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April 2018 IUI

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Re: April 2018 IUI

  • Hi everyone, I’m new to this discussion. I went in for my IUI on 4/1. I took a test today and it was negative but they told me to wait until this Sunday to test. Clearly patience is not my strong suit. I’m trying not to stress out now and am still hoping for some good news this weekend. 



    *****Trigger Warning******
    Will be sharing some sensitive info, so please stop reading now if you don’t wish to see it. <3




    This is is my second IUI cycle. I had my first cycle in Nov, had a BFP, but lost it at 7 weeks. It was my second loss. I am currently taking baby aspirin and if I do get a BFP I will need to be on blood thinners. Anyone else in that same boat? 
  • @smittyswife I'm sorry you are going through all these. I haven't been prescribed baby aspirin and haven't been on blood thinners so I can't share anything about it. I just want to wish you GL on your test on Sunday. I also had my IUI around your time 4/2. I haven't tested yet, frankly don't have the will to do it. Plus I'm down with a cold. Wow this TWW is really something.
    smittyswifey
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  • @smittyswifey I am sorry for your losses.  I had a ***tw*** chemical pregnancy and that loss was devastating ***end tw***.  I can sympathize with you on that front.  I have definitely heard of the baby aspirin/blood thinner protocol to prevent MC but I am not personally on that protocol as of yet.  I wish you and @tinjp78 good luck on your testing, whenever you decide to, and hope your negative turns to a positive! fx for all!!!
    TTC History in Spoiler
    Me: 29  DH:34
    TTC 21 cycles
    All TI cycles BFN (with letrozole, ovidrel, prometrium)
    Hysteroscopy + Polypectomy + D&C on 1/3
    IUI #1 February 6, BFP 2/21, CP 2/26
    IUI #2 March 14, BFN
    IUI #3 April 11, BFN
    IUI #4 May 11, BFN
    July 2018 IVF, developed lead follicle, converted to TI, BFN
    August/September 2018 IVF converted to freeze-all: 7 mature eggs; we fertilized 3 and froze 4. 3/3 fertilized and 1 blast!
    October 2018 FET-BFN
    November 2018 FET-TBD

    smittyswifey[Deleted User]tinjp78
  • Y'all I dont know if anyone else has experienced something like this, but last night, our last "prescribed" night of BD, DH was in such a sour mood and lodged into this complaint that he felt like this whole infertility process was really focused on me, and not on us.  I think I realized that he's probably right - and some of it happens naturally -  bc it's me that goes to the appointments, it's my body that it's happening to, etc.  But I think because of that, I do tend to think of it more like "I'm trying to get pregnant" rather than "We're trying to have a baby", and I can see why that would upset him.  
    He was also upset because I had a 1/4 glass of wine last night - day 1 post IUI.  I had an OBGYN friend tell me that nothing would be transferred to baby until AT least 5dp ovulation at time of implantation, so I felt like I was well within reason, but he doesn't agree.  Keep in mind I am not a heavy drinker - maybe 3 glasses of wine a week, never more than one a day.  I told him that even though I don't agree with him, I'll go sans-alcohol starting day of IUI in future (if we have to continue trying), because I do want him to feel considered in this process and I don't know of many ways to make that happen.
    Anyone have good advice as to how to make our SO's feel they are an equal part in this?  This stuff is hard on a marriage... I wish his job allowed time for us to get some counseling!   The good news is I feel like we talked it through the best we could and did end up BD (wasn't sure it was gonna happen once that conversation started :|)
    TTC History in Spoiler
    Me: 29  DH:34
    TTC 21 cycles
    All TI cycles BFN (with letrozole, ovidrel, prometrium)
    Hysteroscopy + Polypectomy + D&C on 1/3
    IUI #1 February 6, BFP 2/21, CP 2/26
    IUI #2 March 14, BFN
    IUI #3 April 11, BFN
    IUI #4 May 11, BFN
    July 2018 IVF, developed lead follicle, converted to TI, BFN
    August/September 2018 IVF converted to freeze-all: 7 mature eggs; we fertilized 3 and froze 4. 3/3 fertilized and 1 blast!
    October 2018 FET-BFN
    November 2018 FET-TBD

  • @wishing-and-hoping I don’t think it’s possible for them to be/feel as involved as you are because they’re just not (until baby is here and then hopefully they are!)  But I think what you did is great!
    Pregnancy TickerAbout me: *TW*

