@kaleesi93 I get those calls too! “Cousin so and so is here, I told my son, can you bring your cookies that everyone loves?” Wait, what? You want me to bake and show up in 20 minutes? Did we not learn years ago that you cannot coordinate social events through him?
@lyse01 ugh so frustrating. It would be just like mine to coordinate over my head but this time nobody said anything except that we missed it and be mad about it. Smh
sorry so many people responded to me that I can't remember who to tag. We have his office set up in our bedroom because its really the only spot for it. For now, we don't have a spare room he could use. I'm hoping to some day build him a shed or some sort of outbuilding on our property that he could use. I would make him move out to the barn but its not really temperature controlled and that would suck when its -25 degrees outside. Plus our internet/phone don't stretch out there. He's got 3 computers set up in here so I wish he could work from the living room in the evenings (and sometimes he brings a laptop out) but its not really feasible to move everything. Plus the conference calls get interrupted by DS screaming and running around like a maniac while the dog barks. Its basically running a law office and a daycare out of the same building and expecting it to go swimmingly. Not sure what he thinks is gonna happen when we add a second kiddo to the mix.
@chelseay416 have you guys considered some sort of temporary partition? It’s not exactly ideal, but almost anything sounds better than what you’ve got now... if you could hang black out curtains or something it might give you at least a little relief.
DH accidentally tossed his sister’s wedding invitation in the recycling bin while I was away for a few days.
I got a text earlier today asking where it was. When I responded that I left it on the table next to the fundraiser papers for our son....which he also misplaced....he said “I can’t find it. I must have thrown it out with the newspaper.” Of course this morning was trash pick up.
Sorry, not sorry. But I put everything where you could easily find it. Not my fault you threw it out.
@thatbaintforbetty Rage is the only appropriate response to Xmas stuff in September. They completely railroad over TWO amazing holidays, and now expect me to buy that crap? Nope.
If Halloween came after Christmas, I’d totally give out candy canes at the door. I never know what to do with the two dozen I need to decorate my tree.
@sdelg09 I'm sorry you had such a terrible OB experience. I had a med student come in first once (I was high risk at the hospital) and she confirmed that it was my second pregnancy, then asked me if my first was a vaginal birth and I was like, "yeeeaaahhhh that was a MC." And she felt horrible and super awkward but I'm going to go ahead and bet that that piece of info was in my file so maybe read it all first next time? lol.
@chelseay416 I'm sorry you don't have room for a better arrangement at the moment. Messing with my sleep makes me cranky AF, so hopefully you can find something to improve it even a little bit! Maybe invest in one of these? :P
I just told my boss about this pregnancy yesterday and I'm so glad I got it off my chest. I get nervous for no reason because he's very supportive, I'm just weird, haha. I think I might tell the rest of the office by getting a cake for Friday and having it decorated to say, "I'm pregnant" because it's hilarious and also because cake. I'm very excited for everyone to know because I just want to wear maternity clothes all the time and let it all hang out.
Our city is slowly recovering from the tornadoes. It was confirmed that there were actually 6 of them, but only 3 were in the city (others were in woodland areas - so no damaged homes there). Our house is 100% untouched, but a couple streets over people lost their roofs and there are lots of downed trees. Everyone officially got power back yesterday, which is amazing because one of the main hubs was seriously damaged and they have actually had to MacGyver it to get everyone back up and running. I kind of feel like our entire city is just plugged into one big extension cord at the moment. Our mayor has already taken some steps to help out the people who had homes damaged or destroyed by waiving permit fees (duh) and property taxes so people aren't doing something stupid like paying taxes for a home that no longer exists.
Also, someone mentioned ice cream and now I need it. So thanks, lol. *adds mint chocolate chip ice cream run to 'to-do' list...*
I'm terrible at decorating for holidays, even though I love them and we always made a big deal about them when I was a kid, and I want that for my kid. Sigh. I need to suck it up and hit Wal-Mart, lol.
Also, @candicek15, so glad that the restoration process is getting started! That has to be so scary. We had a tornado warning in our area a few months ago, about five miles from where I was, but the storm was scary enough!
I told my mom the name we've picked for our daughter and I'm reminded why I wanted to wait until the baby was born this time. Why do people feel so obligated to tell you when they don't like your name? I know my mom is going through a lot right now (family loss of brother and sister in law last week and then her uncle over the weekend) but... really??? She genuinely asked me why she wouldn't get to name the baby because she was named by her grandmother. She then said, verbatim, "Well, I hope you both
change your mind sometime before she is here." .... I just told her that wasn't a very nice thing to say.
