I just want to know how it is August already? We conceived these babies back in spring and now it’s going to be Fall soon. School is back in session here and the amount of school buses and extra traffic this morning was no fun. (I live beside a high school and less than a mile from an elementary school)
@Activebaby I was just thinking that this weekend! School doesn't start up here for several weeks (college in 3 weeks, grade school after Labor Day), but I can't believe it's so close! I will most certainly be grateful for a break in the heat and humidity, though.
AFM, I go back to full-time at work next week after nearly 3 months of part-time, and it's made me pretty whiny! At least it should make the days go by faster - lately they just seem to drag...
Me: 33, DH: 41 Started IF Feb. 2014 PCOS & MFI (low sperm count and motility) 3 Femara cycles w/natural intercourse over summer 2014, BFN 1 Clomid cycle w/natural intercourse Nov. 2014, BFN IUI March 2015, BFN IUI June 2015, BFN IUI Oct. 2015, BFN IVF Oct. 2016, fresh transfer, 2 day-3 embryos, BFN; nothing to freeze IVF Nov. 2017, fresh transfer, 2 day-5 blasts, BFP; ectopic; 1 blast frozen FET March 2018, 1 day-5 blast, BFP!
Light week! Tomorrow I drop the dogs off at the cleaners, so it'll be nice having fresh pups. They've been shedding SO MUCH, and I know they'll feel better after a good bath and brush. Other than that I'll continue sorting, donating, and trying to make things fit nicely in our little house. Oh, and send off everything TX needs to register my car so I can be 100 percent legal - right now I'm in that weird new-car grace period while I get everything sorted.
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
This might be an amazingly boring week for me, which is ok. My coworker and I are the only ones who work out of our main office and he is gone all week so I will be doing the bare minimum and watching Netflix while online shopping. I worked very long hard hours this spring so the slow down is welcoming
@hkom Who cares if it's not HDBD...it's a presh kitty and a cute bump! Also, maybe we should do another AW pet thread...because, pets (and my dogs aren't coming home until 8/16 and I miss them SO MUCH).
@temmetime Sounds like some well deserved and much needed "laziness!"
I also have a light work week. Getting off early tomorrow for my AS and I'm off Thursday and Friday to head to MN for a wedding. So. Excited!
Add me to the short/light work week list. I have a bunch of mundane tasks to finish before we leave for western New York on Thursday for H's brother's wedding.
@clbnessy dog got groomed this weekend so I’ll participate in the thread, plus it will give me an excuse to take her picture. Since kids I never take her photo anymore
I just calculated the costs of having 3 littles in daycare at once. I’m dying a little inside. It’s way more than my salary. We will only overlap with 3 full time for 6-7 months. Then we will have 2 full time and one after school. Still pretty much my salary to have 2 in daycare...why must it be so hard??? i have savings for the overlap, but that’s also my savings for any “emergency need.”
@Activebaby and @echo-charlietango I'm jealous of your fresh, clean, non shedding doggies! Our 3 haven't had a bath in a long time, and even though we just brushed them, our new house is full of dog hair already.
@temmetime and @hkom take this time to relax and maybe even get some you time! Enjoy!
Any car seat insights? I am pretty sure I want the Nuna PIPA Lite LX because it is so lightweight and as we’ve established - I ain’t that big, ha!! Is $300 expensive for the car seat, base, inserts and everything? Btw- researching car seats makes my head explode.
@Activebaby would you ever quit and stay home? I say this as I fantasize about being a SAHM but cannot lol
I would have really really thought about it with my last job. No way now. I’m actually really happy in my job. I also have a huge fear of being able to jump back in to my career. I’ve probably mentioned before but I took a different step in my career last year (still nursing but not admin, changed to edu/accreditation) that came with a pay cut...but it’s the smartest career decision I’ve made in a long time. I’m happy and I fell into a spot where my boss is supportive and helps me have a good work/life balance.
Any car seat insights? I am pretty sure I want the Nuna PIPA Lite LX because it is so lightweight and as we’ve established - I ain’t that big, ha!! Is $300 expensive for the car seat, base, inserts and everything? Btw- researching car seats makes my head explode.
$300 is a decent price for a car seat and base. I am upgrading mine now. I had a graco classic clickconnect 22 but it's not the best fit for infants and I'm looking for something a little smaller. I am going with the chicco keyfit since it's one of the smallest on the market in Canada and it's $329. And honestly - paying a little more to have something small and lightweight it 110% worth it!!
