@roo_baby I'm so glad you are feeling better and everything is great with your little babe!!
@riatortillaxo OMG snow?! Glad you're enjoying the weekend and getting your yard ready. That's always a great feeling!
I really don't have a preference regarding a pg being a ftm, so I'll defer to you stm+ and go along for the ride. I just washed and blow-dried my dog and gave him a haircut. I'm exhausted and my back is killing. Groceries should be delivered shortly and I'm already tired just thinking about wiping everything down and sanitizing the kitchen before showering.
Me: 33 DH: 36 Dating 4/2008 Married 6/2016 TTC #1 9/2019 BFP 12/13/2019! EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
@wife-and-mommy are you thinking we would go straight to a FB group and skip the bump PG? If that's the case, I'm fine waiting a few weeks. But if we are going to a bump PG first, I would rather do it sooner than later.
Also, keep in mind that it's likely (but hopefully not the case) that someone will go into labor in the next month or two and may need the deeper support you would get in a PG. I know most of us are probably cautious to different degrees about what we share on the internet. I just want to make sure if people have concerns/questions/topics they want to bring up in a less public forum before the babies are here, they have a safe place to do that.
@charhar0820 I *think* a PG is just a private group here on The Bump. I do see some value into moving into a PG in the next few weeks so that we can spend time there before/if we move to FB. Maybe we could do a poll? For STM+ who participated in The Bump before what have you seen work well (and not so well) when starting to transition? We could maybe pick a day two weeks or so in the future to make the move so that anyone who hasn't participates much has a chance to become more active and for the group to get to know them.
@charhar0820 in my BMB a few years ago, the PG was still on the bump. But eventually we did move over to FB because it's an easier platform to use. IDK what everyone's preference will be this time. I do know some people set up private FB accounts just to stay with their BMB and then can use it to also join other relevant mom groups. I will say that it's totally worth it to move to the FB group when we get there if you are open to it. I talk to my old BMB pretty much every day and we have become a really tight-knit and supportive group.
Thanks ladies. I agree moving to a private group would definitely be nice as we move along. If of course I can still participate, that would be awesome lol A few months ago I had a woman send me an invite to join one of the private groups. I tried every which way to accept, request to join, and to this day it doesn’t allow me to even click on “request to join”. Any of the groups. Even when I click on Private group rules I get an error every time.
I’d be interested in a PG as well. Similar to @charhar0820, I don’t have a FB account, so I’m not sure if I would carry on in that capacity, though @roo_baby brings up some good points, so perhaps I’d consider creating a private account.
I have to second what @roo_baby said. A handful of moms in my last BMB did not use Facebook and made an account with maybe their last name spelled backwards or something like that so that it would stay private. They only made it to stay involved with the BMB, didn't post or accept friend requests. I talk with my BMB everyday and they were an absolute savior in those early weeks as a first time mom.
I do think it's worth waiting because it is hectic right now. But I like the idea of saying that we are moving to something more private at a certain date to encourage some mom's to get involved if they want to.
I am a member of a very active private group here on the bump. We have stayed here for 4 years on this platform. I fell off of my bmb when it moved to Facebook. I have fb but found it very difficult to keep up with the format. Especially with the reply to comments feature so if you don’t scroll up all day it’s hard to keep up with some new developments. 🤷♀️ That was just my experience
I like the idea of a privAte group here first before Facebook
TTC1: May 2015
Primary IF May 2016; Failed HSG; Scheduled Lap Sept. 2016
@roo_baby if my last BMB did a private group on bump I guess I wasn't a part of it. I guess I'm not familiar with what that would be like. We moved from the public forum to a private FB group at the beginning of our birth month and those of us that had babies early shared our birth stories on the bump as we felt comfortable with. I second what others have said that it has been amazing to have that group of ladies to offer support and laughs and answers throughout the years! I was not active on Facebook at the time and mainly only got on to go to the group. It's been great.
@charhar0820 I think you may only be able to accept via desktop, and even then it can be buggy. But once you are in, you should be good! I almost exclusively mobile browser bump. ;)
Like @sarah0985 I have no problem staying active here with a bump private group, ❤️ and unfortunately had a similar experience with my previous BMB as well, when they decided to move to another platform after forming a PG here. I had trouble switching platforms, and lost touch with most of them, except the ones who still pop on other bump boards or PM from time to time. 🤷 And it was a pretty awesome group too! I have FB but I'm never on it. So while I might have no problem adding members I get to know from here over time, I can pretty much guarantee you, I will not be active on that platform. I just know myself and I know I won't make the jump, and I would hate to lose touch with everyone for that reason.
