@wildtot Facebook Marketplace is the best!!! I’ve sold and bought so many things from there! It really makes me feel like part of the community too, sharing things I don’t need anymore, rather than just throwing it away or buying something brand new
rachelsogo hate to be the debbie downer but I went a week over with my first, and yes it was soo stressful. DD's original EDD was 5/12, then they adjusted to 5/20 in the first trimester, then they induced at 41 weeks on 5/27 :-/ was super anxty at the end. Tried all the old wive's tales - spicy food, msg food, pineapple, 3 mile walks, sex, tea, primrose, yoga ball. Don't get too excited about cervical dilation progress checks, I wish I had never listened to their "any day now!" every week when I walked around at 2 cm for a month before induction! Also recommend starting maternity leave on EDD if you can - that week to de-stress from work and do final things about the house before baby came was amazing!
BTW happy national sushi day. You can always still have veggie or cooked rolls if you are adhering to no sushi.
@gingerbride26 ahhh! The mention of sushi sounds wonderful!
@nimmle@gingerbride26 everytime i think about how far we’ve come, I’m good. But when i think about the time still left, its still so far off. I haven’t had any cervical checks yet and our size ultrasound isn’t until 7/2, and this is the first...and I’m still carrying really high. I’m ready. With work and my meticulously planned childcare, I’m good with her staying put until the 20th but the thought if her going into August gives me anxiety. That...and it’s bloody hot in Florida already.
Dr doesn’t think the rash is anything to worry about just yet. We’ll continue to use aquaphor and she can take a look at his next appointment. Glad it can wait for now.
@wildtot I hear you on the FB Market Place. Such a weakness, but I've saved so much going that route!
Today's random is that the labor gown I ordered came in today. WOOT! I did NOT want to wear their hospital gowns again and splurged on my own and it's perfect. I was so nervous it wouldn't be here in time but it came a couple weeks early! It's super comfy, has easy access for nursing, and buttons down the back for an epidural... AND POCKETS!
@And846@gingerbride26@nimmle my due date is also 7/31 and it seems so far away! We are still working on setting up the nursery and need to get the car seat/stroller. We’ve been waiting for our registry completion discount from Buy Buy Baby to get those items and it’s making me anxious. Started putting all of my hospital bag and post partum essentials together on amazon and just want to have everything done. I don’t go on maternity leave until 7/16 and I am counting down the minutes. So over working and my commute. My mom had my brother and I around 35 weeks so that also makes me nervous that I can follow in her footsteps. Eek!
Lots of catch up to do, I was out at a lake all day with no service and then a tree fell on the power lines by our house and we were out of power for an hur or so. It's so hot here I just cannot. I can't imagine being in Florida like you @And846!
Also, add me to the list of people with a long way to go! People say, "Wow, almost there!" No. It's 6 weeks, likely 8 for me. I have always been induced 12 days over and barring babe flipping back to breech or some other medical issue, I expect to go to Aug 9.
The lake day was fully amazing, DS had so much fun! I got to see my old kiddos from school and catch up with coworkers and watch DS be a daredevil. Didn't bring a life vest because I didn't expect him to want to go in the water at all since he never does-he was out up to his nips! I kept having to call him back! He also climbed all the play structures and boulders all over the place...it was amazing to see him so confident. Hopefully he sleeps well tonight, I know I will!
Joining in the Facebook marketplace love. So far for this baby I got a crib for free, glider for $50, baby bjorn bouncer for $50, Doppler for $20, and BOB jogging stroller for my toddler for $50. Oh and a free elliptical for myself haha.
