Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: Finding out at AS
Baby is the size of a(n)/fun fact: Pomegranate
Upcoming appointments: Friday, regular OB appt
How are you feeling? Not bad, besides being exhausted still. I think that's mostly due to illness, though.
Raves/Rants: I've felt a tiny bit of movement (I think), but not much. I know I have an anterior placenta, so it's not unexpected, but I'm ready to feel this little one moving around.
Questions:
GTKY- Would you rather never play or always lose? Hmmmm... I was leaning towards never play, because I'm not very competitive but would definitely get tired of always losing (and knowing I was just going to lose takes a lot of the fun out of things). Then I realized that would mean not playing games with my kids and that would be sad. So I have to say always lose.
@blaf322 Sorry for the unwelcome news. At least you know ahead of time and will have a plan in place for however things are looking in a few weeks. Definitely a lot to process.
@coffeeandcookies84 I would mention the fall to your OB, but in general the babies are pretty well protected in there, especially if you didn't hit your abdomen at all. Hope the OB can give you some reassurance!
@Mamaof2beautifulgirls I was told to schedule my anatomy scan between 18-20 weeks, but then actually wanted to schedule it for 19 weeks, so I don't think you're too early. I think they just usually err on the side of later if they have to go one way or the other.
@b_1029 Sorry for the stress in the birth father situation. Do you feel like you can politely say something along the lines of, "It's been great getting to know you, and I'm happy to stay in touch, but I need to put some more time and focus on my immediate family, especially with the baby coming - don't be offended if I don't communicate as often as you do"? And remember that his expectations and wants are HIS. You aren't required to do and be everything he was hoping for before he even met you. I found my birth mother a few years ago, and I *think* we're mostly on the same page as far as what we expect from one another, but it's such a tricky thing to navigate.
@mayisch How much will you need to buy for the baby - furniture and other "big" things, or just the smaller stuff? In some ways (spending $$), it can be easier to space things out over a few months, but there's no real hurry at this point if you have no problem buying more stuff at once. You could start setting aside money now, too, if that's a potential issue. It also depends on how fast you are at making decisions, especially if you're buying anything big! I've bought one thing so far (a babywearing wrap) and I'll probably start shopping around for a going home outfit and a special blanket for this baby once we know the sex, but pretty much anything else will wait until after our shower or if I come across a super great deal on something. I don't really think we're going to need much, aside from clothes if this is a boy. I've been trying to decide what I want to keep or change with our babywearing stash and watching the secondhand market for stuff, but that's just because it's fun and helps me relieve some stress with planning and overthinking something relatively minor, haha!
2/13 Blighted ovum, D&C -- 6/13 MC -- 8/14 DD born -- 3/17 MC -- 9/18 DD2 born Expecting again -- EDD 7/27/20
@blaf322 for what it’s worth, one of the girls in another bump group had her baby at 34 or 35 weeks due to pre-e, and the baby was completely healthy and didn’t need nicu time at all!
How are you feeling? Pretty good. I was worried I might have a UTI because I had a weird kinda burning sensation after I peed on Sunday. But it never came back and no fever, etc. I’ve been drinking a mix of cranberry juice and water so maybe that’s helping. I’ll go in if the feeling comes back but I think it was just a weird sensation. Also laid on my stomach a bit to stretch my back and felt some more movement (pretty sure) in that position. So that’s fun!
Raves/Rants: we made an offer on a house yesterday but didn’t get the house. The market here is nuts. A friend bid 45K over asking in a house and didn’t get it (that one was definitely priced for a bidding war). Sigh. Trying to stay positive. But it totally bums me out that I feel like I can’t figure out a nursery since we’re hoping to move before baby arrives.
Questions: none at the moment
GTKY- Would you rather never play or always lose? Always lose. I hate to be in the sidelines.
Sorry I’m chiming in late. I’ll follow up with tags tomorrow. I’m thinking of y’all!
I just wanted to say all you mamas are in my heart and my prayers. There's a lot of news here and though the information sounds scary, I believe you all have very promising healthy futures ahead. I can't wait to see them healthy babies!
EDD/weeks+days: 7/3 - 20 wks 4 days
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: Pink
Baby is the size of a(n)/fun fact: banana
Upcoming appointments: nothing until March.
How are you feeling? Okay. Belly feels heavy now.
Raves/Rants: Rave - my last hurrah is a girl! I thought my husband would have been the one with gender disappointment if it was a girl. Come to find out, I had the disappointment. It was brief but I had to laugh at myself. So we now have Boy (11) Girl (9) Boy(2) and Girl (due 7/3)
Questions: has anyone else been dealing with arms and legs randomly getting numb?
GTKY- Would you rather never play or always lose? I would rather play. I enjoy challenges even if all I do is lose. Ask my husband. He kicks my butt in some video game but I still come trying to kick butt! LOL
@treeofcheem I think I have furniture covered, since I bought neutral colors the first time so maybe I'll just buy some decor, but I have zero clothes maybe just a few onesies from DS but that's it... I loved your idea of putting some money aside, I think I'll do that and then wait for the showers and see what I still need. Also, you remind me that I actually bought a new baby carrier already which I have totally forgotten... I don't know why but I suddenly freaked out knowing that I having bought anything... I mean I still have 4 months left
@mehugg thanks so much for the perspective! I'm hoping to stay off meds because the lack of sleep it causes gives me more anxiety... like, I constantly stress over how I'll sleep that night. BUT, I think this is a big exception so I'm definitely getting back on it before the baby comes. I just don't see myself coping super well with a preemie.
@blaf322 definitely buy a few preemie outfits! My son was a very large 34 weeker, 6lbs 6oz, and he wore preemie clothes for a few weeks! Also, I'm sure your maternity photos will be gorgeous ❤
@k_shaunte Congrats on a healthy baby girl! Are your other kiddos excited?
@rachelredhead yay for baby movements! I hope you can get settled in somewhere soon- your housing market sounds so stressful! We did a 5 hour move at 32 weeks with my last pregnancy- it seems crazy at the time, but it all works out 💜
@rachstar18 oh man- I'm so happy you are all starting to feel better- 3 weeks of a stomach bug sounds like an absolute nightmare!
