I also want to add how simple it is to come in late to this group and follow the guidelines and also incorporate yourself correctly and get support. I did it and all it took was reading the guidelines and watching the group for a small amount of time.
That's what irritates me so much. This isn't fraternity pledging with hazing. IT'S. NOT. HARD.
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
@tuxielove93@ohheyitsb it’s also crazy for me to see the new posters say there’s no room for us to disagree on here which isn’t true at all. I tried to point out I’ve felt it’s important for new users to receive kindness (AND THEY DO) and not gotten flamed for it. I also came around to truly seeing how annoying and irresponsible these one off posters can be too. No one has to come charging on here defending a poster by attacking active posters who are feeling unseen and unsupported by new members. That’s for sure a bad way to incorporate yourself. So just because you came in too hot doesn’t mean the women on this board all agree all the time and if they don’t they can’t speak up (hello UO thread). Just so foolish. The women on this board consistently get a along and support one another differences aside and definetly support random posters in need and what more does anyone really expect beyond that?
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I also want to add how simple it is to come in late to this group and follow the guidelines and also incorporate yourself correctly and get support. I did it and all it took was reading the guidelines and watching the group for a small amount of time.
THIS.
I’d also like to add to this and say that even if you do get it wrong as a newby, if someone tells you what you’ve said is upsetting to them it’s not hard to say sorry without adding some kind of retaliation to it.
I’ve experienced a lot of loss in my life (a friend or family member (or multiple of each) has died every year since I was 6 and I’m now 27) and my coping mechanism is minimal grieving so I can be there for my friends and family who may be experiencing this for the first time. As such, I sometimes come across as emotionless and can say things without thinking that others may find it upsetting. I also love blood and guts, so a picture of a cut to me is OK but to others it can be repulsive. I’ve been called out a couple of times on this forum and I have always apologised and/or edited my posts to avoid anybody else being offended. I sometimes don’t understand how others are feeling but I respect that they feel that way and adjust myself accordingly. It’s really not that hard.
Not that it’s a test or initiation but I think the people that truly want or will be members of a community (online or not) will understand if they are redirected or called out for not following guidelines or social norms of the board/group. Everyone here will make posts that don’t go over well, that is part of being human and in a group of multiple people with different personalities. How you react though is quite telling of if you want to actually be part of this community or not.
No one in real life, I would hope, would run up to a bunch of pregnant moms shouting about their pregnancy and disappearing into the shadows continually without one word of congratulations or even interest in anyone else and expect the others to be excited and invested in them.
I personally will not bend over backwards for someone who doesn’t even ask how we are doing, I’d rather a smaller group of woman that care about each other than a large group of dear diary posts. The difference between this and Xanga is that this is set up to be a community, this isn’t your online diary that others need to click on your account to view with no expectation of turn about. And sorry but not sorry is worse than not being sorry. Not that anyone owes an apology, but attitude/investment is everything.
I don’t really have much new to add to the comments that most others have posted. I will admit I thought at first the response to the rogue poster was harsh, but when I went back and looked, I realized she was appropriately redirected.
I agree with @wiseh that I can say things sometimes that I really don’t intend to be offensive or hurtful. I think usually people haven’t completely flamed me for this. I also know that it can be embarrassing and not feel good to be corrected. But I think if people just take a moment and maybe a breath, they can move on and not unnecessarily escalate.
I also have to admit that I nearly peed myself with the “F&$@ you. God bless.” I don’t know if something could be more backhanded than that.
@chrssyms Yeah...after her 3rd SS separate post about her own pregnancy. I was done with the polite re-direct. Especially since she just kept coming back and posting that and ghosting. I for one was tired of seeing her one off titles, and didn't feel like seeing them for the remainder until June. I mean...3 posts with redirection is definitely flame worthy IMO.
And for what its worth I don't think you or @wiseh have ever come off as offensive or hurtful. I definitely respect what you guys have to say and you guys have always been more than kind. And for the most part even in the UO thread, people who disagree always do so politely. Which is so different than the bump was back in the day. Those kinds of threads would go up in real flames. whew!
I guess my trigger is "Your loss shouldn't squash MY excitement and I'm gonna post whatever I want without any regard for anyone. Hey everyone here that has no clue who I am, my twins are girls! now congratulate meeeee."
