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New Here IVF

Hi, I am new here. I will be starting IVF within the next few months. Hubby and I are in the process of getting tests done. We are on a medical clock because of some medical complications and not because of age. I am very scared to do IVF. I have three illnesses and understood from my doc that IVF is like an extra chronic illness to the mind and body. I think that it will be relatively easy on my mind, mentally, because I have been through extended abuse and torture in my life and am used to managing tough stuff. I also have my faith which is a core coping mechanism to handle disappointments and the emotions that are natural with IVF. Physically, I am scared though in terms of functioning. I am healing from my other chronic illnesses so that by the time I do IVF in a few months, it may not be so heavy on my body. But, I don't really know. 

I am also scared of pregnancy because I suffer from seizures. I had 24 in the last month... I hope I don't have to get to bed rest...
But these fears are later on... I am working really hard on combatting this fear of losing the baby due to a fall. Again, faith comes into play and I know that at the end of the day I have comfort surrounding me through faith. 

Re: New Here IVF

  • Hello dear, so sorry to hear about the things you're going through.  I do hope your ivf journey will be gentle to you.  Good luck!
  • Thank you so very much!
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  • IVF can be more emotionally draining than physically, so I would find a way to support your mind and heart while you are waiting to start (maybe a hobby that distracts you, a new pet to nurture, a therapist, etc). The only annoying side effects I had physically from IVF were hot flashes and fatigue, but I was definitely stressed emotionally. I spent a great deal of time being kind to myself and treating myself during my cycle. 

    As for the seizures, my sister developed frequent fainting spells during her pregnancies and was on restricted activity due to the risk of falls -- but both of her children were born healthy and safe. Are you using any medicine to control the seizures currently? 24 in a month sounds somewhat uncontrolled so I might want to address that before starting IVF...but I wouldn't overly worry about the risk of falls. Your OB may put you on bed rest or simply restricted activity (my sister couldn't drive, for example). It's annoying but it's manageable. 
    ~~ Our Story in Spoiler! TW loss/child~~
    Fall 2012 -- started TTC
    Summer 2015 - no BFP yet, labs normal, referred to RE
    Fall 2015 - Summer 2016 - Further testing all normal. 3 IUI's -- BFN. Recommended move to IVF. Planned cycle for fall 2016.
    September 2016 - Surprise natural BFP. MMC @ 8 weeks. RE expressed confidence that we just needed the 'right' embryo.
    Fall 2016 - Spring 2017 -- Break from TTC
    June 2017 - Started IVF; egg retrieval for freeze all cycle. 9 mature eggs retrieved, 5 fertilized. 2 4BB embies on ice.
    August 2017 - FET transfer both embies. BFP.  Twin pregnancy confirmed by ultrasound. EDD 4/28/18
    September 2017 - Twin B stopped developing; Twin A doing perfectly! Graduated from RE @ 10 weeks
    March 2018 - Baby Girl born via C/S due to pre-eclampsia -- strong and healthy!

  • Thank you so much for taking the time to write to me. I truly appreciate it.

    I am glad to hear that for some people IVF isnt as physically draining. That is a really good sign. 
    Regarding my seizures, I have a rare type that there is little research on... It is uncontrolled because of the lack of medical research and resources... 
  • How are you getting along?  Did your OB and RE give you a go signal?
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  • edited October 31
    Thanks for asking. The appointments where I am at are very slow. We are both going to genetic testing and doing some other tests.

    Thank you for your warm welcome
  • You're welcome!  Do keep us updated!
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