I would definitely use the name if you are dead set on it. Friends come and go, plenty of names are duplicated... neither is a reason to change it IMO.
@paytonpedro I am in no way attempting to minimize how you feel about the friend choosing the name, because its def annoying, but I think @runsomewhere is onto something about how it won't be an issue in the long run. It could honestly be that she had people advising HER to use the name for similar reasons, that it didn't matter if you guys had kids with the same name. Use the name if you love it!
That being said I have a friend who had two names picked for her son, and she didn't use the second but I'm assuming she would if she has another boy. I LOVE her boy name, totally think its fabulous, but will not use it until I know if she is because I don't want to steal it from her, even though we don't live in the same state, don't hang out anymore, and don't really talk on the phone. So I see both sides!
@cseley321 you mean babies can't just sleep in desk drawers? :-P At least he got them $250 off on sale....
@paytonpedro agree with a lot of the ladies here; I hope you still use the name. I know it sounds sad but it is very true that adult friendships don't always last but your child will have the name forever. I wouldn't let her ruin it for you.
@paytonpedro I agree you should keep the name! If you happen to find another you love more so be it, but I wouldn’t let her choosing he same name ruin one you love! It was your name suggestion and you have every right to it. I know it feels like a crap sandwich now, but years down the line I’m sure it won’t be an issue.
Thank you ladies all so much! The problem was/is that my husband doesn’t want to use the name anymore. I still want to use it. If it was solely up to me it wouldn’t even be a question- I’d just be pissed she used it too. We went and met baby last night and it was just her and I because the guys went to pick up food and I half jokingly half seriously said “you stole my name” in like a whine-y cry type voice (so not rude) and she pretended like she had the name picked out already when I mentioned it to her in January and said she thought she told me. Which I obviously know is a lie. BUTTTT she also said we should still use the name and not let this change my mind (it didn’t). So I told my husband and I guess it is still on the table? i had to tell him (again) how I’ve been having a hard time bonding and that this is what I’ve been calling the baby for the past 10 weeks, and I think that helped him understand but who knows.
ETA if she’s one of your bffs try not to let your irritation get in the way of your friendship. I’ve said it before but my bff got seriously upset that I stole her name (she wasn’t married or pregnant at the time) and it’s definitely put a dent in our relationship and my DD is 3.
ETA if she’s one of your bffs try not to let your irritation get in the way of your friendship. I’ve said it before but my bff got seriously upset that I stole her name (she wasn’t married or pregnant at the time) and it’s definitely put a dent in our relationship and my DD is 3.
She’s not a best friend. Our husband are good friends so we’re friends too. We go to concert together and did a group friends trip to Disney, her husband is DSs God father, and we hang out usually a couple times a month. If we hang out with friends it’s usualky them and another couple. I don’t plan on letting it get weird at all, as long as DH lets us use this name. Haha.
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That being said I have a friend who had two names picked for her son, and she didn't use the second but I'm assuming she would if she has another boy. I LOVE her boy name, totally think its fabulous, but will not use it until I know if she is because I don't want to steal it from her, even though we don't live in the same state, don't hang out anymore, and don't really talk on the phone. So I see both sides!
@paytonpedro agree with a lot of the ladies here; I hope you still use the name. I know it sounds sad but it is very true that adult friendships don't always last but your child will have the name forever. I wouldn't let her ruin it for you.
The problem was/is that my husband doesn’t want to use the name anymore. I still want to use it. If it was solely up to me it wouldn’t even be a question- I’d just be pissed she used it too.
We went and met baby last night and it was just her and I because the guys went to pick up food and I half jokingly half seriously said “you stole my name” in like a whine-y cry type voice (so not rude) and she pretended like she had the name picked out already when I mentioned it to her in January and said she thought she told me. Which I obviously know is a lie. BUTTTT she also said we should still use the name and not let this change my mind (it didn’t). So I told my husband and I guess it is still on the table? i had to tell him (again) how I’ve been having a hard time bonding and that this is what I’ve been calling the baby for the past 10 weeks, and I think that helped him understand but who knows.
ETA if she’s one of your bffs try not to let your irritation get in the way of your friendship. I’ve said it before but my bff got seriously upset that I stole her name (she wasn’t married or pregnant at the time) and it’s definitely put a dent in our relationship and my DD is 3.