@treeofcheem I have an appointment Friday as well- are you having your anatomy scan that day? I plan to ask if I have an anterior placenta because I'm surprised I'm not feeling any movement yet.
@coffeeandcookies84 Sorry about the fall! It sounds like you and babe are ok, but I'd mention it at your next visit for some extra reassurance.
@mehugg aw, I'm so happy the shower location accounting went better than you hoped! I'm sure that's a relief!
@mayisch sorry about the UTI- and hopefully you can get some vomit free weeks very soon! I have started picking up a few things, but will probably wait to get the majority of baby things once my registries are eligible for the completion discount.
@kristinl492 oh girl. I feel you with the lack of patience- I feel like I have ZERO patience with DH lately. He is such a good man, and he tries so hard, but the littlest things are setting me off lately. Reigning in my crazy is HARD.
@pocketrose I'm sorry you are having a hard time with sleep, your husband sounds so sweet. ❤
@b_1029 that weekend sounds exhausting! Hopefully as your due date gets closer he can sort of respect your boundaries and give you some space to sort out what you want from this new relationship. That sounds difficult to navigate.
@Mamaof2beautifulgirls I think 18 weeks for your AS sounds just fine! FX there is no protein in your urine next week, and that your doctor can give you more reassurance.
@footdrbritt I hope your AS went perfectly today and it eases some of that anxiety! As you know, I'm right there with you and Friday feels like a million years away!
@JessDG I hope your non student day was wonderful yesterday!
@stlbuckeye132 WHAT?! I'm so jealous of you already seeing the alien-like baby movements! That is so exciting!
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: FO (in three weeks. But not counting down or anything..)
Baby is the size of a(n)/fun fact: pomegranate. The other day it was a taco. Bugged H until we had tacos for dinner last night. 🤤
Upcoming appointments: 2nd bloodwork for NT genetics today. Regular app to follow. Then 3/10 AS
How are you feeling? Overall good! Headaches come and go. Experienced my first migraine on Sunday. Mood is all over the place
Raves/Rants: now that I’m feeling better H is moreso back to his old ways of not helping out around the house as much. Hoping this changes when I start school in April. Because it’s gonna have to change when I’ll be feeding baby all the time.
Questions: when did you guys fee first movements with your first babes? And specific positions? Did you eat/drink something sugary or spicy, etc. beforehand? Lol. I’m so want to feel those flutters. Every once in awhile I think I may have get something. But can’t tell if it’s that. Or gas 🤣
GTKY- Would you rather never play or always lose?
I’m very much an outside looker. I love watching and observing people. Hate being in the center of anything. Etc. happy to not be apart of things (major introvert🙃) BUT. I never care if I lose. And H and I are BIG on board games and card games. (We used to do frequent game nights with friends. Usually involving a lot of alcohol.. now we do them frequently with my in laws and BIL) so I can always lose! If I can still play some board games.
@nursejenn5 with my first baby I felt like it was 20-22 weeks when I was positive that it was baby moving. Then earlier each time with the other 3. And now with this one I'm almost 19 weeks and nothing. 👎 I dont remember doing anything specific that made me notice it more.
@nursejenn5 I didn't feel anything with my first until almost 19 weeks. I felt it much earlier this time and realize that I probably felt him last time but had no clue that was the baby.
No specific positions really made him move more, but I do feel it most at this point when I'm sitting still. The movements are so faint at first that you probably wouldn't notice anything if you are moving around a lot.
@nursejenn5 I can’t remember when I started feeling moving with DS1 but this pregnancy I’ve started feeling small movements around 17w. Even now at 20 weeks I really only feel babe move when I’m sitting (almost leaning forward a bit), and last night I just started seeing movement from the outside.
@nursejenn5 I recognized kicks at 20w with my first.... and only b/c I could associate the feeling with the US pic I was seeing... then I continued to feel them. Ice cold water and sugary drinks tend to get them moving.They always give you ice water when you go in because you haven't felt movement for too long, later on in pregnancy.... and then your baby always makes a liar out of you and goes crazy while you're being monitored
All that said, you're still pretty early on to be feeling anything for a FTM. And I know being on the later end for EDD makes it feel even worse (I was due on the 17th of the month with DD so I know the feeling) because it seems like everyone else has been feeling kicks FOREVER by the time you do!
Also, @nursejenn5, regarding your H going back to his old ways... if you have too much going on then, just let those things around the house go. He sounds like my H where, if it's needed, he'll absolutely do it... but if anyone is there to do it for him, he'll let them.... so let those things go longer than you usually would so he gets the hint and starts doing more.
@nursejenn5 this is my first baby and I’m like 98% sure I started feeling her move later in the week last week (just “turned”- idk the right terminology haha- 18 weeks on Friday). I don’t feel her a ton yet but when I do it’s always when I’m lying down to go to bed at night. sometimes after lunch at work if I’m sitting hunched over in my chair haha. It just feels like twitches so it’s nothing big. If I weren’t also dying to feel movement and super paying attention I probably wouldn’t have noticed.
@blaf322 yes exactly. And my coworker keeps telling me that she felt her first baby at 18. Well good for you Karen(not her name) stop telling me that. I do take a few minutes every night and morning in bed to think about it and feel. (and yes. were big on ice water and cranberry juice in triage for decreased fetal movement patients. an old nurse says "cranberry juice fixes everything" haha ) Just excited for the next milestone I guess
@blaf322 I'm wondering if there's another antidepressant (not SSRI) they could let you take? I've had the experience with SSRIs you are describing but not other classes. I just haven't googled them to see if pregnancy safe.
@bluguitarhannah It's a common side effect for all SSRIs. It's a temporary side effect for most people (meaning, it'll go away within a month, max)... but no such luck for me. Prozac tends to have a higher occurrence of it, but I've had the same side effect with other SSRIs in the past, so I stuck with Prozac b/c it's just a better SSRI for me.