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@luckystar28 must have been the newly participating members getting flamed, interesting how you can quickly go from not knowing how to properly post to figuring out how to report people on here.
I really feel like the highlights for me were 1) the start off with "Girls!!", ya know, as if we were her friends or something and actually invested and 2) then my all time favorite of "it's not my personality to support people". Oh excuse you. You flounce in here expecting nothing but happiness and rainbows and all the support and love in the world, but it isn't in your PERSONALITY to support other people?!? Oh you must be a real peach IRL. Idk how you can defend that. And that's what gets me about the WKs. It is so unendingly obvious that the vast majority of the one-off posters do not give a rat's flying behind about being part of a community, or participating in any real way, or even really care about anyone else here. They only care about themselves, and the longer it goes on, the more obvious they make it. What in the world is there to defend in that? I keep hearing "oh they just got it wrong" No, they don't care to get it right.
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
@tuxielove93 Whenever I read your posts I can't help but think. Well shoot, she would be a blast to drink with on girls weekend! There would never be a dull moment. And that's a compliment
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Going way off topic but if anyone wants the tiny beans app for premium service their half off sale ends today. Use promo code holiday18
I signed up for life time membership for no ads plus ability to upload 5 minute videos. It keeps baby and family pics off facebook and you limit who you give access to.
Whelp, sorry guys for getting the holiday thread shut down - I think?? I still cannot tell what specific part is worthy of a warning but... whatever. I guess i wasn't really a bump member until I had a warning! Hopefully 2019 will be less drama and drive bys! Although, I like a LITTLE drama...
MIL and SFIL are coming up for NYE and I'm dreading agreeing to this. I wish it were just DH, DD, and me. But what ever, we'll survive! DH and I met 6 years ago tonight, so that's always a kind of fun anniversary for us. I hope everyone has a fun night!!
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
So, a off topic, but not really sure where else to put it.
I am just shy of 16 weeks at this point (how did that happen??). I occasionally think I may be feeling small movement - someone described a fish gently bumping the sides of a bag, that’s right about it), but I’ve always been rather insensitive to movement and I have another anterior placenta, so I’m not worrying about it over much. What I am wondering is, any moms who have had c-sections, did the scar tissue affect your nerves internally? Do we even feel internally? I definitely have some numbness left over around the scar on the outside - it’s not awful, but definitely feels less sensitive to touch than the rest of my skin. I’m curious if that same numbness extends to internal sensitivity regarding fetal movement.
(And if none of this makes a lick of sense, please tell me go hide under a rock, haha)
Married 25 May, 2013 William Alexander born 18 September, 2015 Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017 Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017 Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
@KissMeImScottish No CS here so I'm not much help, but I'm just here to say that I've barely felt any movement unless i'm lying on my back or stomach and being super still. I have no idea where my placenta is this time, but I had anterior last time too, and it was sooo long before I felt movement. Like maybe 18 weeks??
@ShadeofGreen816 happy anniversary! We aren’t doing anything for NYE. For me NYE has always been a hunker down and avoid the crazies holiday. Probably because my parents made me terrified of drunk drivers on this holiday, lol. My mom and I are going to a movie and i’ll go to her house for dinner. My SO quit his job and is scared to tell my parents so he’s staying at home and pretending he is at work *eyeroll*
There’s not a lot I can add to what was already said. Just know that I support all of you. I often feel like I’m not doing enough to contribute but I keep coming back, trying, and doing the best I can. You all have been nothing but wonderful and I always try to give back just as much as I get on here.
Lately the frequency of negative posts by people I’ve never met on here, and drive bys, has me very wary of sharing too much on here. I don’t like that feeling. I legit had a dream last night that someone posted they went to a cafe in my town and I commented that I used to work there. In my dream I freaked out and deleted that comment because it gave away my exact location, lol.
@antera23 I'm with you on that anxiety of posting too much info. I feel like I've been relatively careful this time around, but I know I was more specific during my pregnancy with DD so I'm sure it wouldn't be hard to piece things together if someone had the time. I guess I'll have to count on me being so boring that it's no fun to do that! Also I'm riddled with student loan debt, so stealing my identity would be a terrible idea
@canuckbaby you can upload videos?! Um sold! That’s awesome!
