We have house guests coming next weekend and I’m already dreading the cleaning that comes with it!
I got so excited because I got a notification in my patient portal from my lab that there was a new report. When I logged in it said they had sent the report to my OB and the full report would be viewable in 2 days online. I called my OB to see what the results were and they just ran some of the tests and had results but not the NIPT yet. I just had it done on Monday so I was surprised. So far everything looks good though.
One small win this week has been that DS has not peed on his nap mat and clothes at school for two days in a row! (The peeing has been a daily occurrence since he transitioned to the preschool classroom). I only had to do one small load of laundry tonight because he soaked his coat playing outside in the rain today.
@gomillis I was going to say that @BusinessWife wins an ice cream sandwich!! I broke down and went to the store on my way home from work yesterday and bought a box... I just finished eating one 🤣
@WishesSheCouldCook Yay for good news and hoping you know before the weekend... Sqeee!
Me: 33 DH: 36 Dating 4/2008 Married 6/2016 TTC #1 9/2019 BFP 12/13/2019! EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
Head cold of the century + long day at work has me miserable in bed as soon as I got home and showered. Then losing my mind at my kitty who just wants to snuggle because I'm mentally unstable right now 🤣
@businesswife, same, minus the laundry. I had to follow up on insurance stuff from a medical situation this summer. I had to self-submit bills and despite doing everything in my power to have all the information required (including literally reading the list of items insurance gave me that the bills had to have to the providers' billing depts), there was missing information (which was NOT on the list insurance gave me, so I couldn't check for it when I originally submitted.) So I called the provider last week, and they said they'd send it to them the next day. My insurance does not have any obvious fax #s on their site, but I gave them one I found in an email. Following up today, nope, insurance hasn't got it. And turns out, it's probably because I gave them a wrong fax #. Why is there no obvious "fax # for providers" on insurance's website?
Anyway, on the plus side, from that incident this summer, I have bills from four different entities, and I can see that the second-largest of the two is paid! One less thing (to the tune of $8k) to worry about.
On the negative side, medical billing is a scam. I can also see in the insurance portal that my bill for the initial pregnancy bloodwork was paid. It was $650. But they're in network and so it was discounted to $150 and paid. How is that acceptable?
So I filed my taxes yesterday. Been doing them with the same lady for 5 years.
We got a tiny refund which i knew we would because we changed our filing. My tax lady tried to prepare me for how low the refund was for. I talked to her and let her know that i know and wanted it that way.
i started to explain why and hkw we are paying off our debt. She started tonask me how we oaid off so much debt with our income and kids. So i told her. I texted her today about when we could expect our refund and this is what she texted me back.
Her whole office is doing a money saving challenge because of me.
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
@WishesSheCouldCook same thing happened to me. I did my bloodwork yesterday and had new test results in my portal when I woke up this morning. I knew it couldn't be the NIPT already, but it still felt like a tease.
Have any of you thought about how you will tell your H if you are finding out first? Last year I found out on his bday so I bought an "it's a girl" balloon. It took him forever (or 5 min and some nudging) to actually read the balloon. He assumed it just said "happy birthday" lol. I have no idea what to do this time. I will probably just tell my friends with a bunch of silly gifs.
@ziggymama06 its crazy that I have followed dave ramseys advice. I looked for people on instagram paying debt ofd too and follow them for motivation.
Also I'm atheist so i just ignore all the religious aspects of dave ramseys methods. I highly recommend his first book.
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
@roo_baby if I find out during my appointment today I’m going to run over to target and buy the color of the sex Oneies that we are having. I’m so excited to finally tell my daughter about her sibling tonight as well.
@psychobutthead Good for you! You're an inspiration! I'm also impressed your taxes are done! I haven't even gotten my forms. My husband has his own business so he has to file all his business taxes before I can get his forms. So annoying!!!
@samsonator Unbelievable was SO GOOD! I wish I hadn't watched it yet just so I could start it from the beginning for the first time.
@BusinessWife Ugh. The laundry situation around here is REAL today. Since you did such an awesome job, I've gotta get serious now. #inspired
@gomillis That's awesome news! He's doing so well! My son is currently doing this thing where he hops around saying, "I need to go potty! I'm going to pee my pants!" and he does this until someone physically gets up, walks to the bathroom with him, and watches as he turns on the light, puts his potty seat on the toilet, situates his little stairs, and climbs up to finally pee. It's maddening, because he is 100% capable of doing all this himself, and a lot of times just takes himself to the upstairs bathroom to use his training potty. It drives me nuts that he picks and chooses when he can be a big boy and do everything himself, and when you have to halt everything you're doing just to watch him from the threshold. I'm like, dude, I thought we were past this!? Kids are crazy.