ETA- my plan, for now, is to go on it around 30 or so weeks and then come off of it once all the NICU/NB at home stress settles. So, it'll be good to feel like there's a light at the end of the sleepless tunnel lol
@nursejenn5 my first I felt around 18 weeks. The next 2 were 16/17 weeks. I’m 17 now and nothing yet. I’m hopeful that maybe baby 4 will actually not be a maniac like the other 3.
I feel like I missed 2 weeks worth of posts! I'm not even going to attempt to reply to everyone, but some of you are really good at that (I aspire to become that level of a bump-ee).
EDD/weeks+days: 17 w 2d
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: Team green
Baby is the size of a(n)/fun fact: pomegranate?
Upcoming appointments: OB appt next week, I assume we'll schedule an AS after that
How are you feeling? Tired. I've come to the conclusion I will probably just be tired for the rest of my life. I had pink eye over the weekend, so that was fun. My SI joint issues persist, I go back to the pelvic floor physio on Monday which just seems so far away.
Raves/Rants: It was a snow day today and I forgot my phone at home. Definitely feeling lost without it. Really happy we had a long weekend though, bonus time to recover from the pink eye hah.
Questions: Anyone ever have issues with their SI joint?
GTKY- Would you rather never play or always lose? This is a tough one because I'm not competitive at all so I don't care if I lose, but I also don't really care if I play lol. If there's ever an odd number of people or someone has to sit out I always volunteer plus I'm the least athletic.
@modoodles No, my AS isn't until March 2. I scheduled it as early as they'd let me, but I'm not due till the 27th so we're on the late end of everything. It's so exciting that we've made it to AS territory, though! Our US tech mentioned the placenta almost in passing at the NT scan, and I'm really glad she did. I had one with DD2 also, so probably would have assumed it this time with so little movement, but it would be hard not knowing. I don't think I consistently felt DD2 until around 20 weeks, so that's what I'm expecting this time - but still hoping to feel things sooner.
This pregnancy mostly hasn't felt real, but it's finally starting to off and on. I mean, there have been plenty of symptoms, but that's more like being sick for a long time than anything else! Can't believe we're at (or near) the halfway point!
2/13 Blighted ovum, D&C -- 6/13 MC -- 8/14 DD born -- 3/17 MC -- 9/18 DD2 born Expecting again -- EDD 7/27/20
I've missed too much, and it's only Tuesday afternoon! Reading and love tit-ing, but basically I'm just going to say ditto to @modoodles tags lol.
EDD/weeks+days: July 14/19 weeks
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: finding out in two weeks at AS
Baby is the size of a(n)/fun fact: mango?
Upcoming appointments: AS on 3/3, then reg OB on 3/4
How are you feeling? Pretty good, starting to get some sciatic pain on one side that I'm hoping goes away or just doesn't get worse. I really need to start stretching or something.
Raves/Rants: Rave is that I'm definitely feeling consistent movements, rant is that DD was a total nightmare trying to get her out of the house this morning and it made me super late to a meeting. I think it was maybe because I was off yesterday with her so we had a long weekend. I felt like such an asshole for losing my patience with her. Not the first time, won't be the last.
Questions: I've been getting these weird heart palpitations when I first lay down in bed at night. Almost like going horizontal brings them on, then I don't feel them again. I remember it happening with my last pregnancy and asking my OB, and I think she just said it was fine and was due to increased blood volume or something. But they kind of freak me out so I'm going to bring it up at my next appointment. Has anyone else noticed anything similar?
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: green all the way!
Baby is the size of a(n)/fun fact: belgian endive
Upcoming appointments: Just had an OB appt this morning. Next appt in a month.
How are you feeling? Overall good, just hate that I'm losing sleep due to hip pain. And definitely having the heartburn that lots of you have mentioned, especially if I eat spicy food. And also having upper back tightness/pain...I think probably due to the new belly I'm carrying around and/or the sleep issues I'm having. The OB recommended seeing a chiropractor...I read everyone's thoughts on that...I've never done it, so I'm a little apprehensive but willing to try it too see if it works.
Raves/Rants: I am feeling the baby now...started being able to feel him/her last Thursday. Very cool! I can't wait until it's enough where MH can also feel it.
Questions: None.
GTKY- Would you rather never play or always lose? Never play...I'm extremely competitive, so always losing would be my worst nightmare, lol.
Baby is the size of a(n)/fun fact: yesterday its fist was the size of an M&M; I'm finding that the size comparisons between what to expect, my husband's dad book, and the bump are all different. artichoke, mango, stapler?
Upcoming appointments: March 2nd for AS
How are you feeling? Pretty anxious for our next appointment. Overall, feeling pretty good.
Raves/Rants: I GOT A NEW CAR yesterday. It's been a long time coming.
Questions: Can anyone really describe to me what it should feel like when the baby is moving? I have felt weird bubbling and flutters, however I'm honestly not sure if what I'm feeling is it moving or if it is my IBS... lol. I can't tell the difference at this point.
GTKY- Would you rather never play or always lose? Never play.. I can't imagine the let down of losing all the time. At the same time, it feels good to try. This one is hard haha.
@blaf322 so sorry to hear about the news during your AS. I don't have any words of wisdom, but just know that I'm sending good vibes and hugs your way!
@shaqn0sis I liken the earliest movements to that feeling you get when you drop on a rollercoaster. Or like if you were to imagine how it feels when you have a goldfish in a plastic bag. IDK, I’ve been lucky with both of my pregnancies to feel quite early and I always struggle to describe how it actually feels. I felt “tickled” very early on. Super bizarre lol.
@blaf322 sorry for the bad news at the AS, but we'll be praying for you and hopefully things go as best as they can! and as far as the Prozac/anxiety meds, maybe see if your OB can switch them around. i take a Lexapro at night along with Hydroxyzine - hydroxyzine is an antihistamine and helps me sleep.
@bluguitarhannah hope your heartburn and constipation gets better!
@coffeeandcookies84 oh no! sorry that you fell. i bumped my bump and was scared too, but went to see my OB and they said everything was okay....now i just have a gnarly bruise the size of my fist on my belly haha. so im sure when you talk to your OB about it, youll get some reassurance, and its good that you havent had any bleeding or anything!
