@lelkcot MH says he wants to take a picture of them this time so I can get implants that look exactly like they do while I'm nursing. Haha. I don't know that I'd be up for cosmetic surgery OR boobs that big permanently.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
@meggyme DH said the same thing several times about nursing morning boobs. I always use to tell him I wanted a lift post kids, nows he’s totally on board, but is pulling for nursing-morning-boob-size (which I’m so not game for)
Hey, all! I've been MIA with a crazy schedule lately, but things are back to normal this week. I didn't want to just AW post and not be able to comment/give support...ANYWAY, I'm back.
I can't believe we are at or nearing the half-way mark! It does not seem possible.
In boob related news, my husband is a barber and it's not uncommon for him to get hair splinters or for me to get them either just by being around him. My nipple was sore for a few days and finally last night I saw the tiniest little hair splinter sticking out of it. First of all, YUCK. Second of all, OUCH.
MH has made it a point to make comments about my boobs growing. *exaggerated eye role* If I could keep the size they've grown to and lose the belly weight after baby I'd be a happy camper. I'm by no means complaining because they aren't obnoxious yet, but definitely make my clothes look slightly better. The only complaint I have is finding real bras that fit right. It feels darn near impossible. I've been living in nursing sporting bras and they have felt the best, but limit the type of shirts that I can wear.
We have two sleeping beauties in heaven. Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016. Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015. They will be forever missed.
@swanbrooner welcome back! I cut my husband's hair and he has the thickest, stick straight hair of anyone I know. I can definitely sympathize with the unpleasantness and weirdness of hair splinters. Ouch! Here's hoping my baby boy gets at least some of my softer hair genetics...
I had a routine appointment with my midwife today. I am 22 weeks and I have gained 20 pounds, (damn office scale was 3 pounds heavier than mine at home!). I got a bit of a talking to about it and it’s put me in such a sour mood. She said if I continue like this I may gain 40 pounds and that extra weight gain will make labor more difficult.
I am eating healthy, with a few splurges, and exercising regularly. I ran a half marathon at the beginning of the month. My previous midwife never cared about the scale as long as I was practicing healthy habits. I know it’s her job to tell me these things, but I mean, what am I supposed to do, go on a diet?
Sorry for the rant. I feel better now getting it off my chest.
@maggiemadeit I may be wrong, but I don't think 40 lbs total is that outrageous. And even then, I don't see how a few extra pounds would somehow make your muscles work less effectively to make labor more difficult. Women gain much more weight during pregnancy and go on to have their healthy babies. You are doing everything right and your body knows what it is doing. Barring any issue, like GD, I'd just keep doing what you're doing. Maybe you're just more muscly than the average prego and it's throwing their charts off.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
Ugh @maggiemadeit that is so frustrating, I'm sorry to hear it. It sounds like you are doing all the right things, so I wouldn't even worry about the scale. Doctors and midwives seem to have become programmed to be more concerned with gaining too much weight than they should be. First of all, @meggyme is right, there is no reason to be more concerned with gaining 40 lbs over the "recommended" 35. Some women gain 50 or more and are perfectly healthy; some gain less. But to be honest, gaining too little can have far more serious health implications for baby than gaining too much, so the fact that people get scolded for putting on weight is sad and can have unintended consequences of actually making people scared to put on weight at all. ALSO, people gain weight at way different rates throughout pregnancy - some gain a lot in the second trimester and have a much harder time gaining any at all in the third, once their stomach becomes all squished and heartburn becomes more common. That "pound a week" is total BS. So anyway, forget about your midwife, and keep doing what you're doing - eat healthy overall, exercise, and don't feel bad about splurging!!
@maggiemadeit I’m so sorry they made you double think about your weight! I’m up 20lbs and my midwife was ‘like, great, right on track.’ I would be so pissed if told else wise!
My random is I need a nice warm maternity coat, where the hell do I get one?
@meggyme@babycolima12@LoboandSuperNinja Thanks a lot for the support ladies. I’m not usually one to feel sensitive about things like this, so it caught me a little off guard that I took it so personally. I will keep doing my best.
@maggiemadeitBoo for your midwife giving you grief about it. I’d agree with the other ladies, so long as you’re taking care of yourself than I think you’re fine! if it makes you feel any better I was up 20 lbs based on their scale too (15 on mine at home, which is what I’m sticking with), and while my OB didn’t say anything, in response to my wincing at the number the “sweet” nurse said “you know you’re just going to keep gaining, right?” Like, no lady, I just have a toddler clinging to my leg, but I had no clue pregnancy involved weight gain!
