Omg don't tell this woman to have a well done steak! She'll never want one again!
But, but.... she’s a vegetarian! As a former vegetarian, I still can’t eat anything less than medium well and it took me a long time to get here.
This is so crazy to me. Well done is just so... chewy.
But medium is just so... bloody. My husband has tried so hard and I’m ok with some red juices, if it’s not cooked enough it just tastes raw to me and grosses me out. I also have trouble eating things with bones, especially wings. As long as I don’t think about it I’m fine, but the minute somebody points out that I’m eating off the bone it gets in my head and I just can’t. And people do point it out to me because they see it happen so rarely. Also, veins are gross too.
Steak tartare (from a reputable place) is one of my favorites, soooooo no fear of rare meat here. That said, I won't be eating anything under medium while pregnant, and for things made with ground beef, it'll at least be MW. Which makes me sad, but I'll survive. I may break down and drop to MR at some point, we'll see. I've already tossed the lunch meat prohibition out the window.
The one bright spot I've found of having to deliver at a hospital that is ridiculously far away guven how many quality hospitals there are much nearer to us is that my delivery hospital is in our old neighborhood near our favorite sushi place. I'm already looking forward to the sushi H will be bringing me post-delivery, lol.
@sammierose464 Yeah, it's gotten really bad. Gunshots every night. My H has almost been carjacked twice when coming home late night/early morning. And half the neighborhood stays up till 4am either partying or arguing, doesn't matter what night of the week. We're moving to Milford, right outside the downtown. I'm hoping it's so quiet that I go crazy from it. Lol
@zwink1 Thank you!!
@sammierose464 We've fallen in love with it too! We drive thru it every time we go to my folks, but I never thought I'd live there. I love Novi! I worked there for a long time until I got transferred to West Bloomfield. And my SS goes to Novi High School. Such a nice area but the traffic is crazy sometimes!
RE meat doneness: So, the reason it’s supposed to be well done in pregnancy is because the parasite that causes toxoplasmosis is killed by heating to 155 degrees (so barely under well done temp). If you’re going much less than that, you may as well (in my completely not professional at all opinion) just eat it the way you normally do. Why suffer with it cooked more than you like while not cooking it enough to kill the parasites (if they happen to be there)? Unless there’s another reason it’s supposed to be well done? I always thought it was just for toxoplasmosis, except ground beef, which has a lot more risk because of the way it’s processed - that one being cooked more than you normally like may still have a benefit.
@mesamyt we have been doing Chefs plate or Hello Fresh type food box delivery service for over a year and it is a life saver! I hate being responsible for all the meal planning, grocery shopping and cooking (DH doesn't cook) so this was our compromise. We love it because it gives us 3 days a week to not have to think about and the meals are healthy and delish!
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
Ughhhh you people are making me sad. I wanna eat medium rare, but my husband is so freaked out something will hurt the baby that I go with medium but even that kills my soul.
@stithof yea, I mean I already freak him out enough since I eat deli meat and soft cheese and I plan to probably have small amounts of wine after the first tri, and he already thinks I should only be eating well done so the medium is already pushing that line, lol
@mesamyt we actually did pretty well this week with meal prep! Egg scramble for breakfasts, Thai peanut chicken salad for lunches, and pesto chicken, sesame chicken and penne w/ roasted veggies bake planned for dinners this week. I was losing steam towards the end of prep last night but my husband did a great job of finishing it up for me.
@stithof seriously! I mean, my H only knows all this since we had to do IVF so he got very into researching stuff. If it had happened easily for us, he would never know this stuff and I would be guiltless in eating it medium rare.
@kiwi2628, I haven't actually ordered beef in front of my H yet, so we'll see how that goes, lol. He did get a death glare from me this weekend because he really didnt want to let me try one little sip if his beer when we stopped at the craft brewery by our house... It's not like I was going to down half of it, I wanted one little taste tester, dude. It's dangerous when they know too much!
I have to do the glucose test tomorrow morning, and I can't eat after midnight. Thankfully I can go get it done at 7am. However, I'm kinda worried about making sure I eat well today so that I have a better chance of passing. Nothing sounds good still, especially meat. And I don't really have any meat at our house right now (since I haven't been eating it). I was diagnosed with insulin resistance 3 years ago, and so I'm not really sure how the test will go.
I'm so glad I'm not the only one who doesn't feel productive at work. I feel super lazy and tired! Even after 12 hours of "sleep" (I wake up every 2 to pee)! DH is up for promotion so I hope I can go part time if he gets it.
Total brain fart here guys... I forgot I was pregnant for a few minutes there. I've been talking to my H about applying at new dental offices after baby, but I was in a total "I hate my job" mode just now and got on Indeed and applied to 3 dental offices. One is 2 minutes from my new house, they all had better hours than my current office. One already contacted me for a phone interview. Ugh. I don't know what to do. Be honest about my pregnancy, hide it, or forget about it altogether. I can't believe I forgot I was pregnant!!!
@krzyriver I vote for the 'cross that bridge when you get there' approach. See if you get the job, then bring it up during the offer conversation. Let them decide if you're the right fit. If they've already decided they want you, they may be willing to work with it, rather than giving them an extra reason to go in to the interview with a bit of pre-emptive hesitancy that could detract from your true qualifications and fit.
@krzyriver go for it! I agree with @chopchop25 wait at least until they give you an offer then if you feel comfortable, bring it up and have that discussion. But don't say anything too soon so they don't have a reason to be hesitant hiring you.
