@PensiveCrayon Ahh, I want to go so bad. Is it something, say, a five year old would like...if I gave her plenty of HP prep ahead of time? I'm so glad I've finally picked up the books (better late than never, I suppose?!) because I LOVE them! After I finish a book, I watch the movie...I refuse to watch the movie before reading the book. I wish I could get MH on board, but he's not a big fantasy fan...it was hard enough to get him to branch out ever so slightly when it came to food (good for you, babe, you like cereal and apples now...you're a big kid now! *eye roll*).
Edited to delete the kristah tag, that was supposed to go in the STM post.
@katy0990 I didn't need a drink in the hospital, but I had one within a week or two of having my daughter. It was hot as hell, and as I've said I like a cold beer. I didn't have many or even drank them quick enough to feel anything, but lemon shandy's and grapefruit shandys are just so yummy
Wildly unpopular opinion: I think birth plans are a terrible idea, and that they mostly serve as a great way to make women whose bodies do incredible things in unpredictable ways feel bad that they didn't do those incredible things exactly as they had initially intended. The more detailed they are, the more I cringe. I was sure I'd want to move around and have a vaginal childbirth without an epidural, and BOY am I glad I didn't write that down anywhere or instruct people not to offer me pain meds, because at 3 am after having been awake for 21 hours (and in labor for a good portion of that time) it turns out that what I actually wanted was to lay down and get some effing sleep. I suspect I'd have been a lot more hesitant to go for what I wanted in the moment if I had actually codified my expectations. And when I eventually ended up with an emergency c-section, it didn't feel like a failure because even though it definitely wasn't what I wanted, I also didn't have a documented way-things-should-have-gone.
But then, I'm also super type-B go-with-the-flow. Maybe for people who are more regimented or organized, those plans offer a benefit that I'm just not feeling. Either way, it's a no from me.
(However, if I did make a birth plan for this one, it would definitely involve a nice shiraz or maybe like an Argentinian malbec or something immediately after squeezing her out).
@AGK2015 I agree, partly. I think it's very good to educate yourself on your options so you don't go into birth blind. But yes -- the tighter a birth plan the more likely a person is to be disappointed. I wrote a page of birth preferences because my midwife required it from all her clients, but honestly I had no idea what I was going to want re: pain management, music, etc. while I was in labor. I thought I would want to watch funny videos but H turned on some cat video and I was like, "TURN IT OFF."
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@agk2015 That is why I hate that it is called a birth plan. I think it makes sense to talk about and consider your options and preferences, but it needs to be flexible. It is not a set in stone plan.
Yeah, childless adults who frequent Disney scare the shit out of me. I just assume they’re serial killers. I found out a friend went there on her honeymoon and I almost had to call the whole thing off.
And I guess I didn’t need a glass of wine after the baby last time because I had enough sips while pregnant? And I don’t deprive myself of any foods while pregnant so there’s nothing I “miss.”
Apparently unpopular in the other mom groups I'm in: It's not for the child to make the decision to take swimming lessons. This isn't like soccer or dance class. I don't want my kids to die if they fall in water, so they'll take swimming lessons whether they want to or not. I especially don't understand people with pools in their own backyards who say things like, "well Mikey fell in to the pool today and I'm glad because it scared him and he said he'll take swimming lessons now". Um what?! No. Parenting is not a democracy when it comes to keeping your kids breathing.
@runrinserepeat I am baffled! People allow their child to decide when they take swim lessons? That is crazy to me. All of the recommendations I have heard, suggest that the younger you start, the less fear and uncertainty there will be, so the better off you are. Why would you wait until your child requests to go? Wow.
+1 for not getting Disney! My mom & stepdad like to go every year - it's his personal tradition and the only way he can properly get away from work - my mom just goes with him because it's fun, but she doesn't initiate. I went to Disneyland & Universal when I was 16/17, on a band trip. It was fun because it was my first theme park and first time in California. I haven't missed it.
+1 for preferring foreign travel! Immersing yourself in a different culture is just so amazing (if you go with the flow). We do it as often as possible. DH has a thing in France later this year, and I'm going to tag along if I'm not too pregnant to fly internationally.
Re: Hot sauce. Tobasco is okay - the green one is delish, and I miss the chipotle. Cholula is a favorite that I can get in several restaurants, so that's a win. For you other hot sauce lovers - look at Fuego Box! It's a hot sauce only stuff-of-the-month club (well, of the quarter), you get three sauces every three months, and they're usually awesome! DH loves caribbean scotch bonnet sauces, and I like habañero sauces like Secret Aardvark (available on Amazon)!
Re: Booze. I was on board with all things in moderation, but DH was holding on to "the rules." Big shout-out to Expecting Better, because DH is now okay with me having a tiny drink more often, and is pro-salmon sushi for me. Probably won't have any drinks in the hospital though - we live close enough that I would rather have a drink at home with my puppers and without pants.
Re: Birthplans. I'm 50/50. I want safety and for us both to make it out alive. But I don't know how my opinion will change during labor. I might decide on like, eight bullet points and try to stick with them. I also want to move around and not be trapped on my back, but who knows - maybe kiddo is going to get stuck in my inexperienced hips? Maybe he's going to come out in the car by accident? Nobody knows.
