@lin0442, I had a seriously hard time my first pregnancy because my boss would make daily negative comments about kids and how my life was gonna be over. It was a big source of my depression and anxiety during that time. If people around you continue to make those comments, either distance yourself or come up with something sassy to say back so they realize how not okay it is!
@sheepshepherdess, that card is adorable and I'm glad you have support around you! I'm feeling the love lately with some other mom friends I have; one asked me if I would accept food from them for post-delivery (uh, duh, free food?!), and two others have offered to help take DS1 or something if I need a break. It's good to find a community.
It's funny how people (who don't have kids) say things like that (oh your life is over, it will never be the same, etc). You're right, it's never going to be the same. It's so much better. Even though there are frustrating/annoying times (like when the toddler screams for reasons you can't understand), she (soon to be they) are the best parts of my day. When they wake up they are excited to see me, when I come home the first thing I hear is "Mommy's home!" and she runs up to me, gives me a hug and says "you're back!" Why would anyone want their lives to go back to what they were before kids? (Don't get me wrong, I dream about a solo vacation to Mexico for 4 days by myself but I wouldn't trade my babies for anything!)
STMs, I’m needing advice on nursing bra sizing. Pre-preg I was a 32 band and now I’m in a 38 with an extender! Does your ribcage stay expanded? I know my boobs will probably get even bigger when the milk comes, but I’m just wondering what size I should buy, or if I should just wait until LO is born to order?
@suchagoodone your rib cage will definitely shrink at least some. Before having babies I was a 28 rib cage. After a few months out from pregnancy, and going forward until now I was a 30. I bought a molded-cup nursing bra in a 32 and I’m using an expander with it right now, but I fully expect it will fit fine without the expander pretty quickly. I haven’t bought any more nursing bras. I’ll probably buy two more soft ones (unmolded) before the baby arrives, then invest in at least one more molded one after 6 months once my milk supply and boob size settle down a little.
@mrstmoose - it is so hard to share how amazing being a parent is to non-parents. Yes my life is complicated and frustrating and frankly it's fucking hard. I knew before kids that I would love them more than anything but you can't really fathom that kind of love until you have it. DD is 2.5 now and I really love this age. She is starting to tell me stories about her day and express her feelings much more clearly. It's pretty amazing!
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
It's been a shitty day so far (I feel like a whale and have VERY FEW work appropriate things to wear anymore, DC drop off left DS and I both in tears, traffic was garbage) and now I just realized that I didn't bring any Pepcid to work and I have a lunch today so I can't even run out and pick any up and I am MISERABLE.
@kyashley1227 glad you heard some good news!! So sorry you're dealing with this for a third time though!!
+1 to being annoyed with the "kids change everything" comments. Like, we know? Don't you think we talked about this?? We are trying to prepare, why try to freak me out about something I'm already stressing over??
Only two more weeks of work and we will officially be moving!! Can't believe how crazy this month has become. DH has been delayed in going back out if the country because of some serious civil unrest and violence in the country he was supposed to go to... His return is now delayed until further notice. I'm glad he is here and safe, but it makes me so worried that he will eventually have to go back!!!
@sheepshepherdess@kangstadt@mrstmoose@frenchfrymama I’m glad I’m not the only one, I guess. The weird thing is is that I don’t even think they’re trying to scare me or anything- it’s usually imparted as this ~extremely wise advice~. So I’m stuck thinking ‘Yeah? Did you NOT think having a tiny (and expensive) person entirely dependent on you would radically change things?’. It’s such a pointless thing to say.
@frenchfrymama Good luck with the move! I hope your husband’s work travel plans smooth out nicely for the both of you.
@mermaidca I have several meetings today that I need to handle for maternity leave. I'm also trying to save up as much PTO as possible. I'll have 6 months at the end of the year that I need to be able to cover any child sicknesses that may come between three kids ha.
@kyashley1227 Oh no! Hope they get everything sorted and you feel better soon. Keep us posted.
I have been doing really well emotionally for most of this pregnancy, but I’ve come crashing down the last few weeks. I’m wondering if it’s because March 5 is the day my brother died last year, and I’m unfortunately starting to recall everything that happened in the weeks leading up to it. So cliche, but I know he wouldn’t want me feeling this way. And I can’t just wallow right back into grief with a baby coming so soon. So I’m going to try and stay positive this week. Today was already off to a decent start. Barely slept last night, but DH and I got tacos this morning and ran errands. He bought a jacket for LO for the coming winter. Pointless purchase because she won’t need this for ages, but he was so excited.