@stlbuckeye132 thats nuts that you saw the baby move but didnt feel it!!! i cant imagine!!!!
@footdrbritt yay for team finding out! cant wait to hear what your LO is! hope things are getting better with your work and being admitted and all that. hope your AS went well!
@JessDG hopefully your monday was productive with no kiddos around!
@kc0711 sorry youre still not feeling well i hope it gets better soon!
@pocketrose aw kudos to YH for being there for you in the middle of the night! and yay for finally seeing your bump start to show more!
@Mamaof2beautifulgirls im at risk for preeclampsia and at my last OB's appt i had protein in my urine. because of that, they sent me to the lab to do a clean catch and a more specific test of my urine, and it came back in normal ranges, so that made my worries subside - maybe you can ask for that? try not to let your anxiety get too high because then your BP will go up! haha. ive been super worried about preeclampsia and my OB has been really reassuring. she also suggested that i take a baby aspirin to help prevent preeclampsia - maybe ask your doctor about that if youre super worried?
@b_1029 thats really cool that you were able to get in contact with your birth father, but i totally agree, he sounds a little overwhelming right now. hopefully yall can talk and set some boundaries to help you with your sanity. but yay for feeling baby girl moving!
@kristinl492 im with you on the increased pelvic pressure and stretching! my pelvic bone is always super sore by the end of the day from sitting at my desk all day and sometimes it feels like ive pulled something down there haha. hopefully things get better for you soon!
@mayisch sorry about your UTI hope it resolves soon
@modoodles how crazy about the 3 boys being born on your block! thats fun though, to have someone to chat with and support if needed. in my church congregation, there are 4 of us due in June/July, and one of the ladies is having twins, so there will be 5 new babies in the church congregation this summer alone! something must be in the water, lol. FX that your AS provides you with some relief from your anxiety!
@mehugg did you find an awesome shower location? when are you doing yours?
@rachelredhead i hope you dont end up getting a UTI! those are no fun. drink lots of water! haha. but yay for feeling baby movement! sorry you didnt get the house thats a bummer but hopefully the perfect one will come your way soon
@nursejenn5 yummmm tacos! and i eat spicy things all the time (thats like all i crave) and i still havent felt baby move really haha.
@mrsdrez sorry about the pink eye!! what a bummer. im with you on feeling tired all the time! i could sleep all day some days if i were able.
@meanjellybean i have heart palpitations every so often and they can definitely freak you out. sometimes if i lay down fast or get up fast they happen, which ive attributed to increased blood volume as well. they can also happen with anxiety, or thyroid issues, or dehydration, or a ton of things, haha. id just talk to your OB about it some more and make sure she knows its troubling you.
@elijames83 a belgian endive is the most random measurement i have heard yet hahahaha. sorry about the sleep issues...have you gotten a pregnancy pillow that helps at all?
@shaqn0sis yay for a new car!! i also struggle with knowing what the baby movements should feel like, so thanks for asking this question, lol
married to DH on March 15, 2018 TTC since May 2018 dx: PCOS, hypothroidism tx: timed intercourse with meds (dexa, clomid, letrozole, metformin, trigger shots)
First TTGP: 5/9/19 BFN, 6/21/19 BFN, 7/29/19 BFN, 8/1/19 started a break from tx, 11/16/19 surprised with a BFP! LO born 7/7/20 Second TTGP: started meds for first cycle of tx on 10/13/21
Upcoming appointments: March 11 for AS, March 18 for OB visit and glucose test
How are you feeling? tired and a bit anxious. i just want to feel baby girl moving in there! i also have hemorrhoids so that sucks.
Raves/Rants: RAVE - i just love MH. hes stellar and a great support during all this. and he is SO cute and excited about baby, it makes me smile so much (and cry sometimes, because hormones). RANT - i had my first person to touch my belly this past weekend haha. i shouldve known it would happen - we were at a family reunion for my husband's mom's family and they are something else. luckily no one was too pushy with their opinions about baby things, so that was good and unexpected haha.
Questions: when is a normal time to have a baby shower? and is it weird to host it yourself? haha my one best friend is pregnant and due two weeks after me and my other best friend is having IF issues so i wouldnt expect either of them to do it, and my family and inlaws live across the country, so im not sure at what point i start planning it myself versus waiting for someone to offer to host it haha.
also, is it bad to eat spicy foods? thats like all ive been craving for this pregnancy. buffalo chicken is like my new favorite thing in the world. and sour candy/food - like, i never liked to eat oranges and now i cant get enough of them, and ive been wanting all the sour candy! its so weird haha. but, we were just in arizona and picked a ton of fresh oranges from my inlaw's orange tree, so im stoked about that!
GTKY- Would you rather never play or always lose? if its something sport related, id never play - i have zero athletic ability haha. if its like a board game or something like that, id still want to play but always lose!
married to DH on March 15, 2018 TTC since May 2018 dx: PCOS, hypothroidism tx: timed intercourse with meds (dexa, clomid, letrozole, metformin, trigger shots)
First TTGP: 5/9/19 BFN, 6/21/19 BFN, 7/29/19 BFN, 8/1/19 started a break from tx, 11/16/19 surprised with a BFP! LO born 7/7/20 Second TTGP: started meds for first cycle of tx on 10/13/21
@meanjellybean I get the palpitations as well, pretty frequently. I’ve been told it is the increase in blood volume. One of those things that extra water may help. But still always ask your OB! (Water is the cure all apparently 😂)
@knockupthestock I’ve never heard that spicy food is bad! (Buffalo is one of my favorite flavors 😂 there’s a super good buffalo chicken dip on Pinterest. So good on crackers, tortilla chips, or bread 🤤)
@knockupthestock spicy food is fine. I think your pregnant BFF should/will be most likely to want to host something for you and I'd give her the chance before doing anything. I was pregnant with DD and due 3 (I think) weeks after my bestie and still hosted her shower so I know it's doable. If you don't hear anything after a while, I'd probably just straight up ask your mom (b/c it's your mom... I wouldn't ask anyone else like that) if she's planning to do anything before hosting one yourself. All that said, give them some time. My bestie JUST said something to me about hosting a sprinkle yesterday and that's only b/c of my situation of needing to deliver early. Otherwise, she prob would have waited a month or two before bringing it up (I'm 20+3, for reference of timing of someone offering). My mom also didn't say anything until yesterday for the same reason. And my mom is on top of everything. So if it's early for my mom to offer, it's definitely early for your friend lol
@knockupthestock thank you for your reply. The doctor wasn’t worried because she thought it was due to nausea and dehydration. (I have been so sick this pregnancy!) I go for another doctor’s appointment next week and I will have a ton of questions for her and if they find protien in my urine again I will ask for that test. They said it was only slightly elevated. So I have just been monitoring blood pressure and drinking lots of water.
