@meggyme and @lelkcot today is the first time I have heard that term. All I can think of is if that were really a thing that happened, 9 months is quite enough of feeling pregnant!
@lelkcot Jinx. I posted a couple links to the old threads, which also have links to some pretty incredibly unnerving websites and support groups. Sometimes it's fun to go visit crazytown.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
@lelkcot I don't think it's a hoax, I think it's people that desperately want a baby to the point that they've deluded themselves into false pregnancies, which is a psychiatric issue and not a medical one. They refute all the science that tells them that they aren't pregnant: hpt's, blood tests, ultrasounds... and are basically told by their support groups "you're going to have to do this alone because no doctor will believe you" so they go without prenatal care and if they happen to get pregnant during their "cryptic pregnancy" they're encouraged to have unattended home births because again, no doctor will believe them.
It gets boring at work and I once went as far as joining one of these support groups to see what they tell each other. Most of the cryptic pregnancies that result in actual babies are in areas where medical care is pretty limited to begin with, like rural Africa and Asia.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
@meggyme it honestly a little heartbreaking when you think of it that way. Trying for a baby can be such a tough experience, groups like the cryptic pregnancy are making it harder an these women who buy in to the craziness. The stuff on that website is just nutty.
@BuckeyeNut05 no worries, I've already been down that rabbit hole and it's slow at work lately.
@lelkcot yeah, I mean faced with infertility and working with an RE vs bucking the whole system and believing that you're pregnant despite all indication to the contrary, I can understand why some people that might not be science minded or know how their bodies work would come to that conclusion. I wonder how many women eventually realize the truth and that these sites just fed the craziness for so long.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
@maggiemadeit I have a serious complex about my weight this time because I gained so much last time. Even the random bump comments people make have really set me over the edge. Being a STM and popping out so early has bothered the crap out of me. So this time I'm trying to go at it differently. I plan to continue to eat healthy and exercise and know that that is all I can do to keep myself healthy. My body will do the rest and so will yours! As long as everyone comes out happy and healthy on the other side!
@BuckeyeNut05 Please don’t apologize. That was a highly entertaining rabbit hole, with just the right amount of twilight zone.
@novelblessings Yes to the comments. My MIL is so sweet and well-meaning, but every time she sees me she comments on how “big” or “huge” I am. I want to say, “I am aware that I am huge, I have to live in this body for the next 4 months, I don’t need a reminder, please and thank you”. But she is really sweet so I don’t say anything. Also my husband keeps telling me that I am all belly and he doesn’t see it in my face like last pregnancy, which is a lie, but such a nice one that I let it continue.
Me: 30 DH: 31 Married: 2012 BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016 | BFP #3 May 2017, MC July 2017 | BFP #4 Jan 2018, MC Feb 2018 | BFP #5 July 2018, fingers crossed
@maggiemadeit@BuckeyeNut05 What is up with MILs?! This past weekend was my SILs baby shower, we are only 5 weeks apart but she lives out of state. She stopped by the house last Friday and my husband is like "wow you are bigger than her (SIL)!" Thank you idiot! We go to the shower and my MIL, while we are taking pictures together says "you are catching up to her (SIL) size". OMG! And her friend from the corner I could hear say about me, "she's big for only that far along, but (SIL) has always been so small anyways".
DH took pics of us together, I would never agreed to it because we "hate" each other, but it was for him so I did it. Later I looked at the pics and she is huge compared to me. Why the comments people?!!
@maggiemadeit - I feel for you on the size issue. I have a full on 3rd trimester bump, thanks to all my extra fluid. I get comments everywhere I go, even got one from my mom last night who knows all that is going on with me. She said, "wow, I have to admit you really have popped way out there." No shit, mom?! And I get to live like this for the next 4 months, so I feel your pain.
Also, on the big babies. I know a lady who's very tall and whose DD is in my DD's class. She has an infant born over the summer who was 12 lbs at birth and she had him at home with a midwife. She said it took 6 weeks for her to be able to sit comfortably, but she did it!
My kids are tall. DD2 in particular is still in 99th percentile for height at 3 and 84th for weight or something. She's got her dad's long torso and build. He's 6'4".
How sad is it those are better descriptions of me than the girl names were? I’m basically not married if these are the only choices, but Rob is the closest + yelling at the TV and putting up with my shit.
Me: 30 DH: 31 Married: 2012 BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016 | BFP #3 May 2017, MC July 2017 | BFP #4 Jan 2018, MC Feb 2018 | BFP #5 July 2018, fingers crossed
Not baby related, but does anyone know a decently priced source of sheet face masks? Looking online they all look like they're at least $3 each. Last year I got a little binder full of different ones as a Christmas present and I thought it was a brilliant gift. Something I thoroughly enjoyed and never would have bought for myself. I want to make one for a different friend, but they are much more expensive than I thought.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
Oh gosh @meggyme this is a hard one! Major Brent minus yelling at the TV, some Nate because he certainly puts up with my shit (it would not work if he didn't) and Rob in regard to my terrible cooking.
@novelblessings it may have been worth it to take the picture just to prove them all wrong!
@meggyme I love sheet masks and, unfortunately, I haven't found a great place that single-handedly has the best prices. YesStyle has decent pricing, but the shipping takes a while. Ulta and Sephora tend to be expensive, but around the holidays there seem to be well-priced holiday release packs. Amazon tends to work the best but just because an item is in stock now, doesn't mean it will be in stock later. I know people find good deals on Ebay as well. You've probably looked at all those places, but just throwing in my two cents' worth of experience.
