Any thoughts?

knottie93c5a17d361426c1

i miscarried at 5 weeks on December 5th. All symptoms and bleeding went away within days. We dtd December 4th and every other day since December 9th. The internet recommended not using opks since my cycle might be weird after, so we’re going this route just in case we catch an egg and then we’ll resume opks after af comes. However, I’ve been having ovulation symptoms since around December 12th and now the pregnant symptoms have started up. The 12th would have been O day had I not been pregnant. My hcg was down to 6 on the 14th so the symptoms can’t be from hcg. TMI part. Cervix was high soft and open since around the 10th. My biggest O symptom is #2 trouble, mainly constipation, and that started up around the 12th. Eases up a bit if I don’t try to go for a while but then I’m also getting cramps from being backed up. And then for several days now, my breasts have been HUGE. They puffed up first when I was pregnant then off and on sore. Every now and then I get a few twinges but not as bad as before, but the main symptom is how they swelled up. And last, my vagina walls swelled up making it hard to dtd when I was pregnant before and that’s the only time I’ve ever had that happen. And it’s back. Any thoughts? I’m sure it’s way too soon to test and I’ve been resisting, but I bought a box of 50 cheapies when I lost the first baby and they’re begging to be used!

prpl11butterfly

If it's soon enough for symptoms it's soon enough to turn a test. Take one. If its positive, please move on to your BMB.

40momma

I'm sorry for your loss, I truly am. Nobody deserves this. However, do not do a drive by on this board. Plenty of us have been struggling through loss and ttcal for months and even years. And you show up without an introduction and simply tell us you think you're pregnant again literally days after your mc. Have some respect for those of us on here. 
And by the way, I've had plenty of pregnancy symptoms every single cycle after my losses which I never had before. Sore boobs, vivid dreams, acid reflux, oh and major mood swings too.... Guess I'm having one of those now. Loss sucks. Having someone rub a 'oops I'm pregnant' in your face after loss, really really sucks. 

dpjennifer

OP, there's a reason they tell you to wait a cycle after MC for dating purposes. There's a reason I tell everyone to temp after a MC, so they KNOW when/if they O and what their cycle is doing. There's a reason they track your HCG down to below 5. 
Your cycles WILL be wonky after MC. Possibly for 6-12 months following your MC.
You may have PG symptoms EVERY cycle for the rest of your life... I sometimes do. There are cycles where I've SWORN I was PG, except I was bleeding like a stuck pig. 
THIS post you put here is NOT ok.  
IF you have PG symptoms, you will turn a BFP. If you get a BFN, you are NOT PG at this point, and your symptoms are Progesterone symptoms... wait a few days for AF or to take another test.

But hey, you'll probably be the special snowflake who gets KU right after your MC, hurts all of us with your post, and then moves on to have a healthy living child... I'm SOOOo thrilled for you.

knottie93c5a17d361426c1

Well that was rude. Maybe I didn’t feel a need to hash out my entire story to people so that I can feel shitty about this all over again. But nope, since you clearly think I was just “oops, pregnant”, you want one. Well, here it is. 
Four and a half years ago, the man I thought I was going to marry blew his brains out and I went into a dark place for a year and a half. I had to uproot my entire life so that I could get away from the whole thing and finally get back to normal. And that led me to my husband, who we discussed kids and planned for kids, bought a house sized for four, and got married. Thought boom, it would be that easy. Instead, it’s been nearly a year of color coded planning, counting, apps, opks, scheduled sex, and negative hpts. And it turns out my insurance doesn’t pay for infertility treatments if that’s what it comes to. Because I’ve researched that. I’ve spent 16 days googling and reading forums and thought maybe this forum would be a supportive place for someone just trying to have a little hope. Instead, I learned where I shouldn’t waste my time. Thanks. 

dpjennifer

OP, I was nice to you on the MC forum. Your post there was fine. 
This post was NOT fine. You can apologize and you can join into the threads and get to know us, so we can support you. But support is a 2 way street.
Since you wanna be all Pain Olympics... lemme help you out:
My name is Jennifer. 
I also bought a big-ass house preparing to have the 2-3 kids I've always dreamed about. 
I NTNP for almost 2 years before I got KU the first time. I had a D&C 2 weeks before my wedding day because they thought it was a molar PG... so essentially the baby I was excited about could have been cancer, and then I would've been benched for a YEAR. Yeah, that was super fun.
Since then, I've had THREE more MCs. 
I've been poked and prodded and a giant guinea pig.
I can't get any infertility treatment, because insurance only pays for the testing.
DH refuses to consider adoption.
So 4 years or more later, I'm looking at living Childless NOT by Choice, because I'm broken and DH and I can't see eye to eye...

