purplegoldfish2 I should do that. We have him every other weekend and 2 evenings a week. However, with me not feeling well and DH being on a lot of 12s and extra weekend shifts, he and I have been tired. Friday I let him have like 2 hours on the tablet and then told him no more until we went out that night because he'd been using it too much. I'm trying to make an effort of detoxing him from it. I don't know how much he uses/gets at his mom's house, so I try to limit our house somewhat.
My 11 year old asked me yesterday what the difference was between gender and sex was. My heart did a happy dance. There is a person who transferred to her school who is transitioning from boy to girl and was getting bullied before their transfer. She had a lot of questions, admittedly some I wasn’t prepared for. The take away was they are a person, just like you and me, and deserve the same love, respect, and should be treated as you would want to be treated.
DH came to every single prenatal appointment for DS except one near the end. I have my second appointment today and he already has to miss it. #secondchildproblems
Had my first appointment today!! Finally got to hear the heart beating at 164 This is different because both of my boys were in the 140 range. So excited that we can finally tell people!
DH came to every single prenatal appointment for DS except one near the end. I have my second appointment today and he already has to miss it. #secondchildproblems
Haha, with my first DH was at almost every appointment, with my second he came to one or two regular apts and all the ultrasounds (I had a few extra because they could't get a clear picture at my 20 week and then near the end he was transverse so had to double check position) - this time he is planning to make the 20 week ultrasound and I'm pretty sure that's about it. I can't blame him either - if I could skip the regular appointments I totally would - we are using the same midwives as we did with DS so most of the information they already have from me and it's just copying and pasting from last time. Until the appointments near the end when they check measurement and position, etc. I feel like I could probably not actually see them in person and be ok just to get my requisition forms sent to me.
Side note...there's a new May post that definitely made me hard eyebrow raise. I really hope things aren't as bad as this Knottie is saying. Poor mom and baby, but also seems a little late in the game to just be coming to these conclusions?
New favorite post may also be the baby bump worries in 2nd tri. I just imagine her inner dialogue must be like a monologue independent artist play somewhere on a small stage in NYC.
Maybe my husband is in the minority but even for our first kid he only came to ultrasounds. Other than that the appts are wicked boring and not worth us both missing work!
@sammierose464 Not going to lie - detoxing the kids sucks, but it’s an all or nothing thing. No electronics of any kind, give in for an hour here or there and you may as well not do it at all. If the asking gets particularly annoying, you can always tell him that every time he asks for it, it’s gone for another day (and don’t tell him how long it’s gone for when you start - depending on how it’s going, you may need to extend the timeframe. You won’t know that until you see how he handles it). I told my boys they were spending too much time watching movies and playing on the tablets every day so we needed to take a break for a while.
MH hasn’t been to a single appointment with me in the 18 months we’ve been trying - not any of the m/cs or follow-ups, none of the infertility dr appointments for all the tests I had, and none of the appointments for this baby, which so far have only been ultrasounds. It’s not that he doesn’t want to - he came to every appointment with my first pregnancy (& it was twins, so there were a lot and almost all involved ultrasounds), but we both want him to save his vacation time for after baby is born. Plus I can’t do early morning appointments this time because I need to make sure somebody can watch our kids. He is planning to come to the anatomy scan, but that might be all for this one.
SO came to all my appointments with DS except for 1 because he was away that weekend. This time he only came to my appointment today at the diabetes center so we can both learn what I need to do. He will come to my first trimester screening next week and the anatomy scan but that'll probably be it. He stays home so it's easy for him to come but our 18 month old doesn't always like to sit still so it's just easier to go by myself.
I kind of feel like my appts are "vacations" when I don't have to take the kids. I get tolisten to my music loudly on the way there, sit in the waiting room and read trashy magazines. Sometimes I even go to Starbucks and get myself a treat. Real party animal over here. But yes DH went to ever single appt he was able to come to with DS, with DD I think he came to 2 or 3 ultrasounds. This one he's come to 1 so far.
