Randoms 12/31

lilpotatomama

New week, new randoms!
Anyone have fun plans for tonight?

lilpotatomama

I definitely don’t. I’ve been sidelined with a major cold, or at least I think it’s a cold. Coughing so hard my whole back hurts, congested, fever, the works. I’m going to go to my parents tonight and stuff my face with finger foods while DH is at work. 

batmama31

vent: today is my birthday. we are doing brunch this morning, and all month long leading up to MY BIRTHDAY, i have mentioned my favorite brunch spot. so last night, my husband is throwing out all of these other suggestions that aren’t my favorite spot. these are fancy spots that require reservations. and i just keep mentioning my favorite spot. and he says that he doesn’t think they’ll be open on a weekday & i remind him that we’ve brunched there before on weekdays. they are strictly a bunch spot. of course they’re open on a fucking weekday. but finally, i’m like, sure fancy spot sounds good. so this morning, we’re pulling out of the driveway and he’s like, “so where are we going?” 

WHAT. 

after some bickering, and me holding back, we head to my favorite spot. on the way, he nearly wrecks stopping in the middle of a left turn w/ traffic coming at us. so i react appropriately. he does not. commence shouting match on my fucking birthday. 

he apologizes after a time, but of course it’s a “i’m sorry, but-“ 

PSA: if you follow up ANY apology with ANYTHING- it’s not a fucking apology. 

i should’ve just let us wreck. 

lyse01

@batmama31 🤦🏻‍♀️

chrissdee

I feel like I'm perpetually running on empty. I want to stay up tonight and watch the ball drop and do the whole countdown thing and all. But sleep sounds way too good. I'm sure I'll be woken up by the neighbors setting off fireworks and my dogs going crazy because of it though. Never fails.

@batmama31 Happy birthday! Sorry it started off rough, but I hope brunch was good and that the day gets better from here.

thatbaintforbetty

@batmama31 Happy Birthday! I really hope the day gets better and that you super enjoyed brunch. 

@chrissdee I feel like that all the time too. I don’t know if I’m even going to try to stay up, I’m pretty sure DH is going disc golfing in the morning which means I gotta wake him up early. But I don’t have to work tomorrow so I could possibly get in a nap.

Truthfully I’m probably going to try for that nap anyways. I’ve been taking Benadryl when I’m home and have no where to go to try to combat this damn allergic reaction/hives but I don’t think think it’s doing much except making me super extra tired on top of my regular exhaustion. 

sheknows6

@batmama31 I hope the rest of your birthday went well!

DH and I are going to spend the evening with our friends that recently had their little girl on the 9th, and I'm going to try and take a nap here shortly so that I'll make it to midnight.

harveyisaboysname

@batmama31 happy birthday!!

we just got a huge shock this week. We are being kicked out as of March 1st. My parents decided to move states so they want to sell their house that we are renting rooms from them so they can buy a house for cash in Idaho. We literally pay pennies because that’s all we can afford because of DH’s debt. My grandma offered for us to rent her garage that she renovated into bedrooms years ago. We gladly accepted especially since it’s in a much safer neighborhood and is only a block from DD’s school. Here’s the kicker. My aunt filled up the rooms down there with soooooo much junk ( think hoarders buried alive) that we can’t even get to it to take measurements. We need to add a bathroom because the one in the main house is way too far from the garage. I somehow managed to climb over a pile of garbage to take pictures just to find that everything is covered in rat poop. My aunt refuses to dump any of it so I’m honestly at a loss of what to do. DH is handy so he can totally get started on fixing the place up for us but he needs all the garbage out of it to do that. If we don’t have at least a bathroom down there and heat by March 1st than we are homeless. Apartments around here are about $3500 and with me not having a job until baby is a few months old it’s just not do able at all. I’m tempted to just put a tiny house on the credit card and live in that. We are super minimalists so it’s not a big deal, just have no idea where the heck to park the thing around here. 

lyse01

@harveyisaboysname oof. First, tiny houses are cool and trailer parks might have a place to park. Your grandma might have land for it too? 

The rat rat poop sounds dangerous to pregnancy so definitely take precautions there. 

Maybe the aunt is overwhelmed by the project and can be convinced to go through things bit by bit with you? Does she have an alternative place to put things? Are there other relatives that might be able to put you up temporarily?

lilpotatomama

@batmama31 that’s so frustrating. I hate when I feel like DH just doesn’t listen. And I hate even MORE when he expects me to jusr “bounce back” after being irritated with him. I would have sat there and stewed too.

