’t like names that are easily shortened into a nickname so names like Michael are automatically a no for me because I don’t want people calling my kid Mike when I named them Micheal. We have a Logan and somehow a family member decided Logi was an acceptable nickname. 🤮 

@indigoheightsblog I probably wouldn’t use it. You would always hear, Oh you named you son the same name as so and so. It wouldn’t feel like mine. 

I haven’t decided if I want to find out the sex. We have never been team green but I think it would be fun. 

indigoheightsblog

@poodledoodleooo I'm sort of in the same boat! We'd never see them, they'd have different last names, etc.... I guess we'll wait and see in a few weeks when she has the baby. @krash_ - no, they don't know that we know!!! totally heard it in secrecy. otherwise had they told us i probably would have said right then and there "OMG that was our name for Indie!!!"

agea

@indigoheightsblog I think it’s safe to use it unless it makes it less appealing to you. If it were a unique name I might feel differently but it’s not uncommon to know other children with the same name.
My mom named me the same name her close cousin had used three years prior. She did ask her “permission” but I have a super common name and it had always been her favorite.

optimisticoctopus

@indigoheightsblog one of DH’s favorite boy names (which I also love) is the name of one of our good friends. So obviously that’s off the table lol. Names of people you know are so frustrating. I feel like if they and you both end up having a boy, it all depends on what you’re personally comfortable with. Since the kids would be close to the same age you may get some comparison going on. I probably wouldn’t do it. But it’s all about your comfort level! If they have a girl and you end up with a boy, I say go for it. People don’t own names, and they also could end up with all girls or no more kids. So I wouldn’t give up just yet!

sleepydaze

For DD and DS, one girl name we really liked was Ariel(le). I love the look of Arielle (we would say air ee ell) as opposed to Ariel (we would say air ee uhl). But this time around I'm feeling swayed towards Ariel. It's simpler and matches DD and DS's 5 letter Biblical names. Trouble is, DD has the same name as my best friend and same middle name as her sister's first name, and Ariel is another of their family members  probably will do Ariel Grace but haven't actually discussed names this round because as I've mentioned, DH is terrible at lists.
For a boy, we will do Daniel but no idea for a MN. 

stuckdownsouth

Jane is a lovely, classic name! I hear it most often as a middle name, rather than as a first, but I do love it as a first name too. I often find that single syllable first names go best with longer middle names.
Examples:
Jane Beatrice
Jane Catherine
Jane Dorothy
Jane Florence
Jane Margaret

stuckdownsouth

We're doing a D name for this baby. If it's a girl I am 100% set on Daisy. I agree with you all that boys names are harder! I really like Douglas, but my husband doesn't. We've Dean, David, Dash and Desmond on the list, but I've recently started to really like Dimitri.

deziraywatt

@emeraldcity1214 I agree with the nickname thing.  When My MIL met my son, Isaac, the first thing she said was "what do we call him?", "Isaac.", "Yeah but how do we shorten it?". I'm the kind of person that uses full names so I wanted my son's name to be something that wasn't easily shortened.  

emeraldcity1214

@deziraywatt My mom hated the name I picked out for my first daughter. Complained about it even after she was born. 😑 She kept telling me she was going to call her Rosy because her middle name is Rose. Yeah, she tried but it never would stick. I was so livid. 

“What do we call him?” 

The name he was given! That’s what you call him! 

I don’t share names with anyone anymore because of my mom. She ruined it for me. I knew she wouldn’t like our son’s name either. Of course she had negative things to say when I would list off names and have the chosen name on the list. 🙄

deziraywatt

@emeraldcity1214 we were very adamant about not telling anyone his name until after he was born and it was officially his name.  I'm not one to sit there while people complain that they don't like it.  I'm also less likely to pick a name if someone else suggests it to me, save my husband.  

stuckdownsouth

Oh my goodness, I experienced a very similar situation with my sons name and my in-laws. His name is not "made up", nor does it have some funny unique spelling that would trip them up, it's actually a very traditional old name, the "issue" for them is that its not a typical white American name and for that reason they purposefully mispronounced it for over a year. Eventually my husband blew up at them and said we wouldn't see them any more if they couldn't respect us enough to pronounce it correctly. We didn't even mind if they shortened it, so long as they did so logically, but they'd purposefully butcher it as a joke. No other person I've ever met has had a problem pronouncing it.

sleepydaze

@Knottie1424663410 My son's name is a Bible name from the same story as my  brother's (and there's only 3 main people in the story). My dad still complains about how he has never heard of my son's [top 100] name before! There's tons of Bibles around their house so I kinda assumed they knew it. It took my dad months to say it correctly as he kept mixing it up with my cousin's name which sounds way different, but starts with the first 3 letters as DS. 

chewie5990

names are so hard! We use family names for middle and this one will most likely be Anthony or Marianne depending on the sex.. first names for this baby will be tough if it's a boy. We almost went with Isaiah for my 2nd, but changed last minute, but now Isaiah just doesn't seem right. If it's a girl I know DH will push for Clementine..when we were dated 10 years ago we decided we would name our possible future daughter Clementine (we both LOVE Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind)...I'm not quite as fond of the name anymore, but DH still loves it 

deziraywatt

The first time around I had a massive list of boy names and no girl names.  This time I have a massive list of girl names I like but no boy names.  My son has also been saying he wants a baby sister.  Part of me thinks it's a sign that it's going to be a girl.  

emeraldduchess

@runningoncookies OMG the "banned" name list for us is soooo long because we are both teachers! There are names I love, but that also belong to some absolute terrors we've had in our classes. Nothing turns you off a name like repeating it a trillion times a day! 

@krash_ Jane Elizabeth is beautiful! I am partial to Elizabeth as a middle name since it's also my middle name. 

We have more girl names than boy names that we like. One of my top girl names is VERY similar to my nephew's name, so I don't know where we'll land on that. 

Just for fun, we plan on giving fake names to family members just for reactions. We've waited so long for this pregnancy that we're going to have a good time with it. 🤣 

williams-jen

@emeraldcity1214 my mom disliked my son’s name too. She and my dad were both like, “really? You’re sure?” And mom kept calling him “little Roy” since that’s his middle name. She calls him by his given name now. 

emeraldduchess

@williams-jen Cora was on our girl name list for a long time, but then the Red Sox sign-stealing scandal happened and DH said it was off the list. The Sox manager was Alex Cora (and the just rehired him, so 🤷‍♀️).