@kagesstarshroom Thanks! My cab/ride share experience is so limited, and neither of us really knew the protocol. I was ahead of my colleague, in that at least I knew how to get the app on my phone. Baby steps.😂
Sorry Kels, but I don't think I can trust you again. There's just SO much in your 'previous life' that makes me concerned. Your young age coupled with the 2 kids you may or may not have, with your several losses that you may or may not have, and your BF's cancer while TTCAL, and drinking bleach and the whole thing. It's really just... a lot. You're trying to cherry pick saying which parts are true and which aren't, and you can't really do that.
The fact that someone who supposedly has experienced as much as you have, would go back to an old SN, see the old things/alias/whatever you wanna call your 'old' life, and assume that it'd be fine to just supposedly be who you are 'now' with all that 'old' history and that it's just OK is really just... not OK. Like... WTF could you have possibly been thinking with that? That we'll just be like "Cool, so you totes faked having a few kids and all this drama, but it's all fun now?"
Since I don't know which parts are true and which aren't (assuming ANY of it is real/true), I have to discount the entire thing. You're saying you made up the 'kids' from years ago as fake, but you also don't tend to talk like a loss mom, which makes me feel like you're faking your losses. Maybe you're not, and maybe it's all real but at this point... I can't trust you. And people who fake a loss or surmise they had a loss with NO indications to the contrary (I.E. I was 2 days late and my period seemed heavier than normal and I had sore nipples which I NEVER had before, so I MUST have been PG and am currently having a MC) make me especially RAGEY.
Your old posts make you seem like a bored teenager seeking attention, and with your recent 'life' stories it doesn't seem like you've matured since then. You create extreme stories to get attention so you can escape your inane life, and that makes you a terrible user in a community like this. Again, we can't 'kick you off' so you can stay or go as you please. But I for one have taken many things you've said with a grain of salt, especially since you came back with this older SN (that I personally remember popping up occasionally from years ago).
Also, back to my original point... if you've even remotely faked or exaggerated your MCs... that is NOT OK and never will be and I don't care how many old ladies a person helps to cross a street, that is something that marks you as pure evil and one of the worst types of people in the world.
Sorry I'm late to the party... My confession: I was off work all of last week and busy with my garage sale and appointments that I didn't get on to this board. Also I don't participate in TTCAL for the same reasons as @NYTino24
As for Kels. I found her social media on FB & Instagram a couple weeks ago after doing some digging. I 100% believe she is a real person, her pictures of her pups and her she posted here match up with the social media as well as some other things. However, I think she has a lot of growing up to do and is the type of person that lives for drama and attention (which says a lot more about her than us). So much that she will stretch the truth and make up stories, but also have some truth to some stories. Every time I read some crazy story since I joined, I assumed it was elaborated, with possibly a little truth mixed in. So it was my view to just take all of her posts as entertainment and with a grain of salt. I guess my IRL experience with one of my husband and I's childhood friends opened my eyes. He is a good person, but is a pathological liar and will stretch the truth. So having an actual friendship (acquaintance now) with someone like that makes me think Kels is probably similar. Also my brother's fiancee, who just came into our lives a year and a half ago, is similar too. In fact the first day I met her, *TW* she was pregnant with my brother's child at the time, she told me she has had 15 losses. As someone who has had 1 loss, I didn't believe she had that many, but thought she probably had at least 1 end *TW* So I guess, I have no problem if she stays, but just don't believe/trust everything she says.
@m6agua - agreed....I learned a few weeks ago that there were weird inconsistencies in her stories, felt dumb for having interacted with her and given her advice, and stopped talking to her and reading her posts. I figured there are a lot of us here and it takes work to keep up with even people's straightforward and easy-to-understand/believe stories and backgrounds...keeping track of her maybe-partially-real stuff was just not worth the time and effort.
@m6agua well said. I feel the same way. Like I believe she's the kind of immature, selfish person who will take 8 hour baths but maybe the crap about bleeding for 18 months straight and being on bed rest for 6 months was a bit of a stretch? I found it all very entertaining, but again, I also assumed it was almost entirely made up by a childish, bored, attention-seeking wannabe. What shocked me the most was that she actually owned up to it and didn't try to lie her way out of it like last time.
TTC History:
Me: 36 MH: 39, TTC since Dec 2017
Aug '18: PCOS dx
Nov '18: MH SA - 19mil
Dec '18-Mar '19: Letrozole + TI - all BFN
Apr '19: Letrozole + TI, - BFN. Repeat SA (27mil) & DNA fragmentation test (17%)
Honestly, the whole thing ended up bugging me so bad that I wanted to delete all my info. I’ve been on here awhile now—like many of you—and have shared a ton of personal stuff. It creeps me out to no end that some people come here purely for fun & attention. There have been other catfish I’ve seen get discovered over my time here but none bothered me so much as this one.
