Flame Free Friday Confessions 5/31/19

NYTino24

*not actually guaranteed to be flame free*

emeraldduchess

I have reached the point in the school year where I am so tempted to put on a movie so that the class will be quiet for more than 2 minutes...

NYTino24

@emeraldduchess Mine talk right through the movie. Today is Field Day and it has rained for 3 days. Kids were told to bring extra socks because almost all of it is inflatables and they take their shoes off in the grass. I wasn’t told no shorts and I’m going to pretend I didn’t get the second hand info that jeans are acceptable in 80+ degree weather, but shorts aren’t. Send me home, I dare ya!!

emeraldduchess

@NYTino24 no shorts? Seriously? I can see them saying no super-short-shorts but 80+ weather and long pants don't mix. 
And good luck with field day. Ours in in two weeks. 😬

keikilove

@emeraldduchess Field Day in TWO weeks? 😩 Best of luck making it till the very end! I’d forgotten how long the east coast school year goes...

@NYTino24 Rock those shorts! Play the sexism card if anyone dares to suggest you should’ve worn jeans—how dare you show your human legs!😳
(@emeraldduchess & @NYTino24 I totally missed my chance in yesterday’s GTKY to nominate you both for the best gifs & most likely to start posts—sorry!) 

My confession is: I check this app before I check my work email or anything else I should be doing to get my day started. Priorities!!!

inthewoods23

DH has an album of all the pictures he's taken of me sleeping (often accompanied by my cat nearby or on me). Some may find that creepy but I find it quite charming and cute.

kiki047

@inthewoods23 MF has an album of awful photos he takes of me, like the up-the-nostril kinda close-ups, he thinks he's hysterical, I am not impressed lol. Thank god he's stopped taking those (that I know of), he used to threaten to make me an album for our wedding.

My confession is I use our upcoming wedding as an excuse to get out of just about anything I don't want to do these days. Even though I don't think there's that much left to do. I'm just tired and introverted. 

brookert615

@inthewoods23 Okay that's adorable!!!

@kiki047 Use it as an excuse! Weddings are exhausting!!!

whitealbum29

@emeraldduchess - dooo it! it's Friday! Nothing better than walking into the classroom and seeing a TV at the front.

@NYTino24 - no shorts is insane! What even is the point of field day if it's not about letting loose and being comfy! (Well ok I guess there are other reasons for it)

@inthewoods23 - I think that's cute! My SO has never taken a photo of me I don't think....ever.

I'm the type of person whose email inbox currently has 18,211 unread messages (and counting). This seems to upset a lot of people but they are of course not real emails! Just subscriptions I signed up for ages ago from stores, job boards I need to cancel notifications from, real estate listings I never look at....I'm not ignoring actual people!

Also I refuse to wear real clothes in my house. Being in jeans or anything with a waistband at home bothers me a lot (unless we have company). I will happily change into yoga pants and slippers at 6pm when there are still hours or daylight left if I'm not going out and doing anything. Poor SO, I really need to refresh my at-home wardrobe and at least keep it looking good. I also constantly harass him that he should get into his "cozy clothes" sooner if we're home for the night but it's against his worldview...I'm converting him tho.

brookert615

@whitealbum29 I have three different emails and I file and organize it daily lol. So that gives me anxiety haha! Also I totally agree with not wearing normal clothes at home. Always in leggings and a comfy tshirt or sorts! 

verydisgruntledpelican0091

I took a sick day claiming the flu but I’m reality, sure I don’t feel the best but I need an at home alone day while my BF is at work. I’m planning on staying in bed as long as I can (hopefully the dogs are cool with that) and bingeing Dawson’s creek. I MIGHT do some housework but it’s doubtful. 