    Me: 34, DH: 38                                                                                                                                                                                
    TTC #1 June of 2014  9/14 BFP, baby boy EDD 5/18/15. Elias (Eli) born 5/13/15 7lb0oz, 19 inches.                                      
    Surprise BFP 10/15, live ectopic, lost ruptured tube on 11/5/15 at 8 weeks                                                                              
    Started TTC #2 2/16                                                                                                                                                                   
    HSG 1/18 after no BFPs- diagnosed w/ tubal infertility and referred to RE                                                                     
    3/28/18 remaining tube removed                                                                                                                                              
    IVF 5/18: 15 retrieved, 11 fertilized, 8 blasts -- (3) 4aa, (2) 5aa (2) 4ba frozen -- fresh transfer of 1 day-5 4aa blast, BFP, EDD 2/4/19

  • @wishing-and-hoping I hear you. It’s tough on relationships/marriages but in the long term makes us stronger (at least that’s what I am hopping for). My DH and I have had soooo many issues in the bedroom since not being able to TTC- first performance anxiety from DH which went on for months then anxiety from me worried that he was going to be anxious and being completely turned off by the whole process, now that we are 16 months into TTC and just moved countries from Australia to NYC neither of us have much of a sex drive from the stress and going through such a huge move - not ideal when you want to make a baby. Then comes all the pressure from literally ALL of our friends that either have babies or are pregnant. It’s tough. 
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    @smittyswife I was on the baby aspirin and blood thinner protocal. Basically my RE had me to stay on baby aspirin, and the day of the IUI I would start taking the blood thinner injection. The medication he had me on was Lovenox and I would inject it into the side of my belly. I stayed on it until beta, and if it was positive I would remain on Lovenox and baby aspirin until week 36 (you do not want to be on blood thinner at delivery).

    Some RE's may stop sooner (start of 2nd tri), but with my history of many early losses my RE opted for 36 weeks to be safe.

    Best of luck to you! It's not so bad... I much preferred them to PIO shots
    tinjp78
  • SultanaRFSultanaRF member
    edited April 2018
    Good Day to ALL! ) o:)
    I am new here. Will be waiting for a BFP this month as well.
    I have started my 2nd cycle of IUI. Will be trying to add some new meds to suppress my immune system.
    Is anyone starting a New cycle this month?


    Married for 10 years
    All TI cycles BFN
    IVF #1 2016-  BFN
    IVF #2 2017- BFN
    IUI #1 March 2018- BFN



    tinjp78
  • @wishing-and-hoping  The emotional toll of infertility can be extremely taxing on a couple's relationship. DH and I have been married for almost 7 years now and the first few years of it was a really bumpy ride. It became even more difficult when we had to (needed to) TTC on 2016 when a chocolate cyst was discovered on my right ovary. Like @lizzynyc11 we also had many issues in the bedroom. Tbh I already gave up on the idea that our BD would possibly lead us to naturally conceive. Those episodes hurt me a lot and there was nobody I could tell all these to. Ive been trying to always be good to him and since last year I have hidden all my true feelings from him, I just showed the pleasant ones. It was just last year that I knew that he was diagnosed with depression and had been seeing a dr and had been taking meds for it. I was very scared and lonely, it was just here that I could get some sort of relief, learning from the women who were also on a similar boat as me. About his involvement in our ART procedures, he is all there. He also wants to have a baby. Both of us like kids a lot and we can't wait to have our own. But you know, I would love to have some good change in our relationship first. I'm tired of pretending in front of him and from myself. Sorry for the rant and if I wasn't making any sense. I just tested today (11dpiui) and of course it was a bfn.

    @SultanaRF Welcome and GL on your 2nd cycle. I hope that this would be your month. 

    dragonette505tosh24[Deleted User]
  • **lurking*** @tinjp78 ugh! So sorry for the bfn and sorry you are still having to keep so much of your emotions from your dh. There are some girls on here who are in a similar case who just go to infertility counseling just so they don’t put more strain on at home... so hoping your next steps will be the one that works. Any thoughts of IVF again?
    suzycupcake[Deleted User]tinjp78
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    I'm sorry @tinjp78 :'( My DH is easily stressed/overwhelmed so I don't talk to him much about how I'm feeling. Every few months he says he thinks we should consider stopping treatments even though he wants a baby (and even though we have 8 embryos on ice and he literally has zero appointments or anything to go to anymore). It's like I walk on egg shells around him so that he doesn't get stressed and I can keep on this path until I'm hopefully successful. IF is definitely tough on a marriage. I just booked an appointment with a therapist and I'm hoping it will be the outlet I need, aside from the amazing ladies on here. Is seeking out some counseling an option for you? 
    Me: 35 I DH: 38
    *TW loss and children mentioned*
    DD:2006 | Dx: Unexplained Secondary Infertility | DS: 2011