This pregnancy has turned me into an Amy. She came out royally a little while ago while I cleaned "play slime" out of a rug. I used to be a fly-by-the-seat of my pants Melissa with a touch of Nicole (comfy shoes are where it's at in my world). DH is the big bed time enforcer, and I'm not sorry, but it saves my sanity. We didn't use to have one before DD1 started school.
I’m Lisa / Nicole with a pinch of Amy, but I do try to substitute cuss words for things like “sugar” since I cuss so much at work with my sailor coworkers. Big-ish boobs normally and super over how big they are now, especially with grabby DH and how tender/sore they are lately. Boo to weight gain shaming! My random is that we did Santa photos today & then went trick or treating at the local elementary trunk or treat event. It was a pretty good day despite no nap, fear of Santa, and tons of sugar!
Me: 30 DH: 31 Married: 2012 BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016 | BFP #3 May 2017, MC July 2017 | BFP #4 Jan 2018, MC Feb 2018 | BFP #5 July 2018, fingers crossed
@maggiemadeit I hate the weight shaming. I’m plus size to begin with so it’s all I hear about at most drs appts anyway but it never fails to piss me off when I’m told “you’re already heavy so don’t gain any weight.” Like, that’s not how it works. At all. I gained about 35-40 with both my kids and my weight didn’t impact my labor or delivery at all. So don’t fret girl. As long as you are taking care of yourself then forget what she says about weight gain. Every body is different and will react differently to pregnancy
@maggiemadeit I’m a prime example how weight gain doesn’t show the whole picture! I was having a fine pregnancy and had only gained a few lbs. when I was diagnosed with GD that doesn’t even run in my family. I later was hit with HBP and honestly I hardly gained anything in my pregnancy every appointment I was up 3 lbs or down 2 the next. I think in total I gained 7 lbs and my baby weighed 6 lb 12 oz (plus fluid , placenta, etc). I wasn’t gaining much weight but I was clearly very sick. I have friends who gained a lot more weight than I ever did and they never had any of the health issues I did. It sounds like you are being healthy and responsible I wouldn’t stress it. As moms we already have enough to worry/stress about no sense in adding all that on to it as well.
@maggiemadeit I gained 20lbs with DD by this point and a total of 50lbs by the end. No labor issues per say. I did end up with hbp at the end and was induced but I don’t know that it was related to the weight, I had a lot of stress in my life at the time. I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Everyone is different.
I talked it out with my husband last night and I realized that I may have some unresolved feelings from the birth of my first, who was over 10 pounds and ended up being a c-section after 2 days of unmedicated labor. I gained almost 50 pounds, even though I had a very healthy pregnancy and I continued running up until 8 months. The midwife strongly implied that things would have been better if I hadn’t made such a big baby. I still feel a lot of guilt and disappointment about her birth I guess, and I felt like she was saying it was my fault. I am obviously pregnant and super sensitive right now, and I know I shouldn’t take it so personally. I also desperately want to avoid another c-section and I am worried that if I make another giant baby I won’t get the VBAC that I want.
But like all of your very smart women have said, every body is different. I will just keep up with my healthy eating and exercise and keep doing my best. What else can I do, right?
@maggiemadeit some people just have big babies. I have a friend that was induced at 38 weeks because her baby looked so big and he ended up being as big as my 8lb13oz baby with 3 more weeks to grow. All you can do is keep doing what you're doing and hope for the best. Can you talk with your midwife about your feelings regarding this? They might be able to offer some reassurance, but at the very least they'll know to be more sensitive to your (I hesitate to call it) birth disappointment from last time.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
@meggyme Thank you. My family is very big/tall and my grandma had 5 kids all between 10 and 12 pounds, so I am inclined to believe that I may be one of those people who has big babies, my daughter is still in the 90th percentile at almost 3, so she’s still a big kid.
We talked a lot about VBAC yesterday and I hope that I made myself clear enough about why I really want one, and how bad it was for me last time. They are supportive and want to give me every opportunity to make it happen, so I feel good about that, even if this particular midwife was lacking some bedside manner.
