@ki1244 I'm so glad you got to go. That must have been a really cool experience
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
I have been totally MIA over the Holidays. We were traveling and family drama I just got busy.
I have said this before, but I can't wait until we move to a more private space. I wanted to vent and rant regarding family drama but I want it to be more secure.
@chrssyms completely random but I spent forever trying to figure out what your little profile pic was and just now figured it out haha. I don't know why I couldn't get it. I also didn't ever actually click on the picture which probably would have helped!
I felt like when my aug 16 group moved to our fb group I got to know everyone so much better. I think I’m just better at matching people’s faces with their story.
@whitney812 Yes, I felt a little like I had to re-learn everyone once we moved to FB. Their bump identity and FB identity are still mostly separate for me.
@sparklingdiamond Well I didn’t even know you could click on the image to see a bigger version! So thanks! Yeah I wasn’t sure what I wanted to pick and I really like GOT (books way better than show) but I love Daenerys. Plus she’s the mother of dragons so it at least felt somewhat pertinent. Although I’m pretty sure I’m not having a dragon... but I haven’t had my anatomy scan yet! 😂
I'm mostly a mobile user, but ugh my app is just not working well. Cannot lovetit, the formatting is all messed up, it doesn't know what's new (acts as though all threads are new). Hoping this gets fixes soon. I had lovetit issues before then suddenly I could use it and then the whole app went sideways.
@chrssyms - I'm a little stunned, frankly. I'll keep most of my thoughts to myself, but the bans and warnings ....for that? Scratching my head over here.
@catmommac I’ve had the same issues. I’ve noticed if I try and love tit a thread I just opened, it’s a no go. But if I let it sit on the thread for a few minutes, it will let me. Maybe try that?
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@harrierwife also, welcome back. You have been missed. I hope you don’t mind my new AE 😉
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
One of my good friends just told me she’s pregnant and due in July on my son’s birthday!! I’m so happy to have a fellow pregnant mama in real life haha
@luckystar28 yay! My best friend recently just found out she’s pregnant (due mid August) and being pregnant with a close friend is sooo much better! Pregnancy can be so lonely sometimes it’s nice to have a close friend be on the same journey as you.
@ballofmeat - Thank you! Admittedly, initially I was like "Ballofmeat.....wtf who dat bitch ripping off meatballs?!" Then I went dumpster diving and put it all together.
@harrierwife welcome back!! I’m dying 😂 at your response to ballomeat. You missed a little bit of drama here, since you may be one of the few with no warnings you may have to step it up for the next AW 🤣
I think I'll find it easier to keep up to date on FB if I'm honest. @amaren-2@whitney812 I like the topics here and reading information- particularly from STMs, but find getting to know people a little harder. Wonder when that will happen?
@carleym93 I also have a list. Drooling just typing. Medium filet with cream mushroom sauce (well done is just not the same), feta pasta salad, a salad ham mayonnaise sandwich and some homemade aioli with thick cut chips (fries).
My random: Just started clearing out the spare room (designated dumping zone) to prepare in advance before work goes back. This is both exciting and horrendous. I don't even know where we got half of the things in there.
**(potentially) unsolicited advice** I dont really know where to put this so im just going to throw it here....for everyone who mentions that they are excited to move to fb or even a private group and mention they haven’t been too active here bc of the interface/public forum...I get it - I’m on mobile 90% of the time and the app is less than glorious! But my advice to you (and this includes all the lurkers out there) is that if you are just waiting to become active until a more private setting, probably not a good idea....start posting now, even if it isn’t real personal at least make your sn known around here! I was a lurker in my last BMB who posted a few times (under a different sn) and when the time to move over to a PG or FB came no one knew who I was so they weren’t comfortable accepting me into a group where people would find out each others real names! I totally get that now. We are almost halfway through our pregnancies and so now is the time for people to really get to know each other. I say all this bc I don’t want others to feel left behind like I did a few years ago. Ok, climbing off my soapbox now...happy Thursday!
@nmbrcrnchr1 that totally makes sense. I guess if we do move to fb at the end of the third tri. I wouldn’t feel comfortable with people who never even tried to participate moving to fb.
In our last bmb we made the exception for a few lurkers who weren’t as active who made excuses such as interface or they had busy lives. Turns out they didn’t participate on fb much either. So our admins deleted them in a few rounds. People were still weirded out that we let them join with all our personal info.
You want support, you gotta make the effort. No excuses. We all have busy lives and TB interface sucks for everyone.
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Found out this week two of my cousins are due within 10 days of us. Crazy! Wth was in the water in October...?