@harveyisaboysname no real advice here on how to deal with hoarders, but really hoping y’all are able to make the space work for you as soon as possible. 

Last night I was laying on the couch with DH. I sneezed, peed myself and ran out of the room. He walked in on me in our room, crying while staring into my underwear drawer. That was the SECOND time I’d peed myself that day, and easily the 4th this week. Cheers to incontinence 🎉

lyse01

Happy new year, ladies!

ysotte

Well the fireworks going off woke me up at exactly midnight and now I’m super wide awake 😆 Happy New Year! 

@harveyisaboysname yikes. My grandpa was a hoarder and we had to go through an entire house worth of just floor to ceiling piles of stuff when he passed away because he wouldn’t get rid of anything ever. Maybe you can convince your aunt to at the very least let you re-locate the stuff. Maybe get a cheap storage unit for it? Good luck! 

chrissdee

Happy New Year! DD woke me up at 11:59 and told me she pooped in her pullup, so I rang in the new year cleaning her up. Then I went to the bathroom and almost fell into the toilet because DH left the seat up again. Is this how 2019 is going to go for me? 

thatbaintforbetty

Worst nights sleep ever. Ugh. I fell asleep in my big leather chair, along with DD and the cat, and DH woke me up at about 11:15. Did make it past midnight and finally went to bed about one. But I couldn’t get comfy at all, just kept tossing and turning, DD kept getting me with her elbows and knees, fireworks kept going off. 

Today will be all about the naps. 

kaitykins

I went to sleep around 11 and woke up after 8 and my fit bit says I got only 7 hrs of sleep. Thank you pregnant bladder. 

jlklec19

I go back to work tomorrow and have accomplished exactly nothing off my to-do list except take a lot of naps. I’ve been kind of down on myself for not being more productive, but I also realized how much I really needed to catch up on sleep because I just haven’t been sleeping through the night. I have no idea how I can be so exhausted and be so unable to sleep. 

kangstadt

@batmama31, I would definitely be irritated too.  I hope the day got better for you.

@harveyisaboysname, I second the storage unit idea and sympathize.  I had to clear out a room in my parent's house to convert to a nursery for DS1, and it was floor to ceiling of stuff.  A lot of it did end up thrown out with much arguing, but som is stored in their attic.  I hope your aunt lets you guys help her clear out the junk or comes up with a solution.

@lilpotatomama, I definitely cried to my SO multiple times during my first pregnancy when I started peeing while coughing/sneezing etc.  I always hate when people say this, but... expect it to get worse before it gets better .  In my third trimester last time, I definitely full out peed myself after sneezing or something (like entirely running down my leg, not just a sniss).  Yeahhh...

I hope all of us get some much needed rest and I am right there with all of you ladies who can't get comfortable sleep.  With being off work this week and doing a lot of driving/sitting around reading, my sciatica has been miserable.  I've tried some yoga and stretching but sitting in the car right now is torture 

kaitykins

I’m so sad. 



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talks about about child loss........................................................................










I’ve  been following the Facebook blog of a family for nearly three years. Their daughter Clarissa  (who was born deaf blind) was about 5m older than my daughter. She died in her sleep today. My heart breaks for their family and I don’t even know what to do with the emotions. 

chrissdee

@kbirchtree That is heartbreaking. Thoughts and prayers for their family.

Back to work today. DD has been boycotting sleep. Send coffee.

kosmo86

@harveyisaboysname - Thats craziness. hopefully you guys find a good solution! Also its kind of F'd up timing on your parents part. They know you are having a kid and it is stressful. Why is it something they have to do RIGHT now?!

I am back to work after 11 days! it feels sooo weird! 

thatbaintforbetty

Does April all of a sudden seem a lot closer to anyone else?

Like that’s only 3 months. 3. What?!?

I. AM. NOT. READY. 

I actually am totally ready to not be pregnant anymore but I feel like I am in no way prepared for her to actually be here. 

MRDCle

thatbaintforbetty said:

Does April all of a sudden seem a lot closer to anyone else?

Like that’s only 3 months. 3. What?!?

I. AM. NOT. READY. 

I actually am totally ready to not be pregnant anymore but I feel like I am in no way prepared for her to actually be here. 