Baby is the size of a(n)/fun fact: Bananananana/tall as a Venti Starbucks cup
Upcoming appointments: I have my first colposcopy since getting pregnant coming up next week. I had adenocarcinoma of the cervix 5 years ago and had a LEEP, so just go every 6 months now. I'm glad it won't be as invasive as it usually is, phew! Early March is midwife and another ultrasound.
How are you feeling? I didn't gag for the first time in months this morning after taking Pepcid last night. Haven't been sleeping super well lately, but feeling the baby kick a ton and that's exciting!
Raves/Rants: I've been told I'm high risk for early-onset preeclampsia due to high resistance uterine blood flow. I've had two long talks with my midwife about this because the internet makes you think it's a death sentence, but I'm feeling a little better now. Just hoping it doesn't develop, and if it does, that bubs will be old enough to be ok on the outside.
Questions: Does anyone else get heart palpitations? This past week I've had them off and on.
GTKY- Would you rather never play or always lose? I'd rather always lose, because playing is fun. Except in the game of love. I wouldn't want to always lose at that.
@lizzybean84 Me! with the heart palpitations. all the time.. Change in blood volume is the major cause from what i've heard. My doc just said to REALLY push fluids) Also don't listen to online people about pre-eclampsia. While yes it is scary, and that you can get really sick, really fast. As long as they're monitoring you, and you're not feeling funny then try not to stress out about it too much!
@blaf322@nursejenn5 Thank god it isn't just me, I feel so relieved about the palpitations. Does drinking lots of water help you? Do you get them throughout the day?
No kidding, the internet is basically telling you you're going to die all the time. I'm doing the low dose aspirin and Omega 3 supplements and hoping that helps at least a little bit. It'll feel like a miracle getting to full term if I do, and it's so hard not to worry. On that note, how do you deal with stress while pregnant? Any tips?
@lizzybean84 i already drink at least 80oz of water a day (on top of other things like coffee or juice that i many have) But for me my doc said to try drinking even more (unsure if its possible haha) to help with my headaches. i feel like when I'm on top of my water intake I have the palpitations(and headaches) less? But never really kept too close of track. but should. I exercise to help with stress. but for you, you should talk to your provider about this before because sometimes with the pre-eclampsia they don't want you to work out much, but that may be more so if you're closer on the verge of having it? Studies also show that regular exercise routines(150 minutes of moderate a week, which isn't anything too crazy, a brisk walk) can help lessen the chance of developing Pre-e. So talk to them about it!
But maybe some yoga, or a warm bath(i like to use lavender epsom salts as well) with a book, or netflix, depending on who you are haha, some nice tea in a quiet space, or taking a small walk could help with stress as well.
@lizzybean84 I'm also getting heart palpitations some. Certain levels of exertion or lack of water seem to correlate. Agree with others not a concern so long as doctor is aware and they aren't happening with other issues.
Re: J20 Weekly Check In 2/17/20
7/27 - 17w
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green:
Finding out at AS
Pomegranate
Upcoming appointments:
Friday, regular OB appt
How are you feeling?
Not bad, besides being exhausted still. I think that's mostly due to illness, though.
Raves/Rants:
I've felt a tiny bit of movement (I think), but not much. I know I have an anterior placenta, so it's not unexpected, but I'm ready to feel this little one moving around.
Questions:
GTKY- Would you rather never play or always lose?
Hmmmm... I was leaning towards never play, because I'm not very competitive but would definitely get tired of always losing (and knowing I was just going to lose takes a lot of the fun out of things). Then I realized that would mean not playing games with my kids and that would be sad. So I have to say always lose.
@blaf322 Sorry for the unwelcome news. At least you know ahead of time and will have a plan in place for however things are looking in a few weeks. Definitely a lot to process.
@coffeeandcookies84 I would mention the fall to your OB, but in general the babies are pretty well protected in there, especially if you didn't hit your abdomen at all. Hope the OB can give you some reassurance!
@Mamaof2beautifulgirls I was told to schedule my anatomy scan between 18-20 weeks, but then actually wanted to schedule it for 19 weeks, so I don't think you're too early. I think they just usually err on the side of later if they have to go one way or the other.
@b_1029 Sorry for the stress in the birth father situation. Do you feel like you can politely say something along the lines of, "It's been great getting to know you, and I'm happy to stay in touch, but I need to put some more time and focus on my immediate family, especially with the baby coming - don't be offended if I don't communicate as often as you do"? And remember that his expectations and wants are HIS. You aren't required to do and be everything he was hoping for before he even met you. I found my birth mother a few years ago, and I *think* we're mostly on the same page as far as what we expect from one another, but it's such a tricky thing to navigate.
@mayisch How much will you need to buy for the baby - furniture and other "big" things, or just the smaller stuff? In some ways (spending $$), it can be easier to space things out over a few months, but there's no real hurry at this point if you have no problem buying more stuff at once. You could start setting aside money now, too, if that's a potential issue. It also depends on how fast you are at making decisions, especially if you're buying anything big! I've bought one thing so far (a babywearing wrap) and I'll probably start shopping around for a going home outfit and a special blanket for this baby once we know the sex, but pretty much anything else will wait until after our shower or if I come across a super great deal on something. I don't really think we're going to need much, aside from clothes if this is a boy. I've been trying to decide what I want to keep or change with our babywearing stash and watching the secondhand market for stuff, but that's just because it's fun and helps me relieve some stress with planning and overthinking something relatively minor, haha!