DH comes when he can. He came to my first OB, which really wasn't much. He also came to my first ultrasound. He probably won't come again until my 18w anatomy scan, and that's only if he can get a shift trade at work (if they are allowing them again).
We found out today that there is a separate amniotic sac for each twin! That drops our risk factors way down, means I don’t need an automatic c-section at 32 weeks, and will hopefully be able to go to 36 weeks!! Happy dance going on over here.
@HoosOnFirst ditto. MH came to some of my RE appts, our first ultrasound and will come to the big 20 week scan but other than that, my doctor is an hour and a half from his office and I do my appts on my day off (Wednesdays), so he usually doesn't come since a lot of it is just a quick exam and some BW.
Speaking of fun threads, I wonder if having a Bat Signal thread would get closed down immediately. I love when people like @chopchop25 alert to fun threads to follow on other boards (because I am a sucker for watching a train wreck), and it would be easier if there was a thread dedicated. But I imagine the BG's would shut that down real fast...
We found out today that there is a separate amniotic sac for each twin! That drops our risk factors way down, means I don’t need an automatic c-section at 32 weeks, and will hopefully be able to go to 36 weeks!! Happy dance going on over here.
That’s great! My friend had momo twins and it was really challenging. (They are great now but she had to live at the hospital the last 6 weeks).
@HoosOnFirst that was what we were told to expect, hospital at 24 weeks and c-section at 32. The thought of spending the whole summer in a hospital bed was a huge bummer!
ugh I give up. random ass quote that posted was not my three part response I hit publish on.
Edit: Fine, I'll retype. at least part of it.
@jennybean80 I'm so happy for your good news! Hooray! @mesamyt proud of you for having hard conversations with your kid about gender queerness! I've been reading Raising White Kids and it's pretty fricking amazing. also though a lot of the methods the author provides for how to talk to white kids about race translate pretty easily into talking to cis kids, or kids from cishet families, about queer identity and gender politics. So if you anticipate more conversations in your future, maybe it's worth checking out? One of the most comforting takeaways is remembering that your job isn't to have all the perfect answers at the ready, but to empower your kid to learn and understand themselves, even if it's saying "Hey I'm not sure what the answer to that is, but let's go do some research together" or something like that.
And to whoever mentioned it--my babydaddy partner went to every single prenatal appointment with Ziggy.... and fell asleep during every single one. I kid you not. He usually managed to wake up for a bit during the ultrasound, but yeah. Something about the doctor and stress and coming straight from work just put him right out. I'm bringing my other partner along for the ride this time, mostly because I think they'll stay awake. We'll see.
Re: Randoms 3/29
This is different because both of my boys were in the 140 range.
So excited that we can finally tell people!
BFP #2: due 6/30/2017, MMC found 12/7/2016
BFP #3: due 10/21/2018
New favorite post may also be the baby bump worries in 2nd tri. I just imagine her inner dialogue must be like a monologue independent artist play somewhere on a small stage in NYC.
@ the 2nd Tri thread:
@knottieamusements gahh is that a baby sloth?
MH hasn’t been to a single appointment with me in the 18 months we’ve been trying - not any of the m/cs or follow-ups, none of the infertility dr appointments for all the tests I had, and none of the appointments for this baby, which so far have only been ultrasounds. It’s not that he doesn’t want to - he came to every appointment with my first pregnancy (& it was twins, so there were a lot and almost all involved ultrasounds), but we both want him to save his vacation time for after baby is born. Plus I can’t do early morning appointments this time because I need to make sure somebody can watch our kids. He is planning to come to the anatomy scan, but that might be all for this one.
DH comes when he can. He came to my first OB, which really wasn't much. He also came to my first ultrasound. He probably won't come again until my 18w anatomy scan, and that's only if he can get a shift trade at work (if they are allowing them again).
Speaking of fun threads, I wonder if having a Bat Signal thread would get closed down immediately. I love when people like @chopchop25 alert to fun threads to follow on other boards (because I am a sucker for watching a train wreck), and it would be easier if there was a thread dedicated. But I imagine the BG's would shut that down real fast...