I am totally failing at adulting lately. Anything that requires responsibility also requires energy, which I do not have. I finally paid a bill that was so late they called and yelled at me today. There's no reason it didn't get paid other than I suck at life lately. ugh. My poor house. and husband. and kids.
@hkom What if the soup instead gives you super (souper?) powers ?!
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
My boss just became a grandma this morning!! Her grandson was born early at 36w1d, but she said they're both doing wonderful! He was a whopping 6 lbs 15 oz! I'm anxiously yet patiently awaiting new baby squish photos!
I hate when I'm craving something, so I make it. Then when it's done the thought of eating the thing i was craving makes me want to puke..... wtf pregnancy i wanted ribs and now I can't eat them
I just went to Target and they had all of their summer stuff out and I just realized how totally stoked I am to be able to go to a pool next year and actually play with my kid and DO stuff instead of just sitting there like a lump.
@Gwyneddlesliegrace That is a cute suit! I just bought some stuff on thredUP for later this year. I might even buy a swimsuit too if DH and I find a nice pool when we move.
(PS, thredUP has a referral program, so if you want a $10 credit you can use my link to sign up https://www.thredup.com/r/T5R0M5 Their maternity section has really filled out over the last couple of years, yay!)
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@hkom I always wished for the opposite. Being trapped in the house on maternity leave in the winter is NO JOKE.
The timing of everything actually worked out pefectly for us, even if it will be winter and we might be stuck inside so-to-speak. I am self-employed and my husband is a teaching assistant while working on his PhD, so neither of us have paid leave. Our due date is right as his semester ends so he will be home for a solid month without having to miss anything at work, and my work slows down a lot in the winter so I won't have clients beating down my door while I'm trying to take care of a newborn.
Plus, December here isn't usually too bad weather-wise, and there are a lot of things to do that you can cart an infant along that are indoors but at least involve getting out of the house.
Y'all!!!! DD has been sleeping with DH and me since we moved into our new house a few months ago, and I told her yesterday as she was getting ready for bed that this summer we're going to work on getting her back into her big girl bed. She asked why, and I told her because mommy's tummy was going to be growing and there wouldn't be room for all of us in the bed (me, DH, DD, and 3 small dogs). Keep in mind we haven't yet told her I'm going to have a baby. She looked me dead in the eye and said "Because of the twins?"
@hkom Sitting at the pool like a lump is my favorite part This last summer was torture because I had to chase a nearly 2 year old around and make sure he didn't jump into the pool and crack his head open on the side. NOT relaxing. I found my favorite thing was setting up a kiddie pool in the back yard and watching him play while I sat on the porch while drinking a beer! Or, taking him to the splash park is fun because you aren't worried they're going to drown
@misfithero are you having a scan soon? Kids are freakishly intuitive! A 7 year old is the reason I took a test when pregnant with DS, he knew before I did!
I don’t want to clog up the sex thread, but the 3D scan comments just make me think that crisp lasagna meme. UO: I find the 3D scans unsettling. And all I can think of is crispy lasagne. Unsettling 3D scan in the spoiler, but also hilarity.
@whaat I totally agree. I have a Febubaby. Postpartum + SAD + most depressing month of the year = terrible mix for me.
This was me with my Nov baby. The fact that we had to put on coats was enough to never go outside. I’m hoping that my toddler (and experience) helps this time.
Luckily with my January baby we lived in Las Vegas where the sun literally never stops shining. (It does get quite chilly though!) Also @ay-eff I have never seen that and am now dying.
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@ay-eff YES. I find 3D ultrasounds so unsettling for some reason, haha. Your comparison is perfect. My OB's office offers them as a "bonus" at like, 28 weeks and I was like, no, please, can we just have the normal one? The ultrasound tech thought we were nuts.
@whaat I am also hoping toddler and experience will help me this time. I found an awesome playgroup when my kid was 5 month old and that changed my life. We mostly vented about our partners and motherhood while our babies hung out in a pile. Even if going to playgroup is the only thing I do all week this time around, it’ll have a big impact.
@PensiveCrayon perpetual sunshine would also be v. helpful. I need to move closer to the equator. Hah.
+1 for not liking 3D ultrasounds! My UO is that you’re gonna see the kid soon enough, calm down. Also belly casts are ridiculous.
