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kosmo86

kosmo86

Happy Monday! 

If I don't take unisom I can't really sleep at night. If I take take it I am groggy until Noon. WTAF. 

We were at Disney World this weekend on Saturday and walking around is getting so hard! I also really hate seeing pictures of myself. I hate how wide I look. UGH. 10 more weeks

MRDCle

DS's bday was Saturday and I think it's going to take me a week to recover physically and mentally. We kind of used this weekend as a last hurrah as a fam of three (since we don't know how many more weekends we'll have with DH off work and inside babies still) and it was so lovely but holy shit so DS-centric that I'm really just SO burnt out. 

Also, on Friday when I picked him up from DC they tell me that he's the Student of the Week this week. Yay! Right? Except, that entailed us toting around a stuffed frog all weekend, taking pics of him and the frog, printing the pics, writing a journal entry on behalf of said frog, and making a poster of pics of DS and his family and things he likes to do. 

Actual pic of me doing all this arts and crafts BS in the spoilers.

mrstmoose

@mrdcle next time you should pass on him being student of the week. That sounds like way too much shit to do.

professormama

@MRDCle ughhhhh. wtf is with schools creating additional work for parents? I'm 100% on board with participating in my child's education, but I don't see what educational value anyone is getting out of that project you described. I LOVE that right now my son goes to a daycare that expects basically zero parental involvement. They have various holiday parties for the kids, and they do all kinds of cool educational stuff (the school celebrated Chinese Lunar New Year last week, all the children made paper lanterns and even got Hongbao). But they don't make ANY of it the job of the parents. It's freaking amazing. I don't even have to make my kid a decorated valentine's day bag/box - they just sent home a letter that basically said "you're welcome to do valentines from your kid any time in the next week if you want, just make sure to put your child's name on it. No need to specifically address it to the other children in the class, just bring enough if you decide to do this." Zero pressure. 

MRDCle

mrstmoose said:

@mrdcle next time you should pass on him being student of the week. That sounds like way too much shit to do.

"Oh...no thank you." I would have loved that but he would have been crushed. He was SO excited to bring the damn frog home. I would have been better with it had they given me some warning. I'm not the crafting type so like...posterboard isn't something I have on hand. And like, two weeks from now he's spending the whole weekend across town with my SIL. What if they had picked that weekend for him? Just make up a calendar and send it out!

MRDCle

@professormama it's a new teacher. She's shaking things up. The most I've had to do was bring in some plates for a Halloween party before which is doable. That was my biggest issue. My kid is four - he's not writing this journal entry. I am. What's he gaining from this??

professormama

@MRDCle ummm yeah no. Mine is 4 too, I'd be soooo annoyed if I got sent home with an assignment like that. If the teacher plans to do more of that kind of crap, I would politely explain that those kinds of projects are sweet but a lot of work for your family, then ask for a calendar or advanced notice so that you can set aside time to complete them. 

mermaidca

@mrdcle that's so true.  He's four so he's obviously not printing the pictures and writing the entry.  Let him stand up there and tell the other kids what he did with the frog all weekend.  Like the other kids are going to read?!  Nice thought but not really age appropriate.

We were away in the mountains all weekend.  It was so great and our last trip as a family of four!  We went swimming, went to a wolf sanctuary, saw a ton of wildlife, scoped out some local shops and just hung out. The girls' birthday is next month so they'll have that as their last big thing before the baby comes.  I am getting a bit weepy thinking about that and all the work it will entail.  3 kids is a lot of kids haha.  Who thought this was a good idea?!?!  Still don't have a van, just my sedan....feeling under the pressure a bit.

TheSouffleGirl

I thought y'all might appreciate this picture of an elephant giving birth, which I came across while doing my Very Serious Medieval Research this morning:



(In case you can't tell, it is, in fact, a water birth.  Having a water birth is apparently the best way to save your tender young from being crisped by dragons?)

I have decided that Mama Elephant is my spirit animal. And I'm not even in labor yet.

kangstadt

@mermaidca, I'm glad I'm not the only one getting sentimental about the upcoming change in family dynamics!  DH doesn't seem to get it, and DS actually seems to be getting excited for baby brother, but I'm over here half crying cause my little baby won't be my only one anymore.  Ack.

After the craziness of this week is over, I'm hoping to have time to finally paint the nursery.  Fingers crossed.

kyashley1227

Not off to a great start to the week...currently spending the day in L&D. Elevated BP, protein in my urine, clammy feeling, fun times...

mermaidca

Keep us posted @kyashley1227!!!

professormama

@kyashley1227 oh no! I hope you're okay. 

mrstmoose

@kyashley1227 oh no! Keep us posted, hopefully everything is ok!

lilpotatomama

@kyashley1227 Oh no! Hope they get everything sorted and you feel better soon. Keep us posted. 