TTC #1: May 2011 BFP: 10/27/2011 | EDD: 6/30/12 DS born 6/28/12 via C/S
TTC #2: September 2018 Me: 36 | DH: 39 Mirena removed 9/13/2018 after 6 years BFP 11/11/2018 | MC @ 5.5 weeks on Thanksgiving July 2019 - Diagnosed with Secondary Unexplained IF August 2019 - 2.5 mg of Letrozole = Never Ovulated so Trigger and IUI were cancelled 9/30/2019 - IUI #1 (5 mg of Letrozole + Trigger) = BFP but Betas showed CP @ 4 weeks 10/28/2019 - IUI #2 (7.5mg of Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN 11/25/2019 - IUI #3 (7.5mg of Letrozole, Trigger + Crinone after IUI) = BFN 12/24/2019 - IUI #4 (7.5mg of Letrozole + Crinone after IUI) = BFN 1/24/2020 - IUI #5 (50mg of Clomid + Trigger + Crinone after IUI) = BFN and an Ovarian Cyst 3/2/2020 - Taking a break to reset/NTNP 11/1/2020 - At peace with where things are in life and are no long actively TTC. Whatever happens will happen and it will all be okay.
I've been on these kind of boards for 15 years now ( ). The crazies/catfish always end up being outed. What I've learned from this is that nobody has so much drama happening in their life and happily discusses it. Nobody.
TTC#1 10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml) 11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged 1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele 4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery 6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020 Baby girl born 2/27/2020 7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
Re: Flame Free Friday Confessions 5/31/19
married 11.1.14
ttc #1 since 5.18
bfp 12.22.18 letrozole + progesterone
d&e due to trisomy 13/hydrops at 15wks
bfp 7.21.19 letrozole + IUI
little girl A born 3.26.20
Anyway, this whole thing regarding @verydisgruntledpelican0091 makes me feel emotionally confused.
Sorry Kels, but I don't think I can trust you again. There's just SO much in your 'previous life' that makes me concerned. Your young age coupled with the 2 kids you may or may not have, with your several losses that you may or may not have, and your BF's cancer while TTCAL, and drinking bleach and the whole thing. It's really just... a lot. You're trying to cherry pick saying which parts are true and which aren't, and you can't really do that.
The fact that someone who supposedly has experienced as much as you have, would go back to an old SN, see the old things/alias/whatever you wanna call your 'old' life, and assume that it'd be fine to just supposedly be who you are 'now' with all that 'old' history and that it's just OK is really just... not OK. Like... WTF could you have possibly been thinking with that? That we'll just be like "Cool, so you totes faked having a few kids and all this drama, but it's all fun now?"
Since I don't know which parts are true and which aren't (assuming ANY of it is real/true), I have to discount the entire thing. You're saying you made up the 'kids' from years ago as fake, but you also don't tend to talk like a loss mom, which makes me feel like you're faking your losses. Maybe you're not, and maybe it's all real but at this point... I can't trust you. And people who fake a loss or surmise they had a loss with NO indications to the contrary (I.E. I was 2 days late and my period seemed heavier than normal and I had sore nipples which I NEVER had before, so I MUST have been PG and am currently having a MC) make me especially RAGEY.
Your old posts make you seem like a bored teenager seeking attention, and with your recent 'life' stories it doesn't seem like you've matured since then. You create extreme stories to get attention so you can escape your inane life, and that makes you a terrible user in a community like this. Again, we can't 'kick you off' so you can stay or go as you please. But I for one have taken many things you've said with a grain of salt, especially since you came back with this older SN (that I personally remember popping up occasionally from years ago).
Also, back to my original point... if you've even remotely faked or exaggerated your MCs... that is NOT OK and never will be and I don't care how many old ladies a person helps to cross a street, that is something that marks you as pure evil and one of the worst types of people in the world.
ETA: smaller GIFs. Thanks @lulu1180
As for Kels. I found her social media on FB & Instagram a couple weeks ago after doing some digging. I 100% believe she is a real person, her pictures of her pups and her she posted here match up with the social media as well as some other things. However, I think she has a lot of growing up to do and is the type of person that lives for drama and attention (which says a lot more about her than us). So much that she will stretch the truth and make up stories, but also have some truth to some stories. Every time I read some crazy story since I joined, I assumed it was elaborated, with possibly a little truth mixed in. So it was my view to just take all of her posts as entertainment and with a grain of salt. I guess my IRL experience with one of my husband and I's childhood friends opened my eyes. He is a good person, but is a pathological liar and will stretch the truth. So having an actual friendship (acquaintance now) with someone like that makes me think Kels is probably similar. Also my brother's fiancee, who just came into our lives a year and a half ago, is similar too. In fact the first day I met her, *TW* she was pregnant with my brother's child at the time, she told me she has had 15 losses. As someone who has had 1 loss, I didn't believe she had that many, but thought she probably had at least 1 end *TW* So I guess, I have no problem if she stays, but just don't believe/trust everything she says.