@kangstadt lazy perfectionism has its issues when it comes to holiday decorations. The perfect time to switch over to Christmas is obviously Thanksgiving weekend, but I am still actively celebrating Thanksgiving then (extended family does it on Saturday so everyone can come). It’s a struggle to pull everything out and get it decorated on Sunday or during the week so I tend to get Christmas decorations up around Dec 15th.
@candicek15 haha to a giant extension cord. I’m impressed that they have it up and running and know that they’re going back and hardening all the connections so that it’s safer soon
I agree with the Christmas stuff in September. Absolutely ridiculous. Personally I think it should go on the shelves day after Thanksgiving but that will never happen. Too close together they have to get as much money out of the holiday as possible.
@BarefootContessa that is so incredibly rude when people give opinions on names unless specifically asked. I know my family isn't a fan of my boy name but I told them it isn't their kid so lay off the negativity. I won't even tell them our girl name we finally picked because I don't want to hear what they think about it.
@BarefootContessa I’m so sorry. That’s incrediblely rude of her. It’s your daughter and your decision.
My mom hates almost every name we have ever considered. She still says that she liked the other name we had for DD better. (We went to the hospital with 2) We are set in stone for a boy name and she can’t stand it.
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@BarefootContessa my mom heard my name for DD and said “oh I always hated that name” - what?? It’s okay, she’s gotten over it, or at least never mentioned it again. It probably helps that everyone else fawns over it.
I do wonder whether there are certain cultures where grandmothers are typically allowed to name the grandchild — a friend of mine felt like she had the right to because her mother named her daughter and her grandmother named her. I was like...only if your daughter agrees...I would not let my mom do that.
I flat out told my mom the first time she made a comment about names: "If you have something negative to say about my choices for this child then I will choose to not continue sharing this experience with you. This includes vaccinations, how I choose to feed/dress/decorate/parent. Got it?"
She promptly shut the hell up.
I know not everyone is comfortable with confrontation but what the hell makes anyone think they have a right to offer negativity or unwanted opinions on someone else's child?! Family member or not? It has always literally blown my mind.
Oh blarg. I scheduled my midwife appointment a month ago and drove an hour to show up and have them say they're closing the practice and not accepting clients due later than December waaaaaah There was nothing on the website about it and they told me they closed the schedule app that I made the appointment on, but it was clearly not closed a month ago so I couldn't have known.. So now back to square one. To make matters worse the midwife was funny and genuine and I really liked her immediately which makes it so much harder. Trying to find a midwife halfway between where I live now and where we're looking at buying a house is a lot.. I think I'll sleep the rest of today
Oh man, I can't deal with the opinions about names. We keep baby's name a secret until after birth for that specific reason. The only time I think unsolicited advice is appropriate is when it comes to safety. Otherwise it's a big no thanks!
Oh man, I can't deal with the opinions about names. We keep baby's name a secret until after birth for that specific reason. The only time I think unsolicited advice is appropriate is when it comes to safety. Otherwise it's a big no thanks!
We will keep the name secret too probably. We definitely did with my son. This one might be harder because I want my son to bond with baby, and he’s too young to really keep a secret. But with our first keeping the name a secret was really fun. We came up with a silly nickname and all our friends had a betting pool.
I like trying out baby names with strangers. It’s fun to see them react and you get a feel for the worlds ideas which aren’t personal and don’t actually matter.
With my daughters name everyone loved it.
I have a friend who picks unique/old names and I would never use that name but it doesn’t matter to me if someone else has it.
We didn't tell anyone the name for a while and right before the baby shower my dad begged me over text bc he wanted to get some personalized things. So I said fine and texted him the name and then he NEVER responded.
like not even an OK, or love it, or hate it. Just nothing. lol
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
I work in an office of cubicles. The new OH&S officer just moved over near me. He's new to our company and an older man. He must have 3 cell phones over there, all with different ring tones for phone calls, texts, emails, time change. Ugh! And all on full volume! If he doesn't want to answer the call he lets it ring instead of silencing it. It is driving me nuts. He makes a ton of person phone calls too which, I mean we all do, but he has no concept of how loud his voice is! He just made an appointment for his wife to get her hair done this weekend because they are going to a wedding. I heard every aspect of the call.
I don't know how long my ragey, pregnant self can take it. Turn the volume down, you animal.
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I never understand why family members think they have the right to name your baby. Like you can give me ideas but don’t force your ideas on me. I always tell family members that the baby’s name is some celebrity couple name like bradgelina or kimye lol DS and I just sat here and ate 1/2 a bag of Doritos. (I’ll regret that in an hour) We are on day 2 of naked potty training and 0 accidents so far. He is even going #2 on the potty! Yay! The only problem is he’s refusing pull-ups and underwear. It’s either diapers or naked
@mrdcle what is wrong with people!? Just no concept of others? I don't want people hearing my business, work or personal! I think I'm also overly sensitive right now.