@ShadeofGreen816 I can’t remember why your post would have been removed either. Well, either way, welcome to the badass club now. Ha! Happy anniversary!
@KissMeImScottish that was me who described it as a fish bumping into the side of a bag. Lol. I also have an anterior placenta and a had a c-section second time around. I asked my OB about my scar still being sore and she said that was perfectly normal. Not sure if it affects being able to feel movement. I would guess not since it’s only a part of the uterus that was cut. I’m guessing the anterior placenta is the culprit in this case. I’m 16 weeks and the movement I feel is pretty sporadic still. And even has me wondering, was that the baby? Or gas?
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
About to hop on a plane to DC. My (secret) feud with DH's family continues... our senator contacted DH's office to offer a personal tour of the Capitol for the team (and anyone in the travel party, including me and DH's family). Working in athletics for so long, I've met enough famous athletes and celebrities and such that not much fazes me anymore...but BOY HOWDY do I fangirl for this senator. I literally go to Chamber of Commerce meetings that have nothing to do with work now, just to hear him speak. He's great, and I'm a political junkie to begin with (my ringtone is the theme song from The West Wing), so this is basically a dream come true for me. Except...DH's grandparents aren't interested so as it stands, no one gets to go on this tour because then we "aren't spending time together", as though somehow the time on this amazing, once-in-a-lifetime shared experience is of less quality than everyone sitting in the same living room watching Hallmark movies and screwing around on their phones. I'm pushing back a little, or at least as much as I think I can without making things stressful for DH, but I'm just flummoxed that no one in this family will stand up to these people. UGH so mad. (Sorry...there's my vent today.)
As to the stuff that took place yesterday...I think she legit messed up and genuinely didn't mean to AW three times. We all know the Bump app can be trash sometimes. I think sometimed we can be pretty quick to jump on newbies who screw up, too, although given the slew of them recently, that's not too tough to understand. And I can't speak to loss like you gals have known, so I don't want to speak out of turn or pretend to understand it -- but I also can see where grief gives people a different lens that can make an otherwise innocuous statement resonate differently (and it's foolish to downplay that or assume everyone who has dealt with grief uses the same lens) so while what she (initially) posted may not have been so bad just in and of itself, she pushed some buttons, whether intentionally or not, and that's just what you get on a pregnancy-centered board. But her response, once corrected on it, was WAY out of line and not remotely ok, and even though it resulted in warnings/bans I'm still glad to see we have each other's backs so vehemently. (Although I may pilfer the bizarre "f off, God bless" tagline...that was hilarious.) Hope that's all ok to say...ultimately I'm 100% Team June!
@KissMeImScottish I had a csection, and my scar has been sore. My OB warned me I would feel it pulling and aching, but man some days it feels like it is ripping open. I can feel it on the outside, like a swollen band across my pelvic area. I"m not sure about the numbness. I've been getting some movement feelings, a few light pops here and there but mostly I can feel pressure in one spot and it feels exactly like it did when DD used to push her butt against my uterus really hard. Apparently both my girls like to stretch out my insides lol. Sorry I couldn't provide more help. My OB did say if it isn't your first pregnancy, it is normal to feel some movement sensations as early as 13 weeks but also as late 22 weeks.
I am also 100% team June and I am so thankful for all the support I have gotten from you ladies. I feel it is only right to stand up for eachother in situations like that.
My random is that my MIL is throwing us a congratulations dinner on Saturday to celebrate getting good blood results and a positive ultrasound after all the scares we had. Nothing big, but we are having immediate family get together for dinner and icecream cake and a little something for DD to congratulate her on getting to be a big sister. We aren't in the clear yet, but I feel so much more hopeful and I want to do everything I can to enjoy my pregnancy and not just be filled with worry every single day. So I thought it was such a nice idea. Plus....icecream cake is delicious lol
@KissMeImScottish I had a posterior last time and still didn’t feel movement until 17 weeks. This time after a cs I’ve barely felt movement and it’s only been a few times which still are “is that gas or baby”?. I think bc eventually they move up you will feel them soon. With an anterior placenta it will take longer to feel them so don’t start worrying for another month or more about movement.
We’re low key with our DD is daycare half day and friends coming over for wings and games later. They don’t have kids yet so it’s great we don’t have to get a sitter.
