Help!!!!

alearroyo10

My husband and I have been together for 8 yrs and expecting baby number 3. Baby #3 was totally not planned nor expected. Ok well recently I caught him with cocaine and world came tumbling down and ever since that day we have argued non stop every time he gets drunk ( which is every weekend). He constantly degraded me and tells me shitty things. On top of this he does not touch my belly nor mentions our baby. Also since he is the only one working he told me to move the hell out of our home. He constantly says this and that is mine and this is yours. I freaking fed up with everything and will file for divorce but I’m afraid they won’t hire a prego women and plus my little boy is supper attached to him. I don’t know how to not hurt his feelings.

nmbrcrnchr1

alearroyo10 said:

My husband and I have been together for 8 yrs and expecting baby number 3. Baby #3 was totally not planned nor expected. Ok well recently I caught him with cocaine and world came tumbling down and ever since that day we have argued non stop every time he gets drunk ( which is every weekend). He constantly degraded me and tells me shitty things. On top of this he does not touch my belly nor mentions our baby. Also since he is the only one working he told me to move the hell out of our home. He constantly says this and that is mine and this is yours. I freaking fed up with everything and will file for divorce but I’m afraid they won’t hire a prego women and plus my little boy is supper attached to him. I don’t know how to not hurt his feelings.

QFP and....
im sorry you find yourself in this position. But I think you have to honestly ask yourself “what is the safest place for me and my children (both current and to be)” and go to that place. I personally think it would be somewhere where drugs are not involved but I don’t know your specific situation. I wouldn’t focus on him not touching your belly...my DH rarely did that in my last pregnancy, they just don’t relate like we do when babe is in the womb. However, if there are other warning signs that a future baby may not benefit in your current living situation I would strongly recommend you to remove yourself from that place.

meggyme

Drugs, and alcohol aside, this sounds like emotional abuse, in which case you should definitely get out of this situation as soon as you can. Constantly degrading you and telling you that certain things in your home do not belong to both of you because you're at home taking care of both your kids instead of working is not ok. I'm sure that it's scary and there's a lot of unknowns, including how your son will take it, but think about what kind of man he will grow up to be if this is the example he has for how to treat people. Sometimes you have to do what's best for your children even when it's hard and will make them unhappy.

As for being hired because you're pregnant, a) it's illegal to not hire someone based on pregnancy, b) you won't be pregnant forever c) pregnant women get hired all the time, it's sometimes just an obstacle to finding the right job. Don't let that keep you in a shitty situation.

dpjennifer

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