    TFAS since 2012

    Oct 16: Spontaneous BFP | m/c @ 9w1d (massive SCH) | D&C
    Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN
    May 17: IUI #2 = BFN
    Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w
    Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN
    Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies)
    Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN
    Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen  
    Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN
    Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
    Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = cancelled due to missed ovulation
    Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = BFP! Beta 1: 201  Beta 2: 585 Beta 3: 3254 Beta 4: 9715 U/S 19May - one bean measuring on track with a HB of 125!
    EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green
    My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019 <3 

    [Deleted User]dragonette505tinjp78
  • @tinjp78 oh I’m so sorry for your bfn. Sucks. Go easy on yourself, hugs to you. You’re not alone xx
    [Deleted User]tinjp78
  •  @wishing-and-hoping Hugs <3 It's really hard. The first few were really difficult for us as far as feeling like equal partners. After that, we've really come to a place where we laugh A LOT and especially crack jokes about baby making being a business deal. There have even been times I've told him that I'm taking advantage of him and I only want him for his super sperm lol and then after, I say, "It's a pleasure doing business with you". 

    You must find a way to make it fun even though that's the last thing you want to do. Make a fun sex calendar that the two of you can follow, bring him to one of your u/s if it falls on a weekend (since he has a crazy work schedule), make him a part of the conversation when he is at the clinic with you, send him funny sex memes to flirt with him throughout the day, take pics of yourself and text them, ask him to watch you masturbate after you have sex (if that's your thing--research shows with orgasm, the cervix can create a vacuum and suck up more of the sperm), etc. etc. There are many ways to make him feel a part of this. 

    To tinjp.... I won't tag you so you can read this when you are ready. I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to you. Every time gets harder and harder. I have so much hope for you and am praying for you. Huge hugs <3  


    People think we become mothers when we give birth but the truth is we become mothers the moment we start calling our babies to us in our thoughts, dreams and prayers. Some paths are short and some are so long that you can easily forget where you were headed.

    How I feel all of the time.
    My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
    IVF
    IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
    Back on Levothyroxine
    FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
    FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
    Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt, 
    1st Beta on 7dpt 93
    2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!

    TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
    Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
    New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF

    IUI
    IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
    IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
    IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
    BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine 
    IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
    Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
    Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
     
    tinjp78rooonilwaazlib
  • @ginny_203 Oh thank God <3 Thank you so much for updating us! I'm over the moon for you. I stalk N18 and D18 so I can't wait to see your next update. 
    People think we become mothers when we give birth but the truth is we become mothers the moment we start calling our babies to us in our thoughts, dreams and prayers. Some paths are short and some are so long that you can easily forget where you were headed.

    How I feel all of the time.
    My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
    IVF
    IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
    Back on Levothyroxine
    FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
    FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
    Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt, 
    1st Beta on 7dpt 93
    2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!

    TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
    Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
    New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF

    IUI
    IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
    IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
    IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
    BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine 
    IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
    Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
    Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
     
    tinjp78ginny_203
  • @tinjp78 first, I hope your bfn at 11dpIUI is just because it's too early.  second, thanks for sharing.  we're also married almost 7yrs now.  I think overall DH is just as invested as I am in having kids, but he doesn't care if I am able to get pregnant or not.  He would be just as happy adopting.  And that's where we differ - I definitely want to get pregnant.  I mean HELLO if I didn't, I wouldn't be doing all these invasive fertility treatments.   :D  

    As for issues in the bedroom @lizzynyc11, I agree, it's definitely less than ideal.  I have definitely tried the tack of "I need you for your sperm" joke like @suzycupcake but this is one of the things DH disliked and made him feel secondary to the process.  I gotta say, hearing your DH let out an exasperated sigh when you remind him it's BD day, it just stings.  I mean I get it, it's not spontaneous, but it's still sex with your wife, for this common goal of making a baby!

    I think @suzycupcake you make some good points about being more playful about it though.  I will try to implement that if this month is a bust and we need to try again.  I also found a therapist that does couples intensives and weekends and may try to get in on one of those, rather than a weekly type deal which wouldn't work with DH's schedule.

