I agree with @Chopchop25 My dentist recommended sensodyn and I thought it wasn't working but I stuck it out and right around 10 days into it I noticed a big difference! @sliztee
22w I feel pretty ok I guess. If I'm not having weird dreams I'm wide awake though. I'm tired from my weird sleeping patterns but my heartburn seems a little more bearable. Other than that I'm ok. Or just used to feeling crappy that I dont really notice anymore. Haha
@momoflogan20 Changes daily! Some days he's very calm and I don't really feel anything until night time when I'm laying down. However, this morning, he's clearly trying to get comfortable because I usually don't feel him in the morning until I've had breakfast!
I agree with @sliztee. Some days he's SUPER active and I feel him all day long. Others I have to try and remember if I've felt him. And they still aren't consistent, most days it's random feelings that you could easily pass for digestion issues if I didn't know better.
@sammierose464 +1 to the baby feeling like digestion issues. She was going CRAZY yesterday at work, so much movement. I swear it feels identical to gas I've had in the past, but since it's low in my pelvic region, and my stomach looks like it's twitching and moving from the outside, it probably is baby!
For an anterior placenta, I am feeling EVERYTHING and this kid is always awake. the difference this time is when he kicks, instead of kicking out, its kicking inward, into my damn organs. It's a strange feeling and not particularly comfortable.
I feel so distant from DH right now. Part of it is probably because I just feel emotional and anti-social in general. I have told him several times before that this pregnancy makes me feel distant from him, and he tries to reassure me and he'll do better for a few days. I think the other part is that I was gone for 4 days, we had a busy weekend, then he was gone for 5, and we really haven't had time together since he got back other than Monday. He's also feeling down about SS because the schedule is all wonky after Memorial Day and his trip, so he misses him.
It doesn't help that I lay in bed to go to sleep and just toss and turn trying to get comfortable. Wednesday night I cried because of it, mostly my stupid RLS.
I'm hoping tomorrow we can spend some time together and maybe it'll help.
I still have this ugly, red, dry, itchy rash on my face. It looks super cute and of course I work with the public. Covering it with makeup makes it worse.
I'm not sure where the original conversation started but I know it was a few weeks back. @krzyriver I believe you were the one that said you also had a face rash near your mouth? I talked to my OB at my appointment today and she said I had to talk to my primary because she wouldn't prescribe something without knowing what it was. It's usually a steroid cream and some are not safe during pregnancy. I'm hoping to get in next week as I have to go for an EKG as well. I'll update after that appointment.
@sammierose464 I know how you're feeling momma!! Is there a night next week you and DH could set aside for a date night? Even if it's just staying in with a movie and some takeout it could help so much. Keep expressing how you feel and hopefully things get less busy for you both soon!
@sammierose464 So sorry that you're feeling that way. It can be tough to work in some time together with crazy schedules. Sending some creepy internet hugs your way!
thanks ladies. I texted him asking if we could have a date night tomorrow because I need some husband time. he said sure. Didn't really make me feel better, but I didn't elaborate why.
@sammierose464 Hopefully he's just busy at work and didn't have more time to elaborate, but I'm on board with everyone else that y'all need some alone time.
Also, do you know what your "love language" is? I feel silly asking that, especially since I've never read the book. However, I will say that I need verbal communication to feel secure. In order to get that, I will pester the shit out of Jeff until he opens up. It's when he's open in dialogue that I feel the most safe and loved. It's worth noting that Jeff isn't super comfortable with this, as it's not his "love language"; he instead does acts of kindness for me. Like...the guy is constantly offering to get me water. I love that about him, but it's not what actually makes me feel loved. It's what makes him feel loved and appreciated. So, I try to do things for him the way he does for me...but it's not as instinctual for me, for the same reasons verbal communication isn't for him. Does that make sense? I feel like I just rambled so much and without any solicitation for advice, but whatevs.
@nmadjeski I have the same weird rash that comes and goes around my mouth. One of the ladies on a post before said it could be perioral dermatitis so I looked it up. I tried some of the natural remedies of getting rid of it and the one thing that has worked for me is Kiehls Calendula Herbal Extract Toner and their skin repair moisturizer. I got their trial size and the rash went away within 3 days. So I bought the larger size and spent way too much but have not had the rash since March when I started. I forgot to bring the toner to a cottage weekend and it started to come back but once I used it again it went away!
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
@sammierose464 H and I were SO disconnected during my pregnancy with Z. To an alarming degree. Once we finally got a hold on it, we were able to start coming back together. It took us a long while tho... too long. I hope you guys are able to find a way to reconnect soon. It’s hard to go thru all this when you’re dealing with SO issues too.
@nmadjeski Yes, I couldn’t remember who else was dealing with it. I finally caved and just tried neosporin. Thankfully it hasn’t come back becuase I didn’t check until after and saw that you shouldn’t use it while pregnant. Ugh. Let me know what they say, just in case!