I think once a PG forms, I personally would feel more comfortable if we do one of those pic things where you show your face, too. Another issue I had with my previous BMB is they opted NOT to do anything like that, (one girl said due to the super top secret nature of her Hs work, she could not break anonymity *at all*, which I found super weird), so even though we had gone private, I still didn't feel super comfortable sharing for catfish or other creeper reasons. I was surprised, TBH, that no one else felt that was weird, and some people were super open and sharing all their wedding pics and the whole 9, while other members shared no pics whatsoever. I get you may not want to show your kid, or just may not be super duper picture sharing girl, but if you can't show us your face at least once... <img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/3n/bp4dg81b6p26.gif" alt="">
@businesswife I know you know I’ll agree with you there 😂 We did a “take a selfie with the current date and your username on a piece of paper” to verify you weren’t a catfish or a creeper. Any sharing after that was voluntary and never mandated.
TTC1: May 2015
Primary IF May 2016; Failed HSG; Scheduled Lap Sept. 2016
I’d love a FB group since I use it anyway and this app is pretty obnoxious at times, but I get that not everybody has/wants an account there.
My husband feels strongly that he doesn’t want to put our child’s face on the internet, and I mostly agree even though I know I’ll be sad when I have cute af pictures that I want to share. I don’t mind showing my own face though if that’s a big deal to people. I don’t really understand how that proves I’m a legit pregnant lady, tbh. Maybe I’m not following the reasoning correctly. But you guys are the experts.
@viola_mama legit pregnant is less the issue for me as just uh.... Legit lady? Lol I mean it would be a pretty ridiculous thing at this point just to fake participation this long and not be pregnant along with everyone else, and then when asked to show your face STILL pretend to have been pregnant this whole time. But if you can in a timely manner present a photo that is a normal enough real person with your screen name and/or some other ridiculous item in the picture, at least you are probably not some gross dude who just stole some normal-looking person's picture off the internet, kwim?
I have thoroughly enjoyed the deeper support in PGs with my previous BMBs. I’d prefer FB but would do whatever the group wanted. My preference for FB is just because I’m strictly mobile and this app is awful. But I’d survive.
Here’s my two cents on the transition (disclaimer: ftm)... I would not be comfortable going to Facebook anytime soon (I still feel like that’s a little too personal for something in the next few weeks)... but I’d feel fine switching to a PG here first before that switch. I do think we still have people joining and participating more, so it might be nice to wait a bit since some of us have barely crossed the halfway point. I also feel like having both run concurrently would likely see a drop off in participation on the main page in the threads that are doubled up, but I see the benefit in having both so people can participate and join the PG later
I am one of those people who doesn’t actually use FB, and reactivated after years away to follow my last BMB over. I still don’t use it for anything other than the Group, and it’s worked just fine — kind of nice that my old stuff is on there, too, so the other girls have some evidence I’m not a total rando.
I personally don’t feel ready for FB yet (partly my fault for spotty attendance the last few weeks) and am hesitant to participate in a PG before then — until everyone’s sharing faces and names my wall’s still going to be up quite a bit, you know? I also completely understand if other ladies feel that’s something they would benefit from. I’d certainly keep posting here as long as we can keep it alive! Just can get hard to keep up with two different spots, I know.
Lastly, I just want to say that i am personally all for a pg here. I’d possibly be open to fb eventually but seeing as I don’t have an active account, setting up a new account for fb I’d have to set up a new email and so on. My old account is still attached to my email. Which I don’t want to completely delete.
That being said, for the first time I logged on here via desktop and was surprised that each thread has a view count. The Ultrasound thread alone has over 11k views. IMO that’s kinda creepy/weird. I’ll probably go along and delete personal pics I’ve posted after a time if still posting pics in this thread.
Also I jumped over to the July 2020 BMC to check out their FB Group thread and found their rules quite interesting on how they’re going about adding ppl to their new PG. it’s a weird wild world out there with all kinds of kinds, especially online. so I would appreciate the privacy for sure.
As a FTM, i truly appreciate having this group and would hate to lose it.
@viola_mama there used to be some pretty epic stories of catfishes too. People using their “friends” personal photos off of Facebook or the internet to seem legit and the chances of being able to get a photo with those requirements are so slim it added a layer of credibility and trust.