@psychobutthead Such a coincidence that you posted about finances and saving money. DH and I had a pretty bad argument over the last couple of days (which is why I missed HDBD - lol ) that lasted a full 24 hour period about budgeting, so I sat down yesterday for a few hours and figured out exactly where our money is going each month and exactly how much is leftover after bills, living expenses, pet supplies, gas, etc. After all the necessities were deducted, we have surprisingly little "fun money," especially if we want any to roll over to the next month. So, it was productive to sit down and balance everything out, but never fun to fight about money. It's literally my least favorite thing. Maybe I need to check out Dave Ramsey as well! Also, nice job getting your taxes out of the way! I'm going to start bugging DH about getting ours taken care of, too.
@psychobutthead We are on the Dave Ramsey train too! Although when I stopped baby step 2 to 'storm mode' to save for delivery and the 3 months I won't get paid for my maternity leave, it has made me a little sad!
And ladies...with the house chores...I have had to cancel on my cleaning lady 3 times because our house is a disaster! Its so gross but for her to come I would need to pick up the toys, laundry and do all of the dishes which has not been happening🙈....I'm hoping I can get my world together this weekend!
Glad I’m not alone on the home front. I was worried I was the only one living in squalor 😂 although I did pull it together yesterday and cleaned up. Let’s see how long I can maintain this.
This morning, on my way to my high risk appointment, I hit a trash can that was in the road. And it smashed my passenger side mirror.
I’m annoyed at myself that I was so anxious and trying not to cry that I didn’t see it. And also annoyed that it was in the road! This wasn’t a neighborhood, this is a busy road that should not have a giant trash can out on the street. Blah.
@tyrion_ I'm so sorry about that! It is such a horrible feeling when something like that happens. I hope it's an easy repair and be kind to yourself. It happens to all of us.
@lachnessmomster We have finally gotten to the point where DS will pee on his own, but he insists we accompany him to poop. And of course, he usually wants me to do it, not daddy. Then it’s this long drawn out thing where we have to read him a book and eventually boot him off the toilet. It can easily take 15 minutes.
@tyrion_ I’m sorry that happened! It sounds really stressful, especially since you were anxious to begin with. I hope your appointment went well!
@tyrion_ I'm sorry that happened. Try to not beat yourself up. You were stressing and it happens. Hope it's not an expensive fix!
@wildrainbow Hmm that sounds... interesting lol... I just had fries for lunch too. After stuffing my face I remembered how I wanted to eat lighter today because I'll have my first weigh-in at the dr later... oops.
Me: 33 DH: 36 Dating 4/2008 Married 6/2016 TTC #1 9/2019 BFP 12/13/2019! EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
@pyschobutthead Wow! We've done the basics of taxes because we paid quarterlies at the last minute to avoid a stiff penalty. We also have an accounting firm for the first time, and I'm SO happy!!! We've always done our own with Turbotax, and it was horrid. I would usually be in tears and would call my mom for advice, whose advice has steadily gotten less and less since she's forgotten things since she got an accountant ten years ago.
To any ladies considering Dave Ramsey, it's pretty easy to avoid the Christian parts or apply it non-religiously to your life. (I've done the Dave Ramsey class). Most of the religious stuff comes down to basic tenets of faith that can apply generally to being a "good" person. Paying off debts and not owing people money going forward and tithing/charitable giving.
@lachnessmomster My daughter is 2.5, and she definitely wants us to come with her to the bathroom. She, however, still needs her bottom wiped. But I usually leave and tell her to call when she's done.
We are doing Dave Ramsey too! Much to my husband's dismay 😅 We paid off our debts last January (except for mortgage) and are now on baby steps 4/5/6. I don't know if we will be able to contribute the full amount to retirement/college and pay extra in the house once we have another daycare bill though. That will definitely be a financial shock.
Married July 2014 DD born June 2016 Second due August 2020 (team green!)
@riatortillaxo as soon as that w2 comes to my door I call and make an appointment for the next day. I was always this way before because we were so broke allnyear round.