Trying to catch up after a non stop crazy day. I could barely catch a second to breathe at work, then rushed through traffic to get to my chiro appointment, then rushed home to put my son to bed and eat before passing out of hunger. I had a horrible low blood sugar headache by the time I got home. The good news is the chiro is super impressed with my pelvis and how “ready” it is to give birth. Whatever that means.
krystlerr I totally feel you - my original EDD was 7/31 until last week - and we totally could have used the extra week to prepare... Today my husband turned to me and said "we better get those names narrowed down and hospital bag packed" yup...and get our part of the kitchen reno done, and finish getting all our office stuff out of DD new room, and paint it, and paint the old guest room furniture, and assemble the toddler bed, bring the bassinet out of the basement, find and rewash all the infant supplies... 5 weeks doesn't seem too long lol
@zande2016 serious LOL over your chiro's reaction to your pelvis
Thunderstorm came through just in time to scare the crap out of DD right after we put her down... DH went in right after the big boom that scared her to give her hugs and rock her a bit, and now she thinks she can yell for us and we'll go back in...she looks pathetic on the monitor :-/ trying to be strong...
In a long nutshell here’s my deal. I have a hereditary platelet disorder, so they’re very low. During pregnancy, they’ve continued to drop, and are below 50, which is what the medical community considers ‘safe’ for a CS. Im 38 years old and also have an autoimmune disorder that impacts my connective tissues.
Where it went sideways: I’m 37w Wednesday, and found out at 35w that my doctor isn’t high risk. This was a shock. I then found out at 36w baby flipped and is breech. My Ob is freaking out; says she isn’t comfortable doing a CS bc of bleeding risk & wants to put me on high doses of steroids + try to manually flip the baby. She said that way ‘if something catastrophic happens to you or the baby, at least we tried.’ Worst. Bedside. Manner. Ever.
Meanwhile, steroids should have started at 35 weeks...but haven’t. Hematologist says she’s been trying to contact my Ob to create a treatment plan, and can’t reach her. She doesn’t think steroids make sense.
Also, after 6 days of trying to contact my Ob, her office finally called back about ECV (flipping) procedure, and said no MFM in NYC ‘had time’ and I need to go to Queens. NFW. Procedure has <50% success rate and is risky bc can trigger emergency CS + autoimmune disorder causes my tissues to tear easily; I’m not doing it at a 3rd rate hospital with no name doctor Bc she dropped the ball, again.
So, now I have a breech baby. An Ob who isn’t comfortable doing my CS & whom I don’t want to anymore given that. No agreed upon treatment plan for meds. No CS scheduled. And I’m finally officially losing my shit.
I’m scared to death, and feel so stuck... no reputable doctor or any doctor will take me at 37w... and mine doesn’t give a crap about me.
Ohy goodness @pretzellover, I'm so sorry that you've been put in that position!! Does your hematologist know any OBs personally that he/she can call and ask to take you on as a patient? I would definitely start there. And good luck, I really hope you're able to find a new doctor quickly - I wouldn't want to use that one either!!
@pretzellover oh my what a terrible and scary situation! I agree with @MichelleAG05 to see if you can get a recommendation to another ob. Would your insurance be helpful to at least give you a list? Some employers also have a service to help you find certain services that are supported by your benefits (like EAP).
Random rant and it’s stupid it bugs me but my SIL is a teacher and every year she likes to rub it in your face how she has summers off. And occasionally her FB posts are about how she has the hardest profession. Yes teachers are under paid and deserve more support but she even went as far as saying it’s harder than a firefighter (what?). Well her summer has started and it’s starting with a social media count down. Everyday blasting posts with what day of her summer it is (day 1: blah blah blah). Let’s hope she actually comes to help as planned and not act like it’s her vacation getaway.
@MichelleAG05 My Ob is supposed to be a top nyc Ob. And the hospital she’s with has a blood bank on site and is also top notch. So... as uncomfortable as it sounds / will be, I think I need her to find me another doctor, bc I don’t think hematologist will undermine her (same hospital) and neither will other Obs there. Trying not to stress bc don’t want to induce breech labor with my 93rd percentile baby! I miss alcohol so much!
@pretzellover I’m so sorry to hear of your super stressful situation! I hope the OB can help find you a new OB since she’s the one recommending you use someone else. Deep breaths and maybe just ice cream till you can get something harder!
@And846 I’m also having a Florida baby due 7/27! I laughed when I heard the weatherman say that Thursday is the first day of summer, as though we’re not already in the 90s with 97% humidity.
@krystlerr I just got my Buy Buy Baby completion coupon in the mail today, so yours should arrive very soon! We have plenty that we still need as well, and I noticed that there were a few exclusions on the completion discount, but not as many brands excluded as on their normal coupons.
