@katy0990 Well, the only reason I really went to high risk is because this is an IVF baby and so they had to do a fetal echocardiogram which is standard. And I'm just going again because they wanted some better imaging and audio. So I don't know that I can really call them since I'm really not like one of their patients. I am wondering if I should try to get in tomorrow rather than Thursday with my OB. But also not sure if one day will make a difference.
@mamajudec2018 If it will help you feel more comfortable or heard, go for it. Honestly, I’m surprised your OB didn’t want to see you sooner given your symptoms and ER visit.
@texas_t@katy0990 Well, I tried calling to move up my appointment but they said they could only get me in with a different doctor tomorrow so I just kept it as is. I know, I thought she would've had a nurse call to check on me or something. The whole practice is just so nonchalent about everything.
@mamajudec2018 good luck with your appt on Thursday. Better to see your own OB a day later. But if you are continuing to stress about your symptoms, you can call and ask to talk to a nurse or the provider on call.
@Katzalia Thank you! Unfortunately, I don't think a nurse would be able to help me since the doc at the ER couldn't. Hoping my OB has some ideas Thursday after talking to the ER doc Sunday.
I'm not sure I've mentioned this but I apologize if I have at all. It's a long story but TL:DR I had an interview and they made it seem like I had the job in the bag but I didn't get it.
I got called for an interview for a promotion at a location that is similar to what I am currently doing (all under the same umbrella within the nys) on the 10th. I scheduled the interview for the 14th and it went well and I was told I'd be contacted later for a second interview maybe in the next week or so. They called me 30 minutes later to schedule it. Then the next day called and asked if I could come in Friday the 17th to meet with the person who would be my supervisor to "chat" and not even have a formal interview. My current coworker actually had spoken with the people I interviewed with and gave me a rave review. I went in for the Friday chat and it went well. I was set up to meet with the assistant commissioner next Wednesday because I guess she gets the final say. On my way out I see one lady I interviewed with on Tuesday and she tells me that there is only one other candidate but that it looks good.
Fast forward to today, I get an email from the lady I "chatted with" on Friday saying I wasn't the best fit for the job. W.T.F. Why did they lead me on and lead me to believe that I was going to get it. Why did the one lady tell me there was only one other candidate and it looked good? Why fast forward all of the timelines?!?! When I talked with my one coworker she agreed that they made it seem like I was getting the job definitely. I feel super upset about it all.
@Jens_Hoes I’m sorry! It’s bad enough to not get the job, but to be let on like that makes it even worse. I hope something comes along soon! @mamajudec2018 How did your appointment go?
@Jens_Hoes ugh, I am so sorry they led you on like that. I had a similar situation last year and it was very discouraging. Hopefully with some time, something more interesting will come along and this will all be for the best.
Holy moly, I feel bad for everyone! @Jens_Hoes I'm really sorry they led you on so much with that job. Also, I gained a lot every single week from 16 weeks on with DS. I ended up around 70 lbs gained & I swear I was not eating everything in sight. This pregnancy has been totally different - I give some credit to how hard I've been trying to eat right, but mostly the credit it to the fact that it's a total different baby. Your body does what it needs to, I hope you can forgive yourself! It's a hard battle.
@Llynde5 Ugh, that's a horrible string of events. I hope things start to turn around for you and you at least can feel better.
@maureenmce Boo for your car & debit card! I'm sorry your trip was ruined. I'm glad that you were able to make it back with a little help from a good samaritan. Hopefully you can rebook?
@mamajudec2018 Your situation sounds so scary, I'm sorry you're going through this! There's about nothing more infuriating in the healthcare field than being dismissed & not treated seriously. I hope that your OB can give you answers quickly today.
@temmetime thank you!! No improvements yet, actually today maybe the icing on the shit cake. I would air more grievances but it’s too exhausting at this point.
I also think that carrying a boy I might have too much testosterone in my system or something because I have never overreact or been so outward with my emotions in my life!! Could it even be a thing? Lol. I would blame it on straight hormones but with DD, even though it wasn’t a perfect pregnancy, my mood, emotions and patience were all intact.
@Jens_Hoes I'm sorry. Years ago I interviewed with Bank of America. I went through THREE months of interviewing. The entire time they emphasized that speaking Spanish was not a requirement. Well I finally heard back that I didn't get the job and the reason they gave was because I wasn't bilingual . WTF?? I was so pissed.