AFM, work continues to be busy, but all I can think about is that I just want it to be fall already. And knowing Los Angeles weather, it probably won't be fall until late November, ugh. It's supposed to be about 100 today and tomorrow and I am just so completely over it.
In less complainy random news, my husband finally was able to feel a baby kick from the outside! And I've been feeling lots of movement every day now, which is so reassuring to my PGAL brain.
So jealous of all you ladies with light work loads. We’re basically down staffing by 2/3 in my area, my schedule is packed, and now this week I’m covering for my boss too. I’ll be living vicariously through those of you who are more at leisure.
Finally got lunch at 2 today. This hungry preggers lady was ready at 11. Feeeeeeed me!
@Activebaby I had 3 littles in daycare full time for 2 years - I feel your pain! I figured I was still getting benefits beyond my salary (401k, pension, insurance), but I tried not to think too hard about it. That was at a time when I totally would have quit my job to be a SAHM in a second. Now I love my job and the decision is hard now that’s it’s finally an option.
My my week is pretty light too. I’m off work Tues, Wed and Friday before the kids head back to school next week, so we plan to just have a week of fun! This is my last “4 day” work week (I realize I took vacation for the other two days), I start 5 days next week, just shorter days and I’m looking forward to it!
Wow, I can't imagine 3 kids in daycare, I'm struggling to wrap my head around the idea of affording 1!
Busy week at work for me, which is fine. If I'm bored at work I'll just be thinking about all the things I should be doing at home. It's hot as ball though, so walking all over campus for my meetings is less enjoyable.
I have a meeting with my boss this afternoon. I'll be bringing up maternity leave/what's going to happen after leave... I'm going to tell her that my husband and I are thinking about all the options and that full-time work for a time after baby comes isn't something that I'm willing to do. And consult with her about part-time/more work from home options, if she's even open to that.... she doesn't react the best to things, so I'm a bit worried how that might go. Eeeep. Wish me luck.
In all honesty, I'll probably end up staying home after baby is born, but I want to know the options and think them through before deciding 100%. I can't tell her that yet though, or else she won't even think about what part-time options she is will to consider.
Well I am just super busy all the way until like January.! I have two sons (3 & 5). I work full time. My husband has different days off than me. We have sports practices on Mondays, Tuesdays, Wednesdays and games on Saturdays. Plus I volunteered to be Team Mom since no one else would. My youngest's preschool starts on Thursday (open house on Wednesday DURING THE DAY. so I have to race there on my lunch break). I have doctor's appointments every four weeks which feels like too many to me. My oldest starts Kindergarten in 2 weeks. We are in Escrow right now on a home in a different community so I'm in the process of signing my son up for that local school and their before and after school care. He will start going to the school before we actually even move into our new house. STRESSFUL! My 5 year old turns 6 in September so I need to start planning what we are going to do for his birthday. My birthday is 6 days after, but who cares about mom anyways, right? I am so busy at work. I work for a commercial construction company and we have so much work which is good but there aren't enough hours in the day! I need to go buy a new dining table set, new coffee table and end table, new outdoor patio seating whenever I find the time. Plus I have to set up a nursery and give birth to a baby pretty soon.
Anyone else on the same page as me? Haha
Bobby Llewellyn born September 29, 2012 Kade Wayne born July 23, 2015 MC in February 2017 MC in November 2017 Oliver Dean (Ollie) due December 17, 2018
Ummm, @asun123, I'm EXHAUSTED just reading how busy you are! I'm sorry, I hope you can get a break in there somehow...pedi, nap, massage, whatever you like! But, I feel you on work being busy. I work for a glass manufacturing company and construction is just booming in the Denver metro area...it's a good industry to be in though! I hope you can get an unexpected breather soon.
@binxybaby So good! This was my sixth year, and it still flies by every time. I did have to take DD on Thursday, and while other toddlers seem to do fine being stuck in their strollers, mine wasn't having it. So it was kind of a stressful day for me, but fun for her. The other three days were a blast. Friday was a 14-hour day I don't cosplay or do RPGs, and still have a full con sticking with just board games.
If you're thinking about it, start researching and planning super duper early. The downtown hotels fill up very fa$t. (ETA: I live in central Indiana so other than parking, I have no travel expenses.)
