TWW Wednesday 8/19

bows22

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inthewoods23

Month/Cycle: 3+ years

CD/DPO: 23/7

Timing: -3, -1, 0, +1

Typical LP length: 13 days

Testing: Saturday

R/R: I felt kinda nauseous and with a dull pressure on my ute feeling this morning when I woke up. Trying not to read too much into it as we didn't eat until 9:30 last night so it's probably just the food sitting. Also I probably just needed to pee lol. I'm already at 2 extra hours of work this week which means 2 less hours I have to work on Friday so yay! Won't be working extra today with my therapy appointment at 5.

CS/Q: temps are on the up and up again (which probably doesn't mean shit lol).

keikilove

Good morning @inthewoods23! I see you’re trying to avoid SS, but I’ve got everything crossed for you!😉 Hope the therapy appointment is really useful today. You’re having a busy week! Friday will feel glorious!!!

Month/Cycle: 27/lost track 

CD/DPO: 27/8

Timing: -2, -1 ish 

Typical LP length: 10-13

Testing: Later today 

R/R: Had a little tiff w H last night (Not DH right now.) I’m under another tight work deadline but I still had to do all the house responsibilities, cook dinner, clean the kitchen, etc, knowing I had hours left of work to do. He was just scrolling thru social media while I was fuming. I went to bed after that because I felt so stressed. Now I’m up early, about to have a half-day work meeting followed by a very long workday to try to make up for going to bed early, Grrrr....

CS/Q: Had to take temp 5 hours early, not sure how accurate today’s is...

DoubleUp8

@inthewoods23 Yay for less work on Friday! I hope your appointment goes well. 

@keikilove Sorry you and H had a fight. It is so hard when you feel like you are doing all the work and not getting any help. DH and I have certain jobs that are ours, kinda determined by default, but it helps us split the load. 

Month/Cycle: 4/3

CD/DPO: 30/8

Timing: -3

Typical LP length: 12ish

Testing: Friday if no signs of AF

R/R: DH got bad news about his grandfather last night (the same one with the heart issues). He took a bad fall on the back porch which DH's grandmother was napping. He lay there for awhile before a stranger walking by heard a noise and found him. He severely fractured his femer and has to under go surgey today. There is a 50/50 chance he won't make it through the surgery. Best case scenario is he ends up in a nursing home, which will be devastating for DH's grandfather and for DH's grandmother as she doesn't drive and has never lived alone (she just turned 88). No one has been allowed in the hospital with him due to COVID and he is a bit confused why he is there and scared. It is heart breaking. If he survives the surgery, he will be allowed 1 visitor a day. I feel like just as a person 18 or under can have someone in the hospital with them, people 80 and over should be allowed a person. It's heartbreaking.

I know our chances this cycle are slim to none with our timing, but I know DH's family could really use some good news in the coming months. I had a little red/pink tinge when I checked CM this morning, so I am guessing AF will arrive in the next week or less, but I am really hoping for the tiny chance that it is implantation bleeding. Had a temp spike this morming.

CS/Q: Edit to add chart.

keikilove

@DoubleUp8 Oh my goodness, I’m so sorry. That is a lot that your family is dealing with. Hoping for the best possible outcome for YH’s grandpa! And that chart looks promising. FX it’s implantation! 

DoubleUp8

@keikilove Thanks! It is extra hard because DH and his grandfather are extra close, and he hasn't seen him since January due to COVID. We live in a different state, so we have been unable to travel to see them in June like me usually due. DH is feeling really guilty about that even though it is beyond his control. 

inthewoods23

@keikilove I feel fine now of course lol. I feel like we're the same people - DH will be sitting on the couch watching Youtube videos while I'm busy either getting dinner prepared or cleaning up and it's like, a little help would be nice!! Then again, I should probably ask, but when I do he'll take 10 minutes just to finally show up in the kitchen *sigh*

@DoubleUp8 sending so many hugs  I hope everything goes well with YH's grandpa and hopefully you can have some good news to provide them!


I remembered this morning that my cousin's wedding is next week Saturday and I'm like shit, if I'm KU am I massively putting myself at risk here?? I will definitely be lathering the hand sanitizer and trying not to touch people. I really really hope they're not doing a buffet for the dinner!

DoubleUp8

@inthewoods23 Can you get an extra pretty mask to wear to add another type of protection? If it's a buffet dinner, I would push my way to the front or pack a meal in the car so you don't need to eat much.

inthewoods23

@DoubleUp8 I do have a regular cloth mask that has a hole to insert a filter. I'll have to see about ordering some of those. I wonder if my grandma and grandpa are coming? Hmm.... I know so little detail so we'll see. I have a feeling there will be some not well planned out things considering about a month ago they were asking people in their FB invite if anyone wanted to get ordained online to marry them (they have that figured out now I've read). But why not having that kind of thing figured out before sending out an invite?

lcking82

@DoubleUp8:  I'm so, so sorry about grandfather.  It's absolutely heartbreaking when anyone elderly has to be hospitalized, and even tougher right now with all the restrictions. 

@inthewoods23: could you go to the ceremony and then bow out of the reception if it's not distanced?  I think some weddings have done a good job at things, and then others have been just spread-fests.  