    Just 4dpIUI over here, wishing the next 10 days to go by quickly!!!
    TTC History in Spoiler
    Me: 29  DH:34
    TTC 21 cycles
    All TI cycles BFN (with letrozole, ovidrel, prometrium)
    Hysteroscopy + Polypectomy + D&C on 1/3
    IUI #1 February 6, BFP 2/21, CP 2/26
    IUI #2 March 14, BFN
    IUI #3 April 11, BFN
    IUI #4 May 11, BFN
    July 2018 IVF, developed lead follicle, converted to TI, BFN
    August/September 2018 IVF converted to freeze-all: 7 mature eggs; we fertilized 3 and froze 4. 3/3 fertilized and 1 blast!
    October 2018 FET-BFN
    November 2018 FET-TBD

    tinjp78rooonilwaazlib
  • suzycupcakesuzycupcake member
    edited April 2018
    Oh okay that sounds a bit different than I thought before but yea still try to make it more fun.

    Is he having any fears or strong feelings about it? We have learned that we just have to do it to get it done and that it isn't always going to be like a porn movie nor will it be spontaneous. We've made a deal that this is just how it will have to be until when/if we have a baby. 

    It sounds like maybe a heart to heart with each other might be a good idea. The thought of intensive counseling might just overwhelm both of you unless there are other issues at play here. Unless he is totes into that then I say go for it! Maybe schedule a date night once a week and actually follow through with it. Get out of the house and go somewhere. Pack a picnic and make a cute card for him with construction paper and markers. 

    Have you asked him what you can do so that he doesn't feel secondary to the process? Or is he only getting frustrated with the fact that ttc is not going to be spontaneous sex the majority of the time? It might help him if you guys read some literature together about how it works because good timing is important during fertile week around ovulation. You guys cannot get pregnant any other time. He already knows that though?

    I see that you are doing iui. It's difficult because it makes the process seem even more clinical. It sounds like more communication needs to happen between the two of you, like, really try to hear his heart. You guys know each other and you love each other. There's nothing wrong with your marriage. Things just take time to get worked out. My husband and I have to communicate so much more during this process otherwise tension rises quickly because we are both sensitive and passionate people. 

    It's so tough though, I get it. When you are really serious about starting a family, it's hard when a test is negative or something else happens unexpectedly (to avoid a tw), and you did all these things to try your heart out. It's just suck when you do all of that and then no sex might be happening all the other times in the cycle. Idk if that's the case with you guys but we struggled with that for awhile until we submitted to the fact that it just is going to be this way for right now. I think as long as it's clear that you guys are a team and are trying to accomplish a goal together, it's better. Sorry for a novel. I'm rambling. ... You guys will get this worked out. You love each other and I do believe love conquers all <3 
    People think we become mothers when we give birth but the truth is we become mothers the moment we start calling our babies to us in our thoughts, dreams and prayers. Some paths are short and some are so long that you can easily forget where you were headed.

    How I feel all of the time.
    My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
    IVF
    IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
    Back on Levothyroxine
    FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
    FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
    Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt, 
    1st Beta on 7dpt 93
    2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!

    TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
    Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
    New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF

    IUI
    IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
    IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
    IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
    BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine 
    IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
    Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
    Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
     
  • @suzycupcake thanks for all your thoughts.  i did definitely ask him what i could do to make him not feel secondary, and he struggled to give me anything other than just having the mindset that "WE are trying to have a baby" rather than "I am trying to get pregnant" and letting that inform how I talk about it and approach it.  And to consider his views on things (like the no alcohol post IUI thing). Honestly this sounds so stupid but the other thing that he said bothered him was that I correct him when he says that a couple is pregnant (I know a lot of people use this terminology - I just find it off putting because only one partner is technically pregnant)... I guess it won't kill me to try not to be the feminist/grammar police..... :# 

    The mechanical sex part of it is an issue largely because he is extremely overworked and overtired.  He definitely understands that we only have one window a month, it's just that anything he has to do outside of work feels impossible right now.  We've definitely had months where sex only occurred during the fertile window, but I try and make it a point to have a little just for fun sex each month, just to make sure we still got it (ha!)