@asun123 pretty much sounds like me except I only have one DD, have extra appointments due to high risk, getting our house sale ready and add my husband still wanting throw our huge annual party, which I don’t even have a contract on the venue yet. *palm to face
But with all that, after this baby is here life is going to slow down. I will be so relieved to be in our new house, I look forward to the threes class at preschool and god willing I am still able to keep the contract I have with my current job, I couldn’t be happier!!
@asun123 I hear you on the mom’s special day importance. Ds1’s bday is 2 days after our anniversary, so since he’s been born we don’t really celebrate (give each other cards, and go to dinner with the kids). My birthday is just before Halloween so we go to the pumpkin patch for my birthday ...every year. I want to go, but I wish it wasn’t my special birthday event. I sound ungrateful I know. Ds1 does soccer at school but it’s more skills. I signed him up for real soccer (as real as 4 y/o soccer gets) in the fall. I volunteered to help be team parent, but I sure that just signed me up to be the team parent. I really don’t want to be the coach, but if that is what it’s takes to gets his team going I guess I could teach a 4 y/o how to kick a soccer ball???
@maureenmce I am 99% sure (and only saying 99% because I'm not a doctor, lol) that a shoulder massage is fine! I just started getting prenatal massages and the massage therapist just said "we will take it easy on you and just be careful around the ankles". I am fairly certain it's the ankle pressure that could "bring on early labor" but, let's face it, if it was that easy to induce someone, people wouldn't need drugs to do it...
@maureenmce Yes, I agree with @ab_canada. You'll be fine. I get weekly massage (yay history of headaches, neck tension and anxiety...and great health insurance!) and while we've adjusted things slightly, like being on my side these days, the pressure is pretty much the same in most places on my body. Just mention the pregnancy to them in case they want to do a little less pressure, but the ankles and wrists are the main points for "early labor" and then they don't want you laying on your belly or back at this point... which a shoulder massage wouldn't be doing either.
I get the vibe that I have to post here a lot to be a part of the community. It has been a little difficult for me to participate in the bump with moving and my work schedule plus my dumb phone for some reason won’t work in my house lately (I’ll have to try logging on through my computer) so please excuse my absence.
But anyways just wondering if anyone is going to do a big sibling hospital bag for when they meet their sibling for the first time. If so, what are you putting in yours or recommend? My daughter is 7 I was thinking about putting some “emergency” supplies for the baby like a receiving blanket, pacifiers, maybe some lotion, a book or 2, and then a little gift for herself.
@asun123 First of all - thank you for reminding me about my own kids practice tonight. I just sat down to relax after taking the boys to Christopher Robin, doctor and then out for ice cream, I completely forgot it was Tuesday! Secondly, I really am with you - this week feels light because I'm off work 3 of the 5 days, but we have practices Tuesday, Thursday and Friday. Once school starts I'll know when my younger kids practices are. I don't really enjoy being this busy, but I guess the plus side, December will be here before I know it! I do enjoy watching them play the sports, just not all of the running we have to do.
@faith0222 When my twins were born we gave DS1 a big brother present from the twins. He got it when he came to meet them - a set of legos. I haven't really thought if we will do that this time or not.
@faith0222 I had each kid give each kid a gift when ds2 was born (ds1 was 2). At that age it really wasn’t important, but I was glad I got ds1 a gift (stickers, coloring book, toy car), because he was excited to play and get attention. This is not the age you are describing, so it’s probably not that helpful. I think I may do presents (for entertainment purposes) for ds1 and ds2, and maybe let the oldest pick out something for the baby. I hadn’t thought about it until your post.
@faith0222 I definitely recognize your name, so no worries re:gifts, I had thought about having DS bring baby a build a bear, but beyond that I wasn't planning anything from baby to DS. This is my second though, so I haven't been through it before.
@faith0222 your name is definitely familiar. And lots of us get busy & can’t post all the time. I can’t speak for everyone else, but for me, this community isn’t about obligation and being one more thing we *have* to do in our already busy schedules. It’s about support — seeking it and giving it.
Re: your question on sibling gifts/hospital bags — I was thinking of giving my 4 yo a “big sister present,” from us, not from baby, to mark the occasion of her becoming a big sister. But you’re right, I probably should also pack some fun entertaining stuff for the hospital visit — maybe some new coloring books, stickers, some new markers. I think she also might like to make a card or pick out a little present for baby.