Thanks for all the feedback, ladies! I’m not really worried about the lack of movement yet - I’ve always been late to feel it anyway, especially with an anterior placenta. I was more curious if the scar affects anything. This is pregnancy number 3 and I’ll admit to having more nerves than I did in the past because of this one have that new dynamic this time around. I’m anxious for the anatomy scan to get a look at where my placenta is vs. where the scar is. I always seem to have low lying placenta as well as it being anterior, and that scares up a whole bunch of concerns about acreta.
I haven’t felt the tightness or pulling yet on the scar, but I also have a long torso, so historically, my babies have a lot of room to grow up before they grow out, if that makes sense. I’m sure that symptom is coming for me in the not so distant future, haha.
Married 25 May, 2013 William Alexander born 18 September, 2015 Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017 Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017 Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
So my nasal swab they did on me came back positive for RSV. No wonder I feel like shit. DH is off to the pediatrician for DD. I’m hoping they are able to give her a steroid or something to make her feel a little better.
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Happy New Years to all my fellow sober mamas!! Missing you all this week but I’ve been enjoying some quality time with my tiny dictator. Hope you all have good New Years:) looking forward to catching up once 2019 starts!
Random for the day: baby weighs the same as a hockey puck apparently. This amused the sunshine out of my DH, the baby’s uncle J and auntie L (teammates not blood).
I may be speaking out of turn here, especially since I completely understand and empathize with wanting to flame all the SS/AW posters out of our board. But...I hate to see people that are crucial to our board get warnings or banned by the overzealous mods. What if we worked together to just completely ignore the SSs (like zero responses) and instead bumped our other posts to push the AW one-offs to the bottom of the page? This may be a dumb idea, but I feel like not feeding the trolls might discourage them?
@ballofmeat I'm sorry, I hope both you and DD get some relief. my baby niece was getting over it when we went for Christmas and was miserable!
I'm a little behind on the thread but
@KissMeImScottish wow you put into words everything I wanted to say but couldn't to meatballs. also on a different note I just hit 16 wks and still am not sure if what I feel is baby.
I also got my first 2 warnings yesterday and 1 I'm not sure I wrote!
@ballofmeat I'm so sorry you have RSV! Omg I had it last winter and felt like complete shit. I can't imagine having it while being pregnant. Take care of yourself and I hope you beat it quickly
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Me: 33 DH: 32 DS: March 2014 DD: May 2015 BFP: 12/24/17 CP: 1/2/18 @ 4w 3d BFP: 1/26/18 CP: 2/2/18 @ 4w 4d BFP: 5/16/18 MMC: 6/15/18 @ 7w 5d BFP: 9/25/18! EDD: 6/9/19 TEAM GREEN
@eleven_ you have had it too?! Ugh! I thought maybe I was just being super whiny about a cold, but it seems my symptoms are justified. Now I feel even more awful for babies under 12 months who get this and end up in he hospital. Poor things. Good news is, I did some “research” and you are generally immune to it after getting it for at least 5-7 years. Too bad they don’t have a vaccine.
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Well, over a week of travel plus hosting people at our home finally got to me tonight. I almost had a break down at our NYE dinner bc a friend was talking in my ear too loud. DH shocked me back home and we’re in bed with 10 minutes to midnight. Happy New Year, ladies
@ki1244 can you feign illness and say you're going to urgent care but actually go on that tour? if you need company, I'll come with you! It's a wonderful tour, especially if your senator is in the leadership (but even if not, it's a great experience). I am upset with your in-laws for you.
Happy new year everyone! Looks like I’ve missed a lot- hope everyone is doing okay 💛
We’ve started the three day potty training method w my toddler today so I’ll be hunkered down in my house the next few days and won’t have much adult social interaction so I’ll be checking in a lot so I don’t totally lose my mind 😂
@marijaa333 thank you...as it turned out, DH spoke up for me (and his sisters, brother, brother's gf, and himself, all of whom wanted to go) and they were fine with us going. Kinda think my MIL may have been drama-queening how they would react a bit...? In any case, we wound up going, and it was INCREDIBLE. Our senator is like #89 in seniority but is one of the smartest people I've ever heard speak. Just one of those people who speaks, and no matter what he says, you learn something. He's also shockingly genuine, especially for what you might expect in a politician, and he had some time for Q&A where he gave a super informative, refreshing take on what's going on with the shutdown and his efforts for compromise. (He actually recently wrote a book about mending the tribalization in politics that's super good.) And he took us in the Senate Chamber and that was one of the coolest places I've ever been in person. SO worth the trip.