Oh another one! Yesterday’s GTKY left me feeling a tiny bit sad that I was nominated a couple times for ‘most ridiculous life stories’ only because I associate the word ‘ridiculous’ as a negative word. But I’m probably being a sensitive sally. I don’t think everyone on here secretly hates me. Atleast I hope not lol. 

varimama

I ate a HUGE chocolate bar yesterday after my BFN. Like the size I usually take 3 days to eat or at least share with DH. (Pretty sure that’s what gave me the cramps in the middle of the night that I had myself convinced meant I was totally KTFU) 

Also I know it’s stupid to be disappointed first try but TW PG

I know 3 people who just got PG either on accident or first try so naturally I just assumed it would for me too. Which again doesn’t make any sense 

My last confession is I’ve already finished my lunch at 11:05 am and now I’m sad it’s gone lol

brookert615

@verydisgruntledpelican0091 Why do you feel sad about it? Your stories always keep us entertained! Like when your bf invested all of that money without letting you know (but that sucked), getting expelled, getting into bar fights and getting arrested by puking on police officers! lol. I thought I had a wild past! 

verydisgruntledpelican0091

@brookert615 I didn’t think my stories were worthy of most ridiculous but I guess they are it’s all good though. 

brookert615

@verydisgruntledpelican0091 Own it, girl! 

b_1029

@verydisgruntledpelican0091 Not to mention the older posts from this account...you know, when you were a member of 3 different BMBs but told us you made this account 6 years ago as a "Peggy"/ "to follow your friend on her BMB"...that in itself is a pretty ridiculous story. 

verydisgruntledpelican0091

I had assumed this would happen sooner rather then later. I actually went back (via mobile) and looked up from back in 2013 my posts, a week or so ago and saw what I had posted. I’m not going to play it off like ‘oh someone hacked my account’ or anything like that. I had a very boring late teen/early 20s life so I made up fictional lives. I clearly was not good at it. I think I truly thought one day I would write a book or some other nonsense. I’m sure that everyone’s minds are made up about me and I don’t blame anyone. The only thing I would like to say is that the support I did try to offer was always genuine. My posts from old now banned account that began July 2018, those were all genuine. Everything I had posted was true. The bf investing money and not telling me, going into the drunk tank when I was in my late teens. My losses. All of it. I haven’t told many other people IRL about my losses but I’m willing to do what I can to prove that I’m a real person and that I’m not the same person I was back in 2013. If everyone wants me to leave because I get it, it’s hard to earn trust, I will leave and always have my fingers crossed for all of you to have your take home babies and all of the health and happiness in the world. 

I would obviously love to stick around because I enjoy the group and everyone in it so much. Just let me know what the consensus is. 

Also if anyone wants to see if I’m a real person and not a troll or catfish, you can look me up on Facebook or instagram. Just PM me and I can give you my name and username. 

shamrocandroll

@verydisgruntledpelican0091 I respect that you came right out and admitted that instead of trying to make up a big elaborate story.  Honestly, I'm not sure I can ever trust/believe someone who was so invested in lying about multiple fake pregnancies to people on the internet.  Especially not now that all I want in the world is to be for-real pregnant, and with how vulnerable some of us in this community are.  That part, I don't respect, and not sure I ever can.  However, I will say I will support whatever the rest of the group decides about you staying or going.  I am sorry that your losses and other struggles are real, and I wish you the best of luck regardless of what happens here.

brookert615

I whole heartily agree with @shamrocandroll but I do respect the response.

b_1029

@verydisgruntledpelican0091 I’m not trying to kick anyone out and also respect you owning up to that. If what you say is true (about everything being real from July on), I know everyone TTC could use support and it would suck for that to go away...but at the same time, you just have to know that a lot of us will always be  wary about things you post and question if they’re true or not since you went through all that effort before. 

ETA never doubted you were a real person. Also, @shamrocandroll summed up my feelings better than I did above.

kiki047

verydisgruntledpelican0091 said:

I had assumed this would happen sooner rather then later. I actually went back (via mobile) and looked up from back in 2013 my posts, a week or so ago and saw what I had posted. I’m not going to play it off like ‘oh someone hacked my account’ or anything like that. I had a very boring late teen/early 20s life so I made up fictional lives. I clearly was not good at it. I think I truly thought one day I would write a book or some other nonsense. I’m sure that everyone’s minds are made up about me and I don’t blame anyone. The only thing I would like to say is that the support I did try to offer was always genuine. My posts from old now banned account that began July 2018, those were all genuine. Everything I had posted was true. The bf investing money and not telling me, going into the drunk tank when I was in my late teens. My losses. All of it. I haven’t told many other people IRL about my losses but I’m willing to do what I can to prove that I’m a real person and that I’m not the same person I was back in 2013. If everyone wants me to leave because I get it, it’s hard to earn trust, I will leave and always have my fingers crossed for all of you to have your take home babies and all of the health and happiness in the world. 

