Intro (child and loss mentioned)

applegirl19

Hi Ladies

A little into on myself. I have been referred to a RE and will be seeing him Friday.I saw one back years ago. I have no issues getting pregnant it’s staying pregnant. I think I am on the correct board.

 I am on my second marriage. We decided to try to get pregnant. This this is different partner my OB said to just try. Well here I am with another referral. He didn’t mess around even though it’s the first with my new husband I’ve had 5 losses total. 

My pregnancy background:
1st pregnany miscarriage 2009
2nd pregnancy was successful no issues

I had no idea that my first loss would be one of many.
3rd pregnancy a miscarriage  (2012)
4th pregnancy a miscarriage (2012)

Then I saw a RE for the first time. Unable to give me any answers. Started on baby aspirin and presterone 
5th pregnancy miscarriage (2013)
6th pregnancy successful (2013)

7th pregnancy (2018) a miscarriage 

I am nervous for Friday. I am 36. My dear new husband doesn’t get that 5 losses isn’t normal. He actually said after our first loss together that it happens to everyone. I feel differently. My biggest fear is they will just say unexplained recoccurent pregnancy loss. I feel I’ve been poked and tested on in the past with no answers. 

I guess thats my intro.

Anyone have any suggestions of what to ask? I can’t remember much of my other visits it’s such a blur. 

suzycupcake

I'm so very sorry for your losses. You might like the TTCAL threads over at TTGP. Introduce yourself generally here https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12734697/newbie-intro-thread-w-o-9-24 and read the link to the newbie guide in the OP. Then when you feel ready, you can post here https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12734694/ttcal-w-o-9-24

Do you know how to change your username here on The Bump so that it's easier to tag you? I wouldn't put your first and last name as the title of your post for internet safety. 

applegirl19

How do you change your name? Thank you!

mommof1

Loss is so hard. Infertility is so hard. I'm sorry your husband isn't on the same page. I think they often don't know how to respond because it's happening to our bodies and they can't control that, and that hurts. At least that's how it was for my husband and I. He wanted to fix it and he couldn't. It felt like he was minimizing things, but when we would talk about it, it was just his way of dealing. Prayers as you move forward. I hope you got some answers or at least some direction on Friday.