@vv826 sorry you aren’t feeling it. I spent all morning making cookies and now I’m pooped. Hah I think that used a lot of my Xmas cheer. We are having dinner with my in-laws and all their family. I hope I don’t feel super tired all night
@chrssyms It's a strange phenomenon, I'm usually the one that's annoying everyone with my Christmas cheer this year I've taken my brother's role and become the Gr-ooge (Grinch/scrooge)!😄
Merry Christmas! We just moved on Saturday and were/are still unpacking today but we have the tree and stockings up, and will be doing the presents and Christmas lunch tomorrow. I'm looking forward to baking chocolate chip oatmeal cookies with DS.
I am fully one of the crew now. New drive by post about conception date 🤔🙄 since when did people stop listening to their doctors and trusting strangers on the internet. Good grief
@cricket1688 lol one of us one of us.... seriously though talk to your damn doctor. Especially since you have to break it to one of 2 guys... or go on Maury and be done with it.
Is it bad I hope she sticks around and that it’s guy A ? 😂 I love a good scandal...my life is so boring. I want to know why guy A is a bad thing, and so why did she have sex with him? But I agree who trusts some random person on the internet over an ultrasound/science!?!
Merry Christmas ladies! We had a good holiday, minus the fact that DD is sick and we skipped the large family Christmas. I’m bummed we missed it, especially since I work every other. We also announced he sex to family and it feels good to let that out in the open now. It’s rewlly starting to sink in we might bring a baby girl home next year.
I responded to the drive by. Like why does she think us saying we totally think it’s father B, going to make it any more real for her than a doctor confirming. I can’t.
I am however secretly sad the ghost mom hasn’t popped back in.
My curiosity got the better of me, I had to ask why baby daddy A was bad. Sorry if this backfires for the board, it’s been a bit quite here! But yes @meatballs37 ghost lady was too far out there
Merry Christmas to all you ladies that celebrate! I hope everyone had enjoyable times with family/friends! And just enough drama to keep things interesting!
Super sad that I missed out on posting the “that escalated quickly” gif on the drive by. But like... whoa. Although let’s be real, the baby daddy is probably B. But hopefully she sticks around a bit... id love to see how this goes!
Nah, that’s total MUD. She had another period. You have to REALLY misunderstand how the whole thing works to think that another period PLUS a dating sonogram being off by a month means Guy A even has a shot. I really can’t see someone being quite that stupid unintentionally. It was some nice amusement for Christmas though!
We had a glorious eve and day staying home, watching movies in pajamas, and eating a butt ton of mashed potatoes. I miss family sometimes living so far away on our own, but honestly, not on holidays. It was always SO STRESSFUL seeing so many people in such a short amount of time, and now I get to stay home and actually enjoy our holidays and it’s the freaking best.
ETA: sorry posted too soon. Merry Christmas to all who celebrate. To everyone else, hope you had a nice day too!
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
I don't know...I don't think the "randos" are the rude ones here. People in a crisis show up looking for advice, and some of you can't just let it be. You gotta add in memes and gifs, hoping to stir up reactions, and then call the OP rude.
Plus, regulars on here seek out medical advice and it's happily given. Maybe try being a little more welcoming? It's just an internet message board; not some secret country club.
@skatejawn27 I think you need to re-read the latest “rando” conversation. If you go back and look she was the rude one. I invited her to be a part of our community by following the rules and she told me to “kiss her @$$”. These randos aren’t following the TOU or the guidelines that are in place for this board - and basically any other BMB here - so why should we, who follow the “rules” bend over backwards to make them feel welcome??? No thanks. Not to mention, most of these randos are here with made up drama (MUD).
ETA also, she already received medical advice and was asking strangers if we disagreed with science - different than asking for medical advice. And I think if you read most posts where medical advice is “happily given to regulars” you will see that most of us say “call your dr but (here’s what happened to me/here’s what my dr said)”
I don't think it's bending over backwards to either ignore the posts you know will bug you, or to at least refrain from posting sassy little memes/gifs looking to stir up a reaction. Again, this is just an internet message board. Yeah, it's cool some of you have a clique here, but some other people just see it as another avenue for advice in difficult moments. Both are fine.
I think if you take a look back at my posting history (and I’m by no means saying you are speaking specifically just to me in this) but I don’t ignore random/one-off posters because I appreciate organization. If we ignore them others come in and think it’s ok to make random posts and then we have a board that no one wants to look at! And if you look at my history I have welcomed and kindly redirected most of the one off posters to where they should have posted had they actually taken the time to read how the board works. It’s only when these posters get salty bc they can’t be an AW and have their own posts for every little thing that I will post a meme/gif if they respond with rude comments, which is exactly what happened yesterday.