I would obviously love to stick around because I enjoy the group and everyone in it so much. Just let me know what the consensus is. 

Also if anyone wants to see if I’m a real person and not a troll or catfish, you can look me up on Facebook or instagram. Just PM me and I can give you my name and username. 

Don't mind me, here for the QFP... 

Kelsey, to echo what @shamrocandroll said, I don't know that there's really any getting past this. Honestly, some of your stories seemed too wild to be true sometimes so it wasn't a stretch to believe that you could've just made some of it up. You seem like a nice person, and I'm truly sorry for everything you've been through with your bf's cancer and your losses, but can you blame us for not being able to trust anything you say? 

verydisgruntledpelican0091

@shamrocandroll I absolutely understand. Honestly roles reversed I’d feel the same way. 
I appreciate all of the support you and so many others have always given to me. I feel sad but I understand that most wont believe/trust me going forward. Maybe I can stick around and love tit. I don’t need to post. I still have so much to learn. But as I said, whatever everyone votes for I’ll go along with. 

kiki047

verydisgruntledpelican0091 said:

@shamrocandroll I absolutely understand. Honestly roles reversed I’d feel the same way. 
I appreciate all of the support you and so many others have always given to me. I feel sad but I understand that most wont believe/trust me going forward. Maybe I can stick around and love tit. I don’t need to post. I still have so much to learn. But as I said, whatever everyone votes for I’ll go along with. 

 

verydisgruntledpelican0091

@kiki047 I wouldn’t blame anyone for not being able to trust me what so ever. 
If theirs any concerns about anything I’ve posted since July 2018 I’m more then willing to do what I can to prove it I guess. As I said, whatever everyone else wants I’m ok with. 

brookert615

@verydisgruntledpelican0091 I don't think a vote of telling you to not be on the board will really happen, seems a bit much. Honestly I would just do you and let each woman on this board make their own call on how to proceed. I do wish you the best regardless!

bows22

@verydisgruntledpelican0091 I totally agree with @brookert615. I don’t think anyone will ask you to leave. I don’t think you’re a bad person. If you want to stick around I’m personally fine with that! I appreciate you owning up to everything and I’m sorry that you’ve had some rough times. 

Edit to add tag 

tyrion_

My confession is that I totally forgot what I was going to to say because something way more interesting is happening here. 

BRB I have a rabbit hole to fall down. 

b_1029

@verydisgruntledpelican0091 agreed with what @brookert615 said. I’m not sure if you’re expecting us to create a poll or what, but that’s not going to happen. I may have been a bit snarky in my initial post but I’m not a total b*tch. I think everyone will just have to proceed however they feel comfortable. 

verydisgruntledpelican0091

@b_1029 god no I don’t think you were being rude or anything. I was waiting for someone to bring it up honestly. I know I should have and that’s on me. 

If everyone’s ok with the idea I’ll stick around to learn and love tit and of course root for everyone’s success because as I said you all are wonderful. 

I know what I did in the past was wrong, and I’m glad it seems like no one hates me or anything lol. That’s appreciated. 

shamrocandroll

@verydisgruntledpelican0091 Yeah, if this were a private group, then it would likely be a different story, but since this is technically a public board, then I don't think there is any real way we can "vote you out".  I think you hold the ultimate decision on that one.  I would just encourage you to be as open and honest about your past history, and what's true and what's not.  Some of us who have gone through your past posts might have a tough time remembering which stories are true and which ones are not for a while.  Also some of us may be wary of you and might not engage much with you after this, and you'll have to come to terms with that if you want to continue to participate here.  Thanks again for the honesty.