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019TTC History:
Me: 36 MH: 39, TTC since Dec 2017
Aug '18: PCOS dx
Nov '18: MH SA - 19mil
Dec '18-Mar '19: Letrozole + TI - all BFN
Apr '19: Letrozole + TI, - BFN. Repeat SA (27mil) & DNA fragmentation test (17%)
Aug '19: Letrozole + HCG trigger + IUI + prog supp - BFN (MH: 16mil)
Sep '19: 2nd IUI, same protocol - BFN (MH: 16mil)
Dec '19: IVF #1 w/ICSI, PGT. 5 retrieved, 4 fertilized, 3 blasts, 3 PGT-A normal.
Mar '20: FET #1, perfect 5AA blast transferred. BFN.
Sept '20: FET #2, 5BB tsf. 9/18/20 BFP!! EDD: 5/27/21. MMC 11w
Feb ‘21: FET #3, last 6BB blast transferred. BFP, EDD 11/2/21. MC 5w3d.
May '21: IVF #2 w/ICSI, PGT. 8R, 7M, 6F, 6 blasts - 3AB, 3AB, 3BB, 4BB, 5BB, 6BA. Fresh tsf 5/13/21 - BFN.
June '21: PGT-A results = 3 abnormal, 1 low level mosaic. Referred to new REI, had consult with 2nd RE in between.
Sept '21: RPL, immune testing normal
Oct '21: IVF #3 w/IMSI, PGT. 33R, 26M, 23F, 9 blasts (7 day 6, 2 day 7). PGT-A = 5 normal, 1 mosaic
Dec '21: Positive for endometritis, RX Flagyl & Keflex
Jan '22: FET #5 - Kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol incl. PRP, intralipids, prednisone, medrol, nivestym, fragmin - CP
Feb '22: FET #6 - Kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol w/higher doses of pred & fragmin - BFN
Mar '22: Mock cycle for ERA - cancelled, repeat endometrial biopsy instead. Still positive for endometritis. RX ciprofloxacin & amoxicillin.
Apr '22: IVF #4 w/IMSI, PGT. 28R, 23M, 16F, 11 blasts. PGT-A = 6 normal.
June '22: FET #7 - Microdose lupron downreg w/kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol - double embryo transfer. BFN.
July '22: FET #8 - Mini stim w/Puregon + trigger, kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol. BFN.
Sep '22: Taking a break
Dec '22: Attempted abdominal myomectomy, fibroid too close to cervix and major blood vessels. Wasn't removed.
Feb '23: FET #9 - Modified natural w/baby asp, HCG trigger, PIO, PRP, Medrol, HCG wash, embryo glue - BFP!! EDD 11/11/23
BFP: 10/27/2011 | EDD: 6/30/12
DS born 6/28/12 via C/S
TTC #2: September 2018
Me: 36 | DH: 39
Mirena removed 9/13/2018 after 6 years
BFP 11/11/2018 | MC @ 5.5 weeks on Thanksgiving
July 2019 - Diagnosed with Secondary Unexplained IF
August 2019 - 2.5 mg of Letrozole = Never Ovulated so Trigger and IUI were cancelled
9/30/2019 - IUI #1 (5 mg of Letrozole + Trigger) = BFP but Betas showed CP @ 4 weeks
10/28/2019 - IUI #2 (7.5mg of Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN
11/25/2019 - IUI #3 (7.5mg of Letrozole, Trigger + Crinone after IUI) = BFN
12/24/2019 - IUI #4 (7.5mg of Letrozole + Crinone after IUI) = BFN
1/24/2020 - IUI #5 (50mg of Clomid + Trigger + Crinone after IUI) = BFN and an Ovarian Cyst
3/2/2020 - Taking a break to reset/NTNP
11/1/2020 - At peace with where things are in life and are no long actively TTC. Whatever happens will happen and it will all be okay.
I've been on these kind of boards for 15 years now (
10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml)
11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged
1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele
4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery
6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020
7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
TTC #2
9/07/2021: BFP - CP: 9/10/2021
10/07/2021: BFP - CP: 10/23/2021
12/23/2021: BFP! EDD: 08/31/2022
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
J14 still votes she's a nutty bird y'all. Also good luck with your babies and everything
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12210228/x/p2