I don't have an OU today, just opinions
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@echo-charlietango This may be a FFFC, but I don’t think I wore pants at all in the hospital. Everything bothered my incision and it was way easier to whip out a boob 42585 times a day in the hospital gown. Plus,no dirty laundry to drag home!
@katy0990 I stayed in my hospital gown the whole time too! I probably would have felt better in my own clothes, but I am very much a rule follower and since no one told me I could put on my own clothes I didn’t think I was allowed! Lol looking back that seems so silly. I know better for this time at least.
I changed out of my gown as soon as I got to the post partum room. I just changed into pajama pants and a nursing top but it was soooo much better than the gown. Kind of thinking of bringing running tights or something less PJ this time. I hate lounging around in my pajamas for too long.
I definitely put on oversized sweatpants and a v-neck along with my good wool slippers, but it was a long while (I was on an IV for what felt like forever, and getting dressed would have required thinking about the whole needle thing). What I really wished I'd done, though, was shower. They never told me I was allowed to so I assumed I couldn't, and I went home very stinky.
Yeah, I didn't have an IV with either kid. Honestly after #2, I just wanted to go home. IDK why they made me stay so long but by the beginning of the second day it was like, "so..... discharge. now. kthx"
I forgot about the IV. I blew 3 veins during my hospital stay and that’s part of why I never got dressed because I kept getting blood on everything. I hope that doesn’t happen this time.
@echo-charlietango I think I'm more comfortable with small amounts of alcohol than my husband is. I've been keeping it very light (much lighter than Oster says is OK in expecting better) partially so I don't freak him out. I guess it also makes me feel less badly about it too.. not that I think there is anything to feel badly about but my brain is not always logical.
@hkom I think I need the drunken garlic one - I didn’t know it existed until I linked to it earlier Always happy to find another Aardvark fan
ETA: I totally added some fresh Secret Aardvark to my Amazon Baby registry - it's eligible for the completion discount (same reason I added Zapps Chips)
@kadeephd I'm well below Oster’s one-unit-a-day too. I’m right around 2-3 drinks a week, and sometimes that drink is just half of a beer. I had some wine at lunch though and it was so refreshing. Helped get me in the mood for vacuuming carpet and steam mopping the tiles I am not above bribing myself.
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@echo-charlietango you added the Zapps to your registry?! Yay! Hopefully you can get as many as you need to satisfy your craving. I added storage containers and a shark robotic vacuum to my Amazon baby registery because ...3 dogs and a tiny house.
I'm definitely in the "if I can drive I can breastfeed" camp. Am I boring for being thankful we are mostly all of the same opinion and none of us are super judgy(sp?)? Not just on this issue, but for so many things! Feels good being supported and not judged all the time
Re: UO 6.28.18
Edited to delete the kristah tag, that was supposed to go in the STM post.
DS: 12/20/16
EDD: 11/29/18
But then, I'm also super type-B go-with-the-flow. Maybe for people who are more regimented or organized, those plans offer a benefit that I'm just not feeling. Either way, it's a no from me.
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
And I don’t deprive myself of any foods while pregnant so there’s nothing I “miss.”
But yeah the first whole, cold beer is nice.
+1 for preferring foreign travel! Immersing yourself in a different culture is just so amazing (if you go with the flow). We do it as often as possible. DH has a thing in France later this year, and I'm going to tag along if I'm not too pregnant to fly internationally.
Re: Hot sauce. Tobasco is okay - the green one is delish, and I miss the chipotle. Cholula is a favorite that I can get in several restaurants, so that's a win. For you other hot sauce lovers - look at Fuego Box! It's a hot sauce only stuff-of-the-month club (well, of the quarter), you get three sauces every three months, and they're usually awesome! DH loves caribbean scotch bonnet sauces, and I like habañero sauces like Secret Aardvark (available on Amazon)!
Re: Booze. I was on board with all things in moderation, but DH was holding on to "the rules." Big shout-out to Expecting Better, because DH is now okay with me having a tiny drink more often, and is pro-salmon sushi for me. Probably won't have any drinks in the hospital though - we live close enough that I would rather have a drink at home with my puppers and without pants.
Re: Birthplans. I'm 50/50. I want safety and for us both to make it out alive. But I don't know how my opinion will change during labor. I might decide on like, eight bullet points and try to stick with them. I also want to move around and not be trapped on my back, but who knows - maybe kiddo is going to get stuck in my inexperienced hips? Maybe he's going to come out in the car by accident? Nobody knows.
I don't have an OU today, just opinions
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
ETA: I totally added some fresh Secret Aardvark to my Amazon Baby registry - it's eligible for the completion discount (same reason I added Zapps Chips)
@kadeephd I'm well below Oster’s one-unit-a-day too. I’m right around 2-3 drinks a week, and sometimes that drink is just half of a beer. I had some wine at lunch though and it was so refreshing. Helped get me in the mood for vacuuming carpet and steam mopping the tiles
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018