I'm sorry to hear you're having a tough time. I'm sure you've talked about your brother before, but I must've forgotten he passed just last year. The 1 year anniversary of my sister's death is May 3, and I, too, have really come crashing down the last few weeks - although it's still a few months away, I've been getting anxious as to how I'm going to handle the anniversary coupled with taking care of a 3 week old. I know these situations are all different, but you're not alone! I really feel for you. Life just really isn't fair sometimes, and the baby just feels so bittersweet. I wish my sister would've been able to meet him/her and I'm sure you feel the same. Big hugs to you.
Thanks so much ladies! I just got back from ultrasound and the good news is he’s measuring 34 weeks (I’m currently 32 based on lmp) and is estimated to be 5 lbs 8 oz. Since we’re getting steroid shots for his lungs it’s possible they may feel more confident with a early delivery. Still hoping we can keep him baking a few more weeks! Oh, and he’s NOT breech! Yay!
Forgive me for being too lazy to scroll back through and figure out who to tag. This is the most “Monday” Tuesday ever. But thank you all so much for the support. I am constantly so grateful for this community. Being kind to myself is easier said than done, but I will definitely do my best. @rennie1108, I’m sorry you’re in a position of grief too. We’ll get through this. ❤️ @MRDCle sorry to hear your day has been crappy. But you’re soooo close to being done working!! If I were you, I’d treat myself today.
Here's some happy vibes to all of you having a bad day!! We finally submitted a manuscript for publication!! This is results from experiments that I started running in 2016 and a text that has been in the making for the last year. Such a relief to finally send it in! Now we can be happy about it for at least a month before the reviews come back (ha!). Sorry, just had to share the excitement! Something to distract me from my excruciating pelvic girdle pain.
Just got back from my 32 week appt. and after several rechecks I’m only measuring 30 weeks so I need to have an ultrasound tomorrow to check growth and my amniotic fluid levels. Since I have a history of low fluid (DDs got too low and I had to be induced) they want to get everything checked out. Oh I’m not leaking fluid(they tested) but I have bacterial vaginosis again!
Here’s a random funny of the day. I got stuck in my driveway on my way home from the doctor lol DH- “I think I MIGHT bring home the plow truck tonight” Me- “Umm...I don’t think ‘might’ is an option. I’m stuck halfway up our driveway....” You can’t tell I’m the picture but our driveway is 1/4 mile long and I’m stuck on an incline (too icy and I couldn’t get traction
After feeling overwhelmed by pretty much everything today, I decided to sit and do some online shopping for LO. I’ve been window shopping for baby clothes, but not buying much. Tonight DH and I went through all the baby boy clothes on Kohl’s website and got LO some cute pieces and some pajama sets for when he’s a little bigger (from experience, we know both our families tend to get smaller outfits when a new baby arrives so we want to try to avoid having way too much small stuff with nothing larger). Between everything being marked down and two coupons they have available online (and some Kohl’s cash we had), we were able to save almost $150.
And I finally knocked “wash baby’s bedding” off my to-do list because it’s just been sitting here staring at me for weeks. Feeling a little more accomplished than I started out today.
@kyashley1227 so happy to hear good news! Still keeping you in my thoughts.
@sheepshepherdess that’s such a cute card and very sweet of her! I’ve been surprised too by people’s generosity - DH’s old boss bought the carrier that DH wanted when he left his old job, it was very sweet and unexpected.
@lilpotatomama@rennie1108 keeping you both in my thoughts as you come up on these hard anniversaries. ❤️
@MRDCle it must be something in the air because today was so shitty. My best friend always says Mondays get a bad rep, but Tuesdays are actually the worst. Hang in there.
@blueberrymomma hopefully baby is just a little on the small side. Keep us updated! I’m having the exact opposite issue, with my doctors constantly making me (I believe unintentionally) completely overwhelmed and self conscious because LO is measuring big (and has been my whole pregnancy).
Re: Life Will Never Be the Same. Honestly, enough people said this to me the first time around that I was expecting a post-apocalyptic wasteland. Once the first crazy couple of months went by, I was pleasantly surprised by how much the things that really mattered went back to normal at the core (not sure how else to describe it.) And frankly kind of glad to be rescued from thinking some of the things that never went back that I initially resented were really important (such as staying at bars late into the night and/or getting to waste a ton of time watching TV in peace.) I eventually came to the conclusion that these were either people who had LEGIT unusually hard experiences, your garden-variety know-it-alls, or, yeah, people who just hadn't thought it through...
Also hugs to @blueberrymomma and @rennie1108! I feel like the past month or so hasn't been very kind to this board. Here's hoping that as spring comes in everyone gets a break.
On a lighter note, @sheepshepherdess: Probably TMI, but, while I don't remember any major archaeological excavations, before DD I did have a suuuuuper deep innie that required some maintenance. It never quite went back and I can't say I miss the crevasse.
