Weekly randoms 7/23

ladystout08

I'm too tired to gif

emmaaa

snackheart

DLpanda08

I go back to work next week and I am not ready. Not even a little bit.

ladystout08

My kid got up just before 3. I put him back to bed and then stepped in dog pee. I'm tired.

wkuandrea

Mandamay1414

DD is 2 today! Crazy how fast 2 years goes.. It was funny watching her try to figure out how to hold up two fingers this morning, lol. 

sfgiantsgamerbabe

I’m with ya’ll on being tired. Explanation in MBF. Edit: gif skills

emmaaa

In that weird stage of my regular pants being too tight and maternity pants being too loose.

I wore a pair today and I am instantly reminded how much I hate these pants....saggy butt and crotch all day

ladystout08

DH has agreed to me being a SAH but we agree I'd need to work at least PT so I'm hunting for PT/WFH jobs. I work in IT so you'd think it'd be easy to find like a help desk position or something but I have no clue where to start. 

jgil85

I just found out that my doctor is doing the quad screen for me, not the Harmony test. I'm really pissed because I told her explicitly I wanted the Harmony test and I already checked with my insurance company to make sure its covered. I just want to know the sex of this baby and make sure its healthy. 

Am I the only one who hates maternity jeans? I can't find a good pair right now, I feel like once fall hits I'm just going to live in leggings. 

snackheart

@jgil85 third baby and I still am searching for a decent pair of maternity jeans.  I have two pairs plus a cropped pair and I hate them all.  They fall down constantly and sag in the crotch, even in third tri.  I don't understand it. I have two great pair of mat work pants that never fall down so I know that it's possible to make pants that way!

DLpanda08

@jgil85 have you tried the Jessica Simpson jeans at Motherhood? I have issues with regular jeans and always have to wear a belt, but the JS maternity jeans have been amazing.

jgil85

DLpanda08 said:

@jgil85 have you tried the Jessica Simpson jeans at Motherhood? I have issues with regular jeans and always have to wear a belt, but the JS maternity jeans have been amazing.

No I haven't, and I've heard good things about JS jeans. I'll have to check them out! 

emmaaa

jgil85 said:

DLpanda08 said:

@jgil85 have you tried the Jessica Simpson jeans at Motherhood? I have issues with regular jeans and always have to wear a belt, but the JS maternity jeans have been amazing.

No I haven't, and I've heard good things about JS jeans. I'll have to check them out! 

Some styles are on sale on Motherhood Maternity online right now (maybe in store too).I think I am going to try a pair too because I have neever found a good pair of maternity pants

DLpanda08

If you have a Motherhood outlet near you they are having some awesome in-store deals right now. I had to go buy work pants yesterday and they have BOGO for $5 on clearance. $30 for two pairs of pants isn’t bad at all! They also have BOGO for 50% off on all shirts (including the new for fall stuff they are getting in). 

rooonilwaazlib

Already getting frustrated by how invasive people are of space and just reach in to touch my belly!  THERE'S BARELY A BELLY TO TOUCH but it's just because they know theres a baby in there.  It happened this weekend with my aunt, whom I love dearly.  I dislike it on principle becuase I know more is coming.  How do you handle/plan to handle that?

galactickates

@Rooonilwaazlib people are doing that to me too, they go in for a hug and then don't let me go.  I f@#$ing hate it.  So now people get short hugs or a side pat. 
Me dodging grabby hands

rooonilwaazlib

@galactickates same!  I'll try that strategy.  I also plan to just grab their hand or step back, but i honestly didn't expect it when she did it!

galactickates

@rooonilwaazlib I know... I never expect it either,  it feels like I got to close to a Venus fly trap. Everytime.

sweetyjenj

Motherhood Maternity has been the best for jeans! Also the JS pants are amazing..as well as her shirts, and I LOVED LOVED her nursing tops when I had DD.

Also tired over here. Thursday is my birthday and I have no idea what I want to do. Last year I turned 30 and had a big party, so I feel like the next 9 years will just be me and DH going out for dinner or me getting some chill time alone lol I'm ok with that this year. My mom is offering to babysit Thursday night, or Saturday....I might just wait to celebrate until Saturday and fully enjoy it (without the alcohol).

Then 2 weeks from now is DH's bday..then a few days after that is our wedding anniversary...it's that busy time of the summer.

skilouise

@rooonilwaazlib @galactickates

I had one coworker (that I'm friendly with) joke about touching my belly, and I told her I would have no qualms whatsoever with smacking her hand away. I haven't had anyone else try this yet - I'm hoping my RBF will at least deter most strangers from trying anything. 