Expecting again -- EDD 7/27/20
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: finding out
Baby is the size of a(n)/fun fact: I don’t ever remember
How are you feeling? Still not great. I’m pretty sure I’m going to be the duration of the pregnancy.
Raves/Rants: I think we are finally past the stomach virus that my kids had. It was 3 full weeks of it, absolutely awful. Knock on wood.
Questions:
GTKY- Would you rather never play or always lose? Never play. I don’t care about winning but I do not like to lose. I’m just way too competitive.
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: Blue
Baby is the size of a(n)/fun fact: Dollar bill
Upcoming appointments: Feb 27 for AS
How are you feeling? Pretty good. I was worried I might have a UTI because I had a weird kinda burning sensation after I peed on Sunday. But it never came back and no fever, etc. I’ve been drinking a mix of cranberry juice and water so maybe that’s helping. I’ll go in if the feeling comes back but I think it was just a weird sensation. Also laid on my stomach a bit to stretch my back and felt some more movement (pretty sure) in that position. So that’s fun!
Raves/Rants: we made an offer on a house yesterday but didn’t get the house. The market here is nuts. A friend bid 45K over asking in a house and didn’t get it (that one was definitely priced for a bidding war). Sigh. Trying to stay positive. But it totally bums me out that I feel like I can’t figure out a nursery since we’re hoping to move before baby arrives.
Questions: none at the moment
GTKY- Would you rather never play or always lose? Always lose. I hate to be in the sidelines.
EDD/weeks+days: 7/3 - 20 wks 4 days
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: Pink
Baby is the size of a(n)/fun fact: banana
Upcoming appointments: nothing until March.
How are you feeling? Okay. Belly feels heavy now.
Raves/Rants: Rave - my last hurrah is a girl! I thought my husband would have been the one with gender disappointment if it was a girl. Come to find out, I had the disappointment. It was brief but I had to laugh at myself. So we now have Boy (11) Girl (9) Boy(2) and Girl (due 7/3)
Questions: has anyone else been dealing with arms and legs randomly getting numb?
GTKY- Would you rather never play or always lose?
I would rather play. I enjoy challenges even if all I do is lose. Ask my husband. He kicks my butt in some video game but I still come trying to kick butt! LOL
@k_shaunte Congrats on a healthy baby girl! Are your other kiddos excited?
@rachelredhead yay for baby movements! I hope you can get settled in somewhere soon- your housing market sounds so stressful! We did a 5 hour move at 32 weeks with my last pregnancy- it seems crazy at the time, but it all works out 💜
@rachstar18 oh man- I'm so happy you are all starting to feel better- 3 weeks of a stomach bug sounds like an absolute nightmare!
@treeofcheem I have an appointment Friday as well- are you having your anatomy scan that day? I plan to ask if I have an anterior placenta because I'm surprised I'm not feeling any movement yet.
@coffeeandcookies84 Sorry about the fall! It sounds like you and babe are ok, but I'd mention it at your next visit for some extra reassurance.
@mehugg aw, I'm so happy the shower location accounting went better than you hoped! I'm sure that's a relief!
@mayisch sorry about the UTI- and hopefully you can get some vomit free weeks very soon! I have started picking up a few things, but will probably wait to get the majority of baby things once my registries are eligible for the completion discount.
@kristinl492 oh girl. I feel you with the lack of patience- I feel like I have ZERO patience with DH lately. He is such a good man, and he tries so hard, but the littlest things are setting me off lately. Reigning in my crazy is HARD.
@pocketrose I'm sorry you are having a hard time with sleep, your husband sounds so sweet. ❤
@b_1029 that weekend sounds exhausting! Hopefully as your due date gets closer he can sort of respect your boundaries and give you some space to sort out what you want from this new relationship. That sounds difficult to navigate.
@Mamaof2beautifulgirls I think 18 weeks for your AS sounds just fine! FX there is no protein in your urine next week, and that your doctor can give you more reassurance.
@footdrbritt I hope your AS went perfectly today and it eases some of that anxiety! As you know, I'm right there with you and Friday feels like a million years away!
@JessDG I hope your non student day was wonderful yesterday!
@stlbuckeye132 WHAT?! I'm so jealous of you already seeing the alien-like baby movements! That is so exciting!
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: FO (in three weeks. But not counting down or anything..)
Baby is the size of a(n)/fun fact: pomegranate. The other day it was a taco. Bugged H until we had tacos for dinner last night. 🤤
Upcoming appointments: 2nd bloodwork for NT genetics today. Regular app to follow. Then 3/10 AS
How are you feeling? Overall good! Headaches come and go. Experienced my first migraine on Sunday. Mood is all over the place
Raves/Rants: now that I’m feeling better H is moreso back to his old ways of not helping out around the house as much. Hoping this changes when I start school in April. Because it’s gonna have to change when I’ll be feeding baby all the time.
Questions: when did you guys fee first movements with your first babes? And specific positions? Did you eat/drink something sugary or spicy, etc. beforehand? Lol. I’m so want to feel those flutters. Every once in awhile I think I may have get something. But can’t tell if it’s that. Or gas 🤣
GTKY- Would you rather never play or always lose?
BUT. I never care if I lose. And H and I are BIG on board games and card games. (We used to do frequent game nights with friends. Usually involving a lot of alcohol.. now we do them frequently with my in laws and BIL) so I can always lose! If I can still play some board games.
No specific positions really made him move more, but I do feel it most at this point when I'm sitting still. The movements are so faint at first that you probably wouldn't notice anything if you are moving around a lot.
Ice cold water and sugary drinks tend to get them moving.They always give you ice water when you go in because you haven't felt movement for too long, later on in pregnancy.... and then your baby always makes a liar out of you and goes crazy while you're being monitored
All that said, you're still pretty early on to be feeling anything for a FTM. And I know being on the later end for EDD makes it feel even worse (I was due on the 17th of the month with DD so I know the feeling) because it seems like everyone else has been feeling kicks FOREVER by the time you do!