@Jens_Hoes That's ridiculous behavior by a company to lead you on like that! I'm so sorry.
Too lazy to tag, but thank you for all the feedback on the SIL wanting the clothes back topic! I'm glad to know y'all don't think I'm crazy. So, I kind of dug into it a little more because SIL didn't ask me directly, and it just seemed kind of weird to me. I mean, if she wanted it back, you think she'd ask me instead of the man who didn't do the unpacking of, cleaning and folding of said hand me downs, amirite? So, I was like, "yo, H, did SIL tell you she wanted these things back, or what? Because she never asked me." He said, "well, not exactly, I just figured she'd want them back." Ummm, what? Why would you even think that?
H's family (particularly H [sometimes], MIL, FIL, Grandma and Aunt) seem to have a habit of doing/saying things that they THINK would be normal activity, but it's really not that normal to the general population. For instance, when I was pregnant with DD, they (MIL and FIL) would check in with us after each appointment and one of the questions was "how much did C (me) weigh?" Yeah, so, I don't feel that is an appropriate question. And the reason it pissed me off the most, was because the history that I have had with these peeps when it comes to my healthier eating habits. They used to tell me that I needed to "eat a burger to fatten me up" because I would eat things like salads, leaner meats and fish, fresh fruits and veggies, sweet potatoes, whole grains, cold-pressed juices, veggie smoothies, etc. Yes, I still enjoyed a steak, burger, baked potato, dessert, etc, but just not as often as I would eat something healthy. I've just always felt like they've mocked my food choices and even more, the good food choices that I give to DD. They think she needs ice cream, candy, cookies and all the sweets when they visit and I'm not having that. Don't get me started on their poor diet and their health problems. So, when they asked about my weight, I flew off the hinge at DH. Because he asked me and expected me to give an answer like it was an OK question to be asking someone. He had no idea why I was offended and I had to have a serious come to Jesus talk with him about the things that they say, the boundaries they overstep and the worries I have about how the diet he has grown up on (and still continues to think is ok) seriously concerns me and his future health.
ANYWHOO, back on track here. I'm basically going to text SIL and say, "H told me you want the clothes back. Is this true?"
@clbness Whoa seriously? He came up with that gem on his own? I mean, you could text your SIL to ask, but if she has not said anything to anyone and this was just your H’s random misfire, I honestly think you might as well just let it be and do nothing.
Eta: wtf about asking for your weight at each visit. Asking about baby’s size/weight? Okay. Asking about an expectant mother’s? Yikes.
@LLynde5@temmetime@katy0990@texas_t My OB still just really doesn't know what's going on but said she doesn't think it's pregnancy related. She told me to go to my primary care doctor and also to check with high risk when I have the appointment in two weeks. My primary care appointment is tomorrow but I'm sure they will be hesitant to do anything with me being pregnant. It all seems a little silly at this point. Everyone is just passing me around and has no idea. And I'm over here looking like I got punched in the face because I'm so swollen and probably looking ridiculous when I eat haha! I'm trying to laugh it off rather than panic!
I’m complaining about my h. I got some special foods to add to dinner- cucumber dill soup, broccoli salad, and some batter cookie dough. I was so happy to share these with my family & it was not cheap. Ds2 had interest in the brocolli salad. Ds1 liked brocolli salad and the batter cookie dough- he was excited. H complained about the texture of the soup (too thick), ate the brocolli salad, then said the batter cookie dough wasn’t that great. I don’t expect everyone to like everything, but I went out of my way to think of everyone and only ds1 seemed to notice. H also is preoccupied with some work stuff and is not interacting with me, so I told him to please go away. So he did - somewhere in the house. So I guess I’ll do the kids showers and bedtime- maybe he will show up during part of it.
@clbness Sounds like his whole family...is a handful. Sorry you get to be the sole voice of reason! I definitely think you should ask your SIL about the clothes. Good luck!
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@clbness Wow! So your SIL never brought up anything about the clothes? Personally, I wouldn’t say anything to her then because if she wants them then you have to figure out how to deal with that. Also, wtf to asking about your weight gain!?!?
@mamajudec2018 I’m so sorry that she wasn’t more helpful. I would be so upset. Can you move up the specialist appointment?