But hey! Canada Dry makes a ginger ale + lemonade combo and it is the bomb dot com
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Am I the only one here facing the prospect of a parent not making it to December to meet LO? I honestly spend most of my time in denial, but after listening to my dad cry to me on the phone today, I’m kind of facing the reality that my mom might only have a 50% chance of living long enough to meet this baby. It’s not been a good day, and now I’m wondering how I could have been so selfish to get pregnant now. She would be heartbroken to know that she wouldn’t get to meet my child. Can I just not tell anyone? I feel so guilty about being pregnant, instead of happy. Which just leads to more guilt
@runrinserepeat Oh I'm so sorry. I lost my dad last year and it breaks my heart that he isn't going to be here for my babies. I can't imagine being in the position you are right now, though. Your mom loves you and will love a chance to love your baby even if it isn't here yet. You can't put your life on hold because something may happen. You don't know the future and you need to live your life. I'm so sorry you're going through this. So many hugs.
@runrinserepeat I’m so sorry that is something you are facing. My Mum died in 2015 and I felt the opposite. I wished that we had gotten pregnant while she was still alive just so that I could have told her. It would have brought her so much joy knowing a grandchild existed. Even with her prognosis. It would have offered a happy distraction from the otherwise oppressive sadness. It breaks my heart that she never knew.
It’s definitely important to give your feelings space. But try not to let feelings of guilt or selfishness push out happy feelings altogether. Easier said than done, I know.
I realize I’m an internet stranger, but I’m here if you ever want to talk.
@echo-charlietango I was doing a "buy nothing challenge" this year until I got pregnant... I guess I can't buy nothing anymore, but I'll try to keep it minimal and only buy used if I can. I have some credit on Thred Up and am planning to use it for maternity
and baby clothing. I am tempted to buy stuff now but it feels too soon to me still!
@runrinserepeat Oh, I'm SO sorry. How incredibly tough. It's a very, very personal decision, but I would think the news of a pregnancy, even if your mom might not be able to meet this little one, would be good news to her. It is sometimes a comfort to people who are preparing to pass on to know that their family will continue after them. But, of course, what incredibly tough timing. I am so sorry. My father passed when I was 18, so he was never able to be there for milestones, meet his grandchild etc, and it is still painful to think about for me years and years later, so I can't imagine having to face a prospective loss so great right now. I am sending you love in this painful time. And please do not feel guilty! No one who loves you would want you to feel that way. Big hugs.
I am tempted to buy stuff now but it feels too soon to me still!
It is early, I’ll admit! I told DH (after buying my cart) that I’m getting these things now but I will do my very best to not get emotionally attached to them. We still haven’t passed my MC milestone, but this round is already more favorable (good progesterone, betas, and a heartbeat). FX, it sucks that we can’t see into the future.
@runrinserepeat I’m sorry that today has been craptastic. I’m certainly not in your (running) shoes, but I know that my mom would love the news of a grandbaby if she was terminally ill. Maybe it would give her something happy to focus on? *creepy internet hugs*
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Re: Weekly Randoms! 4.30
I am totally failing at adulting lately. Anything that requires responsibility also requires energy, which I do not have. I finally paid a bill that was so late they called and yelled at me today. There's no reason it didn't get paid other than I suck at life lately. ugh. My poor house. and husband. and kids.
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
DS2 due 12/12/18
I also got an awesome deal for our beach trip to Maine in June. SO EXCITED!!
DD2 | June 2011
DS1 | Oct 2013
ADD3 | Oct 2014 (April 2001)
DS2 | June 2016
DS3 | Dec 2018
Due with baby blob August 2021
(PS, thredUP has a referral program, so if you want a $10 credit you can use my link to sign up https://www.thredup.com/r/T5R0M5 Their maternity section has really filled out over the last couple of years, yay!)
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Plus, December here isn't usually too bad weather-wise, and there are a lot of things to do that you can cart an infant along that are indoors but at least involve getting out of the house.
Uh, say what
Hopefully she's not that gifted...
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
DS2 due 12/12/18
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@PensiveCrayon perpetual sunshine would also be v. helpful. I need to move closer to the equator. Hah.
But hey! Canada Dry makes a ginger ale + lemonade combo and it is the bomb dot com
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
It’s definitely important to give your feelings space. But try not to let feelings of guilt or selfishness push out happy feelings altogether. Easier said than done, I know.
I realize I’m an internet stranger, but I’m here if you ever want to talk.
@runrinserepeat I’m sorry that today has been craptastic. I’m certainly not in your (running) shoes, but I know that my mom would love the news of a grandbaby if she was terminally ill. Maybe it would give her something happy to focus on?
*creepy internet hugs*
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018