Can you hammer this through DH's head? We've got 80 days TOPS before we have more kids and he has A LOT left on his to-do list. Ya know. Like converting an attic to a bedroom. 

gollygeeitsamy

@thatbaintforbetty oh yeah, I’m like crap I gotta get my act together. I wanna get the nursery completed this month and I need to review my leave with HR and order my breast pump. I also need to get the infant car seat from my parents basement so we have it with us. 13 weeks seems far and short all at the same time. 

kosmo86

@thatbaintforbetty - it's the holidays! You get some consumed in them and then when they are over you are like oh yea there are important things coming! 

We actually painted the new nursery last week and we already had the furniture (from DD) so all of a sudden we have a nursery!

kosmo86

Did anyone else gain WAYYYY to much during the last 2 weeks. Not looking forward to my Doc appt this week!

gollygeeitsamy

@kosmo86 I haven't weighed myself cause I don't want to know! But since I'm now back at work it's going to be easier to eat better now that the holidays are over. Luckily my appt isn't until next Tuesday. 

batmama31

thank you, everyone for the sympathy and the birthday wishes! the day did get better. at least he listened at got me birthday cake for the first time in the 10yrs we've been together.

@harveyisaboysname, what awful timing on your family's part! can you corner your aunt & grandmother into pity w/ the pregnancy? that's totally what I would do. I'm sorry you're faced w/ this at this time

@jlklec19, same story here! I didn't work a full week for the entire month of december, and especially during this last 5-day weekend, I did absolutely nothing. I can't even do the dishes w/o husband's help these days! I was feeling down on myself yesterday for being so lazy and taking 2 naps during the day, but quickly justified myself w/ the horrible HORRIBLE sleep I've been getting lately. the house is a disaster and I'm just rolling w/ it. my new year's resolution is to lose about 30lbs in april and give no fucks about anything else.

mermaidca

Sorry to everyone having a rough time!  @harveyisaboysname I'm sure you will find a solution, but what a crummy predicament to be in right now.  @batmama31 Happy belated!  I'm glad you got some cake!!

My NYE was not fun haha.  My BIL and his family of four graciously invited themselves down to our house to spend the night, and they're not the kind who help out with cooking or cleaning and their kids annoy the hell out of me.  Apparently the 8 year old boy has been diagnosed with ADHD but the way they treat him almost feeds into it.  They have him so over stimulated with handheld video games or games on their phones.  They were visiting for one night and they each brought a phone, the kids had an iPad or video game and both parents brought laptops.  What!?  Then MIL (2 hour time zone ahead of us) would not stop text harassing me that I have to stay up to see midnight.  Um no, remember I'm pregnant, and have 2 little kids that will be up in the morning and have no sympathy for what time I went to sleep.  But I ended up going to bed, H and I had a little "adult" time and I made a delicious breakfast in the morning.  I shouldn't complain so much.  Maybe that can be my resolution for 2019.

Add me to the group of freaking out that April is right around the corner!!!  96 days until my due date.  That is not a lot of time for my long list of to do's...

lyse01

@kosmo86 ha, yes. January resolution: less carbs, less sugar. I jumped like 5 lbs in 2 weeks and told myself I had to hold the weight steady for a bit.

DH asked me how to cook bacon this morning and then ignored all my advice. It was very greasy and unevenly cooked. I didn’t finish because that grease prob doesn’t help the weight-steady january resolution.

rennie1108

MRDCle said:

thatbaintforbetty said:

Does April all of a sudden seem a lot closer to anyone else?

Like that’s only 3 months. 3. What?!?

I. AM. NOT. READY. 

I actually am totally ready to not be pregnant anymore but I feel like I am in no way prepared for her to actually be here. 

Can you hammer this through DH's head? We've got 80 days TOPS before we have more kids and he has A LOT left on his to-do list. Ya know. Like converting an attic to a bedroom. 

I feel your pain! My DH waits until THE last minute to do everything, and I absolutely cannot stand it.

batmama31

YOU GUYS. 3rd tri begins in less than 2 weeks for me!! 