Just excited for the next milestone I guess
ETA- my plan, for now, is to go on it around 30 or so weeks and then come off of it once all the NICU/NB at home stress settles. So, it'll be good to feel like there's a light at the end of the sleepless tunnel lol
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
EDD/weeks+days: 17 w 2d
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: Team green
Baby is the size of a(n)/fun fact: pomegranate?
Upcoming appointments: OB appt next week, I assume we'll schedule an AS after that
How are you feeling? Tired. I've come to the conclusion I will probably just be tired for the rest of my life. I had pink eye over the weekend, so that was fun. My SI joint issues persist, I go back to the pelvic floor physio on Monday which just seems so far away.
Raves/Rants: It was a snow day today and I forgot my phone at home. Definitely feeling lost without it. Really happy we had a long weekend though, bonus time to recover from the pink eye hah.
Questions: Anyone ever have issues with their SI joint?
GTKY- Would you rather never play or always lose?
This is a tough one because I'm not competitive at all so I don't care if I lose, but I also don't really care if I play lol. If there's ever an odd number of people or someone has to sit out I always volunteer plus I'm the least athletic.
This pregnancy mostly hasn't felt real, but it's finally starting to off and on. I mean, there have been plenty of symptoms, but that's more like being sick for a long time than anything else! Can't believe we're at (or near) the halfway point!
Expecting again -- EDD 7/27/20
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: finding out in two weeks at AS
Baby is the size of a(n)/fun fact: mango?
Upcoming appointments: AS on 3/3, then reg OB on 3/4
How are you feeling? Pretty good, starting to get some sciatic pain on one side that I'm hoping goes away or just doesn't get worse. I really need to start stretching or something.
Raves/Rants: Rave is that I'm definitely feeling consistent movements, rant is that DD was a total nightmare trying to get her out of the house this morning and it made me super late to a meeting. I think it was maybe because I was off yesterday with her so we had a long weekend. I felt like such an asshole for losing my patience with her. Not the first time, won't be the last.
Questions: I've been getting these weird heart palpitations when I first lay down in bed at night. Almost like going horizontal brings them on, then I don't feel them again. I remember it happening with my last pregnancy and asking my OB, and I think she just said it was fine and was due to increased blood volume or something. But they kind of freak me out so I'm going to bring it up at my next appointment. Has anyone else noticed anything similar?
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: green all the way!
Baby is the size of a(n)/fun fact: belgian endive
Upcoming appointments: Just had an OB appt this morning. Next appt in a month.
How are you feeling? Overall good, just hate that I'm losing sleep due to hip pain. And definitely having the heartburn that lots of you have mentioned, especially if I eat spicy food. And also having upper back tightness/pain...I think probably due to the new belly I'm carrying around and/or the sleep issues I'm having. The OB recommended seeing a chiropractor...I read everyone's thoughts on that...I've never done it, so I'm a little apprehensive but willing to try it too see if it works.
Raves/Rants: I am feeling the baby now...started being able to feel him/her last Thursday. Very cool! I can't wait until it's enough where MH can also feel it.
Questions: None.
GTKY- Would you rather never play or always lose? Never play...I'm extremely competitive, so always losing would be my worst nightmare, lol.
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: Finding out
Baby is the size of a(n)/fun fact: yesterday its fist was the size of an M&M; I'm finding that the size comparisons between what to expect, my husband's dad book, and the bump are all different. artichoke, mango, stapler?
Upcoming appointments: March 2nd for AS
How are you feeling? Pretty anxious for our next appointment. Overall, feeling pretty good.
Raves/Rants: I GOT A NEW CAR yesterday. It's been a long time coming.
Questions: Can anyone really describe to me what it should feel like when the baby is moving? I have felt weird bubbling and flutters, however I'm honestly not sure if what I'm feeling is it moving or if it is my IBS... lol. I can't tell the difference at this point.
GTKY- Would you rather never play or always lose? Never play.. I can't imagine the let down of losing all the time. At the same time, it feels good to try. This one is hard haha.
@bluguitarhannah hope your heartburn and constipation gets better!
@coffeeandcookies84 oh no! sorry that you fell. i bumped my bump and was scared too, but went to see my OB and they said everything was okay....now i just have a gnarly bruise the size of my fist on my belly haha. so im sure when you talk to your OB about it, youll get some reassurance, and its good that you havent had any bleeding or anything!
@stlbuckeye132 thats nuts that you saw the baby move but didnt feel it!!! i cant imagine!!!!
@footdrbritt yay for team finding out! cant wait to hear what your LO is! hope things are getting better with your work and being admitted and all that. hope your AS went well!
@JessDG hopefully your monday was productive with no kiddos around!
@kc0711 sorry youre still not feeling well i hope it gets better soon!
@pocketrose aw kudos to YH for being there for you in the middle of the night! and yay for finally seeing your bump start to show more!
@Mamaof2beautifulgirls im at risk for preeclampsia and at my last OB's appt i had protein in my urine. because of that, they sent me to the lab to do a clean catch and a more specific test of my urine, and it came back in normal ranges, so that made my worries subside - maybe you can ask for that? try not to let your anxiety get too high because then your BP will go up! haha. ive been super worried about preeclampsia and my OB has been really reassuring. she also suggested that i take a baby aspirin to help prevent preeclampsia - maybe ask your doctor about that if youre super worried?
@b_1029 thats really cool that you were able to get in contact with your birth father, but i totally agree, he sounds a little overwhelming right now. hopefully yall can talk and set some boundaries to help you with your sanity. but yay for feeling baby girl moving!
@kristinl492 im with you on the increased pelvic pressure and stretching! my pelvic bone is always super sore by the end of the day from sitting at my desk all day and sometimes it feels like ive pulled something down there haha. hopefully things get better for you soon!
@mayisch sorry about your UTI hope it resolves soon
@modoodles how crazy about the 3 boys being born on your block! thats fun though, to have someone to chat with and support if needed. in my church congregation, there are 4 of us due in June/July, and one of the ladies is having twins, so there will be 5 new babies in the church congregation this summer alone! something must be in the water, lol. FX that your AS provides you with some relief from your anxiety!