I can’t tell if I’m being crazy or not. We “finally” put up our social media announcement and MiL is the first to comment:
WHAT your joking
I admit Facebook makes me petty but I just want to delete it. I know she thinks it’s funny but I think it’s dumb, as PGAL it feels insensitive, and obviously the wrong “your” irks me too.
Me: 30 DH: 31 Married: 2012 BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016 | BFP #3 May 2017, MC July 2017 | BFP #4 Jan 2018, MC Feb 2018 | BFP #5 July 2018, fingers crossed
@mamakate1616 I would totally delete. She was probably joking but if she gets mad just tell her that sometimes joking doesn’t sound right in print, and you didn’t want to set the wrong tone. I’m really sorry, that sounds terribly unsupportive. People really just don’t think sometimes!!!
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Me: 36, DH 37.
August 2014- 6w MMC
July 2015- CP
PCOS, plus some medical issues that make me high risk.
@mamakate1616 if it bothers you then delete her comment. Don't let her ruin the joy of having your friends be excited for you because she was the first to post a stupid comment. Take it off so you don't have to look at it. Maybe you'll be lucky and she'll get the hint.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
@mamakate1616 I agree, delete it if it’s bothering you or souring your announcement. This is an exciting time, and if she says something, have your husband deal with it!
@mamakate1616 Add my vote for delete it! There are clearly reasons why you haven't made your news "Facebook official" yet and while I don't know your MIL I feel like it's her way of getting attention that she new before you posted it? Maybe I'm off on that but go ahead and delete that comment and if she says anything you can always blame technology
@mamakate1616 If it were me I would delete it. I've deleted ridiculous comments before off my facebook when my mother was still on there. You don't need negative vibes ruining it for you. If she asks about it later just tell it was insensitive and you didn't want that kind of attention drawn to the post.
ETA: not MIL related but when we told my SIL her first response was "I didn't think you guys wanted another one". DD1 will be exactly 5 years older than DD2
Hahah thank you ladies!! I am glad I was not just being crazy. @HoneyBear40 you are right on the money as far as making it about her, and that would totally be my alibi BUT I’m just going to let it go.
Me: 30 DH: 31 Married: 2012 BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016 | BFP #3 May 2017, MC July 2017 | BFP #4 Jan 2018, MC Feb 2018 | BFP #5 July 2018, fingers crossed
Ugh, I'm so sorry @mamakate1616 . My own mother did not have the greatest reaction to either one of my pregnancies either, so much that she felt the need to call and apologize later for it. EYE ROLL.
DD and baby boy will be 21 months apart, and he first reaction was, "This was an accident, right?"
@swanbrooner OMG! I can’t imagine how you responded to that...
Me: 30 DH: 31 Married: 2012 BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016 | BFP #3 May 2017, MC July 2017 | BFP #4 Jan 2018, MC Feb 2018 | BFP #5 July 2018, fingers crossed
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It gets boring at work and I once went as far as joining one of these support groups to see what they tell each other. Most of the cryptic pregnancies that result in actual babies are in areas where medical care is pretty limited to begin with, like rural Africa and Asia.
@lelkcot yeah, I mean faced with infertility and working with an RE vs bucking the whole system and believing that you're pregnant despite all indication to the contrary, I can understand why some people that might not be science minded or know how their bodies work would come to that conclusion. I wonder how many women eventually realize the truth and that these sites just fed the craziness for so long.
@novelblessings Yes to the comments. My MIL is so sweet and well-meaning, but every time she sees me she comments on how “big” or “huge” I am. I want to say, “I am aware that I am huge, I have to live in this body for the next 4 months, I don’t need a reminder, please and thank you”. But she is really sweet so I don’t say anything. Also my husband keeps telling me that I am all belly and he doesn’t see it in my face like last pregnancy, which is a lie, but such a nice one that I let it continue.
Married: 2012
BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016
I’m married to Brent + Jared + Brett
Also, on the big babies. I know a lady who's very tall and whose DD is in my DD's class. She has an infant born over the summer who was 12 lbs at birth and she had him at home with a midwife. She said it took 6 weeks for her to be able to sit comfortably, but she did it!
My kids are tall. DD2 in particular is still in 99th percentile for height at 3 and 84th for weight or something. She's got her dad's long torso and build. He's 6'4".
Married: 2012
BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016
Not baby related, but does anyone know a decently priced source of sheet face masks? Looking online they all look like they're at least $3 each. Last year I got a little binder full of different ones as a Christmas present and I thought it was a brilliant gift. Something I thoroughly enjoyed and never would have bought for myself. I want to make one for a different friend, but they are much more expensive than I thought.
@novelblessings it may have been worth it to take the picture just to prove them all wrong!
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your joking
I admit Facebook makes me petty but I just want to delete it. I know she thinks it’s funny but I think it’s dumb, as PGAL it feels insensitive, and obviously the wrong “your” irks me too.
Married: 2012
BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016
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ETA: not MIL related but when we told my SIL her first response was "I didn't think you guys wanted another one". DD1 will be exactly 5 years older than DD2
Married: 2012
BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016
Married: 2012
BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016