@ballofmeat yikes, hope you get to feeling better!
Re: Randoms W/O 12/31
THIS.
That's what irritates me so much. This isn't fraternity pledging with hazing. IT'S. NOT. HARD.
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I’ve experienced a lot of loss in my life (a friend or family member (or multiple of each) has died every year since I was 6 and I’m now 27) and my coping mechanism is minimal grieving so I can be there for my friends and family who may be experiencing this for the first time. As such, I sometimes come across as emotionless and can say things without thinking that others may find it upsetting. I also love blood and guts, so a picture of a cut to me is OK but to others it can be repulsive. I’ve been called out a couple of times on this forum and I have always apologised and/or edited my posts to avoid anybody else being offended. I sometimes don’t understand how others are feeling but I respect that they feel that way and adjust myself accordingly. It’s really not that hard.
No one in real life, I would hope, would run up to a bunch of pregnant moms shouting about their pregnancy and disappearing into the shadows continually without one word of congratulations or even interest in anyone else and expect the others to be excited and invested in them.
I personally will not bend over backwards for someone who doesn’t even ask how we are doing, I’d rather a smaller group of woman that care about each other than a large group of dear diary posts. The difference between this and Xanga is that this is set up to be a community, this isn’t your online diary that others need to click on your account to view with no expectation of turn about. And sorry but not sorry is worse than not being sorry. Not that anyone owes an apology, but attitude/investment is everything.
I agree with @wiseh that I can say things sometimes that I really don’t intend to be offensive or hurtful. I think usually people haven’t completely flamed me for this. I also know that it can be embarrassing and not feel good to be corrected. But I think if people just take a moment and maybe a breath, they can move on and not unnecessarily escalate.
I also have to admit that I nearly peed myself with the “F&$@ you. God bless.” I don’t know if something could be more backhanded than that.
Yeah...after her 3rd SS separate post about her own pregnancy. I was done with the polite re-direct. Especially since she just kept coming back and posting that and ghosting. I for one was tired of seeing her one off titles, and didn't feel like seeing them for the remainder until June. I mean...3 posts with redirection is definitely flame worthy IMO.
And for what its worth I don't think you or @wiseh have ever come off as offensive or hurtful. I definitely respect what you guys have to say and you guys have always been more than kind. And for the most part even in the UO thread, people who disagree always do so politely. Which is so different than the bump was back in the day. Those kinds of threads would go up in real flames. whew!
I guess my trigger is "Your loss shouldn't squash MY excitement and I'm gonna post whatever I want without any regard for anyone. Hey everyone here that has no clue who I am, my twins are girls! now congratulate meeeee."
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I am confused on how our randoms thread got shut down. People are reading them and reporting comments on them?
1) the start off with "Girls!!", ya know, as if we were her friends or something and actually invested and
2) then my all time favorite of "it's not my personality to support people". Oh excuse you. You flounce in here expecting nothing but happiness and rainbows and all the support and love in the world, but it isn't in your PERSONALITY to support other people?!? Oh you must be a real peach IRL. Idk how you can defend that. And that's what gets me about the WKs. It is so unendingly obvious that the vast majority of the one-off posters do not give a rat's flying behind about being part of a community, or participating in any real way, or even really care about anyone else here. They only care about themselves, and the longer it goes on, the more obvious they make it. What in the world is there to defend in that? I keep hearing "oh they just got it wrong" No, they don't care to get it right.
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
Whenever I read your posts I can't help but think. Well shoot, she would be a blast to drink with on girls weekend! There would never be a dull moment. And that's a compliment
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I signed up for life time membership for no ads plus ability to upload 5 minute videos. It keeps baby and family pics off facebook and you limit who you give access to.
MIL and SFIL are coming up for NYE and I'm dreading agreeing to this. I wish it were just DH, DD, and me. But what ever, we'll survive! DH and I met 6 years ago tonight, so that's always a kind of fun anniversary for us. I hope everyone has a fun night!!