@keikilove:  I feel you on the housework stuff.  We have a new puppy who is struggling to figure out inside/outside for potty.  When I left for work, I put a peed-on mattress cover in the washer and left the dirty sheets and comforter in the middle of the kitchen floor.  DH had an appt to go to, but works from home the rest of the day.  The pile of bedding was literally in the middle of the kitchen, so he would have to see it and then could put it in washer.  When I got home at 7:00pm, the dirty bedding had been moved to the top of the kitchen table.  Like - WHAT?  You picked it up and moved it, but couldn't put it in the D--N washer???  

inthewoods23

@lcking82 we could definitely bow out a little early. The reception goes until 11:30 but it's a 2 hour drive home (we're opting not to stay overnight). The FB invite only shows 38 people attending which may or may not include the entire wedding party. So... decently small. It's mostly the groom's side since they are using it as a family reunion kind of thing. Idk, we'll see! It's not like I've never been out and around the public since this all started so as long as I keep things clean I think I will be okay.

gusgus14

@inthewoods23 - yay for less work on Friday! I hope your therapy appointment goes well today.
@keikilove - sorry about your fight with H!
@DoubleUp8 - I am so sorry, that's heartbreaking.

Month/Cycle: 9/10

CD/DPO: 19/IDK

Timing: Meh

Typical LP length: 9-11 days

Testing: Next Thursday

R/R: My face is soooooooooo broken out right now and I hate it. I've been slacking on hydration the last week and I've been stressed so I'm sure those things are helping. I remember thinking people just outgrew acne once they were adults. NOPE. 

CS/Q:

bows22

@inthewoods23 it’s so hard to know what to do with stuff like that! I think if you are going to stress it’s probably not worth going but if you feel comfortable with the precautions in place then go for it! 

@keikilove oh no that is so not cool of YH. You should definitely say something once you calm down. I’m bad at the “waiting until I calm down” part.

@doubleup8 oh my gosh I’m so sorry. I totally agree with you that someone should be allowed to be there. It’s just not right. I hope the surgery goes perfectly ❤️

@gusgus14 still waiting to outgrow acne over here too!

Month/Cycle: 21/23

CD/DPO: 19/just going to go with 3 to be conservative 

Timing: -3,-2,-1

Typical LP length: 12

Testing: 10 or 11 dpo 

R/R: I’m at a new client today, we inherited this client from a firm we acquired and the partner from the other firm convinced me to bring the staff person who worked on the audit last year. I didn’t feel like fighting about it so I just agreed but wasn’t expecting him to know anything since last year was his first year. False. It was his first year doing this kind of work but I think he’s even older than me and just decided to start a new career recently. So he’s nowhere near as clueless as I thought. Glad for a pleasant surprise today!

CS/Q:

inthewoods23

@gusgus14 I always thought the same! How dare they tell us lies lol. In reality it's probably because people actually take better care of their skin now than they did as teenagers/early 20s. I have a zit on my chin right now that won't go away grrrr . At this point I'm SS hoping it's out of wack pregnancy hormones causing the zit  . Should I google "are zits a sign of pregnancy?" or am I just setting myself up for disappointment?

gusgus14

@inthewoods23 - lol well to be fair I bet you could find it listed as a symptom somewhere on the interwebs but probably better not to look. I have like 5 zits just on my chin (1 big guy and then his little cronies) and of course I've picked them all to hell because that's what I do and now they're super noticeable and yelling "HI NICE TO MEET YOU" to everyone around me. And also I don't have much of a skincare routine so maybe it's just that coming around to haunt me 

inthewoods23

@gusgus14 it's really probably all the mask wearing! Thank god they cover our zits up lol

gusgus14

@inthewoods23 - true! 

bbrahmbhatt

*lurking*

@DoubleUp8 oh my gosh I am so sorry you hear about YH grandfather. That is so rough, not being able to have anyone visit him. I am sending out lots of positive thoughts that he will come through the surgery ok and get on the road to recovery.

DoubleUp8

@bbrahmbhatt Thank you. It's been awful. His surgery kept getting pushed back today by other surgeries and never ended up being done. DH's grandfather is not doing well at all.

I'm trying not to get my hopes up about this cycle, but it gives me something positive to focus on. I checked CM this afternoon and no more spotting. Fingers crossed my temp stays up. I'm testing Friday (10 dpo) before I go away to the lake for the weekend without DH. Trying to decide between FMU and early afternoon. Early afternoon according to @acleverusername 's article she found would be better. Maybe I'll use a cheapie in the morning and am FRER in the afternoon. 

keikilove

Just wanted to come back to respond after not being able to return yesterday (work was insane). 

@DoubleUp8 I’m sorry the sad situation continues! Hopefully they can get grandpa in for surgery today & that all goes perfectly.🙏🏽🤞🏽

@inthewoods23 @gusgus14 Add me to the chin eruption club this month. It’s out of control! Thank goodness for masks outdoors.

@bows22 Nice win at work Those surprises are great! Re: our tiff: I did say something to MH last night; he was lukewarm about it so whatever. At least I said my piece. <shoulder shrug, new day>