@katy0990 I'm definitely frustrated. It feels like we should be more concerned and I have a hard time believing it's not connected to my pregnancy. I don't think I can move up the high risk appointment. They really wanted to wait a month so they could get better imaging and audio for the fetal echocardiogram. Unless maybe the symptoms get worse then I could probably get some people to jump into action.
@mamajudec2018 if your PCP cannot do anything, I would insist that they move up your appointment. This is ridiculous! You are paying for medical care and not receiving any care or support! I’m furious for you!
@clbness Wow, your in-laws sound like...a lot. I don't know how you deal with that. I would lose my shit regularly.
Excuse me while I majorly grump about my IV...
They removed my old one today (yay!) and I finally got to shower without a bunch of plastic taped over my arm/hand (yay!). But the new IV location they put in is H O R R I B L E. They insertion point is pretty much right where my wrist bends. If I bend my hand forward, it pulls the tube out a bit and feels really squicky, and if in bend it forward, it jams the external portion into the insertion site. Both hurt to the point I feel like i can barely use my left hand. And they reallyyyy don't want to do a new one because I don't have many sites and they already botched another one today. Bah. IVs might just be the #1 thing I hate about this hospital thing.
@katy0990 Thank you for being upset with me! It's nice to know I am not being over the top. But there's obviously an issue so it's like come on people! Yes, if the primary care doctor can't help and they don't send me to neurology, then I am going to call the high risk doc and see if they would want me to come in sooner for this issue.
@mamajudec2018 I’m with @katy0990 I am so disappointed with this news and their lack of urgency. You needed an answer yesterday. I would insist they move your appointments up. Your blood pressure is still good right?
@LLynde5 I know, I was so disappointed after my appointment. I prayed all day that they would be urgent about figuring this out. Maybe tomorrow at the primary care doctor I will get an advocate. Hoping and praying. Also, so grateful that Baby's heartbeat was good again today. Yes, they said my blood pressure was good today. My face is just more swollen today then it has been.
@LLynde5 I'm so sorry your luck hasn't turned around.
@Jens_Hoes I can't even imagine how frustrated you must be. Unnecessary for them to lead you in like that.
@hkom ivs suck!!! I feel like I can't move my hand/arm without fearing I'm going to rip it out and/or painful stinging. Sorry!
@mamajudec2018 so your OB and ER physician gave no indication of what it MIGHT be? Did they do any testing to rule anything out? Poor doctoring and sleuthing on their part. Any US to determine baby's position to see if nerves are compressed? Any tests at all? Blood work? If you need an xray, I have heard that oral xrays are usually pretty safe during pregnancy, as long as you wear the protective shield they give you. It's the full body ones you need to avoid. But of course, I'm not a doctor, and you'd need to weigh the risks and benefits. I wish I had better advice!
@scaredunprepared At the ER they did a full blood panel and urine sample. They also did an MRI to make sure it wasn't a stroke or a brain aneurysm and they tested for strep. Everything came back normal. They checked baby's heartrate sunday and today and it was good both times. They didn't do an ultrasound. When I asked my OB if the baby could be on nerves she said she really didn't think so based on where my numbness is (chin, lip, gums). My OB is super chill but it's too chill in my opinion. Today I said I'm just afraid my chin is going to be numb the rest of my life and she was like oh no I don't think that'll happen. She's just kind of a wait it out doctor. I'm hoping my primary doctor tomorrow might have some ideas or send me to neurology. I'm tempted to call the high risk doctor just to see if they've heard of this but I'm really not their patient. I just went and am going again for fetal echocardiograms because it's an IVF baby.
@mamajudec2018 I can’t remember if you have facial paralysis and numbness - have they talked about Bell’s Palsy (inflammation of a nerve sometimes viral or no reason)? Anyway I hope you get answers or better soon.
@hkom they can call either an IV team (or whoever the experts are in your hospital) or anesthesia for support if you need your IV moved. If it hurts make sure it’s not reddened or swollen or fluid is leaking out of it.
@activebaby Is it possible to ask for them right off the bat? I am a tough stick, to begin with and Last time, I blew two vains while in labor and another after my C-section. It was awful. I would love to avoid that this time
@Activebaby They actually had the IV tech put this one in because apparently my arms just suck for IVs and i don't have many available sites. They used two getting my first one in and two getting this one in, so they're afraid to run out. Every time the nurse comes in they check it and they flush it out multiple times a day. Theres nothing wrong with this one, the location is just difficult. If they keep me longer on Monday they are going to switch it.
My bitch pales in comparison to others, so it's going in the spoiler.
This is about my car cover.
My new car is parked under my neighbor's pine tree, so I bought a cover to protect the paint from sap. Normal logic right? Then it rained for a week and covering a wet car with a wet cover just felt wrong, so I stretched the cover as best I could over two patio chairs in the backyard so that maybe the cover can get dry.
Finally it stops raining everyday, and today I go to shake the leaves off the cover but found a secret water pool! And ants! OMGWTFBBQ. Now the cover is wadded up on a patio chair so the rain water can drip away and the ants can GTFO.
I'll put it in the washing machine this weekend before I put it up - but man, I had no idea that a $40 cover would be such as pain. I just want my car to stay nice </whine>
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@echo-charlietango Unexpected insects are no bueno. I was watering the indoor plants the other week, and while I was doing so discovered a nest of teeny little ants in one of the pots! They all came swarming out of the soil when I poured the water in. Plant immediately went outside on the porch and is still there until I can get someone to re-pot it for me.
@hkom We're pros at getting surprise ants. What's hilarious is when DH's car gets ants...it happens every year or two and we have no idea how or why. I like to imagine secret prankster ant graffiti on his car that reads "great nest location, available first weekend in July!" It's so weird. We rarely eat in there, much less leave messes, so it's a mystery of why they love his car.
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@echo-charlietango In his car?! That is so odd! It took me FOREVER to find out where our ants were coming from! For the most part I would only ever see one at a time, so I figured there was just a nest somewhere in a well-traveled place outside and we were tracking them in. BIG surprises when hundreds of them swarmed me. At least I found them though??
Re: Bitchtopia Week of 8/20!
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
I know, I thought she would've had a nurse call to check on me or something. The whole practice is just so nonchalent about everything.
@Katzalia Thank you! Unfortunately, I don't think a nurse would be able to help me since the doc at the ER couldn't. Hoping my OB has some ideas Thursday after talking to the ER doc Sunday.
I got called for an interview for a promotion at a location that is similar to what I am currently doing (all under the same umbrella within the nys) on the 10th. I scheduled the interview for the 14th and it went well and I was told I'd be contacted later for a second interview maybe in the next week or so. They called me 30 minutes later to schedule it. Then the next day called and asked if I could come in Friday the 17th to meet with the person who would be my supervisor to "chat" and not even have a formal interview. My current coworker actually had spoken with the people I interviewed with and gave me a rave review. I went in for the Friday chat and it went well. I was set up to meet with the assistant commissioner next Wednesday because I guess she gets the final say. On my way out I see one lady I interviewed with on Tuesday and she tells me that there is only one other candidate but that it looks good.
Fast forward to today, I get an email from the lady I "chatted with" on Friday saying I wasn't the best fit for the job. W.T.F. Why did they lead me on and lead me to believe that I was going to get it. Why did the one lady tell me there was only one other candidate and it looked good? Why fast forward all of the timelines?!?! When I talked with my one coworker she agreed that they made it seem like I was getting the job definitely. I feel super upset about it all.
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
@mamajudec2018 How did your appointment go?
@mamajudec2018 hope everything went well today!
@Llynde5 Ugh, that's a horrible string of events. I hope things start to turn around for you and you at least can feel better.
@maureenmce Boo for your car & debit card! I'm sorry your trip was ruined. I'm glad that you were able to make it back with a little help from a good samaritan. Hopefully you can rebook?
@mamajudec2018 Your situation sounds so scary, I'm sorry you're going through this! There's about nothing more infuriating in the healthcare field than being dismissed & not treated seriously. I hope that your OB can give you answers quickly today.
DS: 12/20/16
EDD: 11/29/18
I also think that carrying a boy I might have too much testosterone in my system or something because I have never overreact or been so outward with my emotions in my life!! Could it even be a thing? Lol. I would blame it on straight hormones but with DD, even though it wasn’t a perfect pregnancy, my mood, emotions and patience were all intact.
Too lazy to tag, but thank you for all the feedback on the SIL wanting the clothes back topic! I'm glad to know y'all don't think I'm crazy. So, I kind of dug into it a little more because SIL didn't ask me directly, and it just seemed kind of weird to me. I mean, if she wanted it back, you think she'd ask me instead of the man who didn't do the unpacking of, cleaning and folding of said hand me downs, amirite? So, I was like, "yo, H, did SIL tell you she wanted these things back, or what? Because she never asked me." He said, "well, not exactly, I just figured she'd want them back." Ummm, what? Why would you even think that?