Does anyone know if you can use the BBB completion discount on Uppababy? I know it’s normally excluded from the 20% off coupons, so I’m very cautiously optimistic.
@pretzellover oh my gosh, that sounds horrible! Not only your stressful situation, but the way your ob is treating you as well. Maybe your ob has bad bedside manner on purpose because they want you to find someone else. But I agree with PP about your ob finding you a new dr themselves. It’s their fault they didn’t express their concerns with you until the last minute, and I think they need to take responsibility in saying “I don’t think I can do this so let me find you someone who can.” That’s what all drs should do anyway if they have any kind of doubts about their own abilities rather than making you feel like you’re stuck with someone who isn’t confident.
@pretzellover I don't know where to begin. I am so sorry about your situation! I am thinking of you and sending all the creepy positive vibes I can via the net! I know that's what you've been doing but you need to put your foot down with this OB. I am shocked at the way she's been handling the situation. To be honest, the ECV is something to consider HOWEVER I also know that it can distress the baby, a friend basically was told to go and be ready for a c section which would be a risk for you. Is there a doctor you can talk to perhaps in a neighboring state? Or someone who may specialize in pregnancies with your conditions? I am sorry, I know you have bene through everything already.
I hope babe flips unexpectedly so at least you don't have to worry about that. Please know you are supported here...keep us posted
Catching up: @pretzellover I am so incredibly sorry you are going through all this. I wish had advice or insight but all I can offer you is my thoughts and hopes that you can find someone to help you feel muc more confident in your delivery and care. i am so sorry your OB had been such a nightmare to work with.
@pretzellover oh my what an awful situation! I hope your ob can find you someone else. I can't believe that they didnt figure all this out earlier. Like if your ob wasn't comfy with the worst case scenario with your condition wtf was she doing taking you on with your pregnancy and not referring you?
@pretzellover oh my gosh I’m so sorry, that all sounds awful. Your OB needs to seriously work on bedside manner. Have you looked into other hospitals in the city, or Long Island/Westchester? I know NYC is supposed to be the best of the best, but it doesn’t sound like this OB is right for you. I wonder if there are any OBs who specialize in/are willing to vaginally deliver a breech baby. Also maybe it couldn’t hurt to see if chiropractic/spinning babies would help in the meantime while trying to figure out the OB situation? Again so sorry you’re in this situation.
Last night something exploded in our fridge and DH and I were like, WTF what is that!?! Turns out all the sprites had frozen and one had exploded. We have been having trouble with things freezing in the refrigerator but haven't been able to find the controls to figure out why. I finally found the manual and discovered the controls are on the water dispenser, which we never thought to look at because we just hooked the water up. ANYWAY, turns out DH had turned it down to 33 because he thought it was controlling the water dispenser temp. So we turned it back up to 36 and hopefully everything stops freezing now, lol.
Haha @smashjam that’s kind of funny but must have been scary when it happened. And what a waste of sprite.
I really need to get up and get ready, but my soon is being super cuddly on my lap on the couch and I’m soaking it up. Today I have a midwife/NST appointment at 830, and then a MFM appointment at 1. Across the street from each other but half an hour each way from my house. So I guess I’m gonna go to Starbucks in between and work from there. I’d much rather work on my couch in my underwear but I don’t want to waste all that time and gas driving back and forth. These appointments are really getting very old very fast.
@pretzellover yikes. I would be so livid!! If they’re not answering your calls or getting back to you then I’d go into the office and demand for someone to talk to you. They can’t just leave you hanging at 37 weeks, they need to help you figure out a game plan. FX that everything works out!
@SmashJam that is so scary and also so funny. I’m glad the reason behind the freezing was because the controls were too low and not because it’s broken!
@pretzellover I'm so sorry you are going through this. I don't blame you for being extremely anxious about the situation. Sending good vibes your way!
A friend of mine had her baby last night and the baby ended up weighing 10lbs 7oz. Apparently the doctor had no idea the baby was that large. It got me thinking about my own pregnancy....I haven't had an ultrasound since 20 weeks. I don't remember with DS --- is it typical to get another US to check on the baby's size soon?