Even after we had kur son my husband filed his w4 as single and no dependants because his parents told him to.
We have been doing dave ramsey for 2 year. First year I paid off medical debt. 2nd year was working on my car. We paid off 12k on the car in 2019.
I really like the dr method. My sick and tired moment that motivated me came when the school year started 2 years ago. i couldnt affors to buy my daughter new shorts that she desperately needed or shoes. I took my mil up on her offer to help for the first time ever. She cussed me all threw the store and treated me like complete crap. The shorts where plus size kids which all ended up on clearned maried down to like 3.50 abd 4.50 a pair. My mil literslly paid $35 for it all. I paid her back the next pay day.
I went over a budget and my husband was not on board. I Threatened to leave him when i realized how much he spent a month on himself was making it impossible to provide for the kids.
We made a lot of changes on 2 years. I wont go back to how things where.
Every one can do the dr plan! Make a budget, write all your debts down in order. Make cuts to your budget. We cut a million tiny things from ours. And make sure you doing your taxes in a way you can live month to month even of it means tiny refunds.
We did this on 1 income and 2 kids and a mortgage. If we can with how much my husband resisted anyone can!
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
@roo_baby I'm catching up here and just saw your note about bumgenius! We CD and really don't need anything other than a newborn solution (we rented last time) since DS should be potty trained by the time the new baby needs the one sizers. But I was doing a bit of price comparison on newborn diapers earlier this week and seeing those precious little covers with the little dip in front was the first time it really hit me that there's going to be a tiny baby in our lives again. Like, I know there's going to be another child in our family, but I've forgotten so much of what it is to have a newborn and it comes flooding back in the most unexpected moments.
@emiliadkay @roo_baby another CDer over here! When we first got home, I used the freebie disposables from the hospital till we ran out, but I wish I had been brave enough to start my nb cloth sooner, it was so easy! We have covers and prefolds,.as well as AIOs, and both were great. I just had to trifold the prefolds tho and not worry about any fancy folds, because my prefolds are such a tight weave, they won't take a snappi .🤷 Weird, right? So it was a learning curve when I already had so much new to wrap my head around, but I loved it. Let me know if you ever want brand reviews - I've tried a lot of various nb aios!
@ziggymama06 hey, not sure if that was this thread or not, but if it makes you feel any better, my <i>entire company </i>knows already, and I only told one person who knew it was supposed to be a secret. I found out from my old boss, when I spoke to him randomly, and he wished me Congratulations, I actually told him I was still nervous, and we were planning to tell my husband's family on Saturday. So he was like oh wow, I know before his family!? And I was like yep!!!! 🤦🤦🤦🤷😫😫😫😭😭😭 Seriously not impressed.
@emiliadkay@roo_baby@BusinessWife I cloth diaper my son and we love it! Any suggestions for overnight ? Since he started sleeping on his stomach he is soaking through the diaper more often. It's not terrible, but annoying. Currently I double the diaper insert inside the diaper cover for overnights. Anyone else have success with another specific strategy?
@riotortillaxo We have a nice chunky sloomb / sustainable babyish wool cover that goes over either their super thick bamboo overnight fitteds (first choice), or an AIO like the Rumparooz G2 or Grovia ONE are our go-to backups for overnight aios! + Wool cover to prevent leaks, and for coziness. The Rumparooz has a fleece layer, where the Grovia is more natural fiber, but we have had success with both, and really no skin issues, either.
Full disclosure, when the drier broke over the hilidays, I picked up some overnight disposables and have been working my way through the first half pack of those, but still with our wool soaker cover overtop. But I really should just switch back to our nice cloth, because it's not like they make it through the whole night anyway. It's just time to size up her fitteds so I've been procrastinating going up into the attic. Lol
@riotortillaxo, we CD also. I use fitteds and covers. I fold up a prefold and tuck it just in the front. It's kind of bulky and big but doesnt seem to bother them. That worked until my older daughter was around 1.5ish, and then she started peeing through at night. So then we switched to disposables and now pull-ups for nights.