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My cubicle is near one of the company owners and he does this all the time. Leaves his office door wide open and phone on speaker. Drives me nuts. Especially since some of them probably don’t need to be heard by everyone. We also have very thin walls in the few actual offices and I hear tons of shit I’m probably not supposed to hear simply because I’m so close.
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I have to be honest here - I LOOOOVE Christmas. DH and I start decorating around the middle of November. I can’t stand Thanksgiving. It’s a really rough holiday for my side of the family, so November is pre-Christmas for us. I know that retailers putting out Christmas stuff so early is just a money move, but it makes me happy. I’m ready for it!
+1 to not telling names before the baby's born - not interested in anyone's opinion. It was easy with my daughter, but I will have a hard time if this is a boy - I'm torn about using a family name and I know I'll be tempted to talk it out.
Also, I agree that it's early for Christmas stuff, but any day you can eat chocolate oranges while pregnant is a great day in my book!!!
As far as names go, I also keep our name choices a secret until the baby is born. I don't want to deal with people's unsolicited opinions.
My sister tried to get me to tell her our top choices because she has two names that she wants to "keep for herself," and asked that I not use them, but wouldn't tell me what they were because what if I liked them? Sigh. I refused to tell her mine though, because seriously, I'm currently pregnant and definitely need one of the names I have, she's not right now and only MIGHT be in the future to use hers. So hah. Also, hers weren't ones I would want anyway.
@mermaidca, the rage is real. I have absolutely ZERO patience for any adults this week. Between my own kid and the kids I teach, I'm at my limit if you're a grown adult.
I had to unbutton my pants just now. I wear low rise, cause everything else hits me in the stomach uncomfortably. Standing or walking is fine but sitting is awful. I really hope I don’t have to jump up quickly at all today.
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Ugh I just got my reminder call for my 12week appt next week and it’s not with a OB. It’s with the nurse practictioner(former midwife) I was told just my first appt at 7weeks was with her. She’s just rough around the edges and talks down to me(like ok it’s my third pregnancy you don’t need to treat me like I know nothing). And I just really love the two OBs and really wanted to talk to them. Especially because at my yearly before I got pregnant my OB told me she wanted me on a low dose aspirin for pre-e and when I mentioned it to the nurse at my first appt she ignored my question.
Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday, so we usually wait to decorate for Christmas until just after. This year, though the kids and I are leaving for an extended trip overseas on Christmas day, so I'm not sure how much decorating we'll do.
@blueberrymomma can you try rescheduling for when your OB is available? When I went in to my old practice to confirm my last pregnancy they stuck me with a PA who sounds just like your NP - always talking down to me and being negative. I wanted to ask for someone else but I didn't. To be fair I probably went in a little too early, but I had already peed like twice in the hour leading up to it (on sticks, which were positive), and I didn't turn their pee test. She spent the whole appointment trying to tell me that if I turned any tests I would be able to turn all tests, that it didn't matter if it wasn't FMU, and that I was either not pregnant or having a chemical pregnancy, which she did not consider to be pregnant anyway. I had to insist on a blood test and she called me back a few days later like "I didn't expect to be making this call but...you're pregnant." I mean I knew I was, but it was unnecessary stress for no reason and I should have just trusted my instincts and spoken up to say I didn't want to see her in the first place. Long story just to say you should advocate for yourself and ask for someone else if it's an option!
Last year both DH and I were both working a ton of overtime during Christmas time so I literally taped a green paper tree to the wall. My mom ended up making some cute ornaments and presents out of paper and glitter with all the kids to decorate it since we did Christmas dinner at our place.
I don’t even like Christmas so it was all I had time and energy for.
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@lyse01@Piccola1988 I called and they rescheduled me for wednesday(my old appt was Monday). The nurse was super nice about it, I just said I really wanted to talk to my doctor of my pre-e concerns and she was like “ok let’s reschedule you” Totally surprised me about how easy it was lol
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I got a text earlier today asking where it was. When I responded that I left it on the table next to the fundraiser papers for our son....which he also misplaced....he said “I can’t find it. I must have thrown it out with the newspaper.” Of course this morning was trash pick up.
Sorry, not sorry. But I put everything where you could easily find it. Not my fault you threw it out.
It’s not even October.