ETA wordage

whitealbum29

@verydisgruntledpelican0091 I agree that I don't think a real vote will happen. It does seem like a situation where everyone has to decide for themselves how or if they'll trust you going forward and how much/whether they'll interact with you. But if you feel like the community is helpful to you I'm not going to tell you to leave when you're looking for people to talk to about TTGP. Maybe for some it won't be possible to move past, maybe you'll build up trust with others and there are always new people joining so those interactions could be an opportunity for a fresh start.

ETA - I also respect that you came clean right away and am truly sorry for the rough times you've had, and wish you the best either way.

mercury94

@verydisgruntledpelican0091 So, I nominated you for most ridiculous stories mostly because I knew about the previous posts and because some of the things you’ve posted have seemed a bit suspect given that knowledge. I’m not saying you’re lying about recent experiences. Just that, knowing you have lied about similar experiences in the past makes me more suspicious of everything you say. I’m also not going to ask anyone to leave this board. People do dumb things. Doesn’t mean they are bad people. I know I did some dumb stuff when I was younger too. But, fertility struggles are very personal. While I’m open about them in my life now, I haven’t always been and I can see where there might be a resistance to trust people when we are discussing very personal things. And, I imagine that you will get some strange responses because of your history. Just expect that if you keep participating. People may be less sympathetic and more suspicious. I do respect that you came clean. That’s way more than I’ve gotten from anyone who acted similarly on groups I’ve been in previously. 

mercury94

Also, my FFFC is that my boss is out of town, so I wore sandals to work.

kiki047

verydisgruntledpelican0091 said:

@b_1029 god no I don’t think you were being rude or anything. I was waiting for someone to bring it up honestly. I know I should have and that’s on me. 

If everyone’s ok with the idea I’ll stick around to learn and love tit and of course root for everyone’s success because as I said you all are wonderful. 

I know what I did in the past was wrong, and I’m glad it seems like no one hates me or anything lol. That’s appreciated. 

@verydisgruntledpelican0091 nobody hates you. At the end of the day, this is still a public forum and whether you participate or not, this is a lesson to all of us that anyone can come and read what we tell each other. We can't tell you to stay or go, that'll be up to you to decide how you respectfully want to move on. 

verydisgruntledpelican0091

I appreciate everyone’s responses and I’m sorry for turning this FFFC into an apology post. 
i agree with everything everyone’s said and I will just tread lightly.
thanks again for not voting me off the board 😃

lulu1180

verydisgruntledpelican0091 said:

I appreciate everyone’s responses and I’m sorry for turning this FFFC into an apology post. 
i agree with everything everyone’s said and I will just tread lightly.
thanks again for not voting me off the board 😃

No one would have done this because it would be against TOU and no one wants to get a warning, or worse - banned, over doing so.  

b_1029

Between this and my general lack of motivation today (4 beers last night = apparently I'm hungover, didn't sleep well, my boss and coworker aren't in the office, I spent almost the whole morning getting upgraded to effing windows 10 and can't find anything / was trying to put my programs and access back together) = I still have yet to do anything for work and it's 2:03

brookert615

@b_1029 Kind of the same. Doing reports I was supposed to do Monday... 

keikilove

I am super late to this party but @verydisgruntledpelican0091 I was surprised when I saw your comment that you were a bit sad that you got “Most ridiculous life stories”. All I could think was, Didn’t you discover that your boyfriend had testicular cancer AND you had a bleeding disorder that the doctors didn’t treat for who knows how long and you got so anemic that you developed pica and wanted to drink bleach?! I was like, Dang, girl! It’s clear to see why you’d earned that award from those two stories alone!

But now I’m wondering how much of that was true.

I appreciate you owning up to it. I fully agree with all the other comments made here.

verydisgruntledpelican0091

@keikilove
i don’t have a way to get medical records I don’t think but all of what you said was honestly true. But I realize not everyone’s going to believe me and I have to accept that’s ok. 

lulu1180

My FFFC is that I'm trying to get some work done but the Britney playlist I'm currently listening to on YouTube is distracting me and I just want to sit here and watch her videos for the next hour-ish