@Businesswife@riatortillaxo@coldlife Well that settles it, we're going to have to have a CD thread at some point down the line! I definitely want your newborn AIO recs, @BusinessWife. As I mentioned, we did a newborn rental last go-round (after using up those free hospital diapers, because we totally did that too) and used mostly blueberry AIOs because that was what they offered. I didn't get brave enough to try prefolds until a couple months in, but then converted fully. For this kid, I think we'll do mostly prefolds + covers from the start for cost reasons but probably have a few newborn AIOs for those MOTN changes when you just can't deal and need something easy (and for grandparents, etc.).
@riatortillaxo We had a long stretch of overnight diaper leaking around the time DS turned one. Can you tell whether it's a compression, wicking or flooding issue? Ours was a combination of compression and wicking, and we've had most success adding a large hemp doubler between the prefold and the cover -- it's super slim and hangs on to so much liquid. We also gave up on the cute one-piece PJs and just started putting him in a onesie at night, which is a little looser and doesn't wick so badly. Basically a lot of trial and error, and it's been much less of an issue since we dropped the pre-bed bottle.
Another DR follower. My husband and I were so wasteful for a long time. But money talks gave me anxiety and I’d shut it down. We started listening to his podcasts (individually in our cars) and it helped us to talk about them because it was OTHERS money and situations. Once we were comfortable with that conversation, we moved towards our own situation. We’ve fallen off but we will get back on it. I highly recommend his stuff.
I’m not a fan of his social views but it’s his show and I just fastforward or ignore. It’s also not every show that it comes up
TTC1: May 2015
Primary IF May 2016; Failed HSG; Scheduled Lap Sept. 2016
@sarah0985 yeah im not a fan of his views on gay marriage. I got my husband into it by blasting dr youtube vidoes on our tv while cleaning or folding laundry. I picked episodes of people with similar lives to ours whether they did what my husband does, had our amount of debt, or made the amount he makes. He would pop is head in from the den often to comment on it. So he would totally listen in.
Its just so surreal to me that we are almost totally paid off.
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
I've been trying to convince H to do DR, so thanks for reiterating that I need to double my efforts. @psychobutthead our financial situation is close to where y'all started and certainly having another kiddo will not help. The big thing will be making H stick to a budget. He is an impulse buyer. It will definitely be good for both of us.
@samsonator I started the first season and thought the female lead was so intolerable that I couldn't get into it. Her "drunk" voice was like nails on a chalkboard. I was also a huge Gossip Girl fan, so I felt like Joe was pretty much Dan Humphrey's character if he turned out to be a serial killer. Lol! He's still just the creepy guy stalking everyone and being weird. It's just more extreme this time.
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One small win this week has been that DS has not peed on his nap mat and clothes at school for two days in a row! (The peeing has been a daily occurrence since he transitioned to the preschool classroom). I only had to do one small load of laundry tonight because he soaked his coat playing outside in the rain today.
I took the liberty of starting a reveal thread, for those who wish to use it. ;)
@WishesSheCouldCook Yay for good news and hoping you know before the weekend... Sqeee!
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
Anyway, on the plus side, from that incident this summer, I have bills from four different entities, and I can see that the second-largest of the two is paid! One less thing (to the tune of $8k) to worry about.
On the negative side, medical billing is a scam. I can also see in the insurance portal that my bill for the initial pregnancy bloodwork was paid. It was $650. But they're in network and so it was discounted to $150 and paid. How is that acceptable?
We got a tiny refund which i knew we would because we changed our filing. My tax lady tried to prepare me for how low the refund was for. I talked to her and let her know that i know and wanted it that way.
i started to explain why and hkw we are paying off our debt. She started tonask me how we oaid off so much debt with our income and kids. So i told her. I texted her today about when we could expect our refund and this is what she texted me back.
Her whole office is doing a money saving challenge because of me.
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
Have any of you thought about how you will tell your H if you are finding out first? Last year I found out on his bday so I bought an "it's a girl" balloon. It took him forever (or 5 min and some nudging) to actually read the balloon. He assumed it just said "happy birthday" lol. I have no idea what to do this time. I will probably just tell my friends with a bunch of silly gifs.
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
Also I'm atheist so i just ignore all the religious aspects of dave ramseys methods. I highly recommend his first book.