@pretzellover I am so angry for you! They should definitely refer you to another OB if they can't handle your case. What do they think you're supposed to do? Also to say that no one else has time for you is ridiculous. This is their JOB. I would also consider North Jersey when asking for them to refer you. It can be a bit of a hike, but there are some top notch OBs and hospitals out here if you're having trouble in NYC.
@foxbaby2016 I only got an ultrasound past 20 weeks with my last two to check on fluid levels when I went past 41 weeks. This time I only got a size ultrasound because I have a marginal cord insertion and a double lobed placenta. So basically, I don't think another ultrasound after 20 weeks is typical without a cause for concern.
@foxbaby2016 I hear it depends on the practice. Mine likes to do a growth scan around 36 weeks. Mine isn't scheduled until 37 weeks, but I don't really see it as a big deal since unless you are high risk it's typically not medically necessary. It's more of a nice last chance to see him before he's here since it's been so long.
@foxbaby2016 I haven’t had an US since 20 weeks either, but my OB did offer one last week. She said it was up to me, they do offer US if I want to check on baby, but she said it’s not necessary because baby is head down and heartbeat plus measurements seem right on track.
Baby’s heart rate was super high for the NST but then calmed down. Waiting to see if they want to send me to the hospital. On a positive note, GBS is negative.
@pretzellover - sent you a PM - seems like we're on similar medical roads. Happy to share details from my dr's if it'll help give you ammo for yours, or if you just want to chat/vent hit me up. @foxbaby2016 With my first I didn't have another US after 20 weeks - not even in the hospital during induction. Seems pretty standard for low/no-risk pregnancies. My cousin also had a surprise 10 lb baby - they did a US in the hospital during labor and told her it was an 8 pound baby... @zande2016 FX for you. What is with these kids being high maintenance near the end! Calm down kiddos and stop stressing your mamas.
@pretzellover - is there any talk of doing a blood or platelet transfusion so that they can get your count up? I feel like that would help with some of the stress around a breech baby and possible C-section....? My platelets were low in my first pregnancy and that was always the plan for if they got too low. I hope that you can get some answers and a plan that has everyone feeling comfortable... It's too late in the game for so much uncertainty!
They checked my pulse and it was normal, I didn’t have a fever either, so there was no explanation related to me as to why the HR was high. She asked if baby was moving a lot and I said honestly I’m not feeling that much movement, sometimes he moves like crazy but during that time things felt calm. It was baseline high 160s/low 170s and totally non reactive for a good 20 mins. Then it became reactive but was still spiking up to 180/190 for a few mins at a time without me feeling movement. Then eventually it calmed down and they monitored for another 20 mins and it went down to baseline high 150s/low 160s. She was like we will just ignore the first 20 mins and go with the second 20 Mins which seems better. I felt uncomfortable with this, and she honestly didn’t seem 100% confident about her decision to send me home, and then she decided to consult with the head midwife. So she called the head midwife and then told me that since the baby calmed down I could leave and just come back Friday for my reguglaely scheduled test. I don’t know, I told her I trusted her opinion but just felt kind of uneasy. I am seeing the MFM at 1 for my blood sugar so I will mention it to him. I even asked if she should send the NST results to him and she said no it’s not necessary. I feel like I’d be more comfortable if they at least did a BPP ultrasound or had me come back again tomorrow for another NST rather than wait for Friday. Ugh I think this frequent monitoring causes too much stress.
I’m sitting in the MFM waiting room and there’s a woman checking in, and her husband is pacing back and forth throughout the waiting room and stopping every few feet to practice his golf swing...? Like he stands there and pretends he’s swinging a golf club. WTF?
Re: Weekday Randoms 6/18
BTW happy national sushi day. You can always still have veggie or cooked rolls if you are adhering to no sushi.
@nimmle @gingerbride26 everytime i think about how far we’ve come, I’m good. But when i think about the time still left, its still so far off. I haven’t had any cervical checks yet and our size ultrasound isn’t until 7/2, and this is the first...and I’m still carrying really high. I’m ready. With work and my meticulously planned childcare, I’m good with her staying put until the 20th but the thought if her going into August gives me anxiety. That...and it’s bloody hot in Florida already.