So please... tell me more about how rude I am because you bursted in here with your sore boobs and PG and not even feeling remotely remorseful or apologetic. 

This can be the best forum you've ever been on... put your research to good use. Just apologize and then jump into the threads that are here and GIVE some support... THEN you can lament about your sore boobs in the TWW thread and how frustrating TTCAL is... and we'll be all like "Dude, girl, we totes get you. It sucks the big one."

dpjennifer

knottie93c5a17d361426c1 said:

i miscarried at 5 weeks on December 5th. All symptoms and bleeding went away within days. We dtd December 4th and every other day since December 9th. The internet recommended not using opks since my cycle might be weird after, so we’re going this route just in case we catch an egg and then we’ll resume opks after af comes. However, I’ve been having ovulation symptoms since around December 12th and now the pregnant symptoms have started up. The 12th would have been O day had I not been pregnant. My hcg was down to 6 on the 14th so the symptoms can’t be from hcg. TMI part. Cervix was high soft and open since around the 10th. My biggest O symptom is #2 trouble, mainly constipation, and that started up around the 12th. Eases up a bit if I don’t try to go for a while but then I’m also getting cramps from being backed up. And then for several days now, my breasts have been HUGE. They puffed up first when I was pregnant then off and on sore. Every now and then I get a few twinges but not as bad as before, but the main symptom is how they swelled up. And last, my vagina walls swelled up making it hard to dtd when I was pregnant before and that’s the only time I’ve ever had that happen. And it’s back. Any thoughts? I’m sure it’s way too soon to test and I’ve been resisting, but I bought a box of 50 cheapies when I lost the first baby and they’re begging to be used!

Also, QFP

ruby696

Wow. I didn't respond initially because 1) I have no idea who you are and couldn't even begin to care and 2) I thought @prpl11butterfly was a saint and handled your post much more maturely than I would have. But then you had to go and justify your conduct. OP, we've all had shitty things happen to us. We have all lost people. Nearly a year of TTC is not unheard of or even uncommon, and while I'm sorry for your difficulties TTC, they cannot begin to compare to what some of the ladies on this thread have dealt with. 

Since you want to share stories, I've had five miscarriages. Four have been this year. I am now paying out of pocket to see an RE because guess what - most people's insurance doesn't cover fertility treatment! So I'm crossing my fingers I have a successful pregnancy with fertility meds, because I cannot afford IVF unless I use my 401k, which MH is dead set against. 

If you are not pregnant and you would like to be a part of this group of amazing, supportive women, a genuine apology is in order. 

ETA: grammer

SpongeWorthy

Today my DS would be 18 months old.  Instead of celebrating with him, his ashes are sitting on a shelf in my living room.

Loss is hard.  We get that.  This post was not about your loss.  It was “OMG guys could I be knocked up????” 1) Take a test.  2) What the F do I care?  I have no idea who you are.

ruby696

My heart hurts for you @SpongeWorthy. So much love to you today. 

char245

@SpongeWorthy big hugs! 

Mack2342

@SpongeWorthy thinking of you today.  

prpl11butterfly

@SpongeWorthy so many hugs for you

zuuls_mom

@SpongeWorthy huge hugs!! 

knottie3a45e4111a530333

You guys are super rude and inconsiderate to this woman. We’re all here because we experienced a loss... this board is “trying to conceive after a loss” and isn’t that what her post is about? It makes me so sad to think that I won’t be able to find support here for my recent loss.

Don’t think that because you’ve had a harder time or “experienced more” in your life that it makes it any easier for people that may have had just one loss. How horrible to come here for support just to be dumped on.

dpjennifer

You guys are super rude and inconsiderate to this woman. We’re all here because we experienced a loss... this board is “trying to conceive after a loss” and isn’t that what her post is about? It makes me so sad to think that I won’t be able to find support here for my recent loss. 

Don’t think that because you’ve had a harder time or “experienced more” in your life that it makes it any easier for people that may have had just one loss. How horrible to come here for support just to be dumped on.

QFP
@ knottie 8 million...
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And for anyone playing today... I got it in right before midnight, but with the white knight Ive got:

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