Hugs @maureenmce!! I hope you can snap out of it soon! I've definitely had several days like that so far, where I pretty much just wanted to hide in bed and cry all day for no reason.
@AdorkablePixie I'm sorry to hear about the accident, but I'm glad you all are okay! I hate drivers who speed through things. I almost got into an accident a few weeks ago. I pulled up to a four-way stop and there was only a car across from me, also going straight. No one was to the left or right. I slowly started moving forward at about 5 mph, since I had been stopped... and had to SLAM on the brakes because some red truck was pealing through the intersection at like 30 mph. There is no way he could have been going that fast from a stop sign... I was shaken for like two hours after that though because if I had been any further into the intersection he would have hit me from the driver's/my side and I could have been severely injured/lost the baby. Anyways, hopefully you still are able to have a restful and relaxing vacation, and that the witnesses help make the insurance process easy to make sure that he doesn't say you are at fault!
@maureenmce I've been extra emotional this week too, and had a huge cry just a few days ago. I should mention that I am more of an emotional person anyways - for example, I have a history of getting more emotional or moody leading up to my period. Anyways, this is normal and it will pass! Just keep track of how long it goes for and talk to your medical provider if you don't feel it's getting better. When I am feeling more down than normal, I make a list of the things that I could do to help me feel better that maybe have fallen off my radar. My current list has positive affirmations or prayer (if that's something you do), exercise, cutting out junk food (definitely have more mood swings after that!), drinking enough water, doing something creative every day, and reading books - both "fun" books and pregnancy/first year of baby books. Then I turn it into a checklist for about a week to make sure I'm doing the list every single day. Usually that kicks me out of the sadness and I feel back to my normal self.
I turned down the job I was offered. They offered me significantly less money than I currently make. Im sad because it would have been an awesome job, but not sad because now I don't have to worry about staying home with my son!
@lexidawg darn, I missed that! I'm sorry you got sick, WTF BODY?! Also, I'm glad that the decision was clear for you about the job! I hope you feel okay with it.
@temmetime YES! So rude of my body! Thank you. It was a pretty clear decision. It just stresses me out since I'll have to start looking while out on leave again but I'll worry about that then. I am just happy I get to have lots of time at home.
@maureenmce I’m sorry you’re having a tough day! I’ve definitely had a few days where I have a more extreme emotional reaction to stuff than I normally would. Last time it was really bad I went to bed at 8:30 and I felt much better the next day, so being tired doesn’t help. The other night something happened at dh’s work that was pretty scary but did not involve him directly and I worried irrationally for a couple of days even though I know he’s safe. These hormones do not make it easy that’s for sure.
@lexidawg Sorry you turned down that job, but happy that it was an easy decision to make! I wish money didn't matter as much as it does, but oh well, maybe in another universe
Oh, and @morgantu I forgot to congratulate you on that chapter, how awesome is that?! Get it gurl.
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Has anyone else experienced this? I'm having a huge emotional downturn today, like a super depressed, on the verge of tears feeling. I think I'm just tired, but wondering if it could be some sort of pregnancy related hormonal shift? Hoping it passes soon - I have a stressful day and work and feeling on the verge of tears during it is less than ideal!
Yes!! I had H meet me for lunch at McDonalds (it’s a 10 minute walk for both of us from work) this week. I was feeling super down. Like I was stretched to thin, worried about too many things, and h was stressed at work and I felt like i was only thinking about myself. When I’m at home both kids are there so it’s hard to really talk. Anyway I told h how I was feeling, asked for his opinion on some kid commitments (birthday party, events, non stop, in addition to their usual activities), and told him I was also struggling because I felt like I wasn’t being supportive to him and I didn’t know how to be. He told me he felt like he wasn’t being a supportive enough to me. It was so simple and so helpful. I guess you didn’t ask for all of that, but yes I’ve felt that way.
@maureenmce pregnancy hormones are crazy! I hope you feel more like yourself soon. I’m glad you are cognizant if your emotions and are so open to sharing. *hugs*
I've been MIA due to app difficulties and real life craziness (I literally feel like every minute of free time this past week was spent on the phone with MFM, my OB, or my insurance). Holy wow there's a LOT for me to catch up on!
@morgantu oh wow congrats!!!! How exciting (And stressful, I'm sure!)
@PensiveCrayon so sorry about the HFM! Fingers crossed he heals quickly and you don't get it. Also, SO and I sleep in different beds, so you're not the only one!
@AdorkablePixie ugh so sorry about the accident. Glad everyone is ok. It really sounds like it was HIS fault if he ran a red light, especially if he went around stopped traffic to do so... either way, the important thing is you're all ok and now get to forget about it and relax on vacation.
@maureenmce yes! I'm having the same experience. I'm having serious body image issues lately, and SO is not helping at all. We met for coffee at lunch time and he told me I needed to make sure I put on makeup next time I leave the house! Like WTF??? I almost lost my shit in Starbucks. Not to mention he's been hinting at my weight gain being too much too fast That's not something you tell a pregnant women! I've also been tearing up on the phone with MFM and insurance. Pretty much every little thing is setting me off lately. It sucks. Plus, I feel WAY overwhelmed with everything going on lately, and I feel helpless and can't make decisions or figure out solutions to problems myself. I need a life coach or something!
@scaredunprepared I hope you can chalk your SO comments to being a oblivious boy and not an insensitive douche! My husband sometimes needs reminders that I need positive reinforcements and affirmation from him!! I usually start buy saying things like “look how cute I am today?” (Even if I am in sweatpants) or “isn’t it amazing that I am growing our baby all by myself, this shit is hard work!!” He gets the point that I need a little love nd recognition!!
