GTKY - How many kids do you want?

nasalot188

It's not always a perfect plan...but how many kids do you all think you want?

nasalot188

I would have 4+ if I had all the $$. But realistically I'd love to have 3. DH I think is good with 2 but we've agreed to see how #2 goes before making any definitive decisions!

SawyerRichardson

I thought I wanted 3, because there are 3 in my family and it always worked out well for us. But now that I already have one, I'm pretty sure two is all I can handle. H has always only wanted two. We've discussed it and he is most likely getting clipped after this baby is born.

tinattt23

I always said two or three. I’d decide after two. Now I’m firmly set at two. DH is getting snipped after this, for sure. 

Lisa3379

Having 3 is an option, but I’m getting old (I’m 36). If we space the third to be similar to the first two, I’d be 38. I know it’s possible, but we’ll see. 3 kids under 4 sounds... insane. No offense to anyone in that situation, of course! Just sounds like a lot to handle right now, haha. 

elothair

We originally said we wanted three. After having DS we went through a period where we definitely thought we were done at two because he was fairly difficult as a toddler. But once he settled down we went back to the original theee and here we are! Definitely will be our last.

legalmamanyc

If unlimited $$ then a football team!! But reality exists, so trying to balance the practicality and financial feasibility of a large family living in NYC (and honestly, a sense of social responsibility to the rest of the planet not to overpopulate) with the pull of our religious upbringing of every child is a gift from God and it is part of His plan. We're seriously discussing intermixing bio babies and adopted babies as maybe a middle ground. What can I say, I'm a puzzle wrapped in an enigma. So in other words, let's get this first one born healthy, and then we'll talk, k? 

sammierose464

I've always said either none or two. I was really unsure about if I wanted to be a mom. Having my bonus son totally changed that. I LOVE being a mom. Now that I have one, albeit part time, im good with just one more. I don't know if I could handle more. However, we will see after this. I'm 1 of 4 and love my big family.

BabyRobbinsAdventure

We only have enough bedrooms for 2 kids, so stopping there. (Joke... but not really haha)
SIL has 3 and I don’t understand how she hasn’t lost her mind yet (or has she already and I just don’t know?!)

when I give birth it will likely be a c-section, OB said she could take out my tubes while she is in there if I want.

ladyofarlington

SS: I want to see how things go with the first one and then I’ll make that decision.

breanneestafford1

Unlimited money and age not being a factor I’d say 4. But I’m 31 on number 2, and want to be done by 35 so assuming I’ll have time for one more... 3 is my magic number 

jennybean80

I always said 2 or 4. Now I’m gonna have five... still processing!

purple_2012

After DS I thought we were one and done. But when he was almost 2 I got the feeling that I wanted one more. I'm pretty sure that we are done after this baby. 

RosieMommy2016

When I was twenty three, we said four. Didn't  have my first one until I was thirty, So we are sticking with two.

magdaaaa

I had my first young at 21, now I’m turning 30 in a couple of week and number 2 is on the way. Definitely at least one more to avoidbto 2 only children thing, but 3 more would be great! I think 4 is easier than 3.

knottieamusements

I’m going with one a done...  It took me almost six years to decide to do one on my own...

klpv415

I've always said 3 was a good number, but let me get through this first one and then I'll re-assess haha

DunkinDecaf

This is my last pregnancy, and as soon as we can afford to move to a bigger house we’re going to become foster parents. I’m hoping to adopt two from foster care, but we’ll see how it works out. I’d be open to three and I’d be happy with one. DH may only be up for one.

eta: this pregnancy will be kid #3 for us, so my goal number is 5 (or 4-6)

rc-cola

We both want 2 but living in NYC working for a not for profit makes that feel a bit unattainable. So we will see.

kiwi2628

2 is perfect for us

hellopartyof5

I voted 3 and this will be number 3. Now to just figure out birth control after lol. 

Gizmo1231

Well, I'm at 3 now and due with #4.... probably will try for #5 and be done. 

ninji15

We were torn between 2 or 3 but it looks like 3 was decided for us (assuming all goes well, still nervous and shocked). 
The main reason I wanted 3 was if after 2 I ever got to a point where I would be able to be a SAHM I would take it after having #3, because at this point its work or be homeless. Otherwise it would have just been 2. Looks like I will just be a working mommy with 3! Life is funny sometimes but I am so excited regardless. 

muchwanted

I only wanted two, but these twins will make it three. Egads!

drb2424

2 for us! I used to want 4 but DH always only wanted 2.  I am the oldest of 5 and he is an only child so he couldn't imagine all the commotion of a big family.  Now after DD was born (she is 2.5y) I don't think I could handle 4 so I am happy to have 2.  DH plans to get snipped after baby is born.