    7 years of marriage - I feel like we're long overdue for some therapy (lol but not really lol ;) ), we have definitely wanted to do it in the past and schedules have just made it hard.  The intensive would just be a one time 4hr session rather than an ongoing weekly type therapy.  He was interested when I brought it up.  I think overall his blow-up made me realize we do need to be checking in more about things and how we're both feeling.
    TTC History in Spoiler
    Me: 29  DH:34
    TTC 21 cycles
    All TI cycles BFN (with letrozole, ovidrel, prometrium)
    Hysteroscopy + Polypectomy + D&C on 1/3
    IUI #1 February 6, BFP 2/21, CP 2/26
    IUI #2 March 14, BFN
    IUI #3 April 11, BFN
    IUI #4 May 11, BFN
    July 2018 IVF, developed lead follicle, converted to TI, BFN
    August/September 2018 IVF converted to freeze-all: 7 mature eggs; we fertilized 3 and froze 4. 3/3 fertilized and 1 blast!
    October 2018 FET-BFN
    November 2018 FET-TBD

    suzycupcake
  • **lurking*** @tinjp78 ugh! So sorry for the bfn and sorry you are still having to keep so much of your emotions from your dh. There are some girls on here who are in a similar case who just go to infertility counseling just so they don’t put more strain on at home... so hoping your next steps will be the one that works. Any thoughts of IVF again?
    Thanks doll for lurking here. Yeah, idk when all of these weirdness in my life with DH would end. How I wish I could also find an infertility counselor around here, I really need all the help I can get. IVF is actually the next step for us. We'd discuss this in detail on CD9, AF hasn't started yet so I can't tell when exactly that is. 
    dragonette505suzycupcake[Deleted User]

  • tosh24 said:
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    I'm sorry @tinjp78 :'( My DH is easily stressed/overwhelmed so I don't talk to him much about how I'm feeling. Every few months he says he thinks we should consider stopping treatments even though he wants a baby (and even though we have 8 embryos on ice and he literally has zero appointments or anything to go to anymore). It's like I walk on egg shells around him so that he doesn't get stressed and I can keep on this path until I'm hopefully successful. IF is definitely tough on a marriage. I just booked an appointment with a therapist and I'm hoping it will be the outlet I need, aside from the amazing ladies on here. Is seeking out some counseling an option for you? 

    Oh @tosh24 I feel your pain. This is extremely hard, the statement that marriage and IF are not for the faint-hearted is becoming true for me as the days progress and I'm yet to determine if my heart is that strong. I'm getting some counseling already but I've just started. I pray for brighter days for us <3
    dragonette505tosh24suzycupcake[Deleted User]
  • @suzycupcake I read your posts and thnx for the fun suggestions, they made me assess myself and my methods. Maybe idk how to lighten up and how to choose my battles. I may be too paranoid, serious whatever and DH is too. But I'll try to follow some tips and I'll let you know :wink:
    dragonette505suzycupcake[Deleted User]
  • @tinjp78 you’re a sweetie pie and one of the MOST supportive women on this board... it kills me you’re going through all of this... sending hugs 
    tinjp78[Deleted User]
  • I totally know what you are saying.  We are about to start our first cycle of IUI as we finished all our pre-testing/screening.. I only got 2 periods in 8 months and I was diagnosed with PCOS even though I have NO other signs/symptoms.  I am anxious and excited, but I am trying to stay realistic about our first IUI.  My insurance requires 4 IUI's before they will approve IVF.

     My RE put be back on BCP while waiting for our results, but I got the OK to stop taking them on Thursday 4/12 to induce a period.  So AF is here, and I go to my RE tomorrow morning for baseline BW & U/S.  I will start my Letrozole pills tomorrow for 5 days.  My RE does BW & U/S often to monitor follicle growth then will advise me when to take the trigger shot (Ovidrel).  After the trigger shot they bring me and DH in for IUI's two days in a row to increase odds.  My DH had great SA results so I am trying to stay positive.  Ah!
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    @tinjp78 I wish I could reach through my computer and give you a real hug. I’m so sorry you had to see another BFN (although my optimistic side is still hoping that maybe it was just too early). And infertility really does take a toll on a marriage. About three years into our journey my husband and I hit a really bad rough patch and went to therapy together. Thankfully we stuck it out and worked through our feelings. It didn’t necessarily make it any easier seeing the BFNs every month but we learned how to deal with it better as a couple. Also this board helped me a lot. I lurked for 5 years before I started really contributing but it definitely helped me. Seeing other women go through what I was going through made it easier for me to deal with all of my feelings (and I started to realize just how common fertility issues are...so I didn’t feel so lonely). I hope that you can find a counselor there that you guys can talk to and can help you through these hard times. I’m continually sending you good vibes, positive energy and lots of love.

