I figured I'd start my own thread as I'll likely need a place to say good bye.
If you haven't been following along the ob I saw Tuesday for my dating US thinks I might have a partial molar pregnancy. I went back in today for another US and beta draw and he sent me home telling me to talk to MH and call him tonight with a decision but he'd be holding a room in the Or for a D&C tomorrow.
45 minutes into my 1.5 hour drive home the OB called me and said my beta came back lower by about 20,000 which isn't what he was expecting, he assumed it was going to be astronomically high because of how long they had it being analyzed and then they had to dilute it because the machine wouldn't read it. He said he doesn't know what that means and he heard back from the high risk doctor at dartmouth who advised I don't follow through with the D&C until I see her and she runs her own ultrasound.
So I don't know where this leaves us. Still in limbo. I've decided I'm talking tomorrow off as the OB is going to call me in the morning about the referral and I'm hoping to be able to talk to the specialist to find out what she's seeing that she doesn't think I should terminate.
Talking over everything with MH he says we've been through this before DD and we can handle it and if waiting means we get another perfect one like DD then so be it. He understands my hesitation in terminating a fetus that is still alive but doesn't want to prolong or attachment if the end result will still be a D&C. I'm in the same boat, if it's over I want it to be over, but I can't stop thinking about DDs pregnancy when I was told I was having a miscarriage and then came back a week later to discuss my options because I hadn't miscarried on my own yet and they found her heartbeat when I asked for them to check one last time. I also keep thinking about the states that won't let you abort a fetus with a heartbeat even though it must likely won't survive.
So that's an update. I have no idea what is going on.
Re: Tw still have no idea what's happening.
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
And thank you all for your well wishes and thoughts. I'm now going to be the talk of our little town because I left work today at noon without notice and I'm taking tomorrow off for myself.
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019FTM
BFP 08/25/19, EDD 05/04/20
FTM
BFP: 9/5/19 ~ EDD 5/15/20
I've been spending my day reading studies and can't find anything that has a placenta that looks like mine did not even the partial molar pregnancy photos looked like it. I really have no idea what to do. My first miscarriage was so much easier it just happened on its own the day after finding an empty sac at 10 weeks. I didn't have to decide to abort a fetus that's still alive because it might not be viable.
DD2 born 9/10/17
Trigger warning
married since October 2015-started trying immediately
dx: PCOS, anovulatory
rx: provera metformin progesterone
*TW*
BFP August 2016- early mc- Enoch Matthis
1 clomid cycle (March 2017)
BFP March 2017 ~ EDD December 13, 2017
di/di TWINS!!!!! vanishing twin- Hannah Jordan
DS-Nov 23, 2017- emergency induction-- Pre-eclampsia
*End TW*
BFP Sept.2019
I've finally caught up with the ob at our practice after sending him a lengthy message asking for two more beta draws. (I'm not sure if I mentioned at 9 weeks I was at 93k and then at 9+2 73k) I figured if my betas were dropping and I was going to miscarry that I would just cancel my dartmouth appointment, but I wanted to get two more draws here at our lab because I want to see if it's they're lab messing up or not. When I talked to the ob today he was telling me he doesn't want me to have the d&c and that we should do more tests because the betas dropping now makes him think maybe this was a twin pregnancy because betas dropping you don't normally see with a live fetus. He's also going to call the harmony 21 company to find out if they can run that test to see if the fetus has 69 chromosomes which is what happens in partial molar pregnancies. He doesn't know if they can do that or not, but is now saying we have time because normally this doesn't get diagnosised until after 12 weeks and sometimes not until 20 weeks. Which is really a complete change from Thursday telling me to come in the next morning for a d&c.
So still.... I have no idea what's going on.
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019BFP1 04/24/2015 EDD Dec 2015 MMC 10W5d;
BFP 2 09/25/2015 EDD June 2016 MMC 9wks;
BFP 3 03/22/2016 EDD Dec 6th 2016
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020