@faith0222 What others have said! I recognize your face from the occasional post You're definitely welcome around here, even if you can't check in as much as some of us crazies, hah.
I won't be packing my son anything, because I'm not planning on him visiting me in the hospital. RSV season + he's very young anyway, and won't really understand what's going on. I'll just introduce him to the baby when we bring her home. But obviously for a 7-year-old it would be different. Could you do a combination of fun things for her and some things she can use to help you care for the baby? (Like a comb, etc...I'm not exactly sure what 7-year-olds are capable of.) That said, I'll probably put together a basket of toys for him to be used only when I'm nursing the baby, so it will be his special thing. Hopefully he thinks that's fun.
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
Hi hi, I know it’s been a while since I’ve been on... like... since the first few weeks of the start of the group. I had a really rough first tri, physically, but worse emotionally and kinda shut myself in a hole. I’ve been wanting to jump back in, but was afraid y’all would be like “who the heck is this girl jumping in halfway through?” We’ll, today I have enough balls to figure I’d at least give it a go, if you’ll still have me! I swear I’m not a lurker or special snowflake poster lol. So... Hiiiiiii!
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AFM, I go back to full-time at work next week after nearly 3 months of part-time, and it's made me pretty whiny! At least it should make the days go by faster - lately they just seem to drag...
Started IF Feb. 2014
PCOS & MFI (low sperm count and motility)
3 Femara cycles w/natural intercourse over summer 2014, BFN
1 Clomid cycle w/natural intercourse Nov. 2014, BFN
IUI March 2015, BFN
IUI June 2015, BFN
IUI Oct. 2015, BFN
IVF Oct. 2016, fresh transfer, 2 day-3 embryos, BFN; nothing to freeze
IVF Nov. 2017, fresh transfer, 2 day-5 blasts, BFP; ectopic; 1 blast frozen
FET March 2018, 1 day-5 blast, BFP!
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
DS: 12/20/16
EDD: 11/29/18
@temmetime Sounds like some well deserved and much needed "laziness!"
I also have a light work week. Getting off early tomorrow for my AS and I'm off Thursday and Friday to head to MN for a wedding. So. Excited!
Add me to the short/light work week list. I have a bunch of mundane tasks to finish before we leave for western New York on Thursday for H's brother's wedding.
i have savings for the overlap, but that’s also my savings for any “emergency need.”
@Activebaby and @echo-charlietango I'm jealous of your fresh, clean, non shedding doggies! Our 3 haven't had a bath in a long time, and even though we just brushed them, our new house is full of dog hair already.
@temmetime and @hkom take this time to relax and maybe even get some you time! Enjoy!
to jump back in to my career. I’ve probably mentioned before but I took a different step in my career last year (still nursing but not admin, changed to edu/accreditation) that came with a pay cut...but it’s the smartest career decision I’ve made in a long time. I’m happy and I fell into a spot where my boss is supportive and helps me have a good work/life balance.
I am upgrading mine now. I had a graco classic clickconnect 22 but it's not the best fit for infants and I'm looking for something a little smaller. I am going with the chicco keyfit since it's one of the smallest on the market in Canada and it's $329.
And honestly - paying a little more to have something small and lightweight it 110% worth it!!
AFM, work continues to be busy, but all I can think about is that I just want it to be fall already. And knowing Los Angeles weather, it probably won't be fall until late November, ugh. It's supposed to be about 100 today and tomorrow and I am just so completely over it.
In less complainy random news, my husband finally was able to feel a baby kick from the outside! And I've been feeling lots of movement every day now, which is so reassuring to my PGAL brain.
Finally got lunch at 2 today. This hungry preggers lady was ready at 11. Feeeeeeed me!
Started IF Feb. 2014
PCOS & MFI (low sperm count and motility)
3 Femara cycles w/natural intercourse over summer 2014, BFN
1 Clomid cycle w/natural intercourse Nov. 2014, BFN
IUI March 2015, BFN
IUI June 2015, BFN
IUI Oct. 2015, BFN
IVF Oct. 2016, fresh transfer, 2 day-3 embryos, BFN; nothing to freeze
IVF Nov. 2017, fresh transfer, 2 day-5 blasts, BFP; ectopic; 1 blast frozen
FET March 2018, 1 day-5 blast, BFP!