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@thatbaintforbetty I love Christmas decorations but I definitly hate them being out this early! I like to enjoy my fall decorations first
@chelseay416 I'm sorry you don't have room for a better arrangement at the moment. Messing with my sleep makes me cranky AF, so hopefully you can find something to improve it even a little bit! Maybe invest in one of these? :P
I just told my boss about this pregnancy yesterday and I'm so glad I got it off my chest. I get nervous for no reason because he's very supportive, I'm just weird, haha. I think I might tell the rest of the office by getting a cake for Friday and having it decorated to say, "I'm pregnant" because it's hilarious and also because cake. I'm very excited for everyone to know because I just want to wear maternity clothes all the time and let it all hang out.
Our city is slowly recovering from the tornadoes. It was confirmed that there were actually 6 of them, but only 3 were in the city (others were in woodland areas - so no damaged homes there). Our house is 100% untouched, but a couple streets over people lost their roofs and there are lots of downed trees. Everyone officially got power back yesterday, which is amazing because one of the main hubs was seriously damaged and they have actually had to MacGyver it to get everyone back up and running. I kind of feel like our entire city is just plugged into one big extension cord at the moment. Our mayor has already taken some steps to help out the people who had homes damaged or destroyed by waiving permit fees (duh) and property taxes so people aren't doing something stupid like paying taxes for a home that no longer exists.
Also, someone mentioned ice cream and now I need it. So thanks, lol. *adds mint chocolate chip ice cream run to 'to-do' list...*
Also, @candicek15, so glad that the restoration process is getting started! That has to be so scary. We had a tornado warning in our area a few months ago, about five miles from where I was, but the storm was scary enough!
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BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
@candicek15 haha to a giant extension cord. I’m impressed that they have it up and running and know that they’re going back and hardening all the connections so that it’s safer soon
@BarefootContessa that is so incredibly rude when people give opinions on names unless specifically asked. I know my family isn't a fan of my boy name but I told them it isn't their kid so lay off the negativity. I won't even tell them our girl name we finally picked because I don't want to hear what they think about it.
My mom hates almost every name we have ever considered. She still says that she liked the other name we had for DD better. (We went to the hospital with 2) We are set in stone for a boy name and she can’t stand it.
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I do wonder whether there are certain cultures where grandmothers are typically allowed to name the grandchild — a friend of mine felt like she had the right to because her mother named her daughter and her grandmother named her. I was like...only if your daughter agrees...I would not let my mom do that.
I flat out told my mom the first time she made a comment about names: "If you have something negative to say about my choices for this child then I will choose to not continue sharing this experience with you. This includes vaccinations, how I choose to feed/dress/decorate/parent. Got it?"
She promptly shut the hell up.
I know not everyone is comfortable with confrontation but what the hell makes anyone think they have a right to offer negativity or unwanted opinions on someone else's child?! Family member or not? It has always literally blown my mind.
DD born: 3/31/19
There was nothing on the website about it and they told me they closed the schedule app that I made the appointment on, but it was clearly not closed a month ago so I couldn't have known..
So now back to square one. To make matters worse the midwife was funny and genuine and I really liked her immediately which makes it so much harder.
Trying to find a midwife halfway between where I live now and where we're looking at buying a house is a lot.. I think I'll sleep the rest of today
But with our first keeping the name a secret was really fun. We came up with a silly nickname and all our friends had a betting pool.
With my daughters name everyone loved it.
I have a friend who picks unique/old names and I would never use that name but it doesn’t matter to me if someone else has it.
like not even an OK, or love it, or hate it. Just nothing. lol
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I don't know how long my ragey, pregnant self can take it. Turn the volume down, you animal.
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DS and I just sat here and ate 1/2 a bag of Doritos. (I’ll regret that in an hour) We are on day 2 of naked potty training and 0 accidents so far. He is even going #2 on the potty! Yay! The only problem is he’s refusing pull-ups and underwear. It’s either diapers or naked
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My cubicle is near one of the company owners and he does this all the time. Leaves his office door wide open and phone on speaker. Drives me nuts. Especially since some of them probably don’t need to be heard by everyone. We also have very thin walls in the few actual offices and I hear tons of shit I’m probably not supposed to hear simply because I’m so close.
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Also, I agree that it's early for Christmas stuff, but any day you can eat chocolate oranges while pregnant is a great day in my book!!!
My sister tried to get me to tell her our top choices because she has two names that she wants to "keep for herself," and asked that I not use them, but wouldn't tell me what they were because what if I liked them? Sigh. I refused to tell her mine though, because seriously, I'm currently pregnant and definitely need one of the names I have, she's not right now and only MIGHT be in the future to use hers. So hah. Also, hers weren't ones I would want anyway.
@mermaidca, the rage is real. I have absolutely ZERO patience for any adults this week. Between my own kid and the kids I teach, I'm at my limit if you're a grown adult.
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I don’t even like Christmas so it was all I had time and energy for.
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