I had one friend who was always adamant that she would smack any strangers that touched her belly. Unfortunately for her, the first stranger that touched her belly was a little old lady, in synagogue, on a Jewish high holiday. Her options for responding to that were rather limited lol

galactickates

I didn't think about rubbing their belly back

These are cracking me up: 

pttomato

My MIL touched my belly already. >:( Apparently she thinks that because she asked once last pregnancy it’s ok because that carries over. She knows I really do not like to be touched.

kianarain

@rooonilwaazlib I went to a concert with my mom on Friday and she was nuzzling/TALKING to my belly, in public. I was super awkward and was just like haha...she can't hear you.... I'm 12+5, and my boyfriend and I don't even talk to her yet, and will NEVER publicly nuzzle?? That's just weird. And I'm unfortunately way too awkward to slap a hand away. But HELLO, I am still a person w/personal boundaries, not just a child-bearing vessel to touch at your whim. 

Ugh. Any passive aggressive tips!? That's more up my alley haha

leighbrek

Walk around with aggressive b***h face! Hahaha, people will stay away! 
I like the touching back - that's hilarious. Equally, the slapping option is appealing.

galactickates

pttomato said:

My MIL touched my belly already. >:( Apparently she thinks that because she asked once last pregnancy it’s ok because that carries over. She knows I really do not like to be touched.

My worst nightmare

pttomato

galactickates said:

pttomato said:

My MIL touched my belly already. >:( Apparently she thinks that because she asked once last pregnancy it’s ok because that carries over. She knows I really do not like to be touched.

My worst nightmare

Seriously. DH called her out on it and she was like “Why should I ask, I asked last time.” So just because I let you touch my belly once before when I was super pregnant means you can do it whenever you want in the future? No.

kianarain

Lol v random but, does anyone else troll the "real answers" section? I feel like it's the Maury of The Bump. So dumb, and so entertaining. 

wkuandrea

Like many of you, I do *NOT* like to be touched, at all. My best friend already tried putting her hand on my belly. I just gave her the death stare and said do NOT do that again. I can't even imagine my parents trying it... BARF. Not even DH has attempted it yet, he knows better (I'm also just 13wks, so hello, you're just touching bloaty fat at this point)

sfgiantsgamerbabe

I don’t remember anyone trying to touch me during my pregnancy with DS except for DH. Strangers trying to touch you is just super weird. 

I have a pair of maternity skinny jeans from Walmart that I really like and they were only $16.99. They are Oh! Mama brand. I also bought a couple pair of shorts by the same brand and I really like them too. 

molosmiles

I guess I'm the odd one out here. I usually hate hugs and  being touched. But for some reason Im not really bothered by people rubbing my belly. A stranger did it once and that was weird but if I know you, I don't care. I feel like they are just loving on my baby already and it makes me feel nothing but love.

BitterBetty12

+1 to not being touched. My MIL is still salty that I didn’t let her feel DD move when I was pregnant last time. DH actually stood up for me when she touched my stomach at like 15 weeks with DD and was like ‘did you ask?’. And she was like well no. My bitchy pregnant person response was ‘don’t bother asking because the answer will always be no’. And that was that.

I’m also not comfortable touching someone else’s pregnant stomach even when I’m asked to. Idk why. 

Also YES go the motherhood maternity jeans. I had 3 pairs of jeans from different places and the only one I liked was my pair from motherhood so I plan on buying more this time. 

merostomata

@molosmiles that's kinda me too- if it's my H or a good friend I don't mind at all being touched (I'm generally into hugs and such so don't mind). If it was someone I wouldn't want to touch- say a stranger or boss- I would def not be into having them touch the belly.

That said, I'd NEVER touch someone else's bump without asking, and would never even consider asking to touch a stranger. I've never felt a desire to touch other people's bumps though so don't really get why people want to in the first place. I've heard that people of color with natural hair often have strangers coming up and touching their hair just because they want to- it kind of reminds me of that (although they have to deal with it for life, not just pregnancy). Total invasion of space and not ok.

kaf1788

I did some lunchtime maternity shopping today. Enough that I apparently sent some warning signals to my credit card and they declined my charge because they assumed my card was stolen! So embarassing.

I also just remembered that I agreed to let two random employees from another office/department job shadow me tomorrow. Can't wait for them to see how much of my day revolves around eating, peeing, and semi-discretely dry heaving at my desk

snackheart

I am kind of a touch person generally I guess.  I like hugs and stuff (as long as I know and like the person).  But I don't like belly touching.  At all.

