Hey newbie here!!

littlesharp

Hello I'm cait. My husband and I have decided to have another baby. He is 40 I am 27. We have 3 beautiful daughters together and want to have another. I was on BC and had my iud removed 5-1-18 had my first af 5-4-18 now I am using opk daily to figure out when I'm ovulating. I take prenantals and do what I can to be healthy and aid in conieving. we have been blessed the longest it has taken us to become pregnant in the past is 3 months and that was without counting or charting or anything. we just decided to have another baby, pray about it, and bam suddenly I was pregnant lol. idk this time is different for me. I guess I have this fear that it wont be that way this time. idk I'm probably just crazy. I'm currently on CD5. I'm absolutely concumed with having a baby. I think about it 24/7 I stess about it I deam about taking my opks. I'm trying to relax. enjoy this time. not worry so much and not be in to big of a hurry. To just let God do his work if it is his will but it hard!!! Lol good luck to all....

lulu1180

littlesharp said:

Hello I'm cait. My husband and I have decided to have another baby. He is 40 I am 27. We have 3 beautiful daughters together and want to have another. I was on BC and had my iud removed 5-1-18 had my first af 5-4-18 now I am using opk daily to figure out when I'm ovulating. I take prenantals and do what I can to be healthy and aid in conieving. we have been blessed the longest it has taken us to become pregnant in the past is 3 months and that was without counting or charting or anything. we just decided to have another baby, pray about it, and bam suddenly I was pregnant lol. idk this time is different for me. I guess I have this fear that it wont be that way this time. idk I'm probably just crazy. I'm currently on CD5. I'm absolutely concumed with having a baby. I think about it 24/7 I stess about it I deam about taking my opks. I'm trying to relax. enjoy this time. not worry so much and not be in to big of a hurry. To just let God do his work if it is his will but it hard!!! Lol good luck to all....

QFP
I don’t have the energy for this tonight 

AlohaKumu

Nor do I, @lulu1180. Seriously, why do people refuse to read over all the newbie stuff and think it’s cool to throw around how fertile they are? And it’s always seems to be these individuals who get KTFU just from looking at their partners. Ugh. 

Venessa88

I'm going to suggest that you go read the pinned post that says "READ this first" 

Also there is a post called newbie intro where you can go introduce yourself and we have daily threads you can participate in. All of this is explained in read me first post. 

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12685680/the-ultimate-ttgp-guide-newbies-read-this-first#latest

Just a side note. This community is great and full of wonderful and supporting woman. If you show support you will get some back.  Keep in mind that everyone is in a different spot in their TTC journey and to be conscious of this when talking about how "fertile" you are as it comes off as braggy and no one wants to hear that. 

Now if you plan on staying go read the newbie post and lurk a bit to get a feel of how it works around here. 

50Wife

I've tried to respond.  I really have... 

lulu1180

@50Wife


And also

crookshanks10

Wow... probably one of the worst drive-bys I've seen in awhile.No words. Just eyerolls and facepalms.

lin0442

Oh you poor thing. 

tamalahoops

Me everytime I see a thread like this and realize how long I've been trying

[Deleted User]

Hi, Cait,
I don't go here, so please, board, forgive me if I'm overstepping.  However, I feel like it has to be said...

Yes, please do all the things Vanessa recommended above.  There is a place where newbie intros go - one-off threads are not it.  As long as someone starts it, there's also a TFAS thread where you can feel free to mention your, (I'm sure, <i>painfully</i> adorable) living children.  The main board, randoms, wto/tww, gtkys etc. are not it.

Please, for the love of puppies and kitties and everything holy, <i><b>lurk the board</b></i>.  Read the IF thread, too.  Get to know your audience and where all these lovely women are coming from.  Get to know the culture a bit before you dive into posting.  That's what that 3-day waiting period is for, but it doesn't look like you did that.

I'm going to be real honest.  Nobody wants to hear how easily you conceived your three living children.  You're 27.  Nobody wants to hear how you, "just have a feeling it might take longer (than three months) this time."  That is not the backstory of a woman who waltzes in here and gets this huge outpouring of internet, "support" -- not on this board, anyway.  1. You have to give it to get it, by participating on a regular basis, responding to others' posts, and getting to know these lady-warriors.  2. Understand that there are real people here, facing a host of real fertility struggles, and many are already beyond tired of fighting.  You are not one of them - yet.  It doesn't mean you can't play here, but certainly not without cultivating some compassion and respect for everyone else's journey.

I sincerely hope you will be able to take what we've said to heart.  People are hurting.  Some have only just begun to fight.  You are Bilbo Baggins, heading out on an incredible journey... But you're still in the Shire.  We all hope from the bottom of our hearts you, and no one else, should have to brave the fires of Mt. Doom to get their babies.  Just please understand why the board may not be much for throwing you a pocket hanky, whilst busy fighting the dragon that is IF.
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lulu1180

@BusinessWife


Seriously, thank you for being so eloquent and saying what many of us couldn't quite get out.  Also, I love the LOTR reference (even if you did get it a tiny bit mixed up) .

OP, I hope you take her advice to heart, she is truly just trying to help you.

[Deleted User]

@lulu1180  Well, sure it would be a far toss of a hanky from Mordor to the Shire, and realising the dragon was dwelling in the Lonely Mountain, not Mt. Doom.  I think the dragon of IF is everywhere tho, metaphorically speaking.  And can rise up out of nowhere when we least expect it - Church, like you mentioned in your other post, the grocery store - omg that still happens to me - other social events etc.  It's really a horrible, horrible beast, that I'm not sure will ever be truly slain.

lulu1180

@BusinessWife Agreed!! And probably one of the best descriptions of IF I’ve seen!

cait32

I don't go here, but what is "concumed" with having a baby? Is that the Spanish "con" as in "with cum" or is that the English "con" meaning "without or against cum"? You will definitely need the cum, so hopefully its Spanish.

kiki75

Five days into cycle 1 and already so stressed and concumed and having OPKs invading dreams. Lol indeed.

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