H's family (particularly H [sometimes], MIL, FIL, Grandma and Aunt) seem to have a habit of doing/saying things that they THINK would be normal activity, but it's really not that normal to the general population. For instance, when I was pregnant with DD, they (MIL and FIL) would check in with us after each appointment and one of the questions was "how much did C (me) weigh?" Yeah, so, I don't feel that is an appropriate question. And the reason it pissed me off the most, was because the history that I have had with these peeps when it comes to my healthier eating habits. They used to tell me that I needed to "eat a burger to fatten me up" because I would eat things like salads, leaner meats and fish, fresh fruits and veggies, sweet potatoes, whole grains, cold-pressed juices, veggie smoothies, etc. Yes, I still enjoyed a steak, burger, baked potato, dessert, etc, but just not as often as I would eat something healthy. I've just always felt like they've mocked my food choices and even more, the good food choices that I give to DD. They think she needs ice cream, candy, cookies and all the sweets when they visit and I'm not having that. Don't get me started on their poor diet and their health problems. So, when they asked about my weight, I flew off the hinge at DH. Because he asked me and expected me to give an answer like it was an OK question to be asking someone. He had no idea why I was offended and I had to have a serious come to Jesus talk with him about the things that they say, the boundaries they overstep and the worries I have about how the diet he has grown up on (and still continues to think is ok) seriously concerns me and his future health.
ANYWHOO, back on track here. I'm basically going to text SIL and say, "H told me you want the clothes back. Is this true?"
Eta: wtf about asking for your weight at each visit. Asking about baby’s size/weight? Okay. Asking about an expectant mother’s? Yikes.
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@mamajudec2018 I’m so sorry that she wasn’t more helpful. I would be so upset. Can you move up the specialist appointment?
I don't think I can move up the high risk appointment. They really wanted to wait a month so they could get better imaging and audio for the fetal echocardiogram. Unless maybe the symptoms get worse then I could probably get some people to jump into action.
Excuse me while I majorly grump about my IV...
They removed my old one today (yay!) and I finally got to shower without a bunch of plastic taped over my arm/hand (yay!). But the new IV location they put in is H O R R I B L E. They insertion point is pretty much right where my wrist bends. If I bend my hand forward, it pulls the tube out a bit and feels really squicky, and if in bend it forward, it jams the external portion into the insertion site. Both hurt to the point I feel like i can barely use my left hand. And they reallyyyy don't want to do a new one because I don't have many sites and they already botched another one today. Bah. IVs might just be the #1 thing I hate about this hospital thing.
@Jens_Hoes I can't even imagine how frustrated you must be. Unnecessary for them to lead you in like that.
@hkom ivs suck!!! I feel like I can't move my hand/arm without fearing I'm going to rip it out and/or painful stinging. Sorry!
@mamajudec2018 so your OB and ER physician gave no indication of what it MIGHT be? Did they do any testing to rule anything out? Poor doctoring and sleuthing on their part. Any US to determine baby's position to see if nerves are compressed? Any tests at all? Blood work? If you need an xray, I have heard that oral xrays are usually pretty safe during pregnancy, as long as you wear the protective shield they give you. It's the full body ones you need to avoid. But of course, I'm not a doctor, and you'd need to weigh the risks and benefits. I wish I had better advice!
@hkom they can call either an IV team (or whoever the experts are in your hospital) or anesthesia for support if you need your IV moved. If it hurts make sure it’s not reddened or swollen or fluid is leaking out of it.
My new car is parked under my neighbor's pine tree, so I bought a cover to protect the paint from sap. Normal logic right? Then it rained for a week and covering a wet car with a wet cover just felt wrong, so I stretched the cover as best I could over two patio chairs in the backyard so that maybe the cover can get dry.
Finally it stops raining everyday, and today I go to shake the leaves off the cover but found a secret water pool! And ants! OMGWTFBBQ. Now the cover is wadded up on a patio chair so the rain water can drip away and the ants can GTFO.
I'll put it in the washing machine this weekend before I put it up - but man, I had no idea that a $40 cover would be such as pain. I just want my car to stay nice </whine>
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018