Today's random is that the labor gown I ordered came in today. WOOT! I did NOT want to wear their hospital gowns again and splurged on my own and it's perfect. I was so nervous it wouldn't be here in time but it came a couple weeks early! It's super comfy, has easy access for nursing, and buttons down the back for an epidural... AND POCKETS!
Also, add me to the list of people with a long way to go! People say, "Wow, almost there!" No. It's 6 weeks, likely 8 for me. I have always been induced 12 days over and barring babe flipping back to breech or some other medical issue, I expect to go to Aug 9.
@rachelsogo that is seriously a hilarious song!
The lake day was fully amazing, DS had so much fun! I got to see my old kiddos from school and catch up with coworkers and watch DS be a daredevil. Didn't bring a life vest because I didn't expect him to want to go in the water at all since he never does-he was out up to his nips! I kept having to call him back! He also climbed all the play structures and boulders all over the place...it was amazing to see him so confident. Hopefully he sleeps well tonight, I know I will!
Trying to catch up after a non stop crazy day. I could barely catch a second to breathe at work, then rushed through traffic to get to my chiro appointment, then rushed home to put my son to bed and eat before passing out of hunger. I had a horrible low blood sugar headache by the time I got home. The good news is the chiro is super impressed with my pelvis and how “ready” it is to give birth. Whatever that means.
@zande2016 serious LOL over your chiro's reaction to your pelvis
Thunderstorm came through just in time to scare the crap out of DD right after we put her down... DH went in right after the big boom that scared her to give her hugs and rock her a bit, and now she thinks she can yell for us and we'll go back in...she looks pathetic on the monitor :-/ trying to be strong...
@runsomewhere, @Sm05-2, @smashjam, kissableviv, @zombiehoohaa thanks for the well wishes! Sorry I’m so MIA.
In a long nutshell here’s my deal. I have a hereditary platelet disorder, so they’re very low. During pregnancy, they’ve continued to drop, and are below 50, which is what the medical community considers ‘safe’ for a CS. Im 38 years old and also have an autoimmune disorder that impacts my connective tissues.
Where it went sideways: I’m 37w Wednesday, and found out at 35w that my doctor isn’t high risk. This was a shock. I then found out at 36w baby flipped and is breech. My Ob is freaking out; says she isn’t comfortable doing a CS bc of bleeding risk & wants to put me on high doses of steroids + try to manually flip the baby. She said that way ‘if something catastrophic happens to you or the baby, at least we tried.’ Worst. Bedside. Manner. Ever.
Meanwhile, steroids should have started at 35 weeks...but haven’t. Hematologist says she’s been trying to contact my Ob to create a treatment plan, and can’t reach her. She doesn’t think steroids make sense.
Also, after 6 days of trying to contact my Ob, her office finally called back about ECV (flipping) procedure, and said no MFM in NYC ‘had time’ and I need to go to Queens. NFW. Procedure has <50% success rate and is risky bc can trigger emergency CS + autoimmune disorder causes my tissues to tear easily; I’m not doing it at a 3rd rate hospital with no name doctor Bc she dropped the ball, again.
So, now I have a breech baby. An Ob who isn’t comfortable doing my CS & whom I don’t want to anymore given that. No agreed upon treatment plan for meds. No CS scheduled. And I’m finally officially losing my shit.
I’m scared to death, and feel so stuck... no reputable doctor or any doctor will take me at 37w... and mine doesn’t give a crap about me.
Random rant and it’s stupid it bugs me but my SIL is a teacher and every year she likes to rub it in your face how she has summers off. And occasionally her FB posts are about how she has the hardest profession. Yes teachers are under paid and deserve more support but she even went as far as saying it’s harder than a firefighter (what?). Well her summer has started and it’s starting with a social media count down. Everyday blasting posts with what day of her summer it is (day 1: blah blah blah). Let’s hope she actually comes to help as planned and not act like it’s her vacation getaway.
Trying not to stress bc don’t want to induce breech labor with my 93rd percentile baby!
I miss alcohol so much!
@And846 I’m also having a Florida baby due 7/27! I laughed when I heard the weatherman say that Thursday is the first day of summer, as though we’re not already in the 90s with 97% humidity.
@krystlerr I just got my Buy Buy Baby completion coupon in the mail today, so yours should arrive very soon! We have plenty that we still need as well, and I noticed that there were a few exclusions on the completion discount, but not as many brands excluded as on their normal coupons.
Does anyone know if you can use the BBB completion discount on Uppababy? I know it’s normally excluded from the 20% off coupons, so I’m very cautiously optimistic.
@pretzellover I don't know where to begin. I am so sorry about your situation! I am thinking of you and sending all the creepy positive vibes I can via the net! I know that's what you've been doing but you need to put your foot down with this OB. I am shocked at the way she's been handling the situation. To be honest, the ECV is something to consider HOWEVER I also know that it can distress the baby, a friend basically was told to go and be ready for a c section which would be a risk for you. Is there a doctor you can talk to perhaps in a neighboring state? Or someone who may specialize in pregnancies with your conditions? I am sorry, I know you have bene through everything already.
I hope babe flips unexpectedly so at least you don't have to worry about that. Please know you are supported here...keep us posted
@pretzellover I am so incredibly sorry you are going through all this. I wish had advice or insight but all I can offer you is my thoughts and hopes that you can find someone to help you feel muc more confident in your delivery and care. i am so sorry your OB had been such a nightmare to work with.
@flockofmoosen3 yes Im scheduled for a week from tomorrow!
@kissableviv thanks or the tips on the shirt pack!
I really need to get up and get ready, but my soon is being super cuddly on my lap on the couch and I’m soaking it up. Today I have a midwife/NST appointment at 830, and then a MFM appointment at 1. Across the street from each other but half an hour each way from my house. So I guess I’m gonna go to Starbucks in between and work from there. I’d much rather work on my couch in my underwear but I don’t want to waste all that time and gas driving back and forth. These appointments are really getting very old very fast.
@SmashJam that is so scary and also so funny. I’m glad the reason behind the freezing was because the controls were too low and not because it’s broken!
@pretzellover I'm so sorry you are going through this. I don't blame you for being extremely anxious about the situation. Sending good vibes your way!
A friend of mine had her baby last night and the baby ended up weighing 10lbs 7oz.
@foxbaby2016 I also haven't seen baby since our anatomy scan and won't again until she's born. You're not alone!
@foxbaby2016 With my first I didn't have another US after 20 weeks - not even in the hospital during induction. Seems pretty standard for low/no-risk pregnancies. My cousin also had a surprise 10 lb baby - they did a US in the hospital during labor and told her it was an 8 pound baby...
@zande2016 FX for you. What is with these kids being high maintenance near the end! Calm down kiddos and stop stressing your mamas.
They checked my pulse and it was normal, I didn’t have a fever either, so there was no explanation related to me as to why the HR was high. She asked if baby was moving a lot and I said honestly I’m not feeling that much movement, sometimes he moves like crazy but during that time things felt calm. It was baseline high 160s/low 170s and totally non reactive for a good 20 mins. Then it became reactive but was still spiking up to 180/190 for a few mins at a time without me feeling movement. Then eventually it calmed down and they monitored for another 20 mins and it went down to baseline high 150s/low 160s. She was like we will just ignore the first 20 mins and go with the second 20 Mins which seems better. I felt uncomfortable with this, and she honestly didn’t seem 100% confident about her decision to send me home, and then she decided to consult with the head midwife. So she called the head midwife and then told me that since the baby calmed down I could leave and just come back Friday for my reguglaely scheduled test. I don’t know, I told her I trusted her opinion but just felt kind of uneasy. I am seeing the MFM at 1 for my blood sugar so I will mention it to him. I even asked if she should send the NST results to him and she said no it’s not necessary. I feel like I’d be more comfortable if they at least did a BPP ultrasound or had me come back again tomorrow for another NST rather than wait for Friday. Ugh I think this frequent monitoring causes too much stress.