@mehugg did you find an awesome shower location? when are you doing yours?
@rachelredhead i hope you dont end up getting a UTI! those are no fun. drink lots of water! haha. but yay for feeling baby movement! sorry you didnt get the house thats a bummer but hopefully the perfect one will come your way soon
@k_shaunte welcome to team pink!!
@nursejenn5 yummmm tacos! and i eat spicy things all the time (thats like all i crave) and i still havent felt baby move really haha.
@mrsdrez sorry about the pink eye!! what a bummer. im with you on feeling tired all the time! i could sleep all day some days if i were able.
@meanjellybean i have heart palpitations every so often and they can definitely freak you out. sometimes if i lay down fast or get up fast they happen, which ive attributed to increased blood volume as well. they can also happen with anxiety, or thyroid issues, or dehydration, or a ton of things, haha. id just talk to your OB about it some more and make sure she knows its troubling you.
@elijames83 a belgian endive is the most random measurement i have heard yet hahahaha. sorry about the sleep issues...have you gotten a pregnancy pillow that helps at all?
@shaqn0sis yay for a new car!! i also struggle with knowing what the baby movements should feel like, so thanks for asking this question, lol
dx: PCOS, hypothroidism tx: timed intercourse with meds (dexa, clomid, letrozole, metformin, trigger shots)
Second TTGP: started meds for first cycle of tx on 10/13/21
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: pink
Baby is the size of a(n)/fun fact: pomegranate
Upcoming appointments: March 11 for AS, March 18 for OB visit and glucose test
How are you feeling? tired and a bit anxious. i just want to feel baby girl moving in there! i also have hemorrhoids so that sucks.
Raves/Rants: RAVE - i just love MH. hes stellar and a great support during all this. and he is SO cute and excited about baby, it makes me smile so much (and cry sometimes, because hormones). RANT - i had my first person to touch my belly this past weekend haha. i shouldve known it would happen - we were at a family reunion for my husband's mom's family and they are something else. luckily no one was too pushy with their opinions about baby things, so that was good and unexpected haha.
Questions: when is a normal time to have a baby shower? and is it weird to host it yourself? haha my one best friend is pregnant and due two weeks after me and my other best friend is having IF issues so i wouldnt expect either of them to do it, and my family and inlaws live across the country, so im not sure at what point i start planning it myself versus waiting for someone to offer to host it haha.
also, is it bad to eat spicy foods? thats like all ive been craving for this pregnancy. buffalo chicken is like my new favorite thing in the world. and sour candy/food - like, i never liked to eat oranges and now i cant get enough of them, and ive been wanting all the sour candy! its so weird haha. but, we were just in arizona and picked a ton of fresh oranges from my inlaw's orange tree, so im stoked about that!
GTKY- Would you rather never play or always lose? if its something sport related, id never play - i have zero athletic ability haha. if its like a board game or something like that, id still want to play but always lose!
dx: PCOS, hypothroidism tx: timed intercourse with meds (dexa, clomid, letrozole, metformin, trigger shots)
Second TTGP: started meds for first cycle of tx on 10/13/21
@knockupthestock I’ve never heard that spicy food is bad! (Buffalo is one of my favorite flavors 😂 there’s a super good buffalo chicken dip on Pinterest. So good on crackers, tortilla chips, or bread 🤤)
I think your pregnant BFF should/will be most likely to want to host something for you and I'd give her the chance before doing anything. I was pregnant with DD and due 3 (I think) weeks after my bestie and still hosted her shower so I know it's doable. If you don't hear anything after a while, I'd probably just straight up ask your mom (b/c it's your mom... I wouldn't ask anyone else like that) if she's planning to do anything before hosting one yourself.
All that said, give them some time. My bestie JUST said something to me about hosting a sprinkle yesterday and that's only b/c of my situation of needing to deliver early. Otherwise, she prob would have waited a month or two before bringing it up (I'm 20+3, for reference of timing of someone offering). My mom also didn't say anything until yesterday for the same reason. And my mom is on top of everything. So if it's early for my mom to offer, it's definitely early for your friend lol
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: Blue!
Baby is the size of a(n)/fun fact: Bananananana/tall as a Venti Starbucks cup
Upcoming appointments: I have my first colposcopy since getting pregnant coming up next week. I had adenocarcinoma of the cervix 5 years ago and had a LEEP, so just go every 6 months now. I'm glad it won't be as invasive as it usually is, phew! Early March is midwife and another ultrasound.
How are you feeling? I didn't gag for the first time in months this morning after taking Pepcid last night. Haven't been sleeping super well lately, but feeling the baby kick a ton and that's exciting!
Raves/Rants: I've been told I'm high risk for early-onset preeclampsia due to high resistance uterine blood flow. I've had two long talks with my midwife about this because the internet makes you think it's a death sentence, but I'm feeling a little better now. Just hoping it doesn't develop, and if it does, that bubs will be old enough to be ok on the outside.
Questions: Does anyone else get heart palpitations? This past week I've had them off and on.
GTKY- Would you rather never play or always lose?
I'd rather always lose, because playing is fun. Except in the game of love. I wouldn't want to always lose at that.
Thank god it isn't just me, I feel so relieved about the palpitations. Does drinking lots of water help you? Do you get them throughout the day?
No kidding, the internet is basically telling you you're going to die all the time. I'm doing the low dose aspirin and Omega 3 supplements and hoping that helps at least a little bit. It'll feel like a miracle getting to full term if I do, and it's so hard not to worry. On that note, how do you deal with stress while pregnant? Any tips?
I exercise to help with stress. but for you, you should talk to your provider about this before because sometimes with the pre-eclampsia they don't want you to work out much, but that may be more so if you're closer on the verge of having it? Studies also show that regular exercise routines(150 minutes of moderate a week, which isn't anything too crazy, a brisk walk) can help lessen the chance of developing Pre-e. So talk to them about it!
But maybe some yoga, or a warm bath(i like to use lavender epsom salts as well) with a book, or netflix, depending on who you are haha, some nice tea in a quiet space, or taking a small walk could help with stress as well.