I have been doing really well emotionally for most of this pregnancy, but I’ve come crashing down the last few weeks. I’m wondering if it’s because March 5 is the day my brother died last year, and I’m unfortunately starting to recall everything that happened in the weeks leading up to it. 
So cliche, but I know he wouldn’t want me feeling this way. And I can’t just wallow right back into grief with a baby coming so soon. So I’m going to try and stay positive this week. Today was already off to a decent start. Barely slept last night, but DH and I got tacos this morning and ran errands. He bought a jacket for LO for the coming winter. Pointless purchase because she won’t need this for ages, but he was so excited. 

kosmo86

@lilpotatomama its ok to not be ok all the time. Anniversaries like that can bring up a lot of feelings. I will send positive vibes your way but know you can always vent to us here!

mermaidca

@lilpotatomama Sorry to hear about you're feeling that way.  You definitely need to acknowledge how you're feeling.
I love that your DH was so excited to buy the jacket.  That is so sweet,

TheSouffleGirl

@kyashley1227:  Oh no!!! But I'm so glad they found it and got you in a situation where you can receive the care you need.  Please please keep us posted as you're able!  

@lilpotatomama:  That's not cliche, that's human!  Hugs to you, and I'm so sorry about your brother. Don't put too much pressure on yourself.  Feelings are feelings, and it's good to grieve.  It means you love.

blueberrymomma

@lilpotatomama hugs! And those are my favorite jackets for the kiddos in fall/winter because they can wear them in the car seat. 

kyashley1227

We’ve been admitted to antepartum. Bloodwork, urine protein, and blood pressures show definite preeclampsia. This is now my third go around with this awful stuff. I’m feeling pretty defeated. We’re stable for now and I’m receiving a series of steroid shots for baby’s lungs and will be getting a growth ultrasound this evening or tomorrow. To add insult to injury they think he’s also breech. Not really sure what the plan is right now, kinda have to take it one day/hour at a time. But, I do know we’re in good hands and I’m glad I came in. 

mermaidca

So glad you went in too @kyashley1227!  I'm so sorry you're going through this, but you're right - you're in good hands!  Stay in there LO!

lyse01

@kyashley1227 ugh to antepartum, yay to steroids and u/s and close monitoring. And 32 weeks (right? You’re group 1, right?) is really a relatively safe time to deliver insofar as outcomes go, though obvi I hope it’s safe to keep the little one baking as long as possible! 

Feel free to PM me about anything hospitalization/preemie/NICU ❤️

thatbaintforbetty

@kyashley1227 I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this but it sounds like you’re definitely in good hands though. Fingers crossed they can keep him in a little while longer!

MRDCle

T&Ps @kyashley1227  Keep us updated. 

professormama

@kyashley1227 oh no! I'm so sorry. I'm glad you went in too. Please keep us updated. 

HGRich

@kyashley1227 oh no! So sorry. Thinking of you. Hope they can keep baby in there awhile. 

sheknows6

I'm so sorry you're going through this @kyashley1227 but really glad you went in! Hopefully they can keep that LO in there and you comfortable for as long as possible! 

jlklec19

@kyashley1227 keeping you & LO in my thoughts!!

TheSouffleGirl

@kyashley1227: A third time?! You are a trooper! Hang in there! 

blueberrymomma

@kyashley1227 positive thoughts for you and baby. Glad you are in good hands and hope baby can stay cooking a little longer 

sheepshepherdess

@kyashley1227 Glad they are doing everything they can, so sorry that you have to deal with this! Sending positive thoughts to you and baby.

kangstadt

@lilpotatomama, hugs and I hope you have some peaceful time to relax/reflect/remember the good times.  Anniversaries are always hard.  It's very sweet that your DH was excited to pick out a jacket .

@kyashley1227, sending good thoughts your way.  I hope baby stays safe and growing a few more weeks for you!

kyashley1227

Thanks so much ladies! I just got back from ultrasound and the good news is he’s measuring 34 weeks (I’m currently 32 based on lmp) and is estimated to be 5 lbs 8 oz. Since we’re getting steroid shots for his lungs it’s possible they may feel more confident with a early delivery. Still hoping we can keep him baking a few more weeks! Oh, and he’s NOT breech! Yay!

honey_suckle

@kyashley1227 I glad to hear you got some good news even though I understand it must be a stressful situation. Good luck with everything, and I hope the baby's lungs do a good job of speeding up maturation in case he comes early. 

lin0442

@kyashley1227 Sorry you’re dealing with this, but I’m glad things look good. 

Mini rant: I’m so sick of people saying ‘your life will never be the same!’ to me. Like, I understand that, but I just feel like it’s such vague and alarmist advice. What do you even do with it? I wish I got a dollar each time someone said it to me though...

sheepshepherdess

@lin0442 same! Mostly from my MIL, but random downer acquaintances too. It’s like, I understand things will be different, we’re preparing as best we can with the knowledge we have, so what’s the point of your comments? To make us super nervous about the whole thing? What does that accomplish? 

sheepshepherdess

Another really random random: I just got this card today from a friend who had fertility issues, an ectopic pregnancy, and never did have kids. She sent a bunch of coupons and gift cards (loaded with waaaaaayyy too much), and it’s breaking my heart and making me so grateful all at the same time. A whole bunch of folks have really surprised me with how much support they’ve already given this pregnancy.

sheepshepherdess

@kyashley1227 So so happy to hear good news! 

lyse01

@sheepshepherdess that is so sweet!

also, that kind of generosity makes me feel bad about how little I have gifted pregnant friends in the past.

sheepshepherdess

Honestly me too @lyse01. I’m making a resolution to at least express my physical and emotional support to any pregnant people in my life.