@maggiemadeit if you like podcasts, I just listened to one yesterday to get pumped for my own VBAC. Babies and Babes episode 35. It's the birth story of a woman who was told her babies were too big but did two VBACs including one unexpectedly at home
@lindseyb918 and @maggiemadeit I was totally going to suggest that episode as well! You can also look up Nichole Joy (the woman on the podcast) - - she is a doula who has free birth plans and labor classes on her website.
As for my random - I tried a new magnesium/calcium supplement last night after hearing about it from the woman who teaches my prenatal fitness class, she is also a prenatal chiropractor. I honestly can't remember the last time I slept so well/deeply!
NYC gets all the cool stuff - they have 2 Reese exchange machines there where you can trade in the Halloween candy you don’t want for Reese! (Or, you know, you can just buy some Reese... but far less amusing)
@lelkcot How much Reese for a 2nd born child? (kidding)
Despite updating my driver's license and voting registration in February this year, I have to go to the election commission and get my name changed. My name has been changed since 2015. In the 2016 election, my address was wrong, name was correct. I thought updating my voter registration with my license would fix all that this year. Nope. Oh, and both times, my voter registration cards were mailed to my current address and were correct. I can't find the damn things to prove it, though. Good thing I checked, though. I would be out of luck otherwise as tomorrow is the last day I can change it. /end rant
@kapowfal I was going to go vote early today, but the line was really long and I wasn’t brave enough to stand in it with a toddler... (I’m a bad citizen )
Anyone else watch Dr Phil?? WFH today, I put a DVRd episode on and there are two women on today who are insisting they're pregnant and the pregnancy has lasted years.
@BuckeyeNut05 some people are in serious denial! There’s was a whole thread once over on TTGP about “cryptic pregnancy” where one would be pregnant for years, but never turn a test or be detectable on ultrasound...
@BuckeyeNut05 have you heard of cryptic pregnancies? There is a website on one of these with a "support group" that is absolutely delusional and really, really sad.
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Married: 2016
BFP #1 4/23/18, blighted ovum 5/29/18
BFP#2 7/14/18, DS 4/5/19
I can't believe we are at or nearing the half-way mark! It does not seem possible.
In boob related news, my husband is a barber and it's not uncommon for him to get hair splinters or for me to get them either just by being around him. My nipple was sore for a few days and finally last night I saw the tiniest little hair splinter sticking out of it. First of all, YUCK. Second of all, OUCH.
Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016.
Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015.
They will be forever missed.
I am eating healthy, with a few splurges, and exercising regularly. I ran a half marathon at the beginning of the month. My previous midwife never cared about the scale as long as I was practicing healthy habits. I know it’s her job to tell me these things, but I mean, what am I supposed to do, go on a diet?
Sorry for the rant. I feel better now getting it off my chest.
My random is I need a nice warm maternity coat, where the hell do I get one?
My random is that we did Santa photos today & then went trick or treating at the local elementary trunk or treat event. It was a pretty good day despite no nap, fear of Santa, and tons of sugar!
Married: 2012
BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016
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I talked it out with my husband last night and I realized that I may have some unresolved feelings from the birth of my first, who was over 10 pounds and ended up being a c-section after 2 days of unmedicated labor. I gained almost 50 pounds, even though I had a very healthy pregnancy and I continued running up until 8 months. The midwife strongly implied that things would have been better if I hadn’t made such a big baby. I still feel a lot of guilt and disappointment about her birth I guess, and I felt like she was saying it was my fault. I am obviously pregnant and super sensitive right now, and I know I shouldn’t take it so personally. I also desperately want to avoid another c-section and I am worried that if I make another giant baby I won’t get the VBAC that I want.
But like all of your very smart women have said, every body is different. I will just keep up with my healthy eating and exercise and keep doing my best. What else can I do, right?
Sorry for the novel. So. Many. Feelings. Ugh.
We talked a lot about VBAC yesterday and I hope that I made myself clear enough about why I really want one, and how bad it was for me last time. They are supportive and want to give me every opportunity to make it happen, so I feel good about that, even if this particular midwife was lacking some bedside manner.
As for my random - I tried a new magnesium/calcium supplement last night after hearing about it from the woman who teaches my prenatal fitness class, she is also a prenatal chiropractor. I honestly can't remember the last time I slept so well/deeply!
Despite updating my driver's license and voting registration in February this year, I have to go to the election commission and get my name changed.
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12493681/need-some-advice-on-cryptic-pregnancy
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12561717/cryptic-stealth-pregnancy/p1