@krzyriver we have hired (at my veterinary clinic) 2 pregnant people since I started here because they were the right fit. Even though they didn't qualify (in a legal sense) for FMLA since they werent with us for a year at that point, they still got 12 weeks because we wanted them and wanted them to feel valued. Go for it.
ETA: I probably wouldn't tell them right away though as they may not really interview you or give you the chance if they know though- which is illegal but of course happens
@chopchop25@mamabearcj@kiwi2628 Thanks ladies! I guess it doesn't hurt to at least talk to them. It never occurred to me that there would be time between the interview and starting to come clean about it. Lol. I'd feel shady hiding it until I'm in, but definitely wouldn't want to say something upfront and have them write me off immediately. I'm showing already, but could definitely hide it since I'm a big girl anyway.
So from an HR perspective. Don't tell them you're pregnant until they have at least given you a written offer. While it's illegal to not hire you because you're pregnant, it could skew their judgement. As an employer, I wouldn't want to know that fact until after an offer so I don't hire you there's no question on if that's why.
Also, they are not legally required to offer FMLA for less than 12 months of service or a certain number of hours. If this is something you might be concerned about, ask them, but after an offer is extended.
STEAK!!!!!!!!!!!!! Pan-fried. I cooked it a lot longer than the internet told me to, but it still seemed pretty red inside. Served with chimmichuri sauce, which totally counts as a vegetable.
Edit: put the pic in a spoiler bc it was ENORMOUS. Didn't want to trigger anyone's nausea!
Freaking delicious.
***TW*** DD born April 2015 after many rounds of IVF and losses.
@sammierose464 Good point, thank you! I’m a little concerned about the lack of FMLA, but every place I applied to is a private practice so small, more intimate business hopefully means I wont have to worry as much? I’m not forfeiting PTO since my company gives me almost none, so that’s good.
Got home and H checked the mail. Our priest from NJ, who I adore, sent us a handmade prayer shawl from our church after my mom had just briefly asked him to add us/the pregnancy to his prayers. It's so warm and soft. All the ugly tears.
edit: probably should have put this in the why I'm crying thread. my bad!
So I've stopped getting sick in the morning. This is the 3rd morning in a row (usually I have to get sick right when I wake up). It's making me nervous! Thank goodness I have an ultrasound tomorrow.
Ugh totally thought I was done with the nausea and feeling gross! Ive been lucky only throwing up twice. I've only had serious smell aversions but today I woke up ready to run to the bathroom.. I've been chilling in the couch trying to keep myself relaxed because I really don't want to throw up but I also think screw it maybe if I get it over with I'll feel better? Ugh
Ugh. I just put DS down for his nap and he wasn’t fighting going into his crib. I had to lay him all the way down and completely squished my belly. I’m huge already and it hurt so bad and now I’m cramping. I know baby is safe but holy crap it’s freaking me out.
So, things moved faster than anticipated with house hunting and we will be closing/moving in about a month or so. This also means that I will then be too far to commute to my current job. Sure, I can look for more work, but I'll be 14-ish weeks pregnant by the time I even start looking. The plan was always for me to be a SAHM, so while PTO/FMLA doesn't matter to me, I feel like its more of a moral dilemma whether or not to take a job knowing I would only be there for 6 months or less. Thoughts/advice? I'm thinking I could just look for temp work, but I'm not sure the market I'm in will have much to offer.
Speaking as an HR person. Turnover is expensive and frustrating. You don't really learn a job in 6 months, so most of that time is spent training. I understand the desire to work, but if you don't plan on staying it is a bit unfair to the company.
I want more dinner, but if I eat any more of it, there won’t be enough left for my husband. Since he requested that I pick it up from Wegmans, I probably shouldn’t eat it all, but it’s good and I’m hungry and it is totally not my fault our 5 year olds eat like teenagers (we are seriously in trouble when they’re older).
edit - he came home, told me to eat it and I cried because he wanted it but he gave it to me anyway. Ugh! Hormones!
@kimberbeep - Congratulations on the new home! I agree with looking for temp work rather than a permanent position. Also- if you are planning to have some sort of side gig as a SAHM, this would be the perfect time to start laying the ground work for that.
Re: Randoms 3/15
The one bright spot I've found of having to deliver at a hospital that is ridiculously far away guven how many quality hospitals there are much nearer to us is that my delivery hospital is in our old neighborhood near our favorite sushi place. I'm already looking forward to the sushi H will be bringing me post-delivery, lol.
Congrats on the house @krzyriver!
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
ETA: I probably wouldn't tell them right away though as they may not really interview you or give you the chance if they know though- which is illegal but of course happens
Also, they are not legally required to offer FMLA for less than 12 months of service or a certain number of hours. If this is something you might be concerned about, ask them, but after an offer is extended.
I say go for it!
Edit: put the pic in a spoiler bc it was ENORMOUS. Didn't want to trigger anyone's nausea!
DD born April 2015 after many rounds of IVF and losses.
After much more of the same...
All the ugly tears.
edit: probably should have put this in the why I'm crying thread. my bad!
@chopchop25 aww that's wonderful.
https://bleacherreport.com/articles/2765485-pregnant-miesha-tate-posts-images-of-injuries-after-fighting-off-dog-attack?utm_source=cnn.com&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=editorial
Like seriously, don't mess with the pup. And probably not her. I'm in awe.
Speaking as an HR person. Turnover is expensive and frustrating. You don't really learn a job in 6 months, so most of that time is spent training. I understand the desire to work, but if you don't plan on staying it is a bit unfair to the company.
edit - he came home, told me to eat it and I cried because he wanted it but he gave it to me anyway. Ugh! Hormones!