@scaredunprepared Like @LLynde5 I also sometimes need to remind DH that I need a little positivity. It’s usually only when he gets busy with work, but when I need to I can be real subtle and say things like “we should order pizza on Friday, after you bring home some flowers” or “you hurt my feelings yesterday and I want to talk about it before I explode” Sometimes these fellas just need some obvious direction. Hinting may feel more subtle & gentle, but if he’s not looking for hints he won’t get them.
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@echo-charlietango thanks. I'll try hints, but if that doesn't work, I'll be more up front about it. He's pretty oblivious at times, so that's what it might take.
@scaredunprepared I wouldn’t recommend hints though! If it’s important to you, I suggest being blunt - don’t dance around the topic or wait for him to puzzle it out.
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Example: my (usually extremely helpful) H and I had the following exchange: me: would you have time to stop at the grocery store today and pick up X? mh: i’m pretty busy but yeah I could make time. me: great, thanks. (5 minutes later) mh: so did you want me to stop at the store for X? me <baffled and annoyed>: uh, yeah, didn’t you tell me you were going to do that when I asked you 5 minutes ago? mh <also genuinely baffled>: you asked me would i have time to go. you didn’t tell me you wanted me to go.
@Katzalia lol that exchange is priceless. So literal.
@echo-charlietango and @KatzaliaI actually did JUST have the conversation with him and told him up front that I'm having a hard time feeling the love for myself at the moment, and I need his love, praise, and compliments more than ever BECAUSE I'm having a hard time. Even if his comments are meant to be helpful, they are inadvertently making me feel worse. He seemed to get it. Hopefully it continues.
Thank you SO much for the support and sharing of similar experiences, guys. I'm on mobile and having an annoying time with tags right now, but I really appreciate it. Feeling somewhat better today, just think I need rest and to unplug a bit this weekend. Thanks again, guys. ❤️
@scaredunprepared good for you! Hopefully that helps him to know what would actually me helpful.
@maureenmce I’m glad you’re feeling a little better. It’s so hard to tell sometimes what is just normal hormonal fluctuations/stress vs. something more. I hope you get a good break this weekend & get to recharge.
@omnommer Oh my gosh! Wow. I don't know why people can't pay attention to stop signs and traffic lights and drive like decent human beings. We are all trying to get somewhere SAFELY.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
@Jens_Hoes I feel the same way about starting posts. lol I kept putting off and putting of starting the weekly check in last week because it was the second or third time in a row I had to do it. I am so bad at thinking of GTKY questions.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Re: Weekly Randoms 8/6-8/10
@maureenmce I've been extra emotional this week too, and had a huge cry just a few days ago. I should mention that I am more of an emotional person anyways - for example, I have a history of getting more emotional or moody leading up to my period. Anyways, this is normal and it will pass! Just keep track of how long it goes for and talk to your medical provider if you don't feel it's getting better. When I am feeling more down than normal, I make a list of the things that I could do to help me feel better that maybe have fallen off my radar. My current list has positive affirmations or prayer (if that's something you do), exercise, cutting out junk food (definitely have more mood swings after that!), drinking enough water, doing something creative every day, and reading books - both "fun" books and pregnancy/first year of baby books. Then I turn it into a checklist for about a week to make sure I'm doing the list every single day. Usually that kicks me out of the sadness and I feel back to my normal self.
DS: 12/20/16
EDD: 11/29/18
Also, I'm glad that the decision was clear for you about the job! I hope you feel okay with it.
DS: 12/20/16
EDD: 11/29/18
Oh, and @morgantu I forgot to congratulate you on that chapter, how awesome is that?! Get it gurl.
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@morgantu oh wow congrats!!!! How exciting (And stressful, I'm sure!)
@PensiveCrayon so sorry about the HFM! Fingers crossed he heals quickly and you don't get it. Also, SO and I sleep in different beds, so you're not the only one!
@AdorkablePixie ugh so sorry about the accident. Glad everyone is ok. It really sounds like it was HIS fault if he ran a red light, especially if he went around stopped traffic to do so... either way, the important thing is you're all ok and now get to forget about it and relax on vacation.
@maureenmce yes! I'm having the same experience. I'm having serious body image issues lately, and SO is not helping at all. We met for coffee at lunch time and he told me I needed to make sure I put on makeup next time I leave the house! Like WTF??? I almost lost my shit in Starbucks. Not to mention he's been hinting at my weight gain being too much too fast
Sometimes these fellas just need some obvious direction. Hinting may feel more subtle & gentle, but if he’s not looking for hints he won’t get them.
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Example: my (usually extremely helpful) H and I had the following exchange:
me: would you have time to stop at the grocery store today and pick up X?
mh: i’m pretty busy but yeah I could make time.
me: great, thanks.
(5 minutes later)
mh: so did you want me to stop at the store for X?
me <baffled and annoyed>: uh, yeah, didn’t you tell me you were going to do that when I asked you 5 minutes ago?
mh <also genuinely baffled>: you asked me would i have time to go. you didn’t tell me you wanted me to go.
@echo-charlietango and @KatzaliaI actually did JUST have the conversation with him and told him up front that I'm having a hard time feeling the love for myself at the moment, and I need his love, praise, and compliments more than ever BECAUSE I'm having a hard time. Even if his comments are meant to be helpful, they are inadvertently making me feel worse. He seemed to get it. Hopefully it continues.
@maureenmce I’m glad you’re feeling a little better. It’s so hard to tell sometimes what is just normal hormonal fluctuations/stress vs. something more. I hope you get a good break this weekend & get to recharge.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!