TTC1: May 2015
Primary IF May 2016; Failed HSG; Scheduled Lap Sept. 2016
In my last bmb, our pg was a close group of people, not everyone joined that group. We also had two separate fb groups. One from the pg that I joined and one for the main bmb group. Unless everyone plans on sharing face pictures or pictures of their family, I think that having a pg that everyone joins is odd, but I would still be happy to join. I just think that this bmb page would not be as active. I HATE the bump and how they refuse to correct anything. I typically only come on here during my working hours and on the weekend when the app wants to work. I would just stick with the pg and not check here as often.
I’m down for the fb, but we can hold off on that for some time. I think In my last bmb we converted closer to the due dates. It was great. We had two people that had fake accounts, not using their personal account, but still posted personal pictures of them and their kids.
Married: August 2012
TTC #1: July 2015
BFP 1: October 30, 2015; EDD: July 6, 2016- Team Pink
I won't be joining FB at all. I would prefer to stay here in the main board. I would join a PG but not if it required posting pictures.
UO, but I specifically come to TB for the anonymity. If I wanted an IRL group, I wouldn't have joined an anonymous forum in the first place. I'm not a catfish, I'm not a troll. You will never see me solicit money or gifts from anyone. I just don't want my TB profile linked to my real life. So if the requirement is pictures and all that, obviously I would rather stay here as long as possible.
Once a switch is made, this board will die. It will. I've lurked enough of the other boards to know that people may have good intentions of "oh, we'll post both places." That won't last very long, trust me.
I dont have a FB and will not have one. I had a very awful experience when I did have a FB account and have been deactivated for years. I don't want to run the risk of that old drama finding me, etc. I lost touch with my last BMB because they moved straight to FB. It sucks, those ladies were awesome. I would be very open to a PG, but I know that when/if the move to FB happens, I will not be there at all. Whenever y'all want to move to a PG, I am fine with that. I do agree that waiting just a bit, may be better to give a few of the newer participants a chance to be more active.
Ok here’s what I’m gonna suggest based on everyone’s different experiences and concerns...
Let’s go ahead and set up a PG on the bump. It seems like most people aren’t ready for fb yet (or maybe ever). We can let people join the PG over the course of the next month or so, that way if anyone isn’t ready yet or joined late they have a little time. Then we can decide after that (maybe early June?) if/when anyone wants to move to FB. I can go ahead and set up the PG later today as soon as I figure out how.
I don’t want to force anyone to share photos of themselves or their kids if they don’t want, either here or in PG. Besides, there was a catfish here a few years back that did share pics and turned out not to even be pregnant. So photos might not prove anything. Once we open up the PG we can start a thread there to figure out how to deal with the “are you a catfish?” question.
Love tit if that works for you. If I get at least 10 love tits I’ll set it up!
Haha @fitandnerdy I ate some Half Baked to celebrate 20 weeks last week as well Such an amazing flavour!
Last pregnancy I craved Subway SO BADLY. I couldn’t normally care less about Subway so it was pretty weird. It’s funny to see a lot of you craving deli meat sandwiches too. I did end up getting it all the time but put the meat itself in the microwave for 30 seconds before eating it - honestly, I never even noticed that the meat was hot with all the cold veggies in the sandwich. Haven’t craved it (yet) this pregnancy so we’ll see! I always crave salt and vinegar chips though, even when not pregnant, so I’ve had my fair share of those lately!
Like a lot of you I am so excited for ham tonight for easter dinner! My DH thinks Easter dinner = turkey but I am firmly in the ham and scalloped potatoes camp. So we found a local restaurant offering a choice of Easter dinners for take out... we got one turkey/mashed potatoes/stuffing and one ham/scalloped potatoes/roasted carrots. Both come with homemade dinner rolls and with apple pie for dessert. My DH is picking it up right now. I’m so excited!!!