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
@BusinessWife Ugh. The laundry situation around here is REAL today. Since you did such an awesome job, I've gotta get serious now. #inspired
@gomillis That's awesome news! He's doing so well! My son is currently doing this thing where he hops around saying, "I need to go potty! I'm going to pee my pants!" and he does this until someone physically gets up, walks to the bathroom with him, and watches as he turns on the light, puts his potty seat on the toilet, situates his little stairs, and climbs up to finally pee. It's maddening, because he is 100% capable of doing all this himself, and a lot of times just takes himself to the upstairs bathroom to use his training potty. It drives me nuts that he picks and chooses when he can be a big boy and do everything himself, and when you have to halt everything you're doing just to watch him from the threshold. I'm like, dude, I thought we were past this!? Kids are crazy.
@psychobutthead Such a coincidence that you posted about finances and saving money. DH and I had a pretty bad argument over the last couple of days (which is why I missed HDBD - lol
ETA: andplusalso, I can't ignore how you are filing your taxes in January! I haven't even received my docs from my employer yet.
***TW***
****trigger warning****
1 LC, girl 5 years old
TTC #2 Summer 2017
BFP 1/5/2018, MC (D & E) 2/23/2018
TTCAL May 2018
BFP 9/20/2018, MC (D & E) 11/16/2018
And ladies...with the house chores...I have had to cancel on my cleaning lady 3 times because our house is a disaster! Its so gross but for her to come I would need to pick up the toys, laundry and do all of the dishes which has not been happening🙈....I'm hoping I can get my world together this weekend!
This morning, on my way to my high risk appointment, I hit a trash can that was in the road. And it smashed my passenger side mirror.
Y'all I'm having fries and cocktail sauce for lunch and I'm not even sorry.
@wildrainbow Hmm that sounds... interesting lol... I just had fries for lunch too. After stuffing my face I remembered how I wanted to eat lighter today because I'll have my first weigh-in at the dr later... oops.
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
To any ladies considering Dave Ramsey, it's pretty easy to avoid the Christian parts or apply it non-religiously to your life. (I've done the Dave Ramsey class). Most of the religious stuff comes down to basic tenets of faith that can apply generally to being a "good" person. Paying off debts and not owing people money going forward and tithing/charitable giving.
@lachnessmomster My daughter is 2.5, and she definitely wants us to come with her to the bathroom. She, however, still needs her bottom wiped. But I usually leave and tell her to call when she's done.
DD born June 2016
Second due August 2020 (team green!)
DD born June 2016
Second due August 2020 (team green!)
Even after we had kur son my husband filed his w4 as single and no dependants because his parents told him to.
We have been doing dave ramsey for 2 year. First year I paid off medical debt. 2nd year was working on my car. We paid off 12k on the car in 2019.
I really like the dr method. My sick and tired moment that motivated me came when the school year started 2 years ago. i couldnt affors to buy my daughter new shorts that she desperately needed or shoes. I took my mil up on her offer to help for the first time ever. She cussed me all threw the store and treated me like complete crap. The shorts where plus size kids which all ended up on clearned maried down to like 3.50 abd 4.50 a pair. My mil literslly paid $35 for it all.
I paid her back the next pay day.
I went over a budget and my husband was not on board. I Threatened to leave him when i realized how much he spent a month on himself was making it impossible to provide for the kids.
We made a lot of changes on 2 years. I wont go back to how things where.
Every one can do the dr plan! Make a budget, write all your debts down in order. Make cuts to your budget. We cut a million tiny things from ours. And make sure you doing your taxes in a way you can live month to month even of it means tiny refunds.
We did this on 1 income and 2 kids and a mortgage. If we can with how much my husband resisted anyone can!
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
***TW***
****trigger warning****
1 LC, girl 5 years old
TTC #2 Summer 2017
BFP 1/5/2018, MC (D & E) 2/23/2018
TTCAL May 2018
BFP 9/20/2018, MC (D & E) 11/16/2018
Full disclosure, when the drier broke over the hilidays, I picked up some overnight disposables and have been working my way through the first half pack of those, but still with our wool soaker cover overtop. But I really should just switch back to our nice cloth, because it's not like they make it through the whole night anyway. It's just time to size up her fitteds so I've been procrastinating going up into the attic. Lol
What do you normally use for daytime?
I got my husband into it by blasting dr youtube vidoes on our tv while cleaning or folding laundry. I picked episodes of people with similar lives to ours whether they did what my husband does, had our amount of debt, or made the amount he makes. He would pop is head in from the den often to comment on it. So he would totally listen in.
Its just so surreal to me that we are almost totally paid off.
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020