My my week is pretty light too. I’m off work Tues, Wed and Friday before the kids head back to school next week, so we plan to just have a week of fun! This is my last “4 day” work week (I realize I took vacation for the other two days), I start 5 days next week, just shorter days and I’m looking forward to it!
Busy week at work for me, which is fine. If I'm bored at work I'll just be thinking about all the things I should be doing at home. It's hot as ball though, so walking all over campus for my meetings is less enjoyable.
In all honesty, I'll probably end up staying home after baby is born, but I want to know the options and think them through before deciding 100%. I can't tell her that yet though, or else she won't even think about what part-time options she is will to consider.
I have two sons (3 & 5). I work full time. My husband has different days off than me. We have sports practices on Mondays, Tuesdays, Wednesdays and games on Saturdays. Plus I volunteered to be Team Mom since no one else would. My youngest's preschool starts on Thursday (open house on Wednesday DURING THE DAY. so I have to race there on my lunch break). I have doctor's appointments every four weeks which feels like too many to me. My oldest starts Kindergarten in 2 weeks. We are in Escrow right now on a home in a different community so I'm in the process of signing my son up for that local school and their before and after school care. He will start going to the school before we actually even move into our new house. STRESSFUL! My 5 year old turns 6 in September so I need to start planning what we are going to do for his birthday. My birthday is 6 days after, but who cares about mom anyways, right? I am so busy at work. I work for a commercial construction company and we have so much work which is good but there aren't enough hours in the day! I need to go buy a new dining table set, new coffee table and end table, new outdoor patio seating whenever I find the time. Plus I have to set up a nursery and give birth to a baby pretty soon.
Anyone else on the same page as me? Haha
Kade Wayne born July 23, 2015
MC in February 2017
MC in November 2017
Oliver Dean (Ollie) due December 17, 2018
Also, if it's just shoulders that should be fine, right? I'll obviously mention that I'm pregnant so no deep tissue or anything crazy.
If you're thinking about it, start researching and planning super duper early. The downtown hotels fill up very fa$t.
(ETA: I live in central Indiana so other than parking, I have no travel expenses.)
But with all that, after this baby is here life is going to slow down. I will be so relieved to be in our new house, I look forward to the threes class at preschool and god willing I am still able to keep the contract I have with my current job, I couldn’t be happier!!
Ds1 does soccer at school but it’s more skills. I signed him up for real soccer (as real as 4 y/o soccer gets) in the fall. I volunteered to help be team parent, but I sure that just signed me up to be the team parent. I really don’t want to be the coach, but if that is what it’s takes to gets his team going I guess I could teach a 4 y/o how to kick a soccer ball???
I am 99% sure (and only saying 99% because I'm not a doctor, lol) that a shoulder massage is fine! I just started getting prenatal massages and the massage therapist just said "we will take it easy on you and just be careful around the ankles". I am fairly certain it's the ankle pressure that could "bring on early labor" but, let's face it, if it was that easy to induce someone, people wouldn't need drugs to do it...
But anyways just wondering if anyone is going to do a big sibling hospital bag for when they meet their sibling for the first time. If so, what are you putting in yours or recommend? My daughter is 7 I was thinking about putting some “emergency” supplies for the baby like a receiving blanket, pacifiers, maybe some lotion, a book or 2, and then a little gift for herself.
@faith0222 When my twins were born we gave DS1 a big brother present from the twins. He got it when he came to meet them - a set of legos. I haven't really thought if we will do that this time or not.
DS2 due 12/12/18
Re: your question on sibling gifts/hospital bags — I was thinking of giving my 4 yo a “big sister present,” from us, not from baby, to mark the occasion of her becoming a big sister. But you’re right, I probably should also pack some fun entertaining stuff for the hospital visit — maybe some new coloring books, stickers, some new markers. I think she also might like to make a card or pick out a little present for baby.
I won't be packing my son anything, because I'm not planning on him visiting me in the hospital. RSV season + he's very young anyway, and won't really understand what's going on. I'll just introduce him to the baby when we bring her home. But obviously for a 7-year-old it would be different. Could you do a combination of fun things for her and some things she can use to help you care for the baby? (Like a comb, etc...I'm not exactly sure what 7-year-olds are capable of.) That said, I'll probably put together a basket of toys for him to be used only when I'm nursing the baby, so it will be his special thing. Hopefully he thinks that's fun.
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18