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
I am just shy of 16 weeks at this point (how did that happen??). I occasionally think I may be feeling small movement - someone described a fish gently bumping the sides of a bag, that’s right about it), but I’ve always been rather insensitive to movement and I have another anterior placenta, so I’m not worrying about it over much. What I am wondering is, any moms who have had c-sections, did the scar tissue affect your nerves internally? Do we even feel internally? I definitely have some numbness left over around the scar on the outside - it’s not awful, but definitely feels less sensitive to touch than the rest of my skin. I’m curious if that same numbness extends to internal sensitivity regarding fetal movement.
(And if none of this makes a lick of sense, please tell me go hide under a rock, haha)
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
There’s not a lot I can add to what was already said. Just know that I support all of you. I often feel like I’m not doing enough to contribute but I keep coming back, trying, and doing the best I can. You all have been nothing but wonderful and I always try to give back just as much as I get on here.
Lately the frequency of negative posts by people I’ve never met on here, and drive bys, has me very wary of sharing too much on here. I don’t like that feeling. I legit had a dream last night that someone posted they went to a cafe in my town and I commented that I used to work there. In my dream I freaked out and deleted that comment because it gave away my exact location, lol.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
As to the stuff that took place yesterday...I think she legit messed up and genuinely didn't mean to AW three times. We all know the Bump app can be trash sometimes. I think sometimed we can be pretty quick to jump on newbies who screw up, too, although given the slew of them recently, that's not too tough to understand. And I can't speak to loss like you gals have known, so I don't want to speak out of turn or pretend to understand it -- but I also can see where grief gives people a different lens that can make an otherwise innocuous statement resonate differently (and it's foolish to downplay that or assume everyone who has dealt with grief uses the same lens) so while what she (initially) posted may not have been so bad just in and of itself, she pushed some buttons, whether intentionally or not, and that's just what you get on a pregnancy-centered board. But her response, once corrected on it, was WAY out of line and not remotely ok, and even though it resulted in warnings/bans I'm still glad to see we have each other's backs so vehemently. (Although I may pilfer the bizarre "f off, God bless" tagline...that was hilarious.) Hope that's all ok to say...ultimately I'm 100% Team June!
I am also 100% team June and I am so thankful for all the support I have gotten from you ladies. I feel it is only right to stand up for eachother in situations like that.
My random is that my MIL is throwing us a congratulations dinner on Saturday to celebrate getting good blood results and a positive ultrasound after all the scares we had. Nothing big, but we are having immediate family get together for dinner and icecream cake and a little something for DD to congratulate her on getting to be a big sister. We aren't in the clear yet, but I feel so much more hopeful and I want to do everything I can to enjoy my pregnancy and not just be filled with worry every single day. So I thought it was such a nice idea. Plus....icecream cake is delicious lol
@ShadeofGreen816 happy meeting anniversary!
We’re low key with our DD is daycare half day and friends coming over for wings and games later. They don’t have kids yet so it’s great we don’t have to get a sitter.
I haven’t felt the tightness or pulling yet on the scar, but I also have a long torso, so historically, my babies have a lot of room to grow up before they grow out, if that makes sense. I’m sure that symptom is coming for me in the not so distant future, haha.
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I'm a little behind on the thread but
@KissMeImScottish wow you put into words everything I wanted to say but couldn't to meatballs. also on a different note I just hit 16 wks and still am not sure if what I feel is baby.
I also got my first 2 warnings yesterday and 1 I'm not sure I wrote!
DS: March 2014
DD: May 2015
BFP: 12/24/17 CP: 1/2/18 @ 4w 3d
BFP: 1/26/18 CP: 2/2/18 @ 4w 4d
BFP: 5/16/18 MMC: 6/15/18 @ 7w 5d
BFP: 9/25/18! EDD: 6/9/19 TEAM GREEN
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
We’ve started the three day potty training method w my toddler today so I’ll be hunkered down in my house the next few days and won’t have much adult social interaction so I’ll be checking in a lot so I don’t totally lose my mind 😂
@ballofmeat yikes, hope you get to feeling better!
@whitney812 good luck!
@cricket1688 hope some peace and quiet at home did the trick...