The term “clique” has has been brought up before here and I think it’s overused, similar to the term “bully”...there is a community here, and some of us have known each other for over a year bc of our struggles, so yes I’m sorry but if one of those ladies who I’ve spent many many weeks getting to know and who have supported me in my darkest days needs support/backup/whatever, you better believe I’ll be there over some random person who hasn’t even taken the time to tell me anything about her, but that’s just how I am irl even if this is just an internet message board
Ugh here we go again. You can’t have your cake and eat it too - so it’s fine randos can come in and post whatever they want with no regards but we can’t nicely redirect them and say what we want when they get all pissy? There are many “internet boards” like that, the reason so many of us are here is because we want a community with more quality conversations and content and foster real connections and friendships.
That is not a “clique”, no one is here like mean girls picking on people just because, we are just tired of seeing random pictures of pee sticks, fetal genitalia and people using us solely to ask one off questions that have no desire to really be part of this community. There are many boards like that, if that fits your taste better, a google search can be enlightening.
If you have no desire to put forth an effort to be part of the community most on this board have no desire to entertain those posts and while scrolling past every random post is an option it can and has gotten to the point in past BMBs or other boards that it becomes more a pointless yahoo questions set-up and most want more for our community than that.
Why do I feel like we have to keep explaining this over and over...it’s literally in the read this first post.
PS. I had a great holiday and two successful parties. I also told my brother and sister in law about the pregnancy and got my first genuinely happy reaction with no judgement or concerns about my health other than them asking because they care.
@skatejawn27 I have definetly in the past felt similar to you. However as time has gone on you realize how these one offs are not taking into consideration the organization of the board. I have seen real medical questions answered with compassion to random posters but I have to side with the group that this person asking about guy A or guy B was not using any logic before hoping on here and prattling. She ignored her doctors advice which seems very odd to me. But I agree with you that women seeking advice in a hurry who may not be familiar with the board do deserve answers/compassion and I do believe they get it for the most part
Also @skatejawn27 if you are not here to build a community wtf is the point of commenting? This may just be some board of internet strangers to you but to me it is a lot more than that. I have met at least 10 members of my sons BMB IRL. We had a mom who lost her son and we banded together to offer her support, we all went to Nashville together to throw her a baby shower when she got pregnant again. We have had countless injuries, illnesses and family deaths that we have supported one another through. (Do not get me wrong we had plenty of drama to go with the good times) While this board may just be in its beginning stages most of us are here looking to create that bond. Hell a good number of us have with previous bmbs. I only have talked to one or two of these lovely ladies prior to September but I have no problem talking with anyone here. I have not felt left out, secluded, or banned by the cool kids. Jump in and you may find that you can get more out of this board than random medical advice from strangers who are not your Doctor.
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We are visiting family this week so our immediate family Christmas will be when we get back, but Santa found DS and he was excited.
I responded to the drive by. Like why does she think us saying we totally think it’s father B, going to make it any more real for her than a doctor confirming. I can’t.
I am however secretly sad the ghost mom hasn’t popped back in.
Super sad that I missed out on posting the “that escalated quickly” gif on the drive by. But like... whoa. Although let’s be real, the baby daddy is probably B. But hopefully she sticks around a bit... id love to see how this goes!
We had a glorious eve and day staying home, watching movies in pajamas, and eating a butt ton of mashed potatoes. I miss family
sometimes living so far away on our own, but honestly, not on holidays. It was always SO STRESSFUL seeing so many people in such a short amount of time, and now I get to stay home and actually enjoy our holidays and it’s the freaking best.
ETA: sorry posted too soon. Merry Christmas to all who celebrate. To everyone else, hope you had a nice day too!
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
I don't know...I don't think the "randos" are the rude ones here. People in a crisis show up looking for advice, and some of you can't just let it be. You gotta add in memes and gifs, hoping to stir up reactions, and then call the OP rude.
Plus, regulars on here seek out medical advice and it's happily given. Maybe try being a little more welcoming? It's just an internet message board; not some secret country club.
ETA also, she already received medical advice and was asking strangers if we disagreed with science - different than asking for medical advice. And I think if you read most posts where medical advice is “happily given to regulars” you will see that most of us say “call your dr but (here’s what happened to me/here’s what my dr said)”
The term “clique” has has been brought up before here and I think it’s overused, similar to the term “bully”...there is a community here, and some of us have known each other for over a year bc of our struggles, so yes I’m sorry but if one of those ladies who I’ve spent many many weeks getting to know and who have supported me in my darkest days needs support/backup/whatever, you better believe I’ll be there over some random person who hasn’t even taken the time to tell me anything about her, but that’s just how I am irl even if this is just an internet message board
That is not a “clique”, no one is here like mean girls picking on people just because, we are just tired of seeing random pictures of pee sticks, fetal genitalia and people using us solely to ask one off questions that have no desire to really be part of this community. There are many boards like that, if that fits your taste better, a google search can be enlightening.
If you have no desire to put forth an effort to be part of the community most on this board have no desire to entertain those posts and while scrolling past every random post is an option it can and has gotten to the point in past BMBs or other boards that it becomes more a pointless yahoo questions set-up and most want more for our community than that.
Why do I feel like we have to keep explaining this over and over...it’s literally in the read this first post.