@hannahbananas11 - I'm just trying to not burn the place down or punch someone in the face. My patience ran out when I hit 40 hours. So like Wednesday at lunch.
Watching the news right now regarding the Supreme Court nomination is rage-inducing and I'm halfway tempted to go establish the Amazon tribe of Greek mythology, invite all of the frustrated women of the world, and say "eff you" to all angry white men while we build a hugely successful kingdom. But that's not going to happen because I'm too tired to organize all of that right now. So here's a funny picture that's going to get me through the day:
Facebook tells me H and I got engaged 4 years ago today! He proposed in a photo booth. Loving how his face shows absolutely no emotion lol. He was so nervous!
DS born 2/18/2019 DD born 4/1/2023 Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
I don't agree with everything she says. But I like the perspective and know many moms who were too hard on themselves when their natural birth plan didn't happen.
@kayjay44 if this one is a boy we will be buying all of those. H really wants a boy because he thinks we need more good men in the world. Be still, my heart.
@megpants209 H wants a girl, but then he says he also kind of hopes it’s a boy because “so much crap happens to girls and it’s unfair”. Can’t disagree with that
DS born 2/18/2019 DD born 4/1/2023 Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
@kayjay44 That list is great! I will be adding all of those to my Amazon list. This week has made me excited that I'm having a boy, because I'm going to work so hard to raise him to be kind, respectful, and aware of his own privilege. Unlike the assholes that have been filling the news lately.
H has about 5000 female cousins that probably put the fear in him early Now he’s going to be the father of two girls. People wonder why he’s not bothered by not having a son. Even the dog is female. Dude is used to it.
Yep, this is why I freaked the f out when we found out this one is a girl. Raising a boy is so much less scary (although obviously boys and men get assaulted as well) than raising a girl. And it shouldn't be, but it just terrifies me to bring a girl into this world. All we can do is raise good men and strong women I guess. I just was flooded with all those things I do on a daily basis to avoid being attacked and how I'd have to teach those to my daughter now. It's horrifying.
DD skipped her nap. Two days in a row. This kid better not be dropping naps. She isn’t even 2 and I need her to still be napping when the baby is here!
Can we soapbox this for a while? The other thing that's SO important for both little boys and girls is teaching them early on that their bodies are their own and it starts with things as simple as, "give so-and-so a hug! No, don't be rude, give them a hug!"
A committee I'm working with focuses on supporting kids from 0-5 in managing delays, disabilities and problematic behavior. One facet of the initiative is infant massage (for caregiver-child attachment) and they actually have to ask the child, as an infant, before they begin. Which seems strange but it's setting that early foundation of consent and ownership of one's body for both child AND caregiver.
@megpants209 That stuff is so important. I’m actually a little worried because a lot of my family members, and H’s family too are very into hugging, and if baby doesn’t want to, I’m not sure if they’ll be able to understand and be insulted. Teaching adults is way harder!
DS born 2/18/2019 DD born 4/1/2023 Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
@megpants209 - This is big in my house. I come from an extended family of forced huggers who are perpetually mad at me and my kids because I won't force them to hug and kiss.
I had to tell my family whenthey were in town for my son's second birthday that he didn't have to hug them or sit on their laps if he didn't want to. We are definitely already working on bodily autonomy and consent although of course sometimes I am sure the message ain't clear when I'm like, that's nice that you want to live in a poop diaper but you're coming with me... They can learn it. They do learn it. They sure have been learning the opposite for eons ... It's not their capacity that's the problem; it's the lessons they're taught.
@sjnsjnsjn exactly, and the general society's expectations that adults know best and if you disagree, you're disrespectful. That shit grooms kids without even trying.
@megpants209- Totally. Also, my niece was molested so I really hate the messaging like that about always listening to an adult. Um no. There's plenty with bad intentions, so that rule cannot apply anyways.
Re: Weekly Randoms (9/24-9/28)
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
So here's a funny picture that's going to get me through the day:
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
https://www.scarymommy.com/how-natural-is-best-failed-me/
I don't agree with everything she says. But I like the perspective and know many moms who were too hard on themselves when their natural birth plan didn't happen.
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
I’ve been an emotional wreck today, I just want to go home and binge watch HGTV with a bag of candy corn and ignore all my stressors.
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
They can learn it. They do learn it. They sure have been learning the opposite for eons ... It's not their capacity that's the problem; it's the lessons they're taught.
also.. where can I buy a mango this large? does amazon even know what a mango is?