Lash10

I had always wanted three with the idea my pregnancies wouldn’t be “hard”. The first was an emotional roller coaster and I wasn’t sure if I could handle being pregnant again. When she turned two we decided, why not. So now at 31 we are pregnant with #3. Little bit of a “surprise” but we are excited. This pregnancy has so far been one of the hardest in the beginning. Hopefully things start to turn around soon. 

purplegoldfish2

I wanted 4, my husband wanted more but since I was doing all the hard work he said 4 is good.  I was kind of hoping for twins this time so we’d be done.  We may be anyway.  My pregnancies have been pretty easy (so far), but I’m not sure I want to do this again (plus since I already have spontaneous twins, my chances of getting twins when we try for a 4th are higher).

wolfpackgrl718

If we made a lot of money and I had started earlier- I would want 4 or 5. I know that sounds crazy! BUT, realistically, 2 or 3. If this baby is a girl, we'll probably try again for a boy. DH is fine if we have 2 girls, but I really want him to have a boy. If this baby is a boy, we'll have one of each and then we'll figure out if we actually want another at that point. 

sparklingwhit

DH already had a consult with the fella who’s doing his vasectomy! 2 and we’re out! I HATE being pregnant. 

That being said, I wouldn’t be opposed to adopting or fostering older kids in a few years when my kiddos are old enough to understand. 

beccajean71

We'd like to have 2 and then adopt an older child later on.

Although, I'm a FTM and DH thinks we'll end up adopting 2 and 3... 

firsttimespartanmom

I always thought but I wanted 3 but, life. DH is older than me, early 40’s, so I would honestly be happy with one healthy baby. Tons of nieces and nephews around to play with and adoption isn’t out of the question for us. 

cagncoo12

DH and I both come from large families and loved it, but financially i think we would be responsible to stop at three kids. We will already have to do an expansion to our house in a few years after only one! 

norahkate

we figured 2 or 3, but ever since our first DH has wanted a big family. Still we really figured we were done after 4, but we both felt like one more was in the cards for us...we are definitely done after this one, though!

and for people worried about space? everyone is different of course, but we have a three bedroom house with no plans to change that anytime soon (honestly our kids all end up sleeping in the older boys' room most nights anyway and are happy that way). For now we will leave the older two and younger two sharing and we will have a "nursery" in a corner of our room for at least the first six months. We will just kind of see what the natural progression is from there.

side note: we are right on the edge of town and do have a lot of outdoor space, so that makes a huge difference and we have found that it suits us better than our last house which was larger and had a yard, but not the room to roam and explore that this has.  

cjx95

When DH and i started dating he wanted 4 and I said absolutely not! Haha now that we're starting out with one we'll see how this goes and will be happy with two!! 

cdepperschmidt

I’ve always said at least 2 and then we shall see.

purplegoldfish2

norahkate said:

we figured 2 or 3, but ever since our first DH has wanted a big family. Still we really figured we were done after 4, but we both felt like one more was in the cards for us...we are definitely done after this one, though!

and for people worried about space? everyone is different of course, but we have a three bedroom house with no plans to change that anytime soon (honestly our kids all end up sleeping in the older boys' room most nights anyway and are happy that way). For now we will leave the older two and younger two sharing and we will have a "nursery" in a corner of our room for at least the first six months. We will just kind of see what the natural progression is from there.

side note: we are right on the edge of town and do have a lot of outdoor space, so that makes a huge difference and we have found that it suits us better than our last house which was larger and had a yard, but not the room to roam and explore that this has.  

I agree space doesn’t have to be a limiting factor.  You will figure it out.  I have a friend with 7 kids (twins, triplets and 2 singletons) that lives in a 3 bedroom cape with one bathroom and they don’t have a huge yard. Her youngest is 3 and they are just now looking for a new house.

elynds

This is our 3rd. We've never really set a number - our first two were really close together, so after #2 was born we decided to table the decision for 4 years until my husband was in private practice. When we started discussing again this summer, my husband wanted two more and I wanted one more - but neither of us is set, so we're gonna have this one and see how it goes. I'm not opposed to a 4th, I just worry about having the time and emotional capital for all of them. We'll see!

princessandthegator

Financially we know we can't provide the life we want for our kids if we have more than two.So hoping to close the factory after this. 

jengibre_zorro

I'm open to three, but it would mean some major life changes for us, as that would be the point where financially it doesn't make sense for both of us to work just to pay daycare bills.  Number one was also a very difficult baby/toddler, so i'll just see how my odds are after number two.  

nugget2ehf

I've always wanted 3, because I come from a very small family. I have 0 first cousins, my brother and I were the ONLY kids and it was super lame. So I wanted to kind of build up the family again on my side (husband has a big family). We'll see after two though, since I have no experience!

nayyohme

I've always wanted one of each at least. I thought MH and I had decided on 2 but recently he told someone 3 and I was confused. If I could ever afford it I would have 3-4.