Update: So yesterday afternoon they were optimistic that I could go home today and wait this out with bedrest and every other day office visits. Well fast forward to last night I started having monitorable contractions and ended up hooked up to all kinds of meds and told I was in preterm labor. Aka the preeclampsias way to get baby out. Fast forward to this morning there’s been lots of doctors and nurses in and out of our room and it’s looking like as of right now the plan is to deliver today and at the very most try to ride it out for another week on hospital bedrest. Guys, I’m a such a loss right now. I know he’ll be fine. Everything about him looks great. It’s my body fighting. If you don’t mind just keep Noah and I in your prayers please. 💙💗
@kyashley1227 thinking and praying about you and the whole family. Please also feel free to start a new thread so we can keep track of you through all this. Love to you and Noah.
@kyashley1227: I will most definitely pray for you and baby, for wisdom for the doctors, for Christ in his suffering to be close to you in yours, and for the best possible outcome. We are rooting for you!
@kyashley1227 ALL the hugs and prayers. See if the neonatologist can get into your room to give you a quick rundown this morning of what to expect for Noah - but in a nutshell don’t expect to be cuddling or anything immediately after delivery. You didn’t get a chance to tour the NICU or anything but that’s okay, neither did I and we sorted it out just fine. It’s going to be a huge learning curve but you’ve got this, just like many people before you and (unfortunately) many after you. Attend rounds, ask questions, and read up on everything you can. Fingers crossed for a healthy babe and healthy mama coming out of this!
Re: Randoms w/o 2/11
@sheepshepherdess, that card is adorable and I'm glad you have support around you! I'm feeling the love lately with some other mom friends I have; one asked me if I would accept food from them for post-delivery (uh, duh, free food?!), and two others have offered to help take DS1 or something if I need a break. It's good to find a community.
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@kyashley1227 glad you heard some good news!! So sorry you're dealing with this for a third time though!!
+1 to being annoyed with the "kids change everything" comments. Like, we know? Don't you think we talked about this?? We are trying to prepare, why try to freak me out about something I'm already stressing over??
Only two more weeks of work and we will officially be moving!! Can't believe how crazy this month has become. DH has been delayed in going back out if the country because of some serious civil unrest and violence in the country he was supposed to go to... His return is now delayed until further notice. I'm glad he is here and safe, but it makes me so worried that he will eventually have to go back!!!
@frenchfrymama Good luck with the move! I hope your husband’s work travel plans smooth out nicely for the both of you.
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
@MRDCle I'm jealous of your PTO bank situation.
@rennie1108, I’m sorry you’re in a position of grief too. We’ll get through this. ❤️
@MRDCle sorry to hear your day has been crappy. But you’re soooo close to being done working!! If I were you, I’d treat myself today.
DH- “I think I MIGHT bring home the plow truck tonight”
Me- “Umm...I don’t think ‘might’ is an option. I’m stuck halfway up our driveway....”
You can’t tell I’m the picture but our driveway is 1/4 mile long and I’m stuck on an incline (too icy and I couldn’t get traction
Not to be weird, but... anyone else busy cleaning out decades-old bellybutton goop? I’m still an innie, but this is not everyday lint anymore!
And I finally knocked “wash baby’s bedding” off my to-do list because it’s just been sitting here staring at me for weeks. Feeling a little more accomplished than I started out today.
@kyashley1227 so happy to hear good news! Still keeping you in my thoughts.
@sheepshepherdess that’s such a cute card and very sweet of her! I’ve been surprised too by people’s generosity - DH’s old boss bought the carrier that DH wanted when he left his old job, it was very sweet and unexpected.
@lilpotatomama @rennie1108 keeping you both in my thoughts as you come up on these hard anniversaries. ❤️
@MRDCle it must be something in the air because today was so shitty. My best friend always says Mondays get a bad rep, but Tuesdays are actually the worst. Hang in there.
@blueberrymomma hopefully baby is just a little on the small side. Keep us updated! I’m having the exact opposite issue, with my doctors constantly making me (I believe unintentionally) completely overwhelmed and self conscious because LO is measuring big (and has been my whole pregnancy).
On a lighter note, @sheepshepherdess: Probably TMI, but, while I don't remember any major archaeological excavations, before DD I did have a suuuuuper deep innie that required some maintenance. It never quite went back and I can't say I miss the crevasse.
T&Ps and good vibes and everything crossed for you guys!
prevously helloblueeyes
Me:32 DH:33 Married:04/2012 DD:07/2014
BFP 8/14/2018 #2 due 4/18/2019
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019