    Two Furbabies: Mika (american eskimo) and Gypsy (wire-haired terrier, dachshund mix)

    Twins: Kaiden and Zara born 10/2018 conceived after 6 years of infertility via a medicated IUI


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    tinjp78[Deleted User]
  • @wishing-and-hoping @tinjp78 My wife and I have similar struggles in this process. It's hard for her because she can't contribute genetically so she's really on the outside. She won't ever be carrying a child and, while down the line we might try reciprocal IVF, it's out of our budget for the moment and is not something we are working toward right now. So it's hard for her to feel AS included in the process because I'm the one going for blood work and sonograms every few days.  We try to keep everything focused on us both as much as possible. She is really interested in the sciencey aspect of the process, so we try to be together for everything or get her all the info whenever we can. When I had my HSG test earlier this week, it was in the middle of the work day and my wife couldn't get away for it, so the doctor let me film her giving me the results and impressions of the test.  I took photos of each of the scans and sent it to my wife immediately after.  I am also mindful of the language I use.  Obviously I am the one trying to get pregnant, but WE are trying to grow our family. ALSO the hormones drive my libido totally bonkers ;) , so while we don't have the extra task of having to collect a specimen, we try to have as much intimacy as possible. I like the idea someone suggested about a calendar with fun intimate things to do together.  

    Sorry for the BFNs reported this cycle. My love to you all and sending you strength for you to continue toward your goals of getting pregnant and having children!

    AFM we triggered yesterday around noon and had IUI with our frozen donor sperm this morning. They did a sono before the IUI and saw I still hadn't ovulated, so they suggested we go a second round tomorrow.  Luckily, we have one vial left of our donor to use!  Less lucky that if this round doesn't work out, we need to pick a new donor because there is no more left from our current choice. According to the sperm bank, we can have them contact the donor to see if he'd donate more, but it's usually a few month process that I don't want to wait for.  We'll just plan to choose a new donor if need be.  If we do conceive, and this results in a healthy pregnancy, we'd likely consider contacting the donor down the line if we wanted to have a sibling for our kid. But hey, one round at a time! After tomorrow, we will officially be in our fourth round of TWW.  Let's gooooo uterus!

    My wife and I have conceived a babe with my body and frozen donor sperm through IUI, with medication support (clomid, ovidrel, and injections of progesterone)

    IUI #1, #2, and #3: Dec 2017, Jan 2018, and Feb 2018 - all BFN
    HSG Test: April 2018 - all clear!
    IUI #4: April 15/16, 2018 - BFP!! EDD: Jan 7, 2019 




    tinjp78
  • @dragonette505 Thanks for cheering me up. Sending you lots of hugs too <3

    @linz36 Thanks for sticking with us, for sending me your love and for sharing your story. I'm sorry you have to see my melt down, you and your lil one deserve to see more smiles especially during this time, but I deeply appreciate all the support. I'm doing better today and I hope that the next post you'd see from me would be positive ones :wink:

    @rooonilwaazlib Congrats on your IUI today and Fx for another one tomorrow. I hope that we'd see a positive update from you before this month ends :wink:


    dragonette505
  • @Knottie1460329573 Hello and welcome to the April IUI group. GL on your prep for your upcoming IUI! Oh and btw, you can edit your user name at your profile, it would be easier to identify and tag you that way. 
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  • So I'm going for my follicle check ultrasound today.  I've been doing ovulation tests daily for the past couple of days and all have been negative so I will likely do a trigger injection - the tentative plan is for IUI tomorrow (Tuesday) so we'll see what my ultrasound shows today.  I'm trying to be optimistic but I had a phone consult with an IVF clinic last week and when I told her what my AMH level is (0.4), she said "oh that's unfortunate"...so now that's kinda stuck in my head, unfortunately.  I'm trying to get it out of my mind and focus on the positive but it's hard.  I love my OB (who is doing the IUI while I wait to actually get in with an IVF clinic...I'm #152 on a waiting list for one and I can't get consults to several others until July) and wish I could just do it all with her.  ;)   

    Thanks for listening, ladies.  :)
    Me: 40, AMH 0.4  DH: 32
    Married: 7/30/17
    TTC since: 4/2017
    IUI #1: planned for 4/2018 - cancelled due to insufficient follicle size/growth.  :(
    IUI #2: 5/22/18 - BFN
    IUI #3: 6/22/18
    BFP: 7/4/18
    tinjp78
  • @jules3978nim sorry for that comment from the IVF clinic - seriously you’d think they would know how to speak to patients?! 

    AFM -AF came today and I am going into my clinic on Wednesday for blood test which will tell us when I start clomid. I have been feeling so down this past week leading to AF and after hearing my best friend in Sydney is now pregnant so now AF is here feeling a bit more hopeful for the month ahead. Good vibes to all! ❤️
  • @jules3978 I don't understand what's wrong with some people...especially those who work in this field and are dealing with already-sensitive patients! I am sorry you had to have that interaction and hope for better and more thoughtful staff for you to deal with in the future!