Also got an email this morning from the owner of the company I work for saying he wants me to come into the office much more than I have been. When I was hired (three years ago) his son, who hired me, told me he didn't care how much I was in the office itself, and even though we've moved buildings and now I have an office with a door (instead of a cubicle) it's a little easier but I still get as much or more done at home, more comfortably (especially now that pants with a button are getting uncomfortable). When I'm in, literally no one knows it. I don't have a phone to answer at my desk, and the office is 28 minutes away from home if I go when there's no traffic (for most people that's nothing but that's about the longest possible commute in our town...it's 13 miles away, and I looked it up once and an Uber to work and back would run upwards of $50). His other son, who manages the office in another city, in a meeting a couple weeks ago, told me he literally sees no point in me coming in. Buuuuuut this is the owner so what he says is what I do, I guess, and I'm super irritated today about that.
@ki1244 Oh man, a 28 minute commute?! That's a dream! 😂 I have a 25 mile commute and it takes an hour (each way) on a good day. I get one day to WFH a week which is always a nice treat. But really, that does suck that they are changing expectations for you.
@nmbrcrnchr1 I totally get it. I struggled with TB last pregnancy. And I had a hard time staying active, I made it into the FB group (we did somewhat secret vote) but I didn't expect to. I'm trying to be more active starting out on this BMB so I don't fall into that limbo. I always think, As much as TB sucks with their interface, if it is important you will deal with it to provide support.
I've found drafting my response in Gmail and Copy/ Paste helps a lot. TB does something weird with auto corrects and spell checks and drives me insane.
@ki1244 I understand about the commute. In my first job my commute to the office was like 1.5 hrs one way. Then I took a new job and the commute was only about 30 min. Then I worked at home and my commute was 0 min. Now I’m back to having a commute of 30 min and it’s so irritating. Even though compared to a lot of people, a 30 min commute really isn’t terrible. When you get used to something, it just sucks when it changes
@wearyfuzzball I know, I know...people have much worse commutes most other places. But mention it around my town and you'd think it was like 2 hours. DH has a 12-minute drive and that's fairly standard. Before we moved it was about 4 for both of us...but that was when we lived in an apartment with a downstairs neighbor who banged on her ceiling and called the landlady every time we had sex soooooo I was happy to swap some more drive time every so often (I've been doing about once a week in the office, which I've done the last two winters) for the ability to have sex without my 72-year-old landlady telling us to keep it down when we were intentionally NOT making any noise to begin with.
Edit: @chrssyms YES that's totally it. A commute at all (especially one that's inordinately long by local standards) after not having one at all is miserable. And I'm practically on the edge of tears at the thought of having to wear real pants on a daily basis now.
I just took a bite out of a donut and it didn’t exactly taste, but it had a smell/taste (if that makes sense) of a nail salon! I didn’t eat anymore of it, but now when I burp it kinda has an essence of nail salon to me. So weird and kind of disturbing...
I live in a small town now, but grew up in a big city where 1 hour+ commutes were pretty normal. I WFH, so I don’t have any commute, but DH works in a completely different town and has a 40 minute commute, and when he tells local people, they act like he’s crazy for doing that. But neither of us want to live in a town that has about 2,000 people (where he works) and we’re much more comfortable with the size of our town which is about 20,000. It really is all about the different perspectives.
Hello everyone! I took some time off (as best I could) all social media this holiday season. I'm back at work today, so I'll be catching up on what looks a lot.
@ki1244 that’s really irritating. Especially since you were told something else when hired.
@katertots17 I know!! I’ve got a lot done around the house during winter break but I’ve also gotten used to sleeping in. I’m going to be hurting when I go back to work.
FIL wants to help DH and i with rent and stuff so we can find a better place but that means he’s going to look into our finances and while I have nothing to hide, I’m a grown woman and I HATE people prying into my finances! I know he’s trying to help but he’s always so full of unsolicited advice (get a loan! Your credit score is 800 right?) that I’m an anxious mess just preparing for the talk
I had this moment the other day. I was on the phone with my mom and was like, “yeah, but I’m only 16 weeks” and then I was like, wait...16 weeks is not “only” territory anymore...😳
Married 25 May, 2013 William Alexander born 18 September, 2015 Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017 Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017 Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
Re: TB/FB Yeah, TB's interface sucks. So much so that I only use the desktop - I used the app for two or three days before I deleted it. It's easy for me to participate often here because I stay at home and am building an online business at the moment. I totally get that many can't participate as often as many of us do - I really, truly, do.
But I'm going to have to agree with others. I will not join a FB group that has lurkers in it or people that I haven't become acquainted with. My FB is on serious lockdown - I think I have 98 total friends or something - because I'm pretty private. However, the main reason I still have a FB is that I'm in some topic-specific groups that I find to be very valuable personally (beekeeping, zone-specific gardening, vintage sewing machine repair/trades) and this group would definitely be one of them. Given the extra-personal nature of humans being expelled from my uterus and the challenges thereafter, I'd prefer things be very friendly in that group.