I don't feel TOO overwhelmed w/ things to do before baby arrives, but I am putting off going thru all of my first-born's clothes that he has recently out-grown. it's all 2-3T items, but since this baby is a boy, I don't want to purge anything. instead, I've got to come up w/ a storage solution for everything! my son is gaining independence w/ dressing himself, and he keeps pulling out his old clothes that don't fit anymore. it makes me want to pull my hair out, and yet, I haven't even begun the sorting/storing.

anyone have any storage solutions for all his shit that I plan to use in 2-3yrs for the new babe?

MRDCle

batmama31 said:

YOU GUYS. 3rd tri begins in less than 2 weeks for me!! 

I don't feel TOO overwhelmed w/ things to do before baby arrives, but I am putting off going thru all of my first-born's clothes that he has recently out-grown. it's all 2-3T items, but since this baby is a boy, I don't want to purge anything. instead, I've got to come up w/ a storage solution for everything! my son is gaining independence w/ dressing himself, and he keeps pulling out his old clothes that don't fit anymore. it makes me want to pull my hair out, and yet, I haven't even begun the sorting/storing.

anyone have any storage solutions for all his shit that I plan to use in 2-3yrs for the new babe?

Does storing the old clothes in diaper boxes/garbage bags with the age and season on them and putting them in the basement count? Because that's what we've got going on. It's a mess. I almost wish I could just donate it all and start fresh but that's so.much.money. But I definitely have to get them out of his sight. He keeps finding and wanting to wear a red fleece pull over that's 2T and he's in 4T-5T. 

angelob88

I still have to shift through boxes full of clothing as well. It's all in random containers in our basement and although I tried to keep it all together by age, we were moving at the same time so things just got randomly thrown in boxes. The three I have gone through didn't yield a lot of gender neutral so if this baby comes out a boy he's wearing pink for the first week of life which is not a bad thing but meh.

+1 on the can't believe April is in 3 months! Less than 100 days until babes is here and we still want to get painting done on our bedroom and entryway before he/she gets here. Plus the crib isn't set up and none of the infant things are brought up from the basement...I feel like such a slacker, it's going to be D Day before we know it.

batmama31

MRDCle said:

Does storing the old clothes in diaper boxes/garbage bags with the age and season on them and putting them in the basement count? Because that's what we've got going on. 

that is better than my current state! I've always managed to keep current-state clothes confined to one drawer in his dresser, and I keep 2 drawers empty to transfer what he grows out of into those. only problem is, the 2 drawers are over-flowing w/ a bunch of random shit. I don't even know what's what. *face palm*

lyse01

I have plastic tote boxes sorted by age with the outgrown but saving/gifted but not grown into yet clothes in them. They’re stacked in the basement. I also have a bag near where I fold laundry that I stash DD’s outgrown clothes in before I find the correct tote box.

I don’t plan to pull the infant stuff out til I’m literally going into labor (okay maybe a week early). I don’t have space for it to clutter right now.

kosmo86

@batmama31 - I have a closest system and everytime she grows out of something I put it in this giant drawer in the closet. When its full I go through it all and put it in a plastic tote. I have about 4-5 totes full of clothes. I will go through them soon for this next one! 

lyse01

Oh, when going through the clothes, I also pass on any clothes I hate and will never put on any kid (or like, the third fuzzy bear outwear in size 6-9 mo), because who has space to store shit they won’t use? I do daily laundry so the kids only need like two drawers worth of stuff per size, and therefore if it doesn’t fit in the tote, it has to go. 

thatbaintforbetty

@batmama31 I bought some of those giant vacuum space saver bags. They actually do save a bit space when you pull all the air out. You just have to pack them so they deflate evenly. 

Im glad I’m not the only freaking out a bit. We are still planning to move before April and the number of things that need to happen before we can even get to that is mounting. 

Not to mention packing and moving at probably like 32 weeks (while working full time and dealing with DD). 

MRDCle

Oh yes I definitely keep a big box in his closet where I toss things as they get outgrown. Only problem is his closet is a disaster right now. That's my next project. Over the break I did the linen closet, my dresser, my bookshelf, the bookshelves in the living room and the bathroom closet. So that and going through the desk in our living room which I DREAD.

ysotte

Ugh. Definitely stressing about how close my due date is as well. Still apartment hunting and it’s giving me a massive headache that we haven’t found a place yet. 

gollygeeitsamy

Speaking of baby/toddler clothes my 1st is a girl and this baby is a boy. I saved pretty much everything but the majority of it is girly. Any recommendations on selling what I don’t want anymore? I’d like to make some money to build a wardrobe for this baby.