I guess I'm just not in a hurry to move anywhere... I'll be super honest, you guys are so much cooler than my previous BMB. Everyone is hella supportive and really nice. I celebrate yalls wins and I worry and think about you guys when I know you're worried... but when life gets busy and there is a new baby in my life I wouldn't be surprised if I disappeared for the most part. If I got well integrated into whatever system we moved on to I'd probably be touching base more and I might would make it more long term.. but given my experience with my last BMB, I had no desire to follow along despite getting the invites and what not. I really enjoy online communities, I'm part of several.... but they are the first thing that I fade away from when life gets to rolling. I don't mind sharing things, the internet isn't really anonymous, people can find almost anyone if they look hard enough. I'm still mindful about what I post in relation to my child and where I live but if the weirdos want to find me bad enough, they'll find me. I think growing up online in the era of things like MSN and Yahoo chat has taught me catfishes gonna catfish and while I choose to believe everyone until I have a reason not to.. I'd never give money or items to someone on the internet I've never seen before, that's just how it is for me.
So I guess I'm saying I'll roll with whatever, but I make no promises about anything as far as my participation. I think in general though, it's a bit early to be moving around, I'd like to see us wait until at least third trimester is here for at least the Mid-August due dates.
@charhar0820 I wouldn't think too much about that view count, I think that view count is based on every time that thread gets clicked on.. and think about how many times you've probably clicked it.. or shoot I accidentally click it.. It's legit to go back and delete pictures if that makes you feel safe but if someone really wanted that picture, they've already got it.
As for the PG / FB I’ll share what my March 2019 moms did, because we had a lot of the same issues (some really wanted FB, some don’t use FB, etc) - we ended up creating both. For the PG we “elected” a few moderators (via love tit votes on a specific thread about the PG) and then anyone who wanted to join posted in that thread... if they were a regular enough poster, and got 3 love tits (ie people vouching they were a semi regular poster, or at least a familiar face) then they got an invite to the group. We didn’t want just anyone (ie drive by, one time posters) in the PG. I ended up joining both the PG and the FB group and I’m glad I did - I still check in with my March moms daily
I’m happy to join either FB or a PG. It seems like we would lose some active members if we switched to FB, so it seems like a PG is the way to go. I feel similar to @RedBaramid that I don’t mind sharing things. Privacy on the internet is kind of an illusion IMHO (I worked at Facebook for a while and have seen how the sausage gets made).
I'm happy to have either but we need to make sure that
everyone who wants to be is included. @BusinessWife We were in the same sep2018
month and I was completely excluded from the private group on the bump, if fact
that was the first I've heard of it, and I remember that some members were
asking about it and other members flat out denied it's existence. I am a member
of the FB group but not many people joined, and it died a death pretty quickly.
I also hurt my back this weekend, so I haven’t been on here
for a few days because I'm struggling to sit for any period of time. Hopefully
I can catch up with you guys in a day or two. x
@laur84ns you are right. Easter is ham and scalloped potatoes. Turkey is for Thanksgiving. End of story 😜
I am fine with whatever the group decides to do about a pg or fb group. I'm a FTM so I have no real opinion. I think people are always going to post what they want to share and nothing more. I'm not much of an over sharer IRL so I'll probably behave similarly wherever we go next.
This has been a strange day. I missed brunch at my mom's more than I thought. It would have been the first time seeing my sister and extended family since announcing the pregnancy, and I was looking forward to showing my bump off a little. I'm making the best of it though and have ham and scalloped potatoes in the oven, and made a gluten free carrot cake for dessert (but cheated and used store bought cream cheese frosting; I wasn't sure if the grocery store would have the ingredients for homemade). I'm serving everything on our wedding china to make it feel more special. At least next year I'll have a sweet 8ish month old with me too!
Aww, (((hugs))) @wednesdaygirl1019 that sounds like a great menu and the perfect way to make it extra special.
@cornichonmam Honestly you didn't miss much. They moved from one PG to another, to another apparently, and everything seems to have petered out progressively more along the way, I guess. 🤷. I think possibly what was going on there was that if there were people who started to participate later on, and they wanted to keep the PG more exclusive to people that they felt that they "knew," obviously that have sort of backfired if there were members like yourself who were somewhat invested, but felt left out. I'm sorry tho, that sucks. 😕 Hope your back is feeling better soon! ❤️
@RedBaramid @gomillis not sure if you can go back more than 24 hours to edit or delete any more... :#
AFM, we had our first shot at trying to roast lamb this year! 😲 It went surprisingly well, I think. We just served with roast potatoes, mashed cauliflower, carrots, green beans, and fresh baked bread. Oh my gosh, so much food though for just the two of us!
@maelove add me to the JJ bandwagon. I have told DH on multiple occasions that my first meal after baby is their Italian cold cut unwich. @cornichonmam hope you feel better!