Re: Randoms W/O 12/31
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
I have said this before, but I can't wait until we move to a more private space. I wanted to vent and rant regarding family drama but I want it to be more secure.
@ameren-2 YGPM
I felt like when my aug 16 group moved to our fb group I got to know everyone so much better. I think I’m just better at matching people’s faces with their story.
WTH IS GOING ON IN HERE
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Admittedly, initially I was like "Ballofmeat.....wtf who dat bitch ripping off meatballs?!" Then I went dumpster diving and put it all together.
I like the topics here and reading information- particularly from STMs, but find getting to know people a little harder. Wonder when that will happen?
@carleym93
I also have a list. Drooling just typing. Medium filet with cream mushroom sauce (well done is just not the same), feta pasta salad, a salad ham mayonnaise sandwich and some homemade aioli with thick cut chips (fries).
My random: Just started clearing out the spare room (designated dumping zone) to prepare in advance before work goes back. This is both exciting and horrendous. I don't even know where we got half of the things in there.
So many babies due in our family! His other sister is currently 28 weeks and his cousin is due a week after us ❤️
ETA: his brother also has a fresh bub that will be 8 months old when we’re due. So excited for all these cousins the same age!
I dont really know where to put this so im just going to throw it here....for everyone who mentions that they are excited to move to fb or even a private group and mention they haven’t been too active here bc of the interface/public forum...I get it - I’m on mobile 90% of the time and the app is less than glorious! But my advice to you (and this includes all the lurkers out there) is that if you are just waiting to become active until a more private setting, probably not a good idea....start posting now, even if it isn’t real personal at least make your sn known around here!
I was a lurker in my last BMB who posted a few times (under a different sn) and when the time to move over to a PG or FB came no one knew who I was so they weren’t comfortable accepting me into a group where people would find out each others real names! I totally get that now. We are almost halfway through our pregnancies and so now is the time for people to really get to know each other. I say all this bc I don’t want others to feel left behind like I did a few years ago. Ok, climbing off my soapbox now...happy Thursday!
In our last bmb we made the exception for a few lurkers who weren’t as active who made excuses such as interface or they had busy lives. Turns out they didn’t participate on fb much either. So our admins deleted them in a few rounds. People were still weirded out that we let them join with all our personal info.
You want support, you gotta make the effort. No excuses. We all have busy lives and TB interface sucks for everyone.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Also got an email this morning from the owner of the company I work for saying he wants me to come into the office much more than I have been. When I was hired (three years ago) his son, who hired me, told me he didn't care how much I was in the office itself, and even though we've moved buildings and now I have an office with a door (instead of a cubicle) it's a little easier but I still get as much or more done at home, more comfortably (especially now that pants with a button are getting uncomfortable). When I'm in, literally no one knows it. I don't have a phone to answer at my desk, and the office is 28 minutes away from home if I go when there's no traffic (for most people that's nothing but that's about the longest possible commute in our town...it's 13 miles away, and I looked it up once and an Uber to work and back would run upwards of $50). His other son, who manages the office in another city, in a meeting a couple weeks ago, told me he literally sees no point in me coming in. Buuuuuut this is the owner so what he says is what I do, I guess, and I'm super irritated today about that.
I've found drafting my response in Gmail and Copy/ Paste helps a lot. TB does something weird with auto corrects and spell checks and drives me insane.
Edit: @chrssyms YES that's totally it. A commute at all (especially one that's inordinately long by local standards) after not having one at all is miserable. And I'm practically on the edge of tears at the thought of having to wear real pants on a daily basis now.
salon to me. So weird and kind of disturbing...
This is break has made me a bum. I’m not excited about school starting next week and missing my girl, but routine might help me not be so lazy.
@katertots17 I know!! I’ve got a lot done around the house during winter break but I’ve also gotten used to sleeping in. I’m going to be hurting when I go back to work.
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
Yeah, TB's interface sucks. So much so that I only use the desktop - I used the app for two or three days before I deleted it. It's easy for me to participate often here because I stay at home and am building an online business at the moment. I totally get that many can't participate as often as many of us do - I really, truly, do.
But I'm going to have to agree with others. I will not join a FB group that has lurkers in it or people that I haven't become acquainted with. My FB is on serious lockdown - I think I have 98 total friends or something - because I'm pretty private. However, the main reason I still have a FB is that I'm in some topic-specific groups that I find to be very valuable personally (beekeeping, zone-specific gardening, vintage sewing machine repair/trades) and this group would definitely be one of them. Given the extra-personal nature of humans being expelled from my uterus and the challenges thereafter, I'd prefer things be very friendly in that group.
Just my thoughts.