    My wife and I have conceived a babe with my body and frozen donor sperm through IUI, with medication support (clomid, ovidrel, and injections of progesterone)

    IUI #1, #2, and #3: Dec 2017, Jan 2018, and Feb 2018 - all BFN
    HSG Test: April 2018 - all clear!
    IUI #4: April 15/16, 2018 - BFP!! EDD: Jan 7, 2019 




    jules3978
  • So I got a BFN after my 2WW followed by AF two days later. The good thing is that we are starting into cycle 2 today and they added another medication for me. I can't remember the name of it, but hopefully it helps

    Everyone struggling this month I just wish I could give you big giant hugs through the computer. This space has been such a great source of support and camaraderie for me.  It is unfortunate that we all share this infertility journey, but at the same time it is nice to not go through it alone and to have the support of people who know exactly how it feels. 
    tinjp78rooonilwaazlibsuzycupcake
  • @jules3978 I'm encouraged by how you didn't let that useless comment get to you. Insensitive people thrive in all nations, my Japanese friend doing ART in Singapore told me 2 weeks ago how a staff at her new (highly rated) fertility clinic had talked to her on the phone to set an appointment: "Your schedule is x/x You coming or not?" Yes it could be just a cultural thing but, hello, is some politeness too much to ask? Anyway, my friend told be she's gotten used to it after being there for a decade already. GL on the IUI tomorrow!! :smile:

    @lizzynyc11I'm sorry for the crappy past week. My FB is also filled with news of that sort. I'm staying away from it as much as I can :wink:

    @wine_mama16  I'm sorry for the bfn but it's so interesting that your RE has a plan. I'm also hopeful for you that this is THE plan. Keep us posted!

    AFM, I'm 14dpiui I tested today and also still bfn. I have some light spotting and temp low, very usual before AF comes. It's already 2 days late but I've already accepted and prepared for this so if it comes it comes. Sending <3 to all of you! Thank you for always cheering me up!

    suzycupcakejules3978rooonilwaazlib
  • AF showed up. A day late to add insult to injury. Maybe next month. Good luck to you guys. 

  • Ugh...so frustrated!  I took 100 mg Clomid last week on days 3-7.  Tentative plan was originally for IUI yesterday (Tuesday).  The ultrasound on Monday showed 2 follicles but not quite mature enough.  I still haven't had a positive ovulation test so we are gonna do another ultrasound tomorrow (Thursday) - if big enough, the plan is for a trigger shot and IUI on Friday.  I'm just worried that they still won't be large enough and then it's the weekend and we will miss the days to do it.  And it's just so hard to get the time off of work to keep going for the testing (which I know I have to do, but still) - I work in the medical field myself (although fertility is NOT my field) so I've got patients of my own that I keep having to reschedule for me to do all of this testing.  I'm just feeling whiney today so thanks for listening...  ;) 
    Me: 40, AMH 0.4  DH: 32
    Married: 7/30/17
    TTC since: 4/2017
    IUI #1: planned for 4/2018 - cancelled due to insufficient follicle size/growth.  :(
    IUI #2: 5/22/18 - BFN
    IUI #3: 6/22/18
    BFP: 7/4/18
  • @nurserin07 i'm sorry about AF :( , keeping my fx for you next month
    @jules3978 it's ok to be whiney!  it's always so frustrating when our bodies don't behave the way we're expecting.  And it seems like for 2 out of 3 IUIs I've had, an important event falls near the weekend and my clinic runs at very limited capacity on the weekend, which is also frustrating.  how large are the 2 follies you have?  what day of your cycle are you?
    TTC History in Spoiler
    Me: 29  DH:34
    TTC 21 cycles
    All TI cycles BFN (with letrozole, ovidrel, prometrium)
    Hysteroscopy + Polypectomy + D&C on 1/3
    IUI #1 February 6, BFP 2/21, CP 2/26
    IUI #2 March 14, BFN
    IUI #3 April 11, BFN
    IUI #4 May 11, BFN
    July 2018 IVF, developed lead follicle, converted to TI, BFN
    August/September 2018 IVF converted to freeze-all: 7 mature eggs; we fertilized 3 and froze 4. 3/3 fertilized and 1 blast!
    October 2018 FET-BFN
    November 2018 FET-TBD