@sliztee The 5 love languages are the best and is what saves a lot of relationships! I honestly don't know how we even survived the 5 years before we figured out what ours were. we never really fought or anything but our communication skills were awful and I seriously think we survived on just knowing we loved each other but couldn't figure out how to make it anything more deep than that (if that makes sense?) I seriously recommend to anyone who is struggling or floating to read it and understand together what makes you feel loved.
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
And I might have them wrong, it's been a long time since I first heard about the love languages. However, I know that we've talked about it together so often that we have a clear understanding of what our "languages" are, even if they aren't the same as the book. @chyvie
It's also worth noting that Jeff is 100% more of a cuddly/touchy spouse than me. I wasn't like that with anyone before him, but he's converted me into being better at it.
@sliztee Oh you have them right... you don't really have to read the book you can look it up online to get the summary of the 5. The book has the quiz and it is just really powerful to read more in depth on the ones your partner and you are
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
DH and I are usually really good at communicating, but it is harder for him. It took me 2 days for him to finally say "it's just hard with him sometimes" (meaning SS). I didn't need him to elaborate more cause I understood, but even that sentence was key for me to understand. And allowed me to check in on him.
I know it's hard for him to see me in pain and unhappy, and he probably doesn't understand it all. I told him about how as soon as he left this am I puked profusely and almost called off work. He didn't even comment. Yesterday I stood next to him pantsless, just to show off some skin to him. He was doing something, but just glanced and turned back to his work. I just shrugged and went back to what I was doing. About 20 min later he comes in to tell me he's going outside and I'm wrestling with the dog to clean his ear and put his medicine in. He asks what's wrong, I tell him, and he asks for a kiss. I say, give me a second im in the middle of taking care of the dog and he got a little huffy and walked out. Sorry dude, I finally got the dog in the right position and I'm kinda flustered.
Honestly, I'd be a freaking nervous wreck if Jeff was acting like that...so...you're not overreacting (at least, not to me).
Are you seeing a therapist? Dealing with depression symptoms at all? I feel like this has been discussed elsewhere before, but honestly, it's hard to keep everyone straight sometimes. @sammierose464
@sammierose464 I really hear you! So sorry you are going through this. H and I had a big talk about this last night- sparked by our wedding anniversary this week and at times mismatched ways of demonstrating love. It’s so lonely to feel that way- especially while pregnant!
We just started reading the 5 love languages book. It made me feel bad that I was shocked by my man’s answers to some of the questions and the results of the test he took. He didn’t know what my love language was either though. We’ve just been going about it all wrong. If we would have read it 5 years ago Curtis probably wouldn’t have a 2yo son that’s not mine and I wouldn’t have cheated on him in retaliation. Just makes me really sad. I’d highly encourage everyone to at least do the test online!!
Honestly, I'd be a freaking nervous wreck if Jeff was acting like that...so...you're not overreacting (at least, not to me).
Are you seeing a therapist? Dealing with depression symptoms at all? I feel like this has been discussed elsewhere before, but honestly, it's hard to keep everyone straight sometimes. @sammierose464
I'm not Currently seeing my therapist, but I am actively being medicated for depression. I know that it's part of what the issue is here, and a key reason why I didn't go off my meds.
@jynjer91 it's great that you guys have figured that out, and also worked through past issues. I think sometimes being a 2nd wife brings up worries and fears that aren't really rational but our mind thinks they are.
@sammierose464 Here's my friendly, unobtrusive recommendation to start seeing someone at the same time as taking the medications. Y'all are going through some huge life changes and your mental wellness is just as important as your physical wellness! Especially because you have Griffin to consider.
@sliztee I don't think I really realized until you mentioned it that is a lot of my depression coming out. My company has a great EAP program, so might need to call my therapist and see what her openings are.
@chyvie thanks for the suggestion! I'm definitely going to give that try.
@krzyriver my first thought was to try neosporin too. I'll let you know what my primary says though.
@sammierose464 I don't really have more to add from what the other ladies have said but I'm glad you guys are going to have a date night and you're reaching out to your therapist. Pregnancy and being the second wife was something that was really hard for me and us as a couple. I wish I would have talked to a therapist the first time around.
re: weird mouth rashes. I had one last fall, and the derm said it was perioral dermatitis, which is caused by topical steroid use, fluoride, and/or a lot of other random stuff. I switched to fluoride free toothpaste (from sensodyne) and it eventually went away.
Definitely broke down and cried when DH hugged me hello. He kept asking what he could do. In part I know, but also don't want to cause a fight when he's getting ready to head out. The other part is truly depression based and there isn't anything particular he can do. I told him I'm just not myself, have no desire to do anything or be social, and that being pregnant is making certain parts harder. At least I finally vocalized it...
Now to put on my happy face and head to our club since we're "patching in" a guy tonight who I'm super excited for even though I have no desire to go.