I was in a previous bmb that moved to a different platform for PG. People felt more comfortable with that as it was more secure and it got away from the bump platform which is a bit clunky. We all eventually became friends on FB. We stayed on the private platform for over 4 years and only within the past 6 months has it started to die off but we all still keep close contact with each other. I am good with moving to a PG or FB.
Everyone is over here talking about JJs and Subway... meanwhile Penn Station is the clear superior
I know we talked about it briefly, but has anyone done baby-prep freezer meals? I found this site and feel like it would be a big help especially since I have the time on weekends now to get everything ready.
I would rate myself as a moderate participant in these boards. I contribute and love tit more than anything, but would really hate to see if we jumped to a PG and lost anyone. If we moved to FB it would be more convenient but I also have had that account since 2006 and have a lot of my personal stuff documented on there. I'm probably like @emiliadkay, I just personally haven't shared and feel connected enough to make the FB jump. I haven't even shared the name we've chosen with you guys because I feel like it's too personal at this point.
@gomillis So interested in how the FB sausage is made! Did you come out jaded? I feel like that would have been a really cool experience if nothing else.
What level of participation is expected to be invited to the PG? I definitely have not been able to participate as much as I planned on in the beginning. FWIW I would prefer a PG over FB...
That leads me to kind of a noobie question. If I am lurking but not really feeling like posting should I be "love-tits-ing" so y'all know I am around or is that creepy? Honestly, DH got laid off from his job unexpectedly last week and I have been pretty focused on figuring all that out, and not really feeling like I have much to contribute.
@hypermusic the bar is pretty low. It’s basically do we recognize your screen name. But the randos who drop an ultrasound pic without intro‘ing and then ghost would not be welcome unless they started to participate. You are good though. And I’m sorry about your husbands job. I hope he is able to find something else quickly and you guys will be ok.
@kgrgreen, I've been trying to start looking into it. My issue, and I posted this before, is that H isn't a huge fan, and he's not a fan of stuff being cooked and frozen and remade. So I'm specifically trying to look for stuff that can be prepped raw and then frozen, and then it's just cooked whenever. We did have some mini meatloaves like that last time. So, they were mixed together, formed, frozen separately on a cooling rack, and then bagged. So then they were popped into an oven to cook when we wanted to use them.
I was anticipating H potentially traveling for work shortly after the birth (a week or two after), but now that likely will not happen with the coronavirus. A lot of potential work is falling through by the day. So then he could do more to cook. Although if he has any work, we'll want him to do it regardless of how I'm feeling/recovering. If someone asked him to fly out for a week three days post birth for a job, we'd probably go ahead and have him do it!
I’m not super active, I’ve been trying more lately especially since most of us are home thanks to quarantine. I hope I’d be included in a move. I’m up for whatever, would prefer pg to fb though.
In random posting, I’m bummed that I’m not really showing yet. I’m 22 weeks with an anterior placenta and I’m plus size to begin with. Also I lost weight my first trimester and I’m still under prepregnancy weight. I feel like I’m missing out on fun stuff like bump pics and feeling lots of movement. I know it’s still a little early for a ftm with movement, but still. Just felt like whining. It’s nothing major and as long as baby is healthy that’s all that matters. I guess we’ll see how I feel next trimester with how movement and growth is.
Re: Weekly Randoms w/o 4/6
@riatortillaxo OMG snow?! Glad you're enjoying the weekend and getting your yard ready. That's always a great feeling!
I really don't have a preference regarding a pg being a ftm, so I'll defer to you stm+ and go along for the ride.
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
Also, keep in mind that it's likely (but hopefully not the case) that someone will go into labor in the next month or two and may need the deeper support you would get in a PG. I know most of us are probably cautious to different degrees about what we share on the internet. I just want to make sure if people have concerns/questions/topics they want to bring up in a less public forum before the babies are here, they have a safe place to do that.
A few months ago I had a woman send me an invite to join one of the private groups. I tried every which way to accept, request to join, and to this day it doesn’t allow me to even click on “request to join”. Any of the groups. Even when I click on Private group rules I get an error every time.
I do think it's worth waiting because it is hectic right now. But I like the idea of saying that we are moving to something more private at a certain date to encourage some mom's to get involved if they want to.
I like the idea of a privAte group here first before Facebook
I second what others have said that it has been amazing to have that group of ladies to offer support and laughs and answers throughout the years! I was not active on Facebook at the time and mainly only got on to go to the group. It's been great.
Like @sarah0985 I have no problem staying active here with a bump private group, ❤️ and unfortunately had a similar experience with my previous BMB as well, when they decided to move to another platform after forming a PG here. I had trouble switching platforms, and lost touch with most of them, except the ones who still pop on other bump boards or PM from time to time. 🤷 And it was a pretty awesome group too! I have FB but I'm never on it. So while I might have no problem adding members I get to know from here over time, I can pretty much guarantee you, I will not be active on that platform. I just know myself and I know I won't make the jump, and I would hate to lose touch with everyone for that reason.
I think once a PG forms, I personally would feel more comfortable if we do one of those pic things where you show your face, too. Another issue I had with my previous BMB is they opted NOT to do anything like that, (one girl said due to the super top secret nature of her Hs work, she could not break anonymity *at all*, which I found super weird), so even though we had gone private, I still didn't feel super comfortable sharing for catfish or other creeper reasons. I was surprised, TBH, that no one else felt that was weird, and some people were super open and sharing all their wedding pics and the whole 9, while other members shared no pics whatsoever. I get you may not want to show your kid, or just may not be super duper picture sharing girl, but if you can't show us your face at least once...
<img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/3n/bp4dg81b6p26.gif" alt="">
We did a “take a selfie with the current date and your username on a piece of paper” to verify you weren’t a catfish or a creeper. Any sharing after that was voluntary and never mandated.
My husband feels strongly that he doesn’t want to put our child’s face on the internet, and I mostly agree even though I know I’ll be sad when I have cute af pictures that I want to share. I don’t mind showing my own face though if that’s a big deal to people. I don’t really understand how that proves I’m a legit pregnant lady, tbh. Maybe I’m not following the reasoning correctly. But you guys are the experts.
edited to mention: I think I’ve figured it out!
I personally don’t feel ready for FB yet (partly my fault for spotty attendance the last few weeks) and am hesitant to participate in a PG before then — until everyone’s sharing faces and names my wall’s still going to be up quite a bit, you know? I also completely understand if other ladies feel that’s something they would benefit from. I’d certainly keep posting here as long as we can keep it alive! Just can get hard to keep up with two different spots, I know.
Lastly, I just want to say that i am personally all for a pg here. I’d possibly be open to fb eventually but seeing as I don’t have an active account, setting up a new account for fb I’d have to set up a new email and so on. My old account is still attached to my email. Which I don’t want to completely delete.
That being said, for the first time I logged on here via desktop and was surprised that each thread has a view count. The Ultrasound thread alone has over 11k views. IMO that’s kinda creepy/weird. I’ll probably go along and delete personal pics I’ve posted after a time if still posting pics in this thread.
Also I jumped over to the July 2020 BMC to check out their FB Group thread and found their rules quite interesting on how they’re going about adding ppl to their new PG. it’s a weird wild world out there with all kinds of kinds, especially online. so I would appreciate the privacy for sure.
As a FTM, i truly appreciate having this group and would hate to lose it.
UO, but I specifically come to TB for the anonymity. If I wanted an IRL group, I wouldn't have joined an anonymous forum in the first place. I'm not a catfish, I'm not a troll. You will never see me solicit money or gifts from anyone. I just don't want my TB profile linked to my real life. So if the requirement is pictures and all that, obviously I would rather stay here as long as possible.
Once a switch is made, this board will die. It will. I've lurked enough of the other boards to know that people may have good intentions of "oh, we'll post both places." That won't last very long, trust me.
I don’t want to force anyone to share photos of themselves or their kids if they don’t want, either here or in PG. Besides, there was a catfish here a few years back that did share pics and turned out not to even be pregnant. So photos might not prove anything. Once we open up the PG we can start a thread there to figure out how to deal with the “are you a catfish?” question.
Last pregnancy I craved Subway SO BADLY. I couldn’t normally care less about Subway so it was pretty weird. It’s funny to see a lot of you craving deli meat sandwiches too. I did end up getting it all the time but put the meat itself in the microwave for 30 seconds before eating it - honestly, I never even noticed that the meat was hot with all the cold veggies in the sandwich. Haven’t craved it (yet) this pregnancy so we’ll see! I always crave salt and vinegar chips though, even when not pregnant, so I’ve had my fair share of those lately!
Like a lot of you I am so excited for ham tonight for easter dinner! My DH thinks Easter dinner = turkey but I am firmly in the ham and scalloped potatoes camp. So we found a local restaurant offering a choice of Easter dinners for take out... we got one turkey/mashed potatoes/stuffing and one ham/scalloped potatoes/roasted carrots. Both come with homemade dinner rolls and with apple pie for dessert. My DH is picking it up right now. I’m so excited!!!
So I guess I'm saying I'll roll with whatever, but I make no promises about anything as far as my participation. I think in general though, it's a bit early to be moving around, I'd like to see us wait until at least third trimester is here for at least the Mid-August due dates.
@charhar0820 I wouldn't think too much about that view count, I think that view count is based on every time that thread gets clicked on.. and think about how many times you've probably clicked it.. or shoot I accidentally click it.. It's legit to go back and delete pictures if that makes you feel safe but if someone really wanted that picture, they've already got it.
I'm happy to have either but we need to make sure that everyone who wants to be is included. @BusinessWife We were in the same sep2018 month and I was completely excluded from the private group on the bump, if fact that was the first I've heard of it, and I remember that some members were asking about it and other members flat out denied it's existence. I am a member of the FB group but not many people joined, and it died a death pretty quickly.
I also hurt my back this weekend, so I haven’t been on here for a few days because I'm struggling to sit for any period of time. Hopefully I can catch up with you guys in a day or two. x
@laur84ns you are right. Easter is ham and scalloped potatoes. Turkey is for Thanksgiving. End of story 😜
I am fine with whatever the group decides to do about a pg or fb group. I'm a FTM so I have no real opinion. I think people are always going to post what they want to share and nothing more. I'm not much of an over sharer IRL so I'll probably behave similarly wherever we go next.
This has been a strange day. I missed brunch at my mom's more than I thought. It would have been the first time seeing my sister and extended family since announcing the pregnancy, and I was looking forward to showing my bump off a little. I'm making the best of it though and have ham and scalloped potatoes in the oven, and made a gluten free carrot cake for dessert (but cheated and used store bought cream cheese frosting; I wasn't sure if the grocery store would have the ingredients for homemade). I'm serving everything on our wedding china to make it feel more special. At least next year I'll have a sweet 8ish month old with me too!
@cornichonmam Honestly you didn't miss much. They moved from one PG to another, to another apparently, and everything seems to have petered out progressively more along the way, I guess. 🤷. I think possibly what was going on there was that if there were people who started to participate later on, and they wanted to keep the PG more exclusive to people that they felt that they "knew," obviously that have sort of backfired if there were members like yourself who were somewhat invested, but felt left out. I'm sorry tho, that sucks. 😕 Hope your back is feeling better soon! ❤️
@RedBaramid @gomillis not sure if you can go back more than 24 hours to edit or delete any more... :#
AFM, we had our first shot at trying to roast lamb this year! 😲 It went surprisingly well, I think. We just served with roast potatoes, mashed cauliflower, carrots, green beans, and fresh baked bread. Oh my gosh, so much food though for just the two of us!
@cornichonmam hope you feel better!
I was in a previous bmb that moved to a different platform for PG. People felt more comfortable with that as it was more secure and it got away from the bump platform which is a bit clunky. We all eventually became friends on FB. We stayed on the private platform for over 4 years and only within the past 6 months has it started to die off but we all still keep close contact with each other. I am good with moving to a PG or FB.
I know we talked about it briefly, but has anyone done baby-prep freezer meals? I found this site and feel like it would be a big help especially since I have the time on weekends now to get everything ready.
I would rate myself as a moderate participant in these boards. I contribute and love tit more than anything, but would really hate to see if we jumped to a PG and lost anyone. If we moved to FB it would be more convenient but I also have had that account since 2006 and have a lot of my personal stuff documented on there. I'm probably like @emiliadkay, I just personally haven't shared and feel connected enough to make the FB jump. I haven't even shared the name we've chosen with you guys because I feel like it's too personal at this point.
@gomillis So interested in how the FB sausage is made! Did you come out jaded? I feel like that would have been a really cool experience if nothing else.
I was anticipating H potentially traveling for work shortly after the birth (a week or two after), but now that likely will not happen with the coronavirus. A lot of potential work is falling through by the day. So then he could do more to cook. Although if he has any work, we'll want him to do it regardless of how I'm feeling/recovering. If someone asked him to fly out for a week three days post birth for a job, we'd probably go ahead and have him do it!