    rooonilwaazlibtinjp78
  • jules3978jules3978 member
    edited April 2018
    @wishing-and-hoping  I'm on cycle day 14 today...I usually ovulate somewhere between 11-15 so I'm hoping tomorrow will be the day.  The 2 that I have are both around 14-15 so they said that hopefully, after a few more days, they would be large enough.  This is my first cycle of IUI and I'm not very patient but I'm really trying to be.  
    Me: 40, AMH 0.4  DH: 32
    Married: 7/30/17
    TTC since: 4/2017
    IUI #1: planned for 4/2018 - cancelled due to insufficient follicle size/growth.  :(
    IUI #2: 5/22/18 - BFN
    IUI #3: 6/22/18
    BFP: 7/4/18
  • @jules3978 you are not whiney at all because this is such a frustrating process!  It is incredibly difficult trying to balance all the appointments with a job -- I haven't told my job I am in this process. It makes it that much harder to navigate and balance, but I keep reminding myself what my end goal is. I'm glad for you that you have such a supportive manager...if the boss says it's ok then it's ok! FX for you today and tomorrow! <3 

    My wife and I have conceived a babe with my body and frozen donor sperm through IUI, with medication support (clomid, ovidrel, and injections of progesterone)

    IUI #1, #2, and #3: Dec 2017, Jan 2018, and Feb 2018 - all BFN
    HSG Test: April 2018 - all clear!
    IUI #4: April 15/16, 2018 - BFP!! EDD: Jan 7, 2019 




    tinjp78
  • @Chartleib CONGRATULATIONS!! I'm sooo happy for you!! 

    @smittyswifey I developed a DVT from BCP in college. Because I was prone to getting them, I was put on blood thinners once I started fertility treatments and continue to do daily injections while pregnant. It's more of a pain than anything, and you'll get used to the feeling of the injection in no time. If you have any questions, feel free to ask! 

    @tinjp78 I'm so sorry to hear of your BFN and that you've been having a tough time with your husband :( this is such a frustrating process and of course takes a toll on a marriage. As you know, I struggled letting my husband know about my anxiety and sadness when I was going through the infertility process, and still struggle letting him know about my anxiety being pregnant. Sending so many hugs and so much baby dust your way <3 

    AFM, everything is going really well with my pregnancy, I'm now 8w1d!! We had our second scan last Thursday at 7w2d and little one showed appropriate growth and a great little heartbeat <3 My husband even recorded it on his phone so we can watch it any time we'd like. We drove to PA this weekend to tell my parents, which was the best feeling in the world. We have another scan with the RE tomorrow (hopefully graduating, assuming everything goes according to plan with the u/s and bloodwork) and we will announce to my MIL this weekend. Even though things are going so well, I still really struggle with anxiety. Although I try to tell myself that my fears of loss are irrational at this point now that we've seen the heartbeat and appropriate growth twice and everything is going so well, as every appointment approaches I get so anxious and scared. I fall in love with this baby more and more each day and am so terrified of losing it.
    tinjp78smittyswifeyrooonilwaazlibsuzycupcake
  • @ginny_203 I hope all those fears disappear and that love for your growing lil one increase. I haven't been pg before so I'm not sure what exactly you feel but I pray that your days would be easier. Thank you also for supporting us here, your story of success inspires me to keep on trying. <3

    @jules3978 Crossing everything for your follies to grow more and for a good upcoming IUI!

    @nurserin07 Sorry for the AF. Mine arrived yesterday too. I'm hoping that our next try would be our ticket.
    jules3978ginny_203rooonilwaazlib[Deleted User]
  • So I got a BFN after my 2WW followed by AF two days later. The good thing is that we are starting into cycle 2 today and they added another medication for me. I can't remember the name of it, but hopefully it helps

    Everyone struggling this month I just wish I could give you big giant hugs through the computer. This space has been such a great source of support and camaraderie for me.  It is unfortunate that we all share this infertility journey, but at the same time it is nice to not go through it alone and to have the support of people who know exactly how it feels. 
    Hugs!!! Same thing happened to me. Got my BFN on Sunday and AF started on Monday. Was just at the RE again yesterday to get a baseline ultrasound so we can move on with another IUI cycle. So frustrating. 
  • @smittyswifey Yes, this whole process is so frustrating and I find myself trying to remain hopeful through it all. 

    Also the mix of medications I'm on is clomid, metformin and newly added dezamethasone. Has anyone else taken this combo before? I was trying to search for other experiences with this medication and I haven't really found anything.
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