The good thing is that in my last two pregnancies it surprisingly did not come up a lot; definitely not from strangers, which was a welcome surprise given what I've read and heard from friends.  But there are certain family members who are into it. 

My mom rubs and gets her face awkwardly close and talks to the baby telling it she loves it over and over again.  MH likes to just reach over and kind of rub the side of it with one finger.  In the past I said I didn't mind but I have come to realize that I really was only saying that because for some reason I had this notion that they had a "right" to do it.  I don't really feel that way anymore, but I don't know how to tell them (especially my husband).

DLpanda08

Ugh... I hate the belly touching. Talk about it all you want, but hands off. I recently met the mom of DD’s boyfriend and within two seconds of meeting me she had both hands on my belly. Personal boundaries much?! I think I’m just going to order this shirt in a bunch of colors and wear it whenever I’m out in public. 

kmos816

Ugh I’m with you on the belly touching; last weekend my mom touched my belly and then asked if it was ok- what was I supppsed to say? At this point there really isn’t much to touch!  Thankfully I’ve never had a stranger touch my belly!!!

DD kisses my belly all the time and says ‘I love you baby’ which is the most adorable thing!!!

rooonilwaazlib

@kianarain that's ridiculous beyond belief! In a non-touching but consent-related tangent, a few weeks ago i went out to dinner with my wife and MIL, I was asking the waitress if the feta cheese on the greek salad was pasteurized and explained it's because I am pregnant and need to know. A week or two later I was out to dinner with my in-laws and my wife, and when the waiter asked me if I wanted a drink from the bar my MIL says NO she can't she's pregnant.  So I said to him "or...no thanks I'm good." She gave me a funny look and I said he probably didn't need that information.  She said 'but you told the waitress a few weeks ago because of the cheese.' So I replied that I was the one telling her that time (MY information to tell!), and it was relevant at the time. People turn down an alcoholic drink for any # of reasons.  ---- OYE!

@AshVA ok amendment to the rule. only cute little old jewish ladies can touch da belly! 

@galactickates those are amazing! Being plus-size myself I DO tell people it's just fat right now.  Doesn't seem to ward them off. Maybe when I'm a huge prego they'll finally get it!

@ptomato @galactickates these people need to see the Tea and Consent video -- youtube it if you don't know what I'm talking about! 

@kmos816 that is freaking adorable that your daughter tells the baby she loves it!

@DLpanda08 YAS that shirt for us all!

@snackheart I am a touchy/cuddly person too but this is just too weird when people (family) are already touching my belly! It's hard to separate that desire to understand that our families are excited too with the notion of the fact that no one has the right to touch your body without your consent, even if it's just to rub a pregnant belly. We don't think of consent as extending into this area but it is so important!  Similarly, I've read about a lot of parents struggling with people coming right up to their infants and touching them. ALSO the thing where people "force" their kids to give/receive hugs from people.  None of that! Learning about consent starts so early.  You have every right to shift behaviors/actions you may have let go in previous pregnancies.  It can be as simple as saying "hey, I'm don't feel comfortable with that this time around." It won't feel comfortable to say, but by saying something clearly and saying it is how you feel, it's the best you can do.  And then you can go back to it if they ignore it/give you issues and talk about how you need your personal space to be respected. Remind yourself it's YOUR body and your pregnancy.  AND DON'T FEEL THE NEED TO APOLOGIZE FOR THIS - because you DO NOT!!!! They get to cuddle the kid when it's out of you; you get to control it while it's in you. I would and will say exactly that to anyone whose touch/actions I do not like during my pregnancy. I am sure we're not alone in this!!  

pttomato

rooonilwaazlib said:

ALSO the thing where people "force" their kids to give/receive hugs from people.  None of that! Learning about consent starts so early.  

I HATE this. I remember always having to put up with people hugging me because I got in trouble for being rude if I tried to avoid it. I have made it really clear to my MIL that I don't like hugging/cheek kisses but she always does it anyway. I kind of hate that I put up with it so as not to be seen as rude or bitchy. My in-laws definitely push the hugs and kisses and my DH believes it is very important for DD to give his family hugs and kisses. So far DD is pretty into it so it hasn't been a big issue and I've been able to deflect when she isn't but it is a major source of contention between DH and I.

alexandraseattle

kianarain said:

Lol v random but, does anyone else troll the "real answers" section? I feel like it's the Maury of The Bump. So dumb, and so entertaining. 

Omg I do and it scares me. How are people THAT dumb?!?!