@sammierose464 I'm glad you talked to DH! And even though you don't really want to go out I hope you have fun tonight! Keep those lines with DH open and honest❤
Glad you vocalized it. That is the first step to solving a problem. Keep talking and leaning on us and DH for support! Hope you have some fun tonight to get your mind off of things for a bit.
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
Thanks so much ladies. I already missed my best friend's bday because of this (even if I'm just now realizing that was the root of it), so I need to make myself go. And there's a BBQ food truck tonight!
Re: Symptoms 6/13
22w I feel pretty ok I guess. If I'm not having weird dreams I'm wide awake though. I'm tired from my weird sleeping patterns but my heartburn seems a little more bearable. Other than that I'm ok. Or just used to feeling crappy that I dont really notice anymore. Haha
I feel so distant from DH right now. Part of it is probably because I just feel emotional and anti-social in general. I have told him several times before that this pregnancy makes me feel distant from him, and he tries to reassure me and he'll do better for a few days. I think the other part is that I was gone for 4 days, we had a busy weekend, then he was gone for 5, and we really haven't had time together since he got back other than Monday. He's also feeling down about SS because the schedule is all wonky after Memorial Day and his trip, so he misses him.
It doesn't help that I lay in bed to go to sleep and just toss and turn trying to get comfortable. Wednesday night I cried because of it, mostly my stupid RLS.
I'm hoping tomorrow we can spend some time together and maybe it'll help.
I'm not sure where the original conversation started but I know it was a few weeks back. @krzyriver I believe you were the one that said you also had a face rash near your mouth? I talked to my OB at my appointment today and she said I had to talk to my primary because she wouldn't prescribe something without knowing what it was. It's usually a steroid cream and some are not safe during pregnancy. I'm hoping to get in next week as I have to go for an EKG as well. I'll update after that appointment.
Also, do you know what your "love language" is? I feel silly asking that, especially since I've never read the book. However, I will say that I need verbal communication to feel secure. In order to get that, I will pester the shit out of Jeff until he opens up. It's when he's open in dialogue that I feel the most safe and loved. It's worth noting that Jeff isn't super comfortable with this, as it's not his "love language"; he instead does acts of kindness for me. Like...the guy is constantly offering to get me water. I love that about him, but it's not what actually makes me feel loved. It's what makes him feel loved and appreciated. So, I try to do things for him the way he does for me...but it's not as instinctual for me, for the same reasons verbal communication isn't for him. Does that make sense? I feel like I just rambled so much and without any solicitation for advice, but whatevs.
I have the same weird rash that comes and goes around my mouth. One of the ladies on a post before said it could be perioral dermatitis so I looked it up. I tried some of the natural remedies of getting rid of it and the one thing that has worked for me is Kiehls Calendula Herbal Extract Toner and their skin repair moisturizer. I got their trial size and the rash went away within 3 days. So I bought the larger size and spent way too much but have not had the rash since March when I started. I forgot to bring the toner to a cottage weekend and it started to come back but once I used it again it went away!
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
@nmadjeski Yes, I couldn’t remember who else was dealing with it. I finally caved and just tried neosporin. Thankfully it hasn’t come back becuase I didn’t check until after and saw that you shouldn’t use it while pregnant. Ugh. Let me know what they say, just in case!
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
It's also worth noting that Jeff is 100% more of a cuddly/touchy spouse than me. I wasn't like that with anyone before him, but he's converted me into being better at it.
you don't really have to read the book you can look it up online to get the summary of the 5. The book has the quiz and it is just really powerful to read more in depth on the ones your partner and you are
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
I know it's hard for him to see me in pain and unhappy, and he probably doesn't understand it all. I told him about how as soon as he left this am I puked profusely and almost called off work. He didn't even comment. Yesterday I stood next to him pantsless, just to show off some skin to him. He was doing something, but just glanced and turned back to his work. I just shrugged and went back to what I was doing. About 20 min later he comes in to tell me he's going outside and I'm wrestling with the dog to clean his ear and put his medicine in. He asks what's wrong, I tell him, and he asks for a kiss. I say, give me a second im in the middle of taking care of the dog and he got a little huffy and walked out. Sorry dude, I finally got the dog in the right position and I'm kinda flustered.
Sorry that was long.
Are you seeing a therapist? Dealing with depression symptoms at all? I feel like this has been discussed elsewhere before, but honestly, it's hard to keep everyone straight sometimes. @sammierose464
@krzyriver my first thought was to try neosporin too. I'll let you know what my primary says though.
@sammierose464 I don't really have more to add from what the other ladies have said but I'm glad you guys are going to have a date night and you're reaching out to your therapist. Pregnancy and being the second wife was something that was really hard for me and us as a couple. I wish I would have talked to a therapist the first time around.
Now to put on my happy face and head to our club since we're "patching in" a guy tonight who I'm super excited for even though I have no desire to go